I have once been in a relationship that i enjoyed but i later got very upset about something that happened to me personally and just because of that, i decided to look for a way to end the relationship.
The reason was not because i don't like my girlfriend anymore, and its not because she did anything wrong, but then something happened to me and because of that, i was determined to just end the relationship and get done with it once and for all.
But the truth of the matter was that i tried to end the relationship, but i could not. I tried the whole lot of lies i could think of but the breakup never happened, i looked for any exit door open but i could not get any and because of that, i have to consult my friend who was an expert whenever it comes to relationship matters.
That friend of mine was now able to give me new guidelines that i practiced and followed, and when i used them, i was now able to get out of the relationship with ease and i forgot about it completely.
From my experience, trying to end a relationship you have gone into is a very hard situation which can make you think that your life is going to end with that partner you are currently dating, and when you think of breaking up, there are two situations in which you can embark on a breakup plan.
Ending Your Relationship for No Reason.
Have you ever thought of this situation, it is the hardest form a breakup can take as there is no reason why you want to end the relationship.
You will be tempted to think and say to yourself that your partner loves you so much and will be hurt to see you go.
But right inside your heart, you know that you just want to breakup for a reason outside the relationship and not because of any other thing.
For example, you might want to breakup and end your relationship if you are relocating to another destination, or you are going away to school and you cant just continue the relationship because you cant meet again and have things as it uses to be.
Well this situation can come in different forms and depending on your own reason why you want to end the relationship, it might be harder for you to do so.
Ending Your Relationship For a Reason.
When you are ending the relationship for a reason, it is safer and more easier than when you are ending it for no reason.
There can be many reasons why you will want to end the relationship and those reasons are mostly accompanied with difficulties that arises inside the relationship.
Maybe you just found a new love and the kind of attention and attraction you get from them is greater than the kind you get from your present lover, and because of that, you just want to end the current relationship and start something new with another partner.
Or it happened that your significant other is not making you happy anymore in the relationship, and you get lots of misunderstanding with each other and as a result, you think that ending the relationship is the best option you are left with.
But whether you are wanting to end the relationship for a reason or for no reason, its no news that we normally suffer a great deal when wanting to initiate a breakup.
There must be that feeling of guilt, that rushing of memories, that remembrance of promises kept for each other, those happy romantic moments and those awesome sex nights you do enjoy in the relationship.
What makes a breakup more of a hard task is that your other partner will be your area of concentration and when that happens, you discover that you keep remembering everything that makes you happy with your partner and you mostly skip the bad memories about them.
So now, you want to just end the relationship right? And you have tried but you couldn't, or you just want to end it in a way that will not sound dramatic? Well are a list of those methods you can implement in other to end a relationship in no time.
(Also Read: How to Deal With a Breakup and Avoid Making Things Worst )
1. Stop Thinking About Your Partner.
The bes way you can start the process of ending a relationship you are no more interested in is to first stop thinking about your partner whom you now want to breakup with.
Any little thought about them can trigger your affection for that person and when you cant get them off your head, then you can hardly start the process of ending the relationship. Whenever you discover that you want to think about them, just distract yourself from thinking about them and think of something that will be of more importance to you than keep thinking about them.
2. Don't Call or Text Them, and Don't Reply Them either.
This one will also help you in initiating the breakup in a more easy and relaxed way while you just hold on to that reason why you want to end it.
When your partner calls or texts you, delete them and don't reply to any of them.
When you do that, you will be able to see that you are going easy and the end of the relationship will just be hanging around the corner, waiting for its due time.
3. Avoid any Thing that Belongs to Them Including Social Profiles.
Keeping any of the persons gifts that was given to you, or any thing you just know it belongs to the person can stop you and slow you down from fastening the whole process.
Their social profiles and accounts will also slow you down if you don't delete them from your profiles. Anything that will make you feel like you can still get in touch with each other can trigger affection in you and when that happens, it will just occur to you that you cant just end the relationship.
Also, you should just avoid anything that would remind you of them, places that reminds you of your partner should be forgotten and also, you should just avoid things that normally makes you to idealize them.
4. Call Them to Say "Its Over".
Sometimes, the reason why its always hard to end the relationship is because you cant communicate to your partner about it.
So when your partner starts seeing you change in your actions and they find you unaccessible from every angle, maybe it will send them a signal that something is happening to you. So when you observe it, you can now walk up to your partner and just tell them the word "I think its over between us, and the relationship have to end".
Now you should not just leave after saying that because it sounds rude and embarrassing, so you don't want to sound rude nor embarrassing, so what you do next after saying that is to tell them why you are leaving and ending the relationship.
You should try to be polite and convincing at this moment and make sure that you convince them that you can still be friends after the relationship is ended, i think that should be fair enough.
5. Finally, Don't Shake.
What i mean by this is that you should hold on to that reason why you want to end the relationship. You already know what you want to do and you are to take responsibility for whatever you decide that its best for you.
So as you embark on breaking up and ending your current relationship, you must ensure that the actions you choose do not come with regrets in the afterwards of the relationship breakup.
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