As a man, you will always want to impress the woman you just meet on a new date and in the process of doing those things that makes you think will make her interested in you, you end up doing something that will ruin everything for you.
One thing that men always forget and underestimate while dealing with women is confidentiality and being your real self.
Once you cant be able to maintain your true and real nature when with a woman on a first date, it will be hard and rare getting a call for a second date.
One thing you should throw your focus on is how to make her feel attracted to you and making her enjoy every bit of seconds she spent with you on the first date.
Confidence is one thing character that can even serve as a pass for another date and also a guarantee that your first date will be a success, so once you have this confidence in you, then you are good to start your test and in other words, your dating game.
#Personality.
This is the basis towards achieving success even before you start a date with a woman. Once you have a good name to yourself and everyone is able to recognise you with your great achievements, or the good things you are known for, and what a good person and great individual you are, then you are good to go.
Even without telling the woman about yourself, she might have heard about your minor achievements and also about how a great and good person you are, so even before the date is started, you find out that everything is just promising and its just going to sound to her like a queen is going to meet a king.
So to make success, there are some things that you should not do to avoid ruining your first date with a woman.
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(1) Asking her who she is calling or texting.
Is it really a time to start getting jealous over something that does not really matter?
When you find out that the woman you are together with is answering a call or texting someone you don't know, you don't have to start asking or questioning her about it.
You are not yet in a relationship with her and so, you don't have to jump into her personal affairs and act like both of you are now lovers.
She can go out with another guy for a date and you don't have any right against her, so its only when you are able to get her to start loving you and that is when you have all those rights against her.
Who she is texting or calling should not be your problem, and you should also avoid taking out your phones while on a date so that when she sees you without your phone, she might as well keep hers back.
(2) Asking her about her work and financial status.
It is actually bad and not nice to just ask a woman about her work or financial related issues while on a date with her, and it makes her feel like you are trying too hard to get over her in no time.
She might have a work that pays her well but will not be comfortable telling you about it since you are just dating. And maybe she have a job that sounds bad in the ear, asking her about it will turn her off and can make her loose interest in you.
So when ever on a date, make sure you don't go anywhere near her job and financial stands because it might happen to turn her off and make her loose interest.
(3) Talking to her about your ex and past relationships.
This can be a good sign that you are not ready to take your date to a high level and possibly switch into a relationship with her.
When you find it hard getting over your ex talks and past relationship talks, then you will find it hard getting a new girlfriend that will treat you as her boyfriend, you will only end up with a woman who treats you as a mother and sees you as her child.
Also this act do irritate many women on a date and it gives them a sign that you still have your old partner in your mind and since you enjoy talking about her, chances are that she left you and you still want to get back if she will allow you.
She will not be ready to accept you into her life with such kind of a habit of not getting over your past relationships, so find a way to get this done with and stop talking to women you are dating about matters like that.
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(4) Comparing her with other women.
A woman will not take it likely with you when you keep comparing her to other women you have dated maybe you probably take compliments like "You are the best among other girls i have dated" to back up your comparison which sounds bad.
Its better if you can come up with such instances in a more pleasant way, you can tell her that you are happy to meet a wonderful person like her, but not putting it the other way round that sounds like you are a practical womanizer.
Also its good to tell her that she looks like your mom, your sister or something like that, but many women find it not appealing.
Trying to be different from other women is one thing they like doing, and once you compare them with other women, you are indirectly telling them that they can never be better than those women you have compared them to.
(5) Giving attention to your phone than her.
This one also turns a girl off while on a date together with a man, and if you are not careful of this, she can just get angry and leave at once, unless if you have enough skills to handle this.
You should be able to know that she needs your attention every now and then while on a date and so, you need to be attentive to here and be a good observer, carefully studying the environment where both of you are in and trying to learn more about her bodily languages so you don't act like a freak or a weirdo.
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These whole concepts about first dates with women is something very fun and interesting if you master how to be a confident guy and just be your real self, then you desist from any of those things listed above and when you do, i bet you will not be struggling with handling first dates anymore.
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