How to Engage in First Dates that Won't Cost You Lot of Money

When it comes to dating and the course of wowing a girl just to make here like you and find you interesting, there has been a lot to this process and nothing is easy at this point in a man's life.

This topic is meant to draw your attention to the fact that pressure on you in order to wow a girl on the first date will make you think that you have to spend a lot and spill out your money on the first date before you can get everything to be fun and interesting.

The way you think on first dates is what will determine if the date will be great and fun, but it does not just go the spending way. You might spend on the date the entire day and end up getting nothing really interesting out of it and then, that becomes a total waste.

And also, most people who do dating have forgotten the whole concept about dating and they seem not to understand dating.
A friend of mine once told me that he will make sure that he spends much for a girl on a date and then, he expects her to repay him handsomely at the bedroom.

You should not take a date to be a moment of extra spending that ends with a call for the bedroom. There is difference between sex and dates and these two should not just be mixed up and taken as one.

So to avoid all these craps that do happen when a call for a date is made, you must know that you don't have to spend your money too much before you can achieve the best results after the date.

So in other to engage in a first date without spending much money, here are a list of what you should do to get the best result which you have always expected.

(1) Visit the food markets close to your community.

This is just a great second option for you to try and see how effective it works. You don't have to spend much there and you can even pick up one or two things from the market and make sure you let her to pick what is of interest to her from the farmers market.

When you take the girl out with you to the nearest farmers market in your community, its a great way to know more about your likes and dislikes when it comes to what to eat. And you will have more idea as to what food she enjoys the most and you can also tell her the ones you enjoy the most.

When you are doing this, both of you can talk about relevant issues about the market and the nature of the farmers and how they go about carrying out their farming activities.

This will show to the girl that you have many more things that are priority in your life and you don't only want to get her attraction, but also create attraction between the both of you and what you enjoy talking about.

(2) Have Dinners at home or somewhere comfortable.

The reason you should choose to have a dinner is because it is less expensive, less noisy and then, it gives you more and much time to talk to each other and get to know each other while having the dinner.

Another reason why having dinners is because it don't always turn out to be awkward and boring. Since its a dinner and you are at the comfort of your home or the house you went to, you have many things to switch and hold on to and as a result, you will not get any awkward and boring situation in the course of the date.

(3) Go for a run or do a sport activity together.

I choose arcades as the best and favourite activity that can be fun between the both of you and is nothing expensive.

By going for arcades, you are able to explore and see each others playful side and also enjoy the both of you competing with each other.

But you can only enjoy this if the girl is a humorous girl and enjoys to play and have fun, but if she is not, you should not start it because at will turn awkward and boring at the end.

(4) Opt to go for a walk and also for people watch.

This can be a best idea that makes a date fun and less expensive, you don't even need to spend anything at all.
You can ask her if she would like to take a walk with you and if she agrees, then you can choose to walk to anywhere you want.

And while doing that, you talk about everything you can think of and just enjoy the moment you spend and the time you send together with her. You should just get to know each other and that is jus what first dates are all about.

Also ask her if she would enjoy watching people out together with you. So both of you can find somewhere comfortable where you can sit down and view people as they go about their life and also, you can sit just to observe and see how the world moves around and how time passes. These are fun and less expensive budgets to carry out.

(5) Go to watch romantic movies together.

You are looking up to create something more attractive and fun between the both of you, so going to watch a romantic movie can be very fun and can cause a feeling of emotion to occur between the both of you at the end.

It is less expensive and once you are able to do that, you might be surprised to see her use more body languages that explains attraction when ever she is with you.

ADDITIONAL TIPS:

Avoid coffee's and drinks on first dates.

These two things does not end well with if you want to start a relationship with the girl you are dating, so its either that you want to take her to the bed and have a one night of hot sexual escapade, then it might be that you just want to be friends and that's all.

When you opt for a coffee, it does not signify or point out anything special between the both of you and perhaps, friendship is what a coffee always signify. And opting for drinks will not yield any better result save the other part of it, sex.
So to end it all, you must remember that the woman you picked does not really matter, and your spending does not matter to her too.

The ultimate purpose and reason for the date is just to get around each other and know each other well. So spending high means nothing and you might end up impressing the wrong people, so the best advice you can take with you is to go low and spend less on your first dates.

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What to Do When You Find an Attractive Girl at a Bar

The bar is a great place to meet with different kinds of women in your life and when you see an attractive lady who you start liking right inside the bar, you should not be afraid of making a move to get her.

Maybe you just went to the bar to grab a glass and meet with new people, then while in your cool at the bar, you just saw a very sweet and attractive girl and you started melting for her. Okay the point here is that you now want to talk to her, and make her notice you.

But you don't just know how to start initiating the whole process and you are stuck in one position, thinking of what to do to get the girl and start something that is likely going to end well.

You might be afraid and think that you cant have a great relationship with a girl you took up from a bar, and that is what most people say, but its not always true because i have seen many great relationships that started just from the bar or any other place similar.

That is not the problem here, what becomes a problem is you not being able to take the right approach at the right time in the bar, and once you are not able to do that, you find out that you will not record any success in your pursuit.

There are things you should do in other not to be like those other guys out there and also there are techniques you must use in other not to be that boring to her. Lets see some of those tips on what next to do after you see an attractive girl at the bar.

1. Use the old friend approach style.

When you want to approach her at the bar, doing it just the way other guys always do will not just work as you expected, and you can only get that "what is the matter" look from her and you will end up confused and short of things to say.

But why not try it a new way and get a different style for yourself?
This kind of approach goes along with boldness in you and then, go and meet her just like as if you have been friends for a long time, you can pretend to her like you have been friends since childhood and once she shows surprise and a little or much interest in you, just bring up a conversation that is going to last for a long time that you can ask her to follow you out of the bar.

This is not stressful at all, it only requires that positive energy in you and also the boldness as you initiate the process else, she might find your approach unimpressive and deceitful.

2. Look nice and clever.

Whenever you want to go to a party or a bar, there is need for you to always dress in good form and have yourself organised in case of moments like this when you find a girl attractive and so you want to approach her.

No woman will want to flirt and come around you if you appear in rags or appear like you are just taking a cool breeze from the tree under your roof. So appearing nice and looking good offers you more chances to get more women to hear you out and follow you around the bar.

You don't have to go an extra mile in dressing before you can appear and look good at the bar, but by just having a different clean and fresh styles on you and making sure every part of your body is well taken care of, you are already fit for any woman's admiration.

3. Avoid Pick Up Lines and be original.

Did you notice something about women and the way they react to pick up lines these days?
It seems to be likely said that they are already familiar with all of them and so, they don't get interested whenever men use it on them and instead of tipping you about it, they just mark you as one of those guys and you totally loose out.

Some of those pick up lines are just bad as crap and do not work at all because most of them do not work with every kind of woman and the initiators just use them without thinking about what a woman's reaction will be.

Instead of using pick up lines, the best natural way to do it at the bar is just to be yourself and not faking anything. There are many things you can ask a woman that makes her think twice and then come up with something to tell you and from there, you can start up a conversation.

What really matters when trying to get a girl is how real and original you are, so if you use those pick up lines, she will notice that you are only desperate and just a needy guy who wants to get her attention, and so she will cross her mind originally from the scratch.

4. Showing a lot of confidence in yourself.

Confidence has always been the thing, and when you are able to push yourself up and know that you are certainly going to face a lot of challenges when doing all these things, then be sure that you can do it.

You might be thinking that the girl will turn you down and you will feel rejected, but the cases have not always been like that. Once you are able to set your targets and goals, then use the tools you have to aim at them and get it right, then you are done, every other story can well end up in the bed room or a happy new relationship.

5. Pay for her drinks without asking.

This is also a nice way and one of the best ways you can use, not to get her attraction, but her attention to start up a new conversation without putting on much stress.

When you notice her ordering for drinks at the bar, you don't wait for her to ask the waiter how much it costs or wait for her to pay, you can just walk over to the attendant and ask him for her bill, then get it done for her and don't wait for her to come to you for appreciation, just take your leave immediately and go away from her presence.

When you do so, you will find out that she will be ready and even want to have a word of appreciation with you at that moment. The reason why you should leave is because everything might end at just the appreciation and nothing special happens again and as a result, she might take you as a nice guy.

So to avoid that, you have to leave her presence for the rest of the moment at the bar before she can see you again and when you both meet, the chemistry and physics will be high, so its left for you to utilize it to the best of your advantage.

There are many other tips on this subject and with time, we will update you with more of them but for the mean time, you must remember that not every girl at the bar is interested in making new boyfriends or getting to bed for a one night stand.

So you should create time to learn and know what that girl need and what she is looking for so that you can do the right thing and choose what will work for you out there.

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The Kind of Girls to Mingle with And those Stay Away From

When it comes to the dating and relationship world, women are known to have most of the problems and even be the cause of the troubles many relationships are facing.

As a man, who is not a bad man and who has many views and options in your life and you are ready to face as many as possible challenges when it comes to this love of a thing. You are unique in your own way and not in other peoples way, and you are just an example of a potential individual who is loveable by everyone.

Women are the cause of the problems so many men are facing today, and the reason is not because the women are bad, but its just because those men were not careful in choosing the kind of women they want to mingle and associate it. And because they allowed every kind of a girl to just come into their life and do things in it, toil with their hearts and finally dump it in the bush, many of those men now account their miserable life on women.

So as a man who is in his right angle of thinking and as a man who have different interest about different women, you must know that there are those kinds of women out there who can make you reach your goals, and those that are just bent on making it miserable and worst for you.

As you continue with your life, you must watch out and be careful of those kind of women who are generally attractive to everyone and turns out to be talk actives. These kinds of women are just attractive and you will have nothing bad to say about their looks.

Once you start coming around those kinds of women and you fail to notice it at start, you will start to fall in love with them and find everything appealing and attractive to you, but at the end, you find out that they are not nice to you only, but to every other man generally and that is just their life and you cant change it. And from there you start having moments of regrets for allowing them to get into your head earlier.

As for those talk active women out there, avoiding them would be the best because when you allow them into your life without noticing, they become a problem to you and they give you a hard time trying to settle your life with them in it, they cant help your dreams come true and they cant help you with the important matters about your life but they are only good at just talking and not giving you any chance to talk sense into them.

For example, when you run into a talk active woman and she makes a mistake with you, she probably knows you are going to talk and instead of allowing you say it, she says what she did and she is the one to say she will not do it again, and when you make mistakes, she might probably be the one to correct you.
That is so bad and not adorable and your live will end up revolving in her axis if you don't end the relationship between the both of you.
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1. A woman who is not over her past relationship.
These kinds of women are dangerous and harmful to you if you stay around them because there will always be high demand and expectations from you.
When you run into a woman who is still thinking of her ex boyfriend and have a desire to get back to him, then chances are that she will always want you to be just like her ex and if you are not, she gets angry at you over little matters.

So its always better if you stay out of these kinds of women because instead of the both of you to help each other carry on in your lives and move on, she will always want you to be the one helping her get up and she might want to use you as an asset to keep getting whatever she was enjoying in her past relationship.

You can be able to know when you meet a woman with a wounded soul and as usual, every wound needs someone to clean it, dress it up and keep it in a good condition. So that's what she would probably want you to do.

2. The village girl.
This kind of a woman is just like those women who will complain, cry and talk about meaningless things and irrelevant situations.
Just like a drama mama and queen, she just cant help her emotions and so she ends up pouring them out anytime and anywhere at any point.

Also this kind of women are those type that will just want you to keep listening to them and consider everything they do. Have you ever seen a girlfriend who do not always get along with her boyfriend because she always argue over anything? Then that's what this drama queens enjoy doing.

So when you come across this kind of women, it is best that you just make a way for them to leave out of your life because they will make you take responsibility for everything they are doing and that will surely make your life miserable.

3. A woman who has no female friends.
This can be really bad for you as a man who have a wider and broader life because when she have no girlfriends, she will option to always be with you.

So when she is always with you, you become her center of attention in everything she will barely give you time for yourself.
She will always disturb you with every gossip she enjoy and all the feminine attitudes that women like showing.

And as time goes on, she becomes like a liability to you and you might not be able to hold it down for too long, so its better if you stay away from such kinds of women.

4. The Chameleon kind of women.
There are so many girls today that always change in their outward and inward characters and habits just like chameleon. And the kind of people they go along with and the kind of places you find them can define who are in real life.

You see them behave like party sluts when they are at parties, they are bad when most of their friends are bad, they date several men at a time when most of their friends does that too, they engage in sexual activities when their friends does, they drink alcohol if most of their friends take it too.

So you just see that if you meet these kinds of women in your life, then you will encounter one of the most bitter relationship you have ever had.
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5. Women that like to be above everyone else.
These kind of women are just a waste of time and effort to be with.
They are the hardest kind of women you just assume and have it to themselves that they are above every other man and better than any other woman.

They mostly like to piss men away with words that make them angry and they like to be in command of even their boyfriends most of the times.
These kind of women just see their self above the world and they like everyone to just depend on them for everything.

These are just the kind of women you should stay away from and if you already have them in your life, you should let them walk away or get out of their life because with them in your circle, your life will surely be miserable at the end.

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How to be Handy When Physically Touching a Woman

The way men get desperate in wanting to get a woman attracted and interested in them will explain the whole concept about this topic.

In a bid to get a woman interested in us, we normally always want to make physical contact by touching so that we can send and tip some signals that can trigger a woman's attraction.

But in this process, a lot of men get too touchy and are not careful about the way they initiate the whole process and as a result, some men come off too touchy and ruin their whole chances as they signal the wrong expressions for their right intentions.
For example, you may only want to make that woman interested and attracted to you so she can see you as a dating potential, but the way you do make physical contact with her body can give her a wrong signal which might indicate that you want to have a sexual experience with her.

So whether you are dealing with your girlfriend or a date partner, you need to know how to play this touching game well and learn about those aspects where you need to be more careful.

When a woman starts rejecting your touch and does not want to make body contact with you anymore, then that is when you will know that you have been doing it the wrong way and she have found it uncomfortable to her.
When you don't initiate a touch the right way, you will find out that your girlfriend will always find a way to get your hands off her or reject the act instantly.

But the problem is not that the woman in question does not want to be touched, the problem is that you are not doing it the right way and you all get it wrong.
When you are not in a bid for a sexual touch that can trigger her desire for sexual activities, then are are certain heights where you should not cross so as to avoid sending her the wrong signals about your intention.

Being natural and verbally fit is the key.
Sometimes, we guys don't really know how to be confident and let the women see it in us and that is why when we touch a woman, she don't just get to know why or she keep wondering why you are too touchy.

Confidence is the key to becoming successful in touching a lot of women and getting away with your desire right in their heart.
When touching a woman with such confidence, it will make everything feel okay and normal and thus, engaging her in a conversation that you sound very confident in talking about will open your doors to touching her without her noticing you did or ask why you did touch her.

Now think of it this way, a woman will never find it comfortable and interesting when you touch her more than you talk and interact with her, and she will keep noticing it when you touch her and how do it.
But when you just keep busy interacting with her and chatting her up, her attention turns to the conversation you are having and so, when you touch her, she hardly notices that you are touchy and even when you do, she will not care about it because you were able to be natural and verbally fit, doing it like its just a part of you and your normal daily living.

The levels of touching a woman.
When you are touching a woman, there are some levels and heights that are allocated to you depending on the way you are being seen by the woman. When you are able to master all these levels of touch, you can be able to know your boundaries when touching so you don't cross the lines.
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When touching a woman who is not your girlfriend.
you have to understand that you are allowed limited options to touching and there are certain areas you should not cross when you are touching. Okay when you have feelings for her, you can touch her in a deeper way but not crossing your boundaries or overdoing it.

For example, you can initiate a touch when introducing yourself by using a handshake, you can also touch her shoulders or her arms or her lower laps when trying to explain something to her, you can touch her by helping her pull out something from her hair or face, etc.

You can see those ways to touch a woman without getting caught or dirty minded, these are known to be low levels of touches which are only suitable for women who you have not gone far or any miles with, maybe a woman you just meet or a woman you are about to start dating with.

When touching a woman you are dating with.
Its another level where you have to advance your touching performance and take it to the medium level. When initiating this kind of touch, you normally do it to send across a signal to her about something burning down in your heart. That is to say that when you touch her at this level, she should be able to feel it in a way that will make her desire someone like you in her life.

For example, when both of you are close, you can make your arms rest on hers too, while leading her to somewhere or when trying to cross a road, you can hold her hands or hold her from her back, when both of you are together, you can sit in a way that makes your thigh rest on hers, you can lean close to her just to pretend and whisper something into her ears, when something funny happened between the both of you that you all laughed, you can playfully push her from any point on her body, preferably her arms or her stomach area, but hey!! Don't do it forcefully, easy and gentle is the best way to go when dealing with women.

So that's just it, and you must remember that this level of touch goes well with women you are probably on a date with and not women you just newly meet.

The last level of touch you must learn about is the high level touching which involves you and your girlfriend.
This is the most sensitive part of it all that you can always do it wrongly if you are not careful in handling it.

She is your girlfriend, and you can touch her anyway, you can kiss, hug her around your arms, lay on top of her body, grab her from behind, etc.
But then, how you do it is what really matters. You must be able to know the systems of touching her in a way that will not make her uncomfortable or send her a wrong signal about what you are doing.
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You must be careful.
One mistake men always repeat and make while touching a woman is placing their hands in one spot and position for a long period of time and that is why most women get the wrong interpretation to their touches.
When touching a woman, make sure that your hands are not in one position on her body, when you touch, move your hands away or adjust the areas your hands are touching, and when your body is close to each other, maybe hugging or leaning beside her, don't make it last for a long time.

When you are touching a woman, there should be decency and cleanness in your touches, even if the person you are touching is said to be a sexual partner. Its not every time that women get dirty or want to get dirty, and that is why you must apply decency when initiating your touch, don't touch her breasts or grab her ass just like that in a bid to show her what you want or who you are, always be a man with standards.

Remember that when touching, you should not go hard on her, grab or grope her, it should be done gently, smoothly and softly. Remember to look into her eyes as you are touching her, not looking in the direction of where you are touching on her body.

This whole act of touching is the best way we can take everything to the next level and to be frank with you guys, women love to be touched, so play nice and safe, apply decency and maturity and once you are able to take all precautions explained above, you can qualify to be called a master in this act of touching with any woman.

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The best romantic ideas that will make your girlfriend want you more

Women love it when their men show them love in a romantic way and that is why you need to learn and know some things that can be fun and romantic when you do them for your girlfriends.

When you are in love as a man, you should not just depend on the normal relationship extras to grow your relationship, you should learn how to be a good flirt and fun to be boyfriend so that every woman will admire you and with that, its a sure bet that you will keep your relationship for a long period of time.

Normally when you love and show affections to your girlfriend, and she knows that you love and care for her, there is this feeling you always have in you that makes you want to show more of that love to your girlfriend and make her know you love her beyond affection and facial love.

Well here are some fun to practice and also, flirty ideas which are romantic and which you can try with your girlfriend when you want to show her more love.

1. Send her text messages.
Text messaging is is just one among the best romantic ways you can show to your partner that you her and you always think about her. Think of how boring a relationship can be without text messaging and what she would be thinking about if you don't text her.

You should text her about how you feel when thinking of her, or how eager you are to see her or talk to her, or how happy you are to have her in your life, or just text to tell her "i love you".

Texting is romantic, and just think of how you are going to feel about your girlfriend when she texts you something sweet that you would read a hundred times. Women love it when you text them and its just romantic and fun, it boasts the relationship and keeps it away from getting boring.
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2. Buy her gifts.
You don't need to get the most expensive ones before you are ready to give her a gift. Just make sure you take the gift and put it up in a more romantic way that she will love.

You can buy your girlfriend flowers, chocolate, biscuit, her favourite drinks, anything at all which you know she is going to love. And when you buy them, you present them in a more pleasant and unexpected way that will make her blush and go like wow!

When buying her gifts, she should not know about them, and that is why you have to make it a surprise, do it in such a way that she never thought you could do it.

When you buy her a gift, you can decide to drop them in her room and put in a more romantic area like her bed or take it inside her car, or anywhere, depending on the outreaches of the environment she leaves in.

3. Send her love letters and cards.
Another way you can show her love in a more romantic way is buy writing your feelings down or just buying love letters and then, presenting them to her with or without her knowing.
By doing so, she will be able to always feel that romantic part in her boyfriend whenever both of you are together.

4. Go dumb and express your mind using gestures or by writing on a paper.
Maybe you have never tried this out, but it works like magic, and the last time i tried it, i can remember what my girlfriend did, she laughed like crazy, then smiled and just came closer to me and kissed me like crazy, i mean she all went nuts just on that.

So you should try this with your woman too, when both of you are sitting together, and the chemistry between the both of you seem great, just stop talking and go dumb for a minute or some seconds, depending on the way she reacts to your dumbness. Then after she react or try to know why the new behaviour. Pick up your pen out of your pocket, and get a piece of paper, or just go get her journal, and write something very romantic that's all about her, then just go to her, still pretend to be dumb, then when she reacts again, just hand her the writing on the paper or the journal let her read.

Just do this and see how fun and romantic it will turn out, just like kids right? That's why kid love use to be sweet and a lot more fun. When you do that to her, she would probably want to return the favour to you and even do the same.

5. Cook for her.
This is just way too romantic and loveable, no girlfriend would rate this as a non romantic idea, and whether you buy it or not, that is just the truth.

So maybe you went over to your girlfriend's place and she went out to work or just a daily routine, in an interest to build up your list of surprises for her and get her blushing for offering to cook for her before she arrives home. That will be so romantic because when she starts tasting your meal, you will get a good rating and a very sweet one, but oh, that's only when you are good at cooking, don't even try that if you don't learn or know how to cook.
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6. Massage her.
This one is not a new thing in the book of romance, but it is absent in many relationships i have seen today.
When your girlfriend is back home and tired, what do you offer to help her do?

Perhaps you can prepare a shower for her and lead her into the shower, after that, get her clean and back to the room, then option to give her a massage and then, do it just like you are doing it for the last time in your life.
You will not regret this if you do it to her and she will always remember you for that.

There are many other lists on some of the best romantic ideas you can buy in a bid to impress your girlfriend and show her love beyond affection. So feel confident and good to go as you try them out, they are surely going to help build a better atmosphere for a better relationship life between the both of you.

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Things you should never say to avoid ruining your first date with a woman

As a man, you will always want to impress the woman you just meet on a new date and in the process of doing those things that makes you think will make her interested in you, you end up doing something that will ruin everything for you.

One thing that men always forget and underestimate while dealing with women is confidentiality and being your real self.
Once you cant be able to maintain your true and real nature when with a woman on a first date, it will be hard and rare getting a call for a second date.

One thing you should throw your focus on is how to make her feel attracted to you and making her enjoy every bit of seconds she spent with you on the first date.
Confidence is one thing character that can even serve as a pass for another date and also a guarantee that your first date will be a success, so once you have this confidence in you, then you are good to start your test and in other words, your dating game.

#Personality.
This is the basis towards achieving success even before you start a date with a woman. Once you have a good name to yourself and everyone is able to recognise you with your great achievements, or the good things you are known for, and what a good person and great individual you are, then you are good to go.

Even without telling the woman about yourself, she might have heard about your minor achievements and also about how a great and good person you are, so even before the date is started, you find out that everything is just promising and its just going to sound to her like a queen is going to meet a king.

So to make success, there are some things that you should not do to avoid ruining your first date with a woman.
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(1) Asking her who she is calling or texting.
Is it really a time to start getting jealous over something that does not really matter?
When you find out that the woman you are together with is answering a call or texting someone you don't know, you don't have to start asking or questioning her about it.

You are not yet in a relationship with her and so, you don't have to jump into her personal affairs and act like both of you are now lovers.
She can go out with another guy for a date and you don't have any right against her, so its only when you are able to get her to start loving you and that is when you have all those rights against her.

Who she is texting or calling should not be your problem, and you should also avoid taking out your phones while on a date so that when she sees you without your phone, she might as well keep hers back.

(2) Asking her about her work and financial status.
It is actually bad and not nice to just ask a woman about her work or financial related issues while on a date with her, and it makes her feel like you are trying too hard to get over her in no time.

She might have a work that pays her well but will not be comfortable telling you about it since you are just dating. And maybe she have a job that sounds bad in the ear, asking her about it will turn her off and can make her loose interest in you.

So when ever on a date, make sure you don't go anywhere near her job and financial stands because it might happen to turn her off and make her loose interest.

(3) Talking to her about your ex and past relationships.
This can be a good sign that you are not ready to take your date to a high level and possibly switch into a relationship with her.

When you find it hard getting over your ex talks and past relationship talks, then you will find it hard getting a new girlfriend that will treat  you as her boyfriend, you will only end up with a woman who treats you as a mother and sees you as her child.

Also this act do irritate many women on a date and it gives them a sign that you still have your old partner in your mind and since you enjoy talking about her, chances are that she left you and you still want to get back if she will allow you.

She will not be ready to accept you into her life with such kind of a habit of not getting over your past relationships, so find a way to get this done with and stop talking to women you are dating about matters like that.
(Also Read: How to handle your relationship while still in college )

(4) Comparing her with other women.
A woman will not take it likely with you when you keep comparing her to other women you have dated maybe you probably take compliments like "You are the best among other girls i have dated" to back up your comparison which sounds bad.

Its better if you can come up with such instances in a more pleasant way, you can tell her that you are happy to meet a wonderful person like her, but not putting it the other way round that sounds like you are a practical womanizer.

Also its good to tell her that she looks like your mom, your sister or something like that, but many women find it not appealing.
Trying to be different from other women is one thing they like doing, and once you compare them with other women, you are indirectly telling them that they can never be better than those women you have compared them to.

(5) Giving attention to your phone than her.
This one also turns a girl off while on a date together with a man, and if you are not careful of this, she can just get angry and leave at once, unless if you have enough skills to handle this.

You should be able to know that she needs your attention every now and then while on a date and so, you need to be attentive to here and be a good observer, carefully studying the environment where both of you are in and trying to learn more about her bodily languages so you don't act like a freak or a weirdo.
(Also Read: How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character )

These whole concepts about first dates with women is something very fun and interesting if you master how to be a confident guy and just be your real self, then you desist from any of those things listed above and when you do, i bet you will not be struggling with handling first dates anymore.

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How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character

I have made a lot of mistakes of going into a relationship with women i barely know anything about and at the end, i find out that i am bound in a relationship with a woman with the worst kind of habit and character i have ever seen.

I am here to give you help on how to handle and deal with such situations where you go into a relationship with a woman who have a bad attitude and character to her name.

In this kind of situation, it normally do not occur to you at first that you are dating a woman with bad influence to your life. And you start the relationship feeling the sweetness and she keeps showering you her love with no limitations.
But as time goes by, you discover that you are not with the kind of woman you want to be with in your life and as a result, you are left with no option other than leaving, but no, i don't think its time to leave, hope you have not forgotten too soon that you promised to be with her forever, and for better or for worst.

#The kinds of bad attitudes and characters a woman can possess.
A woman can possess any kind of attitude and character depending on the domain where she is exposed to, the kind of teachings she learn and the kind of people she associate with.
Though not every kind of a woman can be influenced by those factors above but in most cases, those factors are responsible for any kind of attitude a woman can turn out to possess and live with.

Being a troublesome woman is one kind of character a woman can possess, and this depends on the kind of people she move along with and the kind of environment she is exposed to.

Acting like a whore to other men and being known as a slut is also one character i have seen many women who are even dating possess. I have bumped into many women who i know to be dating but still, i can take them out and bed them anytime i wish or talk dirty and get naughty with them, and it has never been a problem to them.

Also, many women possess the character of a fighter. I have seen many women who can fight anytime and anywhere if any one should offend them or get them angry. And you see them fighting any man or woman as far as they don't go in terms and in peace with each other.

Gossiping and malice keeping have been the most common recently among women and many of them have allowed that character to take over them, and they go in groups gossiping about others and getting heated up and causing an uproar among those they consider as their enemies.
(Also Read: Steps to attracting a girl to become more than just friends )

Among other characters, you can see impatience, lack of understanding and wisdom towards judging matters, prostitution for money and others.

#Why it happened that you are dating any of such types of women.
The reason why you are dating such kind of a woman is because you just jumped into the relationship without thinking if you are ready to be in the relationship, and without learning about the woman you want to start your relationship career with.
Maybe you just saw the woman just a week before you started dating, and you never cared to know about her in and out, and you just proceeded to asking her out for a relationship and she accepted your proposal.

Then as time went on and you spent more time, days and months, or even years dating, you started realising her hidden features which you were not comfortable with and then, it started dawning on you that those characters are not characters you want in a woman you want as a partner and so, you start thinking its high time you end the relationship and find someone better and with such qualities you would want her to have in her.

Why ending the relationship is not an option.
As a man, after you have realised her real character, what will be in your mind is just to leave and find someone better, but i know that it must have occurred to you this way.

Despite that you have known her real habits, and how it can affect your thinking and the relationship, she still shows you that love, care and respect, and nothing have changed, apart from the fact that you have known the hidden facts about her. And sometimes when you try to talk to her in the direction of her characters, she refuses to admit to her character and accept the fact that its who she is, and she keep telling you that she is nothing like what you are thinking and she cant do what you are thinking about.

Now you already know her attitudes, and you already know that it have started to affect the relationship from your own direction, but she is not changing the direction her love is taking, you have every reason to believe that you are the one she loves and her attitudes in her life are not affecting the love she have for you. This i know will make you believe that she is truthful and faithful to you, but then, you don't want to believe it.
(Also Read: Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires )

HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH SITUATIONS.
Leaving the relationship will not do you any good, because if you think back and take off the thought of her attitude from your heart, you will find no reason to cut off and end the relationship.

So the best things you can do to help her and help your relationship are as follows.

(1) Occasionally talk to her about those attitudes and characters:
The reason why you should do that is to keep reminding her that without her being honest and truthful to you, your relationship will never last and that there is no amount of lie on this earth can be able to keep your relationship.
By lying to you about her secrets and hiding them from you, she can keep you, but she can never keep your relationship. The more she continues in her habits and keep hiding them from you, the more she makes you to walk away and when you walk far away from her heart, she have lost you completely.

(2) Talk to her about her friends whom you know can be responsible for her attitudes:
Another way to make her stop and get her along the right way is to challenge her about those bad friends she have whom you have already known their habits and she knows that you know who they are really.

Let her know that friends with bad habits have nothing to do in her life if she is really good as she claims to be, and to avoid them from changing her to be like them or to keep damaging her, she have to quit the friendship between them and focus on getting new friends who will affect her life positively.

(3) Talk to her about the kind of things she makes priority in her life.
A woman without any vision in her life is a woman without dreams, and a woman without goals in her life is a woman without focus.
Ask her what are her goals, her number one thing in this life and how she work towards achieving such aims in her life.

If she couldn't tell you anything about this, tell her more about how you care towards sharing your life and your dreams with her, and tell her about your own dreams, and by so doing, she will learn to start thinking of something definite in her life and how she can achieve it.

Ask her to cut off some irrelevant activities she engage in her life that makes her more vulnerable and exposed to the stupid activities of the world.
(Also Read: See reasons why men get so angry with their woman in their relationship )

(4) Promise to give her good support in her life:
After everything, she will want to know that you are really serious in all those things you are saying to her, tell her that you want to see her just change so you can be happy, you must have been hearing bad things about her, tell her that you don't want to hear any bad thing about her any more.

Then you must promise her support in everything and render her help anywhere necessary, with that she becomes happy with you and you both will come into terms with each other.

Now you must make sure that you don't relent and grow cold in doing all i have said above, every habit and attitude that requires change must be taken slowly, with understanding and with patience. And when you have done all those, you can drop us a feedback on the result you got by using the comment box below. And we can tell you what next to do when you have achieved either a positive or negative result.

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Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires

This have been a problem many men are facing today in their relationship and dating circle, the fact that many men think giving a woman too much attention and showing too much interest in her can make them win the love of the woman.

But the case and reports on this issue have always been very bad and sometimes pleasant.
One problem faced by many men today is the fact that they have no means or strategy on how to win a woman's love and keep the fire burning without it burning the whole relationship down.

Some men will start it right, but in the process of attracting the woman to love them, they over use the opportunities and means they have and then, destroy everything.
So among those strategies you have in getting a woman's attraction, we are going to tell you how and why showing too much interest or attention gets you off the edge and then, backfires at you and makes you loose everything.

Not every woman is interested in a man who shows too much attention and interest to her. In most cases, when you start showing a woman interest, she likes it normally, but when it starts getting TOO MUCH, then that's where the problem starts to develop and that's where you start loosing the whole thing.

#Women like men that offers them challenge.
Now think of this, do you think calling that girl 80 times a day, or always offering her gifts and attention will make her start to love you and feel attraction for you?

The answer is NO.
Normally when you do all those things for a woman, she enjoys it at first and as a man, you think that's what she really want and since she is enjoying it, you continue to do it.

When you continue doing it and she keeps enjoying it, you now become afraid to stop or slow down because you start thinking that other men will do it for her and you will get heart broken, so its like you add more pressure to what you are doing.
(Also Read: How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection )

Now to the woman whom you are doing all those things for, this is how it feels.
She starts thinking that you are a nice person, you are affectionate and kind and she continues to be good to you.
She will never think you are a dating potential because you are obsessed with her and you are just a kind and nice person, and that is all.

When you continue to do those things for her, she will start getting uncomfortable with it because you are not helping her to feel attraction for you, but then, she will be afraid to hurt you and get you to be heartbroken, and since she allowed you in the first place, she will just allow you to continue what you are doing and she will continue to see you as a nice person. So you see that you are only pumping in affection and that's not what a woman wants.
A woman wants a man who will offer her challenge, which will make her to show affection, and from there she starts to feel attraction for that man.

#The basis of every relationship.
There is one procedure which every relationship pass through before it stands.
Normally, you start from meeting with each other, and after that, you start dating and from dating, its either you start a relationship with each other, or it ends at dating and everything dies off.

I have not heard about cases where a relationship starts from friendship, its always hard for a friend to turn into a lover although, its possible but most of those instances always fail to evolve into standing relationships.

Now that is where the problem starts most times with we the men. We start by showing interest, compliments, buying of gifts and giving too much attention.
All those things should come after the relationship level, and not on the meeting or dating level.

When you move too fast and bombard the woman with too much of those things, it will burn down your whole chances of getting attracted.
And that's why she sees you as a nice person and as a caring friend.

A woman wants to be with a man who will trigger her attraction and not affection, that's why buying her gifts and all those things will not work in getting her attraction.

So to make everything work, you should consider slowing everything down because if you do them too much, it will backfire at you.
Buying gifts and complimenting a woman is good and generally, they love it and they also like the attention they get from men who find them attractive.
But when you overdo it and starts acting like a desperate and wired man, a woman will know that you are so in need and obsessed with her, so she will see no value in you.

Everything worth getting is not easy, and that is why you need to slow down so you can also get to know her and let her know you.
You must not over show interest in a woman if you like her and while you are trying to show less interest, always ensure that you don't make her start thinking that you don't like her company.

There is also the need to reduce the time you spend talking with her or the number of times you spend together, but you should not do it in such a way that will not make her think you are walking away.

Then after that, you take things slowly and step by step, one step after the other and then, you are already going. You must build up her interest in you step by step and also, her attraction for you.

It all depends on the way you do it, women like confident men who have so many things to talk about and do it confidently.
Women like men with other options, when you are not a sociable man who have been around so many women and have meet so many women in your life, that's when you lack the means and strategy to get close to any woman and win her heart.
(Also Read: 5 Tips on how to be that special man every woman wants )

So you can start being around other women rather than focusing your whole attention on just one woman, and once you start coming close to other women in your life, you start learning about women more and you wouldn't care to pour out your interest on just one woman, your dating cycle becomes wider.

As i always tell you in my articles, that there is no shortcut to gaining the attention and attraction of a woman, it just takes the normal step by step presentation of strategies, and except you map out your skills, grow them, learn more about them and use them properly, giving any woman too much of attention, and showing so much interest on her can backfire at you anytime and at any point.

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Steps to attracting a girl to become more than just friends

Have you ever had a female friend whom you have been friends with and you actually like her? But you don't know how to get out and be more than just friends with her?

This is one problem many guys face with the girls they bump into, but there is a reason behind this.
Normally, women have been known for their different definitions when it comes to friendship and romantic relationship.

When a woman has any feelings in her mind for you, and she always have one special reason in her mind as to why she wants to be with you, then she is ready to be intimate with you and have a romantic relationship with you?
But when she just sees you as someone who she always talk with just to laugh, get advice and then, just turn around, that's when friendship is said to be the bond between the both of you.

Women are complex creatures, and when a woman has no feeling for you inside her, then it is difficult for you to curl in some sense of feeling inside her and make her to start loving you. However, there is something you can always do and practice and once you are able to do them, you will successfully get any woman to start thinking of you and even change your state in her mind. Lets see some of those things you can do.

#Plan a day or two days walk or trip with her.
This can be quite overwhelming right? It might seem to you that this one here cant work, but doing this will create a new room and opportunity to share ideas and observations that can bring about the evolvement of a romantic relationship.

Okay, the first step here is to ask her to come over for a walk to somewhere with you, or a trip to somewhere with you. She is your friend, a very good and particularly best and close one to you, so i don't see any reason why she will refuse to come with you.

(Also Read: How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection )

Once this is set, then you can select the best and romantic places to go around with her, and let her also select some of her favourite places. In the course of this event, do not get things boring, you must be the man, make it fun and interesting, romantic and worth talking about, do things that she would observe while you are doing them and also, get her to do things that will give you points to talk about after the walk or trip.

Normally when its evening, and almost getting dark, both of you are already planning to be back home and so, the call is made. But do you just let all the fun from the trip just slip away without talking to each other about it? That's why you must...

#Arrange a dinner night together with her.
Oh she will not refuse it, she needs refreshment, and you too, so what will you offer her more than a more romantic dinner night together?

Okay you successfully got the dinner talks in and she agreed to that and both of you are at dinner together, refreshing and getting stronger. Do you just talk about other things while at dinner or you keep quite and make everything boring? I guess no, you wouldn't risk your chance with that.

So while the dinner is going on, you should talk about the walk or trip you had together, tell her many things you observed and loved about her during the trip, and also get her to tell you about her own observations about the trip. If everything went on very well, then you are gradually getting some things into her.

You should talk more about the romantic aspect of the trip, and that is where the magic works, because everything about women is emotional and once a romantic conversation comes in between the both of you, then it sends some emotional thoughts about you into her.

After that, you can ask her if you can have such kind of walk or trip some other time to other new places she have always wished to go to, when you do that and she responds in a welcoming and romantic way, then you are gradually winning, and she might not notice what you are doing.
She will notice that you are trying to get intimate when you are not bold.

#Boldness in your actions.
One of the important keys towards achieving such aims is having boldness in you.
Like for example, when you are saying something romantic to her and then, your voice broke down, and you acted nervous, and just like you missed your lines, she will notice it and inside her, she would start thinking that you have some feelings for her and everything you were doing was just because you are now into her.

That would probably risk your chances of letting your thoughts flow through her and get more attracted. Though tipping her about your feelings for her is good, and letting her know about your new love for her is good too, but that will not be the best and ideal way to let her know about it.

For her to know about your love for her and not risking the chances of getting her to love you, you are to be bold in speech, be smart in words, and wise in thinking, don't linger or keep waiting for an answer or action response once you have tipped her.

These are just some of the things that you need in other to move along the game line, but then, there are some things some guys and even you, yes even i, we all do it and it is wrong and actually gets every girl loose feelings and attraction for us.

When a girl is so close to you and you start to think of changing the friendship into a relationship, then that's where you start to hit it wrong and get the inscription "I DON'T JUST GET IT" written on your forehead.

When you start buying a girlfriend of yours so many gifts and showering her with compliments, knowing that she is just a friend so close but without any mutual feelings for you, then YOU DON'T JUST GET IT.
And that's the normal way many guys do act and then, risk their chances of getting a girlfriend to love them and get attracted for love.

A girl sees you as a lost person who don't just get it when she got close to you, and you started buying her gifts and compliments.

When you are already dating a woman, yes she would enjoy and cherish every bit of compliments and gifts you shower her, but when you just meet a girl not even up to 3 weeks, and you start buying her gifts and starts to be nice, then you have already wasted your chance of getting her.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man while dealing with women )

A woman have already seen many men wanting to win her heart and attraction and this happens every day in her life, as a result, she have known that cheap and easy path many men come through just to get her, and once you come along and take that same path and root, then you should expect nothing less than a rejection.

So for you to get her, you must learn to be patient and avoid the easy paths to lure her into your heart, you must study her very well and then, try other roads and paths that will lead you to that same thing you want from her.

More help and tips on this aspect will be updated and we will feed you more. For the mean time, any more thought and contribution from you as our reader is highly welcomed.

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How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection.

In the whole dating process every man engage in, facing rejection by girls after asking them out is just an unavoidable condition that he must face, and it is just a normal thing.

Guys who have recorded a lot of success in getting many dates will always tell you that they asked many girls out, and they got rejected and some other times, they are accepted. It is just a normal thing you must face when ever you get fully engaged in the dating cycle.

But because of this fear of rejection and embarrassment, many guys shun great opportunities to date a good number of nice women and get what they have always desired.
You are among those guys and men right? Well i know that's why you are here, so read on.

When you are afraid of getting rejected by a girl you want to approach, that is the worst moment when you will experience so much emotional flaws that will even make you to just give up before trying your luck. And it have been hard for many guys to deal with this situation because at this stage, you get confused in what to think about, you get your emotions and feelings heightened and your breath becomes faster.

But what about the actual rejection? This is not actually as bad as the fear of rejection, because the girl can reject you in a soft manner that will even get you happy in a particular way and create more chance for you to shoot back at her.

Well whatever case it is, you just need to learn how to get over it all and cope with that moment when she rejects you or when you are afraid of getting rejected.

So before you go out to ask that girl out, here is what you should have in your mind.

#Learn about the real meaning of rejection and its concept.
When you ask her out and she just walks away or just says something not annoying to you, that's no rejection and when that happens , then you have more chances of winning her to yourself.

#Stop getting disturbed.
This will make you to gain more confidence in asking her out without any fear of rejection.
This rejection happens to everyone, but it does not happen every time. So don't just disturb yourself and when you are rejected, just learn how to move on and everything will gradually fade away.

#Stop doing things that attracts rejection.
Do you know some of those things that makes a woman reject you without thinking twice?
They are as follows:
Starring at her while passing bye, using your friends to draw her attention and letting her notice you, telling her that she looks sweet and hot, trying to compare her to other women, talking dirty to her, etc.

#Get a back up plan and social options.
You are still single right? So why not get more than just one crush? Because when you do that, you have another one to fall back on and continue doing your thing like nothing really happened previously.

All these things are known to attract rejection from a woman, so make sure you don't engage or do any of them.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women )

Now, lets talk about the part of getting rejected. Normally after being rejected by a girl, here is what will happen to you as a man.

#1. You get angry:
Yes this happens a lot, when you just approach her, say your mind and you got bounced out immediately, and just then, you feel angry, and you don't feel anything for her, you feel like spiting on her face or giving her the insult of her life, etc.

#2. You refuse to give up.
When she denies you and rejects you, then you just think that its not a game over and you will never stop until you get her to love you, and you keep on chasing after her.

Many guys are guilty of this act and believe me, it have not always turned out to be good.

#3. You give reasons to be accepted.
Some guys are so stupid and go to this extent after a girl rejects them.
I mean why on earth should you be explaining to a girl reasons why she should love and accept you?

If she should have any reason to accept you, she would have known and seen it as you are coming to meet her.

#4. You feel sorry for yourself.
This is another state where a rejection hurts so much, and that's where your sorrow begins, seeing her walk away and rejecting you, you feel like crying and shouting your nerves out.

You start regretting why you formally asked her out and why you did not wait for sometime.

Well those are just some of the painful moments a a man will cause himself to experience after being rejected by a girl. Rejection is just inevitable and you can never tell the way it would go and where it will lead.

Don't do any of those things most guys do after getting rejected because it will never make you to move on with your life, it will only leave you at that junction of rejection and in an emotional trauma. So as a man, here is what you should do after getting rejected by a girl.

#1. Rejection is something that is common with girls.
When she turns down your proposal to her, first you should know that she did not reject you because of your character or nature, its just that she does not want to date you, and that's just her state of mind to the rejection.

Many guys have faced rejection before you and they know how they felt, but guess what? They were not rejected because they were found unattractive or nor where they just disliked. Its just a way women act and you don't have an option to that.
(Also Read: Extra ideas on how to make a girl fall in love with you )

#2. Stop worrying about her.
Okay she rejected you right? Yes she did, so do you just sit there and keep thinking about her and how her rejection hurt your feelings?

Come on, you are a man, and you don't have to do that, so here is what to do.
Just cool your nerves and stay silent, gradually avoid her and do things that will make her feel jealous of you or get irritated.

#3. Find time to be with other people.
After she rejected you, the next best thing that can make you to move on is to just stay away from her, then meet and interact with others and just live a positive life. Meet with new girls and ask them out and make yourself enjoy the company of others.

#Get around and engage in sports activities.
Another thing that can bring back your confidence is to start exercising your body.
You can play football, tennis, racing, weight lifting, etc.
All these activities will boast your moral and make you gain more confidence in yourself.

So just get up now, start doing something and get a better life for yourself, you just deserve better than just rejection.

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5 Steps on how to make your ex-girlfriend come back to you.

Have you ever regretted leaving and breaking up with a girlfriend of yours and now, you are wanting to get her back for either one or two reasons?

Well this is just a simple thing to do if you plan it well and execute the tricks the right way. But then, there are many reasons why you would want to get her back and those reasons have different manners of approach so that you can successfully get down to those goals of yours.

#Reason 1: For one more round of hot s€x.
Wow! I think i got it right, or maybe wrong, but i have observed that many guys who kept wishing they could get their ex girlfriends back have this one goal of getting one more night of hot sexual intercourse with them.

Maybe you could not get that before you broke up, and now you have realized that you really need to get into her skirts and get something done. Or you want to have it once more with her.
Well that's an easy one, and am going to show you how.

#Reason 2: keeping her safe again in your arms.
Oh! You really enjoyed the times both of you spent together and those moments of happiness you shared. But for one reason or the other, the both of you decided to go for a breakup and now, you are no more together.

But then, you discovered that you cant just stop thinking of her and every moment of happiness you shared together kept rushing up your mind like crazy, and you kept regretting why you went for a break up. So you cant help it anymore and now, its time to get her back under your comfort and keep her more safe with you.

Well those are the two main reasons why men seek to get their ex back after a break up, but how do you go about doing it now and getting it right? Read on.

Getting your ex girlfriend back is one thing that can be done easily by using the right composition at the time set. Tapping just a few buttons on your cell phone can do this simple trick for you, a trick i call the "TEXTING SENSATION.".

But then, there are some mistakes men do when they text their ex girlfriend after a breakup and those kinds of text messages will damage their chances of winning her back.
Normally, these kinds of text messages are as a result of hash or non-inspiring breakups where the man runs out of logic and is emotionally heightened.

Sending the following kinds of text messages to your ex after a breakup will utterly destroy your chances of getting her back.
(Also Read: Finding a true lover who can be a potential partner to you )

#1. Disturbing her with too much texts in her inbox.
When you text your ex girlfriend too many messages after a breakup, it will be so annoying and stupid of you to her as she does not want to see you text or even call her again.
When you do this, it almost tells her the fact that you are still suffering from the trauma of the breakup and you are almost turning into a psycho.

Hell don't do that because if you do, she will start to loose any further attraction she has for you.

#2. Sending her hateful text messages.
This is just one mistake that will make her hate you more and even forget about you.
After a breakup, don't go around her inbox sending her messages that will get across a signal indicating your loss of attraction and affection towards her.

#3. Sending her overemotional texts that indicates begging.
When you do this, just be sure that you have totally lost your chances of getting her back.
When you cant control your emotions after a breakup and maybe, you settled for regrets other than moving on, then that is when emotional text messages come into your mind which if you send them to her, will tell her that you are begging to come back and that is just it, you blew your chances away.

Women want to be with a real man who are just themselves and who are probably been chased by other women. Making her know that you have not found any other woman or enjoying the company of other women will set her dating market value high and bring yours down and when that is done, you have lost it already.

So now you know the first thing, normally you have to text her if you want to win her back, but what will you text her? And at what time should you get the message across to her? Lets see into that now.

#Don't contact her for a period of time.

Yea, a lot of guys says it works while some says you need to put more effort before it could work.
Well what matters after a break up is giving each other personal space and time to recover from the pains and sadness that accompanied the break up.

So if you want to get her back, you don't have to start the test immediately after the breakup, you should go on a no contact situation for sometimes, and the time you are to be away and out of sight depends on when she finally decides to settle and get over things.

At this period, make sure that you don't have any real situation that will make you get back to her, just be out of sight, view and reach. You can do that for up to a month and when that is done you can proceed to the next step.

#Getting Her jealous using fake texts and fake calls.

Okay this sounds am advising you to make her think that you have moved on with a new girl, but that's not the point here.
When you send her a fake text that makes her to understand that it is meant for another woman, it makes her feel jealous about the false news that you are dating a new girl.

Types of fake text.
It depends on the level of jealousness you want to make her feel, for example you can just fake a text reading "Hey! Am coming over to your place tonight, make sure you don't forget to keep my promise ready. bye"
Example 2: "Hey what should i buy for you while coming? Don't tell me ice cream this time around, waiting ASAP."

Well it all depends on you, create a fake text that will create an emotional feeling within her and then, just text it to her. She will feel that its real but then, she knows and gets the signal that the message was not meant for her, so she will call you back to confirm and clarify if it was meant for her or another person. You should make sure you do this occasionally.

Now you have got a chance to talk a little, just throw in one or two emotional lines to her and then leave her that way, you can now tell her that it was meant for someone else but not a girlfriend, yes, make sure she does not feel like you have got a new girl else, your plans will naturally fail.

Fake calls from another girl.
If you really want to get her back, then doing this should never be a problem to you.
To do this, you need to find another woman, either your sister or any female friend you can convince to do such a thing.
Then here is what to do.
Tell them to call your ex's number, then let her ask about you and get her feel that something is happening upstairs.

This act will make her feel jealous and also, make her to know that you are wanted by other girls.
(Also Read: How to end a relationship when you are not sure about the future of your relationship )

#Additional Steps.

Hey man, there are no special tricks on how to win her back, it all depends on how you go about it.
The time you take before trying to get into her affairs is one important factor that determines the state of you getting her back.

Okay now here is another tip, how about if you just get an ally to help you talk back to her face to face? Maybe you have a male friend who also happened to be close to that your ex girlfriend, now get him play the game along with you, give him some catchy lines to use and get that message across to her.

For example, you can ask him to tell her something like "Hey, you just need to watch your boyfriend and keep a close eye on him, many girls have been chasing him and trying to talk to him these days, and he have been talking about you since the past week, i guess he don't wanna break your heart, so watch him dear.".

After getting your friend to say something like that to her, she might show to him that you both are no more together, but that doesn't matter, what matters is that you want to get signal across to her which you have done, that is enough to get her think about you for the whole day.

#The "I just want us to be friends again" text.

After you have done all those things above, am sure that the ground is now leveled and you can walk up to her without getting hurt.
So why not just pick up your cell phone, get on your messages box and type in a text that tells her you just want to be friends again?

That's so simple, easy and very emotional but friendly, isn't it? So after texting her that way, she will never resist becoming friends with you again, and from there, the old times will naturally come back and things will get on.

Here is an example of what to text her: "Hi _____(her name), am just happy with myself that i have moved on and even though we broke up, i never thought we will end that way, but i really want us to be friends, just that am okay, let me know what you think okay?".

When you have sent her that kind of a text, her emotions will flow and she will almost get that feeling of love for you, and if she does not, she will still get back to your text.

Every breakup is unique in its own way, and every breakup does not go the same way, some breakups goes after much exchange of hateful words, fighting and throwing of properties, while some just ends in the coolest way you can ever think of.

Also, every woman is unique and totally different in her reaction to a breakup, and what worked for that other woman might not work for the other. And also depending on the way the breakup happened, chances are that you will have to exercise much patience and widen your tactics towards winning her back, we will talk about that in our upcoming articles, just stay with us.

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How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women

I have seen many guys complain about their inability to get a woman attracted to them and love them as expected, and their normal reasons for not been able to record success is because of either shyness, anxiousness, fear or nervousness.

In today's dating and relationship ground, you will be left begging if you lack this one single component of a real man any woman will want to date. And what is that component?

#CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is one in a million must have character you must possess if you want to attract any woman in your life. Here is why!

Women have been known to fall and lounge for a man who will make them feel safe, cared for and secured, and without having confidence in you, you can never fulfil any of a woman's wish.
So confidence is the only thing you must learn to master and perfect in your dating life which will make other women to keep chasing after you.

But have you ever asked yourself why you lack confidence?
The reason is fear, because when you are afraid of approaching a beautiful woman, it stops you from being able to date any girl in your life, when you can not kiss a lady because of fear, etc. The fear and trauma caused in these instances now brings about lack of confidence.
So how do you get rid of this fear which leads to lack of confidence?
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you always make with women )

#Start Building Your Physical Science.

When you are not confident in doing anything, you discover that what you think mentally is what almost brings about your lack of confidence, so to start this building of confidence, you need to forget what you think mentally about any woman you meet and then, learn more about developing your physics.

Yes, you normally think that woman is bigger than you and so you can not date her, or she is more beautiful, or i don't look good, so she can not love me, oh! she is older than i, so things cant work, etc.

All these thoughts have to be erased because it will keep causing you to have a low self esteem to yourself and make you unable to approach any woman in your life.

So you should just forget about every mental aspect of your thought and then, concentrate on the physical aspect of yourself, you need to get something doing, anything that will boast your self esteem and worth.

#Exercise your body.

You should engage in any kind of physical activity that will keep you up and going, join the gym groups, footballing, weight lifting, race down and up the field, the activity you choose does not really matter, just do it because engaging in any activity that will increase the testosterone level in your body will work like magic. But how does it work?

When you strengthen your body, you strengthen your mind and if your mind is in a healthy state, then confidence is generated because your mind is at ease.
Just make this your goal and never loose sight of it because if you stop, then it is better that you have not started it at all.

#Improve On the way you pose.

When you master a better way of posing and behaving, you stand a chance to add more confidence to yourself.
Your psychology is affected by your physiology and that is why you need to improve on your behavioural aspect of thinking about women.

When you stand, talk or sit in a way that does not signify a victorious man, your feelings are affected and you will not feel any good, and that lowers your confidence.
You can never feel bad when smiling, even if its a fake smile, you can stand tall on your fit and get your arms up in the air, this can get a lot of testosterone rushing up your system and also, having cortisol decreased, doing that will get you gain more confidence than ever before.

Hey man! Don't walk like a person who just lost a race or talk like someone who is suffering from a disease, that will lower your confidence when it comes down to women.
(Also Read: How to be that special man every woman will want to date )

#Pay attention to the way you breath.

When you are with a woman and you seem not to be confident and suffer from anxiousness, nervousness and fear, you find out that you breath faster and it is almost visible from your pitch while talking, you tend to talk fast like you are in a hurry to do something, you are not comfortable and you are just like a lost fellow.

Hey man, when next you sit with a woman, relax your mind, take a deep breath, stay quite as you do that for some seconds and then, concentrate on what you are about to say and not on her, go easy and gentle, don't let your heart beat faster and when you are talking, make sure you bring your whole attention to the present situation and not the past. Read the next step now.

#Forget about the past and bring your thoughts back to the present.

Most times, the fear and nervousness you feel when with a woman is as a result of what you are thinking in your mind.
When you think about the times when you failed in getting that other girl like you, and when what will happen if you should approach this one now, thinking that she might not accept you, she will think you are not good, etc.

All those thoughts can bring your confidence down to 10%. So when you are with that woman, forget about the past and just bring your awareness and thoughts back to the present. Doing that will ease you off any tension or pressure that might come out of your imaginations.

#Destroy your fears through action and visualise victory.

The best way to master a thing and get perfect is to do it even with the fear of failing to do it right.
After you do a thing you are afraid of doing because of fear, then you discover that you are no more afraid of doing it and you get perfect in doing it.

Just do it! And that's the only language you can use to conquer any fear and after that, you will discover that you are no more afraid of doing that thing.

Now before you even go to meet that woman, what do you think of? Do you think of failing or becoming successful in your pursuit?
Now even before you go out to meet her, make sure you have already recorded success in your mind and be sure that you will not fail this time around.

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Things a woman say that means something different

Women have probably been known for not going straight  to the point while having a discussion with anyone who they come across and today, we are going to talk about some of those things a woman say but actually takes a different meaning.

You can never understand the mind of a woman and the way she thinks and that is why you sometimes misunderstand and translate what she says wrongly. That is why most relationships gets boring now and then because when you expect your woman to clearly state her state of mind to a current situation, she does not say it straight but says it in such a way that it makes you get the wrong understanding to what she said.

Well without wasting much time doing introductions, i believe you know why you are here and so, if you fall among the category of those guys who can not understand and read a woman's thought as she beats around the bush, let me now show you some of those things your woman will tell you which you don't clearly understand and interpret.

#1. When your woman tells you "You don't need to buy me anything okay!"

When your woman tells you something like that, what comes to your mind first?
You are naturally going to think that she has everything she needs and you don't need to disturb yourself buying her anything.

But actually that's not what she means. When a woman says that to you, she just meant that you already know what she likes, and she don't have to tell you what she needs, she also expects you to ask her friends or sisters if you don't know what she needs, she just mean that if you really care, then you will figure out the right thing she wants.

#2. When your woman exclaims "What?''.

When you hear your woman say that to you, i know what comes to your mind, yes, i said something that seems unclear to hear and so, she wants me to repeat it so she can hear again.

Though sometimes, it is so and that interpretation works in situations like that, but in the other words and vocabulary of the woman's heart, she heard what i said but she is literally giving me a second option to reverse what i said previously and change it. That's how things work with women.

#3. When she tells you to "Go ahead and do whatever you want"

Yes as a man who does not understand the language of a woman, you just think that she is now giving you the power and might to do make decisions by yourself or do that thing that is right to you.

But in the language of a woman, that is not what she is telling you. She is only telling you that you should not do whatever you want without asking her, asking her will make her feel that you really care for her, but if you go ahead and do what you want, she will repay you or revenge it another time.

#4. When a woman asks you "Are you going to wear that?"

Don't think that she is asking you to confirm that you want to wear that cloth or shoes so she can complement on them, that's not the signal here.

What she is trying to tell you is that you should not even dare to wear that shoe or cloth because it does not fit, and if you are already putting them on, you better go and take them off and change. You just don't look sharp on that attire, period!!

#5. When she asks "Am i fat?" or "Am i slim?".

Don't think she is trying to know from you if she is fat or slim because that is the first thing that comes to your mind as a man when a woman tells you that.

But that is not what she means, she is only trying to hear from you if you find her attractive, sexy or not. And when she asks you that, she want to hear you say that you find her very hot and attractive and that you don't even know you are going to find someone so hot like her.

#6. When she says "You don't care for me".

Some men will even get angry when they hear their woman say something like this to them which gets the woman off her thoughts and tells them sorry, and that's another thing, she is not really sorry, you just turned her off.

When a woman says that to you, she does not really mean that you don't care or love her, she just think that you have not been showing much care and love, so what do you do about that? She wants you to improve on that and show more care.

#7. When she says "Its nothing, just forget it, am fine and okay".

This is another point you should never mess with. You will just think that she just told you that she have forgotten about what happened or what you did to her.

But in her mind, thought and meanings, she is only asking you to fix what happened and resolve the situation if not, she is going to take things her own way.

Also she might say any of those things if she want to make you forget any situation or anything that you insist on talking about.

#8. When she says "I am sorry".

You will think it as a normal word which she said straight from her heart and so, you take it like that.

But it is not so, she is just saying that so that she can get herself out of a hot awkward situation and get over it with you. Though sometimes, it is genuine and some women mean it when they say such things.

#9. When she says "I will be back in 4 minutes" or "I will be done in 2 minutes time" or "wait, i will call you back in 3 minutes".

As a man, you will normally think that she will be ready to get back to you after the time she gave as a waiting time and you expect it to be so. It have happened to me a lot until i learned not to believe that.

When a woman says any of that to you man, you just have to just relax your mind, get one or two things doing and get busy before she gets back, comes to meet you or call you back, because anytime she say that, she is just trying to make you feel comfortable with her leaving.

#10. When she says "I love you".

Hmm, and finally, when she say this to you, what do you expect? That she is also not straight?

Well don't misinterpret this language when it comes from a woman because it comes from her heart because she loves you, that is why she is bold to say that to you. Relax your mind and sit back, then think of all the above listing and know how to handle them all when it comes from a woman you consider so potential to you.

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5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you always make with women

For you to be able to record success with any woman you come across in your life, you must be able to make that woman feel attracted to you and also, doing it with the right skill and the right way.

As a man, you actually don't have all the time to just spend talking with a woman, and that is why you should never keep expecting that you can grow on a woman for whatever reason.
If you don't know how to make that woman feel attracted to you very quickly, then you are open to risks of other guys who knows how to win her attraction within couple hours of meeting with her.

Now with these following unhealthy conversation mistakes i am going to tell, i hope that you will use them to improve in your over all quest for her ultimate natural attraction to you. Lets go there..

#1.Flowing in an Interview mode.

While talking to a woman, your interaction should never take the form of a job interview and if that happens, that girl can never get interested in you.

Maybe you have experienced it before. Most times, this happens when you have no topic to talk about and have no point in your mind to come up with, then at this stage, it seems both of you are into a shooting game because you just keep on bombarding her with interview-like questions and when she answers, its like backfiring her with questions after the other.

What do you do to sustain your life?
Where do your mum and dad stay?
Are you still schooling?
What level are you now?
Do you like having fun?
How many boyfriends have you dated in time past?

All these questions will make her feel interviewed and that's not what she want, that's not the kind of feeling she want to get from a man like you.
A woman wants to be with a man who would make her feel the vibe between them, have a lot of fun, make her feel sexy and sexually attracted to him and create a more romantic chemistry amidst their conversation.

#2. Trying to do the right thing to impress her.

One among the unhealthy conversation mistakes you might be making is your inability to be your real self when ever you are with a woman you feel something for.

In normal circumstances, when you are around a woman who don't actually feel attracted to, you observe that you are more confident and flowing in your real nature and with your original verbal reasoning ability. But when you are with a woman whom you feel so attracted to, then that is when you start thinking of the right and impressive things you would say to her to make her get attracted to you.

Now doing that can cause a tense inside you and you will become nervous and act wired, of which she will notice and also become uncomfortable for the fact that she is causing you great discomfort, she might even want to leave at once.

Women are naturally attracted to guys who are confident in themselves and who do not hide their original nature and act while trying to get them attracted. So the most important thing you should do when together with a woman you want to attract is to be original, the real version of who you really are.

#3. Trying to be romantic and making her like you when she is not yet interested.

I have seen a lot of guys doing this for some times now. And do you know why it happens with many guys including you? It is because men are always attracted to women physically and judging women by their appearance and looks, a man can want to immediately take a woman to the bed and get intimate with her.

This happens because a lot of women appear to be physically seductive with their body shapes and the characters on their body which stimulates the mans attraction traits.

Now because of all these, we now go on to meet that attractive woman who we now really like but then, she is not interested in us. Okay now back to you.
You now start a conversation with her all your chat up lines shows that you are now in the act of trying to convince her to like you and feel very different about you.

When it comes to a woman being interested in a guy, the fact is that you can never change the mind of a woman and the way she feels. Even with the whole reasoning and logistics, you can only record a 40% attraction which tends to be temporary.

So you just beg her, plead, ask, keep chasing and doing everything at your best just to get her change her mind, well it can never be done. So stop that man.

#4. Thinking that you can use money and swags, and looks to get a woman like you.

This is one of the oldest trend of all time, guys who think they have it all and so, they can use their money, handsomeness and swags to get a woman like them.

This is one of the most frequent error that men always make when trying to get a girl attracted.
For many of the average guys, they think they cant have a girl because they don't have money and attractive looks, they are below the age, or their height ain't enough and as a result, they give up and settle for less. Truly, there are women who look after those qualities in a man.

When you consider today's trend in the dating world, you will discover that a lot of women, the most of them are after a mans personality and not his financial strength or attractiveness. And if you look out and see through the dating style many women adapts to, you will learn that there are many traits that are attached to personality which gets women interested in any guy with such traits.

Now you must learn about those traits if you want to get women to like you, you should also learn how to use those traits to your advantage.
(Also Read: Tips on how to be that special man every woman want )

#5. Not learning about a woman's body language and when she is not just interested.

For you to be able to have the right motive whenever you are with a woman, learning about her body languages is just a short code to let you access the ideologies as to when she is not comfortable with what you are saying, or when she is not interested.

You should learn to use your senses, open your eyes and look well, then get your ears wide open so that you can understand every situation she is in and every move she makes.

When you are able to do that, you can learn when she is happy, excited, feeling bored or enjoying your vibe.

These are just a few from the list we have on those unhealthy conversation mistakes you do make as a man, so you must learn to use them and avoid any further mistake with that next woman you are going to meet.

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