Breakups are nothing new in the relationship world, and i believe you know how a breakup can turn someone into a state that explains that a lot of things are happening in the persons mind.
Emotional lost and confusing moments always characterise most of the breakups today, and you find out that the person is so hurt, lost of feelings is on the high and people do questionable things when ever they are experiencing a breakup.
Depending on how the breakup happened, it can cause you to be either emotionally weak and miserable, or it gets you angry and makes you act in stupid ways that will make you feel more hatred for the other.
There are many things that if you allow them to get over you and carry out those things, that they will keep backfiring at you and you will live with regrets in your life for even a more prolonged time that you never thought of.
The reason why a breakup can harm you more than doing good to you is because of the fact that it takes a long period of time before it heals. It can even last for a long period of time more than some physical injuries people do sustain. But sometimes, we are the main reason why we take too long before healing from a heart break.
When you allow yourself to keep thinking and behaving in a manner that will make you think that you are helping yourself to forget about your ex, then you are not doing yourself any good but you are making your situation get from bad to worst.
When you use a natural means to approach a breakup and get it over you, then you might not be doing yourself any good as you lack in a proper and a better emotional cleanness.
Here are a list of what you should avoid and things you should do after a breakup so that you can give yourself time to heal and recover quickly.
#1. Forget your mistakes.
When you keep thinking about your mistakes from your just ended relationship and you keep disturbing yourself and rethinking about those mistakes, it makes you to keep regretting your mistakes.
And when this happens, then nothing is going to heal, and you will only keep regretting and brooding over all those things that caused your breakup.
2. Don't condemn yourself.
You already know that you have been hurt and your heart is suffering from the fact that it was hurt by another person. When you keep blaming yourself for your mistakes and the things that brought about the breakup, then you will only be adding more sorrows to the one you are having now.
The best treatment you can give to your wounded self is to be compassionate about yourself and just consolidate yourself and allow everything to pass away.
3. Don't try to text or call your ex after the breaking.
Stalking is very bad and it will cause you to keep remembering everything, i mean everything about you and your ex.
When you keep bordering your ex with phone calls and texts, it means that you are not over the relationship.
And when you do that, its possible that your ex don't just want you back anymore in their life, and when you cant stop reaching out to your ex when they are no more into you, that will just hurt you the more and keep causing you to regret your actions since before you broke up.
4. Don't over do anything after the breakup.
This can be in form of drinking too much, partying, hooking up or eating your self out.
You might think that doing all these things will make you feel better and forget about what is happening to you.
It will surely work, but will not last for up to 5 hours, and once you are back to your senses, you discover everything turns worst than it was before and you will keep being in bondage of your ex relationship thoughts.
So you must avoid this habit when you are heart broken after a breakup, you should just calm yourself down and give yourself the best consolation you can.
5. Never jump into a new relationship immediately after a breakup.
Sometimes, in a desperate bid to find solutions to our wounded soul and sorrowful heart, we go into a new relationship immediately after a breakup with our ex.
It will not work out the way you think because it happened that you just went on a rebound because you want to get over the just ended relationship and you were still feeling hurt.
So you will want your new partner to meet up to your immediate needs and you will find out that whenever your new partner makes a mistake, you immediately compare them to your ex and then, everything just seem not to be at its best as you expected.
6. Going on a break for sometime.
This is just a nice and good idea that can help you to recover from a breakup within a short time and move on with your life.
There are things that you enjoy doing when you were still with your ex, and there were places you normally like going to, so the best way to get healed from your past relationship wounds is to take a break from doing those things and going to those places.
Also, you must not rush into any new relationship after a breakup, but the best thing to do is to start enjoying your single life and freedom by meeting with new friends and new people, and talk to every woman or man that comes your way and do it with a clean and happy mood.
By so doing, you can be able to start regaining all your lost emotions and feelings that makes you the confident and happy man you used to be before.
A breakup will be hard on you only if you have never experienced it before or that you were deeply committed to your partner before things went sore.
To bring it all to close, being happy with who you are is the best idea to carry yourself on and after that, you should allow people in and out of your life because not all relationships are meant to last for a long period of time.
So once you start dating a multiple times, you can be able to learn that not everyone that comes into your life is meant to stay in it.
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