Having Feelings For Someone Else While in a Relationship

Many people who are already in a relationship have this common challenge of having feelings and attraction for someone else outside the relationship.

This issue have grown to be a major problem many people do face in their relationships.
Sometimes you are tempted to ask,

Am i not matured enough to love one person?

Am i not so in love with him/her?

Am i not enjoying all the sex we do have?

Why do i keep feeling attraction for that other person?

But then, all those questions you might be tempted to ask will not really solve the problem here. You can be in a relationship that you enjoy all those things, and people can almost say you are in a healthy relationship but despite that, you find out that you were able to have feelings and attraction for someone else.

You can feel a natural attraction for someone and this kind of feeling is not very harmful or meaningful in any ones life, but the one that makes it more complicated confusing is when you are feeling something more than just the normal attraction and feelings for someone.

Reasons Why You Feel Attracted to Someone Else.
There are many reasons why you might be having feelings for someone else despite that you are in a relationship.
It can be that you just went into the relationship not because you really like your partner, but because you were eager to be in a relationship and that your partner showed interest in you, and so when you saw someone new out there, you were able to still grab attraction for them despite the fact that you are in a relationship.

At times, it can also happen that you are even in a dedicated relationship that have been for long, but then you just found out that you were just getting attracted to someone new even right inside your relationship.

Your heart is just like an organisation, which operates on its own and in ways that suits its interest, so for the fact that your heart saw someone new and started to like that new person, then you cannot stop your dear heart from doing that.

Well, whatever step you take in this situation is surely going to make a change in your relationship life.
(Also Read: How To End a Relationship You Are No More Interested In Keeping )

#What Do You Really Want?
Sometimes, the reason why these feelings grow and become harmful to you is when you are not able to know what you really want in the relationship you are said to involve in.

So you should be able to learn about those things you want in your relationship and the things you want in a partner.
When you are able to know these things and mark them out, it will help and aid you towards taking your next step towards handling that new person that is trying to create a break in your current relationship.

#Checkout On Your Relationship.
There was a time i was having troubles in my relationship and the reason was just because my girlfriend was looking outside the relationship. And initially, it was because i refused to have sex and i was reluctant to accepting her request for that, so this situation she found herself in can be equated to this subject matter.

You need to checkout on your relationship and consider those things you really want in your relationship and from your partner. So if those things that you want are all there, and you feel like there is no wrong in your relationship, then the best thing that you can do to help your situation is to get over that feeling you are having for the other person and take it to be only natural.

After doing that, you will see that everything goes either the right way, or the wrong way. If you find out that your relationship is lacking many things that you know you actually want, and you are thinking or you have hope that you will get those things from your new crush, then its simply more than a natural attraction that you are feeling for him/her.

After identifying those things you want in your relationship, and then you compare them with what you are getting in your current relationship. If they work along, then you should forget about that new crush of yours and dedicate yourself with your current relationship. But if you are lacking and you feel like you need something better, then the best thing you can do to help your situation is to check out on your new crush, perhaps, maybe its time to try something new, no big deal buddy.

#Staying in Your Current Relationship Despite Your New Feelings For Someone Else.
Sometimes, its hard to admit that you are having a new feeling of attraction for someone else despite that you are in a relationship.
But then, when you started your current relationship, you experienced happy and joyful moments of love sharing and you can even testify that the first stage of your relationship was more fun and exiting than any other thing you are feeling now.

You might be tempted to think that your new crush is the one giving you all the joy and happiness your heart needs, while your relationship is growing old and just getting boring, but its not so true.

When your relationship is still standing firm and rigid, and you have no single reason to break up, then why are you still thinking of your new crush? The best thing you can do to help your relationship to continue is to talk to crush and though you know what you are feeling and they might be feeling so too, so what you have to do is to tell them that you just want to be friends and that is all, once you are able to do that, then everything will move along well.

But if you are sincerely not happy in your relationship anymore and you have a reason or more reasons to breakup, then you should go ahead and find yourself new happiness with your new crush. But then, you should think of this, Are you going to be changing partners every time?

If you are always changing partners and you keep jumping from one relationship to another, then you cant be able to learn anything about how to grow and nurture your relationship, so you can never grow in your relationship life.

#Honesty With Your Current Partner.
If your relationship is facing such problems that might make you want to switch partner, then its time to talk to your significant other about what is happening to you and the relationship.

Honesty with your partner is a key that can unlock all those doors of opportunity for a better future. If you are taking your relationship serious and will want to embark on a long lasting relationship, then the needy part of the whole situation is to talk to your partner and make them amend those causes of failures in the relationship.

Also, you have to tell your partner about your new crush and the feelings developing for them in your heart, then explain to your partner the reasons why you don't need a new partner, and make them know that you really love to continue your relationship with them.

After doing all those things, and you have tried everything possible to make sure that you start getting new results in your current relationship, then you have done good. Giving your relationship a second chance is always a good idea to make everything in the relationship change.

So after all that shots and tries, nothing changed and maybe, things even keep getting worst, then you must have to consider trying out your new crush and get some new fun and excitements.
(Also Read: How to Deal With a Breakup And Avoid Making Things Worst )

You Should Respect Your Personality As a Good Person.
When things like this are happening and it happens that you are in a relationship, your personality and respect will work a great deal in keeping you on the right side of action.

First of all, when people know you as a good person who actually have a repetition to keep and maintain, they would not like to make you get involved in anything that will make you to harm others.

One of the easiest thing to do while in a relationship is cheating, and the reason why its easy is because it does not require any special action or communication strategy, it is effortless and can take any form.

When that your new crush is able to know that you are in a relationship and you are dedicated to keeping it without breaking anything from it, then they will walk away, and for them to know that you are in a relationship, it depends on how you relate with them and act whenever you are close to them.

A person that is in a relationship have a personality different from that of the person who is not yet in a relationship.
There are many people who have turned and walked away from you because they know you are already in a relationship, so why do you want to allow this new person without getting to know what is happening and why its happening.

To wrap it up and end this article, you should be able to learn that being genuine and honest in your relationship is very challenging and many people in relationships today are lacking those two components necessary for the well being of a relationship.

But to be the best among the rest of the other people in a relationship, you must be able to pass through that challenge and become outstanding in handling situations as regarding to feeling attraction for someone and having the love for the other.

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You Just Realized That Your Partner Is Cheating With You. So What Next?

Have you ever been in a situation where you discover that your partner have been using you to cheat on their relationships?

I have been in that situation before, and it happened a girl meet me, and was always wanting me to come over her house, or just make phone calls with her, somehow and finally, we started a relationship with her.
After been in the relationship for almost a month, that was when the truth came out from some close friends to her and they told she that she have a boyfriend they are together with, and she was just using me to cheat.

I became angry, sad and just pissed up about the whole stuff, i called her to confirm it and i was rigid on my points before she agreed to open up and beg me to forgive her.
I refused to continue the relationship because it was a kind of funny talking about the way she was using me to cheat.

Because am financially stable and i like giving out, she was like always making demands from me, and seeing her as a girlfriend i love so much, i couldn't resist giving her whatever she desires as far as she tells me something reasonable she is going to use them for. i was like her financial account and that month, almost half of my monthly budget was spent on her only.

I was doing all those things for her because she was able to blindfold me with much love and though it seemed to me like the love was real and straight from the heart, i never knew that she was just using me as her bank account and she kept showing me love like it was real (we never had sex! Bad for me.).
After i was able to find out what was really going, i have to start thinking about what i have to do.

Should i end the relationship? Or should i just continue?

Now that is the main point where this topic is heading to. The reason why you were used to cheat is not a problem, the problem is that you have been cheated on and you have been used to cheat on someone.

You are just like a third party in this situation because you have been used to serve a purpose.
What hurts you more is that you have been used to hurt the feelings of another person and come in between their relationship, but then what hurts most is the fact that you allowed yourself to grow in love with someone who lied to you and who is using you to cheat.

But then, you should not even think of staying in the relationship. You are not the only one involved with that person, who knows if you are 4 or 5 involved? So you see that you cant help such a situation thinking that it will get better and shift in your favour.
If you continue in the relationship, things might start getting worst because a lot criticism, break in trust and other things will start cueing up among you and the other person might get to know about what is happening, now you see that its going to be a lot of big problems to face.

There is no need being in a relationship with a liar and a cheater especially when your own characters and personality is of great value.
So the best to start with is to plan on ways you can bring the relationship to an end.

So here are a list of some guidelines to help you with ending such kinds of relationship affair and get a better life for yourself.

1. Accept the fact that you have been cheated on.

Sometimes when we find out that everything we were building have finally collapsed and when that happens, we refuse to believe and accept the reality of what is happening to us and make new decisions. When you now discover that you were cheated with and you were used for another purpose while to you, it seemed that you were the original

So when you find out that this is really happening to you, the first thing you can do to help yourself is to affect the fact that you have been cheated on, and that you have participated in a cheating act that will affect another individual.

So when you have accepted this fact without refusing to give in to the situation and change plans, them you will find out that taking the next step is nothing really hard to do.

2. Face Your Cheating Partner And Ask For Reasons.

They always say that the best way to tackle a problem is to face that problem and trace the root of that problem.
So meeting your affair partner and discussing your pain about happened is a good way to get yourself right and conscience clear about the dilemma you are going through.

Since you are now feeling the pain, guilt, anger and other things because of the occurrence, meeting the cheater and telling them how you felt and how things are now going with you is another way you can use in consoling yourself and pave a way out of the affair.

After that, you should be able to ask your affair partner the possible reasons why they decided to cheat with you and after that, you will find justification for whatever you participated in doing with him or her.

3. Distance Yourself Away and Avoid Your Partner.

Since you know that cheating is a very serious offence that always come with lots of consequence, the other next step you must take to help yourself is to distance yourself away from your cheating partner and break it off with him or her.

When you do that, you will find out that you finally have personal space and time to think about what is happening and to figure out your next plans for a better life.

When you are able to stay away from your partner who is cheating with you, it will also offer them more time to think about what they made you to indulge in and now, realising that they will be facing the consequence of what they have committed.

4. Start Erasing Their Thoughts And Memories in Your Life.

This is the most difficult aspect of the matter because at this point, you will find it hard to cope with the situation and move on with your life.

Anything that you know will remind you of the person should be totally deleted and done away with. Things like their social profiles, emails, messages, phone numbers, their gifts to you, clothes, gadgets, etc.
All these things which you know belongs to them must be done away with if you want to move on with your life.

5. Do Not Confront or Try Meeting Their Original Partners.

You already know that the girl or that man have been cheating with you and it happens that you know the original person they started with before you were involved.

So to manage and maintain your anger, dignity and respect, you should not go anywhere near that person whom you know that you were involved in cheating on him/her.

6. Determination on Your Decision.

Don't just say you are going to do all these things and take action as you are currently thinking in your mind. So you must first of all be determined in your heart and mind that you are surely going to leave their life because that is the only way you can help yourself become a better person.

Since indulging in the cheating act was not your original intention, having the determination to set yourself free and move on with your life is nothing hard to do, except if you want to continue in the act because you don't feel like going the right way, but altogether, these tips will work for your own good if you follow them practically and in the right manner.

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Things you should do to maintain your relationship and make it last for a long time

Having relationships that lasts have always been the dreams of many people today, and while some were able to live up to the task and maintain long lasting relationships, some are unable to achieve such aims and are jumping from one relationship to the other.

Not every relationships lasts for a long period of time, and once you are able to keep a relationship that have taken a form of a long term relationship, it is always hard for you to endure the lots of new problems that keep arising from time to time in the relationship.

If you want to keep a relationship that will last for long, then there are some practical steps you must take to ensure that everything is kept moving in the right direction it should go.
First, there are some things that will hinder you from being able to keep a long term relationship that is going to last for a long time.

#Lack of Trust.

When you find it hard trusting that person you are in love with, then it will be a hard thing for you to keep the relationship because you must always find one reason or the other to show them that you are uncomfortable with something going on in the relationship.

So once that trust is not there between the both of you, when you cant trust each others actions and when your words cant tell if there is truth in whatever you do, then i don't think you are ready to start a relationship that will last for a long period of time.

#Listening to Gossips from Third Parties.

This one can totally hinder you from even wanting to embark on a relationship that will last for a long period of time.
When people keep feeding you with facts and lies about your partner, it will make you to position yourself at one corner and then, allow those people to be the mediators between you and your lover.

Gossips will only make you to see so many faults in your partner that will make you to keep thinking the opposite direction about them, in truth, you are going to think that they are helping you to get the relationship better, but inside of the circle, you are going to find out that those gossips and bad mouthing from third parties is actually causing you to loose focus in the relationship.

So now that you have known that these two things are vital for making you to slow down your progress in your relationship life.
So i know that you want to maintain your relationship so that it will last for a long period of time.

To achieve that aim, i have been able to put down these tips that can help you to build the kind of long term relationship you want. So here are the things that you should do to maintain your relationship to last for a long period of time.

1. Show your partner that you like something about them.

There are a lot of women who normally loves it when their man always compliment them on the things they find attractive to them.
So if your woman falls under this category, then telling her about those things you like when you see her do them, wear them or act in such ways can trigger the love and care between the both of you.

Also as a woman, you surely know that there are many things you find attractive about your man and they always make you happy, so telling him about them can make him learn that you are really appreciative about the efforts he puts on trying to be at his best.

So when you become good and better in voicing out the things you like about your partner, he or she will start to do the same and from that point, you will discover you get along with each other and enjoy that aspect when the compliments and appreciation keeps flowing between the both of you.

2. Interact With Your Partner About Your Dreams And Goals in Your Life.

Have you ever thought of the reason why you are in a relationship with that person? Maybe you don't know why.
When you are in a relationship, you should know that you are not just into it because you want someone to make you happy or you want to enjoy some benefits that are attached to relationships. If that's your view about the relationship, then you can never settle for a long term relationship that will last.

The reason for starting any relationship should be solely for the purpose of sharing your life with your partner. And your life means your happiness and your achievements, or your dreams and your challenges you face in your life.
Sharing your dreams and goals in life will bring about motivation from your partner and he/she will always want to be in support of your dreams in your life.

So you must never underestimate the importance of sharing your goals in life with your partner because it brings about motivation and desire from both ends to see that those dreams are achieved.

3. Build up your compatibility and have common interest between the both of you.

One reason why many relationships today are thrown into the dust is because the partners have no compatibility between them, that is to say, they have nothing in common that brings their heads together.

For example, if you always like watching adventure, while she likes to watch romantic movies, or she likes taking strawberry and you don't like taking it but prefer mangoes, or she likes going to parties and hanging out while you hate hanging out nor partying.

When you discover that most of your interests, likes and dislikes are always different and are not common between you, then you can hardly get along as you get divided in many occasions and it will not be too good.

So if you know you really love your partner and you want something long lasting between the both of you, then the best idea to use is to start building your compatibility because everything have shown that you are not compatible with each other.

How do you start this process? It is easy, you must learn to start liking what your partner likes, no matter how hard you find it, but finally having something in common that both of you can discuss about can work a great deal in bring your heads together and also get your brains to function and work in the same direction.

4. Frequent Communication and Body Languages Usage.

Without communication, no relationship can last for long, so you must never play with this idea of keeping in touch with each other.

When you go out to work and have no hope of seeing your partner until when its evening, calling them to know how they are doing is a great way to show care and concern for them.
Communicate and talk to each other about anything that involves the both of you.

If you are having any challenge in your life, then tell your partner about it, if there is something you don't like about your partner, make them know about it and if you have any insecurity about your partner, then you must communicate all these things to them so that both of you can learn about each others problems more better and handle them in the best way you can.

Don't underestimate the importance of touching your partner always, this can be in form of hugging, hands holding, shoulder leaning and kissing, other advanced touch situations are massaging of your partner's body. All these activities will make you not to have any boring experience about what you see other people doing in their relationships.

Before you can be able to hold a long term relationship, there must be that dedication and interest in achieving such height of relationships, and once you are able to practice all those tips given above, then you can be able to maintain your relationship and make it last for a long period of time.

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How to End a Relationship You Are No More Interested in Keeping

I have once been in a relationship that i enjoyed but i later got very upset about something that happened to me personally and just because of that, i decided to look for a way to end the relationship.

The reason was not because i don't like my girlfriend anymore, and its not because she did anything wrong, but then something happened to me and because of that, i was determined to just end the relationship and get done with it once and for all.

But the truth of the matter was that i tried to end the relationship, but i could not. I tried the whole lot of lies i could think of but the breakup never happened, i looked for any exit door open but i could not get any and because of that, i have to consult my friend who was an expert whenever it comes to relationship matters.

That friend of mine was now able to give me new guidelines that i practiced and followed, and when i used them, i was now able to get out of the relationship with ease and i forgot about it completely.

From my experience, trying to end a relationship you have gone into is a very hard situation which can make you think that your life is going to end with that partner you are currently dating, and when you think of breaking up, there are two situations in which you can embark on a breakup plan.

Ending Your Relationship for No Reason.

Have you ever thought of this situation, it is the hardest form a breakup can take as there is no reason why you want to end the relationship.
You will be tempted to think and say to yourself that your partner loves you so much and will be hurt to see you go.

But right inside your heart, you know that you just want to breakup for a reason outside the relationship and not because of any other thing.
For example, you might want to breakup and end your relationship if you are relocating to another destination, or you are going away to school and you cant just continue the relationship because you cant meet again and have things as it uses to be.

Well this situation can come in different forms and depending on your own reason why you want to end the relationship, it might be harder for you to do so.

Ending Your Relationship For a Reason.

When you are ending the relationship for a reason, it is safer and more easier than when you are ending it for no reason.
There can be many reasons why you will want to end the relationship and those reasons are mostly accompanied with difficulties that arises inside the relationship.

Maybe you just found a new love and the kind of attention and attraction you get from them is greater than the kind you get from your present lover, and because of that, you just want to end the current relationship and start something new with another partner.

Or it happened that your significant other is not making you happy anymore in the relationship, and you get lots of misunderstanding with each other and as a result, you think that ending the relationship is the best option you are left with.

But whether you are wanting to end the relationship for a reason or for no reason, its no news that we normally suffer a great deal when wanting to initiate a breakup.
There must be that feeling of guilt, that rushing of memories, that remembrance of promises kept for each other, those happy romantic moments and those awesome sex nights you do enjoy in the relationship.

What makes a breakup more of a hard task is that your other partner will be your area of concentration and when that happens, you discover that you keep remembering everything that makes you happy with your partner and you mostly skip the bad memories about them.

So now, you want to just end the relationship right? And you have tried but you couldn't, or you just want to end it in a way that will not sound dramatic? Well are a list of those methods you can implement in other to end a relationship in no time.
(Also Read: How to Deal With a Breakup and Avoid Making Things Worst )

1. Stop Thinking About Your Partner.

The bes way you can start the process of ending a relationship you are no more interested in is to first stop thinking about your partner whom you now want to breakup with.
Any little thought about them can trigger your affection for that person and when you cant get them off your head, then you can hardly start the process of ending the relationship. Whenever you discover that you want to think about them, just distract yourself from thinking about them and think of something that will be of more importance to you than keep thinking about them.

2. Don't Call or Text Them, and Don't Reply Them either.

This one will also help you in initiating the breakup in a more easy and relaxed way while you just hold on to that reason why you want to end it.
When your partner calls or texts you, delete them and don't reply to any of them.
When you do that, you will be able to see that you are going easy and the end of the relationship will just be hanging around the corner, waiting for its due time.

3. Avoid any Thing that Belongs to Them Including Social Profiles.

Keeping any of the persons gifts that was given to you, or any thing you just know it belongs to the person can stop you and slow you down from fastening the whole process.

Their social profiles and accounts will also slow you down if you don't delete them from your profiles. Anything that will make you feel like you can still get in touch with each other can trigger affection in you and when that happens, it will just occur to you that you cant just end the relationship.

Also, you should just avoid anything that would remind you of them, places that reminds you of your partner should be forgotten and also, you should just avoid things that normally makes you to idealize them.

4. Call Them to Say "Its Over".

Sometimes, the reason why its always hard to end the relationship is because you cant communicate to your partner about it.
So when your partner starts seeing you change in your actions and they find you unaccessible from every angle, maybe it will send them a signal that something is happening to you. So when you observe it, you can now walk up to your partner and just tell them the word "I think its over between us, and the relationship have to end".

Now you should not just leave after saying that because it sounds rude and embarrassing, so you don't want to sound rude nor embarrassing, so what you do next after saying that is to tell them why you are leaving and ending the relationship.

You should try to be polite and convincing at this moment and make sure that you convince them that you can still be friends after the relationship is ended, i think that should be fair enough.

5. Finally, Don't Shake.

What i mean by this is that you should hold on to that reason why you want to end the relationship. You already know what you want to do and you are to take responsibility for whatever you decide that its best for you.

So as you embark on breaking up and ending your current relationship, you must ensure that the actions you choose do not come with regrets in the afterwards of the relationship breakup.

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Reasons Why You Should Take a Break if Problems Persist in Your Relationship

Have you ever thought of taking a break in your relationship because of one reason or the other?
If yes, then this article is for you, am going to give you insights about this topic and how it will work a big deal in bringing you and your lover together.

Sometimes when talking about relationships and taking a break from it, it does not go the direction of thinking that you are no more in love with your partner or that you are tired with the relationship.

I have faced so many problems in my relationship and as someone who knows much about relationships, i thought about taking a break in my relationship which i did, and after doing that, i got an impressive result and when we came back together, our love life was able to get better and we were once again happy with each other with the past confusions dealt with.

The main importance and the most significant part is what you do and what you engage in after taking a break from your relationship.
There are many problems that will arise in your relationship which will make you opt for taking a break from the relationship. But depending on the reason, the break can either lead to a breakup or it will strengthen the love between you and your partner.

The Need for Agreement Before Going Into a Relationship break.

Sometimes, before we go into a relationship break, we make mistakes of not having the agreement and go ahead from our partner before embarking on the break.

When you don't tell your partner about your intentions to go for a relationship break and also get them to agree that it will work for both of you together, your partner might misunderstand the reason why you are going for a break and when they don't get your concept for taking that break, it can lead to a breakup at the end.

So at first, you need to sit with your partner, and identify those difficulties that your relationship is facing, then tell your partner about the option you have opted to consider which in turn is going to make everything better.

After you have talked to your partner about this and have it that your partner have agreed that both of you should take a break from the relationship, then you must make sure that both of you hold on to the love you have for each other and not allowing it to slip away.

But when after talking to your partner about it, your partner was not able to show full support, then its best if you drop this option and consider taking up a new and better option because this point at a time is crucial and can either grow your relationship, or end it.

How Taking a Break Helps in Powering Up The Relationship.

Now after you have agreed to take a break in your relationship, you need to learn certain things you must do at that moment when you are now alone by yourself and then, waiting until when the tension, confusions and problems of the relationship are finally dealt with.

But before we tell you those things to do, here are the list of the ways taking a break will help you to improve your relationship and get it straight up on the tract of successful relationships.

One of the most heard reason why some people take breaks in relationship is because they need some Time to be Alone and think about things that makes the relationship so difficult to move on smoothly.

This is just one of thing you must first consider after you take a break from the relationship, you must know that you don't need to keep jumping up and down engaging in those things you were doing before you took the break in the relationship.

When you have the whole time alone, you feel more better and more happy because you finally have time to be yourself and think more about how to make things right in the relationship.

1. Motivation from both ends.

When you truly love your partner, then going on a relationship break can drive you nuts because it will be hard for you to bear those moments when you don't hear from your partner and get any tip as to what is happening to them.

Can you just imagine how you will feel when you know that both of you are still in love but cant hear from each other?
When you have this feeling in you, then you will be motivated towards making things right and replacing the unhappy events in your relationship and clear the ground for a better and happy reunion.

2. That Awkward Moment When You Are Missing Each Other.

When you take a relationship break, you must truly miss each other when the love is true between the both of you.
Before you took a break from the relationship, it may happen that you were always together and because of that, you may even think that you are not having personal space to be happy with yourself alone.

But after you take a break from the relationship, that is when you will find out and discover how you can not live without each other in your lives. So as a result of that you will be eager to get back with your partner and will be motivated to make them happy once again.

Why Honesty And Proper Communication Works Best.

When your love life gets though and hard to handle, and you just have taking a break as your own option to make things better, then its good and you can go ahead to do that and be rest assured that it is going to work.

But then, while taking a break works most of the times, it will be better if you consider sitting your partner down and having a conversation about the problems your relationship is facing and then, discussing about the possible ways you can use in making things better in your relationship.

So as you take this step of taking a break, don't play with the time in between the break and the reunion, and be careful because a break can lead to a break up if you don't handle it the right way.

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5 Signs That Tells Your Partner is Cheating on You

Many relationships that are in existence today are suffering from this single act of cheating, and cheating has been one of the most prominent situation many people face in their relationships.

But why do people cheat in relationships? I keep asking myself this question and i found no definite answer to this cause, maybe they feel like cheating and they see it as a normal thing in any relationship.

Not everyone is perfect in dating, and sometimes cheating comes as a mistake and not intentional, also when your relationship starts getting boring or melting in sweetness, then your partner might want to get another someone to give them the hotness they need, even when they know they are still in love with you.

When you love someone and you find out that he or she is cheating on you, it always hurt and if you are just suspecting that your partner is cheating on you, then here are some clues to know that your partner is cheating on you in the relationship.

1. Hiding her calls and texts from you.

This is one sure sign that your partner is cheating behind your back.
When you started the relationship, your partner seemed confident enough to pick calls in your presence and even allow you access to her text messages.

But now you observe that your partner always get nervous when someone calls or texts their phone in your presence.
When they get a call when you are around and instead of answering the call in your presence, they go out to answer the call, then you should just take it that your partner is cheating in the relationship.

This is just a good sign that you must watch out for because if the caller was their mom, dad, friend, co-worker or any family member, they will not be afraid of answering those calls in your presence.

2. Your partner starts giving excuses for not hanging out with you.

This is another crucial point that will tell you your partner is cheating.
When the relationship was new and still alive, your significant other is always ready to hang out with you, they are always ready spear their free time for you and you always stay overnight together with each other.

But now, what are you getting? Is your significant other always giving you excuses for not hanging out with you? Do they always tell you they are having work overtime and so can not hangout? Or do your partner find excuses not to spend much time together with you anymore, or just keep making excuses everyday and always?

When these excuses come up almost every day or every time, then chances are that your partner is spending all those moments with the person they are cheating with.

If your partner is not cheating, the relationship will always be growing and things will keep getting fun. But if the other is cheating, you find out that the relationship is dying down and things keep getting worst.

3. Your partner is now more secretive and don't talk about personal matters with you.

Normally when a relationship is still in good shape and condition, there are no secrets and even the past secrets are told in the course of the relationship, and your partner will always tell you about their personal matters that they cant make known to others.

But what now happens and what will tell you that your other is cheating?
They stop telling you anything personal and they refuse to tell you any new secret about them and about the things happening behind the door.

That's just a good sign to tell you that your partner is cheating on you because if they still love you and are not stabbing you from the back, they will have no reason to hold secrets  and keep things from you.

4. False accusation and complaints.

When your partner is cheating on you, that is when you find them accusing you of what you know you are not doing, and you keep hearing them complaining about every little mistake you do.

The most common of this false accusation is when your partner keep saying you are cheating and suspecting that you are doing something at their back.

All these accuses are done in a bid to make you leave or make you end the relationship so they can continue enjoying their new life with a new partner.
When you see this sign occurring and reoccurring, then just know that your significant other has something cooking at the back door. 

5. Your partner takes new interest in appearance.

Maybe you use to know your partner as someone who does not do too much of shaving and dressing up always as a man, or as a woman, you know that your girlfriend previously do not always do lots of make ups or go dress shopping always.

But when all these habits change and you recently found out that your partner just took new interest in their looks and they like dressing up, then its possible that your partner just saw someone new and then, they are trying to keep up on their looks so that the other new person will find them attractive and nice.

6. Change in sexual interest and body languages.

There are two forms this changes can take, it can be that your partner is no more interested in having sexual activities with you, or you find out that your partner does not want you to be touching them again.

This will tell you that they are no more interested in you, and then all those other signs are already there and when you add them up together, you will find out that loss of attraction have taken over and your partner hardly allows you to even kiss, not to talk of taken of their shirts for you.

The problem here is that no relationship can be fun without the normal touches and body language actions, and when those things start to be absent in the relationship, then you must check out for the possible reasons why it is happening.

Also, sex is another thing altogether, and when you have been indulging in sexual activities and just of recent, your partner no more have interest in getting intimate with you, then they have lost the pleasure they have in you and maybe they have gotten someone new they invest their whole sexual energy on.

These are just some of those signs that if you start noticing them in your relationship, then you should just know that your partner is cheating in the relationship.

And sometimes, it does not really imply that your partner is cheating in the relationship when those things happen, but when they do happen always and they keep occurring repeatedly, then its easy to say that your partner is cheating on you.

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How to Deal with a Breakup and Avoid Making Things Worse

Breakups are nothing new in the relationship world, and i believe you know how a breakup can turn someone into a state that explains that a lot of things are happening in the persons mind.

Emotional lost and confusing moments always characterise most of the breakups today, and you find out that the person is so hurt, lost of feelings is on the high and people do questionable things when ever they are experiencing a breakup.

Depending on how the breakup happened, it can cause you to be either emotionally weak and miserable, or it gets you angry and makes you act in stupid ways that will make you feel more hatred for the other.

There are many things that if you allow them to get over you and carry out those things, that they will keep backfiring at you and you will live with regrets in your life for even a more prolonged time that you never thought of.

The reason why a breakup can harm you more than doing good to you is because of the fact  that it takes a long period of time before it heals. It can even last for a long period of time more than some physical injuries people do sustain. But sometimes, we are the main reason why we take too long before healing from a heart break.

When you allow yourself to keep thinking and behaving in a manner that will make you think that you are helping yourself to forget about your ex, then you are not doing yourself any good but you are making your situation get from bad to worst.

When you use a natural means to approach a breakup and get it over you, then you might not be doing yourself any good as you lack in a proper and a better emotional cleanness.

Here are a list of what you should avoid and things you should do after a breakup so that you can give yourself time to heal and recover quickly.

#1. Forget your mistakes.

When you keep thinking about your mistakes from your just ended relationship and you keep disturbing yourself and rethinking about those mistakes, it makes you to keep regretting your mistakes.

And when this happens, then nothing is going to heal, and you will only keep regretting and brooding over all those things that caused your breakup.

2. Don't condemn yourself.

You already know that you have been hurt and your heart is suffering from the fact that it was hurt by another person. When you keep blaming yourself for your mistakes and the things that brought about the breakup, then you will only be adding more sorrows to the one you are having now.

The best treatment you can give to your wounded self is to be compassionate about yourself and just consolidate yourself and allow everything to pass away.

3. Don't try to text or call your ex after the breaking.

Stalking is very bad and it will cause you to keep remembering everything, i mean everything about you and your ex.
When you keep bordering your ex with phone calls and texts, it means that you are not over the relationship.

And when you do that, its possible that your ex don't just want you back anymore in their life, and when you cant stop reaching out to your ex when they are no more into you, that will just hurt you the more and keep causing you to regret your actions since before you broke up.

4. Don't over do anything after the breakup.

This can be in form of drinking too much, partying, hooking up or eating your self out.
You might think that doing all these things will make you feel better and forget about what is happening to you.

It will surely work, but will not last for up to 5 hours, and once you are back to your senses, you discover everything turns worst than it was before and you will keep being in bondage of your ex relationship thoughts.

So you must avoid this habit when you are heart broken after a breakup, you should just calm yourself down and give yourself the best consolation you can.

5. Never jump into a new relationship immediately after a breakup.

Sometimes, in a desperate bid to find solutions to our wounded soul and sorrowful heart, we go into a new relationship immediately after a breakup with our ex.

It will not work out the way you think because it happened that you just went on a rebound because you want to get over the just ended relationship and you were still feeling hurt.

So you will want your new partner to meet up to your immediate needs and you will find out that whenever your new partner makes a mistake, you immediately compare them to your ex and then, everything just seem not to be at its best as you expected.

6. Going on a break for sometime.

This is just a nice and good idea that can help you to recover from a breakup within a short time and move on with your life.

There are things that you enjoy doing when you were still with your ex, and there were places you normally like going to, so the best way to get healed from your past relationship wounds is to take a break from doing those things and going to those places.

Also, you must not rush into any new relationship after a breakup, but the best thing to do is to start enjoying your single life and freedom by meeting with new friends and new people, and talk to every woman or man that comes your way and do it with a clean and happy mood.

By so doing, you can be able to start regaining all your lost emotions and feelings that makes you the confident and happy man you used to be before.

A breakup will be hard on you only if you have never experienced it before or that you were deeply committed to your partner before things went sore.

To bring it all to close, being happy with who you are is the best idea to carry yourself on and after that, you should allow people in and out of your life because not all relationships are meant to last for a long period of time.

So once you start dating a multiple times, you can be able to learn that not everyone that comes into your life is meant to stay in it.

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How to Engage in First Dates that Won't Cost You Lot of Money

When it comes to dating and the course of wowing a girl just to make here like you and find you interesting, there has been a lot to this process and nothing is easy at this point in a man's life.

This topic is meant to draw your attention to the fact that pressure on you in order to wow a girl on the first date will make you think that you have to spend a lot and spill out your money on the first date before you can get everything to be fun and interesting.

The way you think on first dates is what will determine if the date will be great and fun, but it does not just go the spending way. You might spend on the date the entire day and end up getting nothing really interesting out of it and then, that becomes a total waste.

And also, most people who do dating have forgotten the whole concept about dating and they seem not to understand dating.
A friend of mine once told me that he will make sure that he spends much for a girl on a date and then, he expects her to repay him handsomely at the bedroom.

You should not take a date to be a moment of extra spending that ends with a call for the bedroom. There is difference between sex and dates and these two should not just be mixed up and taken as one.

So to avoid all these craps that do happen when a call for a date is made, you must know that you don't have to spend your money too much before you can achieve the best results after the date.

So in other to engage in a first date without spending much money, here are a list of what you should do to get the best result which you have always expected.

(1) Visit the food markets close to your community.

This is just a great second option for you to try and see how effective it works. You don't have to spend much there and you can even pick up one or two things from the market and make sure you let her to pick what is of interest to her from the farmers market.

When you take the girl out with you to the nearest farmers market in your community, its a great way to know more about your likes and dislikes when it comes to what to eat. And you will have more idea as to what food she enjoys the most and you can also tell her the ones you enjoy the most.

When you are doing this, both of you can talk about relevant issues about the market and the nature of the farmers and how they go about carrying out their farming activities.

This will show to the girl that you have many more things that are priority in your life and you don't only want to get her attraction, but also create attraction between the both of you and what you enjoy talking about.

(2) Have Dinners at home or somewhere comfortable.

The reason you should choose to have a dinner is because it is less expensive, less noisy and then, it gives you more and much time to talk to each other and get to know each other while having the dinner.

Another reason why having dinners is because it don't always turn out to be awkward and boring. Since its a dinner and you are at the comfort of your home or the house you went to, you have many things to switch and hold on to and as a result, you will not get any awkward and boring situation in the course of the date.

(3) Go for a run or do a sport activity together.

I choose arcades as the best and favourite activity that can be fun between the both of you and is nothing expensive.

By going for arcades, you are able to explore and see each others playful side and also enjoy the both of you competing with each other.

But you can only enjoy this if the girl is a humorous girl and enjoys to play and have fun, but if she is not, you should not start it because at will turn awkward and boring at the end.

(4) Opt to go for a walk and also for people watch.

This can be a best idea that makes a date fun and less expensive, you don't even need to spend anything at all.
You can ask her if she would like to take a walk with you and if she agrees, then you can choose to walk to anywhere you want.

And while doing that, you talk about everything you can think of and just enjoy the moment you spend and the time you send together with her. You should just get to know each other and that is jus what first dates are all about.

Also ask her if she would enjoy watching people out together with you. So both of you can find somewhere comfortable where you can sit down and view people as they go about their life and also, you can sit just to observe and see how the world moves around and how time passes. These are fun and less expensive budgets to carry out.

(5) Go to watch romantic movies together.

You are looking up to create something more attractive and fun between the both of you, so going to watch a romantic movie can be very fun and can cause a feeling of emotion to occur between the both of you at the end.

It is less expensive and once you are able to do that, you might be surprised to see her use more body languages that explains attraction when ever she is with you.

ADDITIONAL TIPS:

Avoid coffee's and drinks on first dates.

These two things does not end well with if you want to start a relationship with the girl you are dating, so its either that you want to take her to the bed and have a one night of hot sexual escapade, then it might be that you just want to be friends and that's all.

When you opt for a coffee, it does not signify or point out anything special between the both of you and perhaps, friendship is what a coffee always signify. And opting for drinks will not yield any better result save the other part of it, sex.
So to end it all, you must remember that the woman you picked does not really matter, and your spending does not matter to her too.

The ultimate purpose and reason for the date is just to get around each other and know each other well. So spending high means nothing and you might end up impressing the wrong people, so the best advice you can take with you is to go low and spend less on your first dates.

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What to Do When You Find an Attractive Girl at a Bar

The bar is a great place to meet with different kinds of women in your life and when you see an attractive lady who you start liking right inside the bar, you should not be afraid of making a move to get her.

Maybe you just went to the bar to grab a glass and meet with new people, then while in your cool at the bar, you just saw a very sweet and attractive girl and you started melting for her. Okay the point here is that you now want to talk to her, and make her notice you.

But you don't just know how to start initiating the whole process and you are stuck in one position, thinking of what to do to get the girl and start something that is likely going to end well.

You might be afraid and think that you cant have a great relationship with a girl you took up from a bar, and that is what most people say, but its not always true because i have seen many great relationships that started just from the bar or any other place similar.

That is not the problem here, what becomes a problem is you not being able to take the right approach at the right time in the bar, and once you are not able to do that, you find out that you will not record any success in your pursuit.

There are things you should do in other not to be like those other guys out there and also there are techniques you must use in other not to be that boring to her. Lets see some of those tips on what next to do after you see an attractive girl at the bar.

1. Use the old friend approach style.

When you want to approach her at the bar, doing it just the way other guys always do will not just work as you expected, and you can only get that "what is the matter" look from her and you will end up confused and short of things to say.

But why not try it a new way and get a different style for yourself?
This kind of approach goes along with boldness in you and then, go and meet her just like as if you have been friends for a long time, you can pretend to her like you have been friends since childhood and once she shows surprise and a little or much interest in you, just bring up a conversation that is going to last for a long time that you can ask her to follow you out of the bar.

This is not stressful at all, it only requires that positive energy in you and also the boldness as you initiate the process else, she might find your approach unimpressive and deceitful.

2. Look nice and clever.

Whenever you want to go to a party or a bar, there is need for you to always dress in good form and have yourself organised in case of moments like this when you find a girl attractive and so you want to approach her.

No woman will want to flirt and come around you if you appear in rags or appear like you are just taking a cool breeze from the tree under your roof. So appearing nice and looking good offers you more chances to get more women to hear you out and follow you around the bar.

You don't have to go an extra mile in dressing before you can appear and look good at the bar, but by just having a different clean and fresh styles on you and making sure every part of your body is well taken care of, you are already fit for any woman's admiration.

3. Avoid Pick Up Lines and be original.

Did you notice something about women and the way they react to pick up lines these days?
It seems to be likely said that they are already familiar with all of them and so, they don't get interested whenever men use it on them and instead of tipping you about it, they just mark you as one of those guys and you totally loose out.

Some of those pick up lines are just bad as crap and do not work at all because most of them do not work with every kind of woman and the initiators just use them without thinking about what a woman's reaction will be.

Instead of using pick up lines, the best natural way to do it at the bar is just to be yourself and not faking anything. There are many things you can ask a woman that makes her think twice and then come up with something to tell you and from there, you can start up a conversation.

What really matters when trying to get a girl is how real and original you are, so if you use those pick up lines, she will notice that you are only desperate and just a needy guy who wants to get her attention, and so she will cross her mind originally from the scratch.

4. Showing a lot of confidence in yourself.

Confidence has always been the thing, and when you are able to push yourself up and know that you are certainly going to face a lot of challenges when doing all these things, then be sure that you can do it.

You might be thinking that the girl will turn you down and you will feel rejected, but the cases have not always been like that. Once you are able to set your targets and goals, then use the tools you have to aim at them and get it right, then you are done, every other story can well end up in the bed room or a happy new relationship.

5. Pay for her drinks without asking.

This is also a nice way and one of the best ways you can use, not to get her attraction, but her attention to start up a new conversation without putting on much stress.

When you notice her ordering for drinks at the bar, you don't wait for her to ask the waiter how much it costs or wait for her to pay, you can just walk over to the attendant and ask him for her bill, then get it done for her and don't wait for her to come to you for appreciation, just take your leave immediately and go away from her presence.

When you do so, you will find out that she will be ready and even want to have a word of appreciation with you at that moment. The reason why you should leave is because everything might end at just the appreciation and nothing special happens again and as a result, she might take you as a nice guy.

So to avoid that, you have to leave her presence for the rest of the moment at the bar before she can see you again and when you both meet, the chemistry and physics will be high, so its left for you to utilize it to the best of your advantage.

There are many other tips on this subject and with time, we will update you with more of them but for the mean time, you must remember that not every girl at the bar is interested in making new boyfriends or getting to bed for a one night stand.

So you should create time to learn and know what that girl need and what she is looking for so that you can do the right thing and choose what will work for you out there.

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How to Prevent Your Relationship Life from Getting Boring

You know how it use to be when you start a relationship newly, and the way everything is so lively between you and your partner as the relationship kicks off, then as everything starts getting old and everything becomes familiar and frequent, the passion starts dying off and everything starts to slow down with time.

When a relationship starts getting bored, you normally knows it and it always occur that its not because the relationship encountered any problem. You and your partner are still happy to have each other and you always move together, but then it seems like the power and attraction in the relationship is gone, and you keep doing the same thing you used to do before, and the you keep going to places you use to go before, but nothing seem to get lively anymore,  and the boredom keeps advancing from bad to worst.

You should not have any feeling of guilt in you when your relationship starts getting boring, and just the way you are viewing the relationship, its also the same way your partner is viewing it, so you should be more concerned about finding out the reason behind the boredom in your relationship and how to do away with it.

The reason why boredom sets into most relationships is because nothing was done to prevent it from breaking into the relationship. And you might take it as a surprise as to why you are experiencing boredom in the relationship. But as you continue to wonder why, you should be able to come into a concluding knowledge that relationships are just tricky.

And even when you play them well, you still run into moments you get screwed up and keep thinking why you even started it in the first place, but also, relationships can make you feel like the happiest person ever in this life.

So these following tips will help you learn some measures you can take on how to prevent your relationship life from getting boring.

(1) Master the act of touching.

You must learn to understand and know those sensitive areas on the body of your partner that triggers the attraction in them, and once you are able to learn about the erotic parts that turn you and your partner on, you can talk more about it when together and doing that will encourage you and your partner never to stop doing what triggers the attraction between the both of you when you are together.

The most concrete kinds of touches that have existed for a long period of time are hugging, kissing, holding of hands and touching of the face or neck areas, so take your time to ensure you do those things at the right time and with the right expression so that you don't appear needy or something like that.

(2) Don't always have sex.

If you really enjoy having sex and it happens that you always have it with your partner, then its time to cut off that too much of sex and replace it with something more romantic that she will always love you do and appreciate you for doing them.

Instead of always having sex every night, why not option to give him/her a deep massage that he or she will always remember and want you to do more. Spend time using your hands to give your partner unending pleasure on their body parts as you continue to refuse sex and bear it within you even when you know its so hard for you to bear.

When you allow sex to take over your relationship, it will be the worst when your relationship starts getting boring because when the pleasure for that sex is not there, then every other thing is absolutely down to zero and nothing will seem to be of interest to both of you anymore.

(3) Get out of home and get busy.

Sometimes, too much care and attention backfires in a relationship and when you allow it to get much, everything about the relationship will not last for a long period of time.

When you always find yourselves together, you always talk and talk until you run out of new ideas and topics to talk about and as a result, silence can even set in and boredom can set in at those moments, though it will not last for long before both of you start talking again. But the more you spend time together and always talk and talk out of ideas, then the more you create space for boredom to set into the relationship.

So one among the best way to avoid this is to get out of the house and get more busy with other things outside your own world than the inside. By so doing, you will create more memories and new topics to talk about with your partner.

If the both of you can get out together, it will also be a good idea to keep everything fun and easy going without worrying about getting bored in the relationship. Seeing new things and going out to new places together can create more memories and multiply your topics for conversation.

(4) Do things that will add more passion and its memories.

Sometimes the way you refuse to show passion and create it with your partner can lead to boredom in your relationship.

Talking about touching your partner and that special way you do it that makes your partner to always think of it how they love it when you do it in whatsoever way you like to do it best.
Think about kissing your partner every now and then and how you do it to your partner, the way you kiss that will make your partner want to jump on to the bed with you.

What about looking into your partners eyes? That special way you do it that makes him to keep thinking of you always and  admire it. There are many things you can do to your partner that will cause a flow of passion and keep its memories in your brain.
The feeling of passion is a great way to keep the fire of the relationship burning because it makes you remember every small thing that occurred between you and your partner and the way you enjoyed them all.

To wrap everything up, you must always remember that the moment you are now reading this post is a moment to be happy and celebrate with your lover. Here is why.

You were able to live up to this moment while people die everyday, that's true gift of life for you and your creator and then, the love and happiness you are sharing is something to always be happy about.

So always show passion and love everyday of your life with your partner and by so doing, you can be able to drive away any sign of boredom trying to set into your relationship.

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The Kind of Girls to Mingle with And those Stay Away From

When it comes to the dating and relationship world, women are known to have most of the problems and even be the cause of the troubles many relationships are facing.

As a man, who is not a bad man and who has many views and options in your life and you are ready to face as many as possible challenges when it comes to this love of a thing. You are unique in your own way and not in other peoples way, and you are just an example of a potential individual who is loveable by everyone.

Women are the cause of the problems so many men are facing today, and the reason is not because the women are bad, but its just because those men were not careful in choosing the kind of women they want to mingle and associate it. And because they allowed every kind of a girl to just come into their life and do things in it, toil with their hearts and finally dump it in the bush, many of those men now account their miserable life on women.

So as a man who is in his right angle of thinking and as a man who have different interest about different women, you must know that there are those kinds of women out there who can make you reach your goals, and those that are just bent on making it miserable and worst for you.

As you continue with your life, you must watch out and be careful of those kind of women who are generally attractive to everyone and turns out to be talk actives. These kinds of women are just attractive and you will have nothing bad to say about their looks.

Once you start coming around those kinds of women and you fail to notice it at start, you will start to fall in love with them and find everything appealing and attractive to you, but at the end, you find out that they are not nice to you only, but to every other man generally and that is just their life and you cant change it. And from there you start having moments of regrets for allowing them to get into your head earlier.

As for those talk active women out there, avoiding them would be the best because when you allow them into your life without noticing, they become a problem to you and they give you a hard time trying to settle your life with them in it, they cant help your dreams come true and they cant help you with the important matters about your life but they are only good at just talking and not giving you any chance to talk sense into them.

For example, when you run into a talk active woman and she makes a mistake with you, she probably knows you are going to talk and instead of allowing you say it, she says what she did and she is the one to say she will not do it again, and when you make mistakes, she might probably be the one to correct you.
That is so bad and not adorable and your live will end up revolving in her axis if you don't end the relationship between the both of you.
(Also Read: The 6 most most annoying habits men hate in their girlfriends )

1. A woman who is not over her past relationship.
These kinds of women are dangerous and harmful to you if you stay around them because there will always be high demand and expectations from you.
When you run into a woman who is still thinking of her ex boyfriend and have a desire to get back to him, then chances are that she will always want you to be just like her ex and if you are not, she gets angry at you over little matters.

So its always better if you stay out of these kinds of women because instead of the both of you to help each other carry on in your lives and move on, she will always want you to be the one helping her get up and she might want to use you as an asset to keep getting whatever she was enjoying in her past relationship.

You can be able to know when you meet a woman with a wounded soul and as usual, every wound needs someone to clean it, dress it up and keep it in a good condition. So that's what she would probably want you to do.

2. The village girl.
This kind of a woman is just like those women who will complain, cry and talk about meaningless things and irrelevant situations.
Just like a drama mama and queen, she just cant help her emotions and so she ends up pouring them out anytime and anywhere at any point.

Also this kind of women are those type that will just want you to keep listening to them and consider everything they do. Have you ever seen a girlfriend who do not always get along with her boyfriend because she always argue over anything? Then that's what this drama queens enjoy doing.

So when you come across this kind of women, it is best that you just make a way for them to leave out of your life because they will make you take responsibility for everything they are doing and that will surely make your life miserable.

3. A woman who has no female friends.
This can be really bad for you as a man who have a wider and broader life because when she have no girlfriends, she will option to always be with you.

So when she is always with you, you become her center of attention in everything she will barely give you time for yourself.
She will always disturb you with every gossip she enjoy and all the feminine attitudes that women like showing.

And as time goes on, she becomes like a liability to you and you might not be able to hold it down for too long, so its better if you stay away from such kinds of women.

4. The Chameleon kind of women.
There are so many girls today that always change in their outward and inward characters and habits just like chameleon. And the kind of people they go along with and the kind of places you find them can define who are in real life.

You see them behave like party sluts when they are at parties, they are bad when most of their friends are bad, they date several men at a time when most of their friends does that too, they engage in sexual activities when their friends does, they drink alcohol if most of their friends take it too.

So you just see that if you meet these kinds of women in your life, then you will encounter one of the most bitter relationship you have ever had.
(Also Read: How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character )

5. Women that like to be above everyone else.
These kind of women are just a waste of time and effort to be with.
They are the hardest kind of women you just assume and have it to themselves that they are above every other man and better than any other woman.

They mostly like to piss men away with words that make them angry and they like to be in command of even their boyfriends most of the times.
These kind of women just see their self above the world and they like everyone to just depend on them for everything.

These are just the kind of women you should stay away from and if you already have them in your life, you should let them walk away or get out of their life because with them in your circle, your life will surely be miserable at the end.

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Signs that Tells he Likes You Just for Your Looks

As women, we understand that you girls like it a lot when men admire your beauty and looks which as a result, makes you feel more comfortable with who you are and draw tons of suitors to yourself everyday.

But then, we also know that you always hear a lot from we guys 24/7, and it seems you enjoy listening to us but keep pushing us away because you find it hard knowing the real man among us and at the end, you also end up picking up the wrong man.

Its true to say that the real man for you is different and you will see it in him, but how do you even know if you have meet him?
You are beautiful, adorable and just loveable by many men, and you always meet one or more men everyday as you go out of your comfort zones for your daily life.

Many men will come to you because of your beauty but you know they will not show you that reason, they will use other things and means to deceive you and get your attraction.
I myself have tried it with many girls and it worked, and not that i really loved them for any other reason, its just because of the looks and that is all.

Let me just show you some of those things guys will tell you and when they talk or say things in such form, that means they are just there because of your beauty and looks and the benefits they know they are going to get from you. Also the below list will show you some actions and ways they will act that indicates they are just into you because of the beauty or looks.

1. He moves so fast.
Did you observe that from many of those guys that come up to meet you everyday? They just come and start showing whole interest in you, showering you with gifts and compliments and asking you out just within 1 week of meeting with you.

That will show you that he is just there because of your beauty and not any special thing about you. And as he is just desperate to get you start a relationship with him and that is why he is just so fast and needy.

So once you find out that a guy will not stop coming to see you always, keep talking sweet things to you and buying you gifts whenever he arrives, its just because of your beauty.

2. He fakes everything about himself.
When a man truly love and like you straight from his heart, he will not fake anything about himself or try to be something else because of you, he is honest with himself and his actions.

See this conversation below as an example.

Mary: ''I love to watch romantic movies while alone at home''

Stephen: ''Wow! That's awesome, me too i love watching those kinds of romantic movies if am at home''.

But truly, Stephen is a guy hate romantic movies and only love watching Game of Thrones and other war and heroic movies.
Because he meet Mary who loves watching romantic movies, he fakes it that he too does.

That's just to tell you the extent to which guys fake it all just to impress a beautiful woman.
Men will use different strategies just to make you think they qualify to be in your life but truly, then don't care if they qualify, they just want to get you and that's what they want.
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3. They have nothing serious to talk to you about.
When someone likes you regardless of your looks, you should be able to hear him talk to you about what is of interest to you and what he thinks you will love to talk to him about, and when that does not happen with any man who comes to you, then he is just there because he thinks you are beautiful and worth trying out.

But what do you get from those guys coming to you? Only compliments, talking about your beauty, talking about what his friends are saying about you, talking about marrying you, talking about wanting to see your house, or asking to see your pictures?

All those things will tell you that he is just like one of those guys who come to you because of your beauty and when you give them space to get to know you, they keep talking about that same thing and nothing different at all.

4. He asks you 100 questions that makes you feel interviewed.
We know that you hate it when we cant make you feel like you are already into us but only keep making you feel like we need to know everything before passing in.

He just keep asking you:
Where do you live?
Where did you school?
Who is that guy on your facebook account?
Do you have boyfriends in the past?
How is your work?
Do you like watching movies?

It can even be annoying, thus, its another sign that will tell you that those guys are just there because of the beauty and looks. When he is truly interested in you, he should be able to talk about other important things rather than asking you one question after the other and make you feel like you are about to get a job.

5. He agrees with whatever you say or do.
When a man truly like you without considering your looks and beauty, then he should be able to correct you, question some of your actions and stick to his own opinion when he knows your own opinions are wrong.

But when it is the opposite, you find out that he is afraid to make you loose interest in him and he is afraid that if you do so, you will hate him for that and so, he agrees with you in everything and supports you whether good or bad.
I have seen a lot of guys doing that and at the end, they still end up not getting the girl, so whenever you find out that the guy do not correct you despite you are wrong, then he is just into you because of your beauty and looks.

All these are some of those signs you will see in many men today who are claiming to love and like you irrespective of your looks. And once you fail to take note of these signs and observe how they come in from different prospects.
(Also Read: How to know When You are Prepared to Start a Relationship )

Some men will start it the other way and you might notice, but when things starts going far and you observe that he have initiated 2 or 3 of these signs listed above, then chances are that he is just like those other guys out there.

Note that some men can do all of those things listed above, but they will not come off too desperate or wanting to get you using that method, they might slow it down and keep doing all those things in a slow motion, so if you are not careful, you might fall for the wrong man.

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How to be Handy When Physically Touching a Woman

The way men get desperate in wanting to get a woman attracted and interested in them will explain the whole concept about this topic.

In a bid to get a woman interested in us, we normally always want to make physical contact by touching so that we can send and tip some signals that can trigger a woman's attraction.

But in this process, a lot of men get too touchy and are not careful about the way they initiate the whole process and as a result, some men come off too touchy and ruin their whole chances as they signal the wrong expressions for their right intentions.
For example, you may only want to make that woman interested and attracted to you so she can see you as a dating potential, but the way you do make physical contact with her body can give her a wrong signal which might indicate that you want to have a sexual experience with her.

So whether you are dealing with your girlfriend or a date partner, you need to know how to play this touching game well and learn about those aspects where you need to be more careful.

When a woman starts rejecting your touch and does not want to make body contact with you anymore, then that is when you will know that you have been doing it the wrong way and she have found it uncomfortable to her.
When you don't initiate a touch the right way, you will find out that your girlfriend will always find a way to get your hands off her or reject the act instantly.

But the problem is not that the woman in question does not want to be touched, the problem is that you are not doing it the right way and you all get it wrong.
When you are not in a bid for a sexual touch that can trigger her desire for sexual activities, then are are certain heights where you should not cross so as to avoid sending her the wrong signals about your intention.

Being natural and verbally fit is the key.
Sometimes, we guys don't really know how to be confident and let the women see it in us and that is why when we touch a woman, she don't just get to know why or she keep wondering why you are too touchy.

Confidence is the key to becoming successful in touching a lot of women and getting away with your desire right in their heart.
When touching a woman with such confidence, it will make everything feel okay and normal and thus, engaging her in a conversation that you sound very confident in talking about will open your doors to touching her without her noticing you did or ask why you did touch her.

Now think of it this way, a woman will never find it comfortable and interesting when you touch her more than you talk and interact with her, and she will keep noticing it when you touch her and how do it.
But when you just keep busy interacting with her and chatting her up, her attention turns to the conversation you are having and so, when you touch her, she hardly notices that you are touchy and even when you do, she will not care about it because you were able to be natural and verbally fit, doing it like its just a part of you and your normal daily living.

The levels of touching a woman.
When you are touching a woman, there are some levels and heights that are allocated to you depending on the way you are being seen by the woman. When you are able to master all these levels of touch, you can be able to know your boundaries when touching so you don't cross the lines.
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When touching a woman who is not your girlfriend.
you have to understand that you are allowed limited options to touching and there are certain areas you should not cross when you are touching. Okay when you have feelings for her, you can touch her in a deeper way but not crossing your boundaries or overdoing it.

For example, you can initiate a touch when introducing yourself by using a handshake, you can also touch her shoulders or her arms or her lower laps when trying to explain something to her, you can touch her by helping her pull out something from her hair or face, etc.

You can see those ways to touch a woman without getting caught or dirty minded, these are known to be low levels of touches which are only suitable for women who you have not gone far or any miles with, maybe a woman you just meet or a woman you are about to start dating with.

When touching a woman you are dating with.
Its another level where you have to advance your touching performance and take it to the medium level. When initiating this kind of touch, you normally do it to send across a signal to her about something burning down in your heart. That is to say that when you touch her at this level, she should be able to feel it in a way that will make her desire someone like you in her life.

For example, when both of you are close, you can make your arms rest on hers too, while leading her to somewhere or when trying to cross a road, you can hold her hands or hold her from her back, when both of you are together, you can sit in a way that makes your thigh rest on hers, you can lean close to her just to pretend and whisper something into her ears, when something funny happened between the both of you that you all laughed, you can playfully push her from any point on her body, preferably her arms or her stomach area, but hey!! Don't do it forcefully, easy and gentle is the best way to go when dealing with women.

So that's just it, and you must remember that this level of touch goes well with women you are probably on a date with and not women you just newly meet.

The last level of touch you must learn about is the high level touching which involves you and your girlfriend.
This is the most sensitive part of it all that you can always do it wrongly if you are not careful in handling it.

She is your girlfriend, and you can touch her anyway, you can kiss, hug her around your arms, lay on top of her body, grab her from behind, etc.
But then, how you do it is what really matters. You must be able to know the systems of touching her in a way that will not make her uncomfortable or send her a wrong signal about what you are doing.
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You must be careful.
One mistake men always repeat and make while touching a woman is placing their hands in one spot and position for a long period of time and that is why most women get the wrong interpretation to their touches.
When touching a woman, make sure that your hands are not in one position on her body, when you touch, move your hands away or adjust the areas your hands are touching, and when your body is close to each other, maybe hugging or leaning beside her, don't make it last for a long time.

When you are touching a woman, there should be decency and cleanness in your touches, even if the person you are touching is said to be a sexual partner. Its not every time that women get dirty or want to get dirty, and that is why you must apply decency when initiating your touch, don't touch her breasts or grab her ass just like that in a bid to show her what you want or who you are, always be a man with standards.

Remember that when touching, you should not go hard on her, grab or grope her, it should be done gently, smoothly and softly. Remember to look into her eyes as you are touching her, not looking in the direction of where you are touching on her body.

This whole act of touching is the best way we can take everything to the next level and to be frank with you guys, women love to be touched, so play nice and safe, apply decency and maturity and once you are able to take all precautions explained above, you can qualify to be called a master in this act of touching with any woman.

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The best romantic ideas that will make your girlfriend want you more

Women love it when their men show them love in a romantic way and that is why you need to learn and know some things that can be fun and romantic when you do them for your girlfriends.

When you are in love as a man, you should not just depend on the normal relationship extras to grow your relationship, you should learn how to be a good flirt and fun to be boyfriend so that every woman will admire you and with that, its a sure bet that you will keep your relationship for a long period of time.

Normally when you love and show affections to your girlfriend, and she knows that you love and care for her, there is this feeling you always have in you that makes you want to show more of that love to your girlfriend and make her know you love her beyond affection and facial love.

Well here are some fun to practice and also, flirty ideas which are romantic and which you can try with your girlfriend when you want to show her more love.

1. Send her text messages.
Text messaging is is just one among the best romantic ways you can show to your partner that you her and you always think about her. Think of how boring a relationship can be without text messaging and what she would be thinking about if you don't text her.

You should text her about how you feel when thinking of her, or how eager you are to see her or talk to her, or how happy you are to have her in your life, or just text to tell her "i love you".

Texting is romantic, and just think of how you are going to feel about your girlfriend when she texts you something sweet that you would read a hundred times. Women love it when you text them and its just romantic and fun, it boasts the relationship and keeps it away from getting boring.
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2. Buy her gifts.
You don't need to get the most expensive ones before you are ready to give her a gift. Just make sure you take the gift and put it up in a more romantic way that she will love.

You can buy your girlfriend flowers, chocolate, biscuit, her favourite drinks, anything at all which you know she is going to love. And when you buy them, you present them in a more pleasant and unexpected way that will make her blush and go like wow!

When buying her gifts, she should not know about them, and that is why you have to make it a surprise, do it in such a way that she never thought you could do it.

When you buy her a gift, you can decide to drop them in her room and put in a more romantic area like her bed or take it inside her car, or anywhere, depending on the outreaches of the environment she leaves in.

3. Send her love letters and cards.
Another way you can show her love in a more romantic way is buy writing your feelings down or just buying love letters and then, presenting them to her with or without her knowing.
By doing so, she will be able to always feel that romantic part in her boyfriend whenever both of you are together.

4. Go dumb and express your mind using gestures or by writing on a paper.
Maybe you have never tried this out, but it works like magic, and the last time i tried it, i can remember what my girlfriend did, she laughed like crazy, then smiled and just came closer to me and kissed me like crazy, i mean she all went nuts just on that.

So you should try this with your woman too, when both of you are sitting together, and the chemistry between the both of you seem great, just stop talking and go dumb for a minute or some seconds, depending on the way she reacts to your dumbness. Then after she react or try to know why the new behaviour. Pick up your pen out of your pocket, and get a piece of paper, or just go get her journal, and write something very romantic that's all about her, then just go to her, still pretend to be dumb, then when she reacts again, just hand her the writing on the paper or the journal let her read.

Just do this and see how fun and romantic it will turn out, just like kids right? That's why kid love use to be sweet and a lot more fun. When you do that to her, she would probably want to return the favour to you and even do the same.

5. Cook for her.
This is just way too romantic and loveable, no girlfriend would rate this as a non romantic idea, and whether you buy it or not, that is just the truth.

So maybe you went over to your girlfriend's place and she went out to work or just a daily routine, in an interest to build up your list of surprises for her and get her blushing for offering to cook for her before she arrives home. That will be so romantic because when she starts tasting your meal, you will get a good rating and a very sweet one, but oh, that's only when you are good at cooking, don't even try that if you don't learn or know how to cook.
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6. Massage her.
This one is not a new thing in the book of romance, but it is absent in many relationships i have seen today.
When your girlfriend is back home and tired, what do you offer to help her do?

Perhaps you can prepare a shower for her and lead her into the shower, after that, get her clean and back to the room, then option to give her a massage and then, do it just like you are doing it for the last time in your life.
You will not regret this if you do it to her and she will always remember you for that.

There are many other lists on some of the best romantic ideas you can buy in a bid to impress your girlfriend and show her love beyond affection. So feel confident and good to go as you try them out, they are surely going to help build a better atmosphere for a better relationship life between the both of you.

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