I have made a lot of mistakes of going into a relationship with women i barely know anything about and at the end, i find out that i am bound in a relationship with a woman with the worst kind of habit and character i have ever seen.
I am here to give you help on how to handle and deal with such situations where you go into a relationship with a woman who have a bad attitude and character to her name.
In this kind of situation, it normally do not occur to you at first that you are dating a woman with bad influence to your life. And you start the relationship feeling the sweetness and she keeps showering you her love with no limitations.
But as time goes by, you discover that you are not with the kind of woman you want to be with in your life and as a result, you are left with no option other than leaving, but no, i don't think its time to leave, hope you have not forgotten too soon that you promised to be with her forever, and for better or for worst.
#The kinds of bad attitudes and characters a woman can possess.
A woman can possess any kind of attitude and character depending on the domain where she is exposed to, the kind of teachings she learn and the kind of people she associate with.
Though not every kind of a woman can be influenced by those factors above but in most cases, those factors are responsible for any kind of attitude a woman can turn out to possess and live with.
Being a troublesome woman is one kind of character a woman can possess, and this depends on the kind of people she move along with and the kind of environment she is exposed to.
Acting like a whore to other men and being known as a slut is also one character i have seen many women who are even dating possess. I have bumped into many women who i know to be dating but still, i can take them out and bed them anytime i wish or talk dirty and get naughty with them, and it has never been a problem to them.
Also, many women possess the character of a fighter. I have seen many women who can fight anytime and anywhere if any one should offend them or get them angry. And you see them fighting any man or woman as far as they don't go in terms and in peace with each other.
Gossiping and malice keeping have been the most common recently among women and many of them have allowed that character to take over them, and they go in groups gossiping about others and getting heated up and causing an uproar among those they consider as their enemies.
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Among other characters, you can see impatience, lack of understanding and wisdom towards judging matters, prostitution for money and others.
#Why it happened that you are dating any of such types of women.
The reason why you are dating such kind of a woman is because you just jumped into the relationship without thinking if you are ready to be in the relationship, and without learning about the woman you want to start your relationship career with.
Maybe you just saw the woman just a week before you started dating, and you never cared to know about her in and out, and you just proceeded to asking her out for a relationship and she accepted your proposal.
Then as time went on and you spent more time, days and months, or even years dating, you started realising her hidden features which you were not comfortable with and then, it started dawning on you that those characters are not characters you want in a woman you want as a partner and so, you start thinking its high time you end the relationship and find someone better and with such qualities you would want her to have in her.
Why ending the relationship is not an option.
As a man, after you have realised her real character, what will be in your mind is just to leave and find someone better, but i know that it must have occurred to you this way.
Despite that you have known her real habits, and how it can affect your thinking and the relationship, she still shows you that love, care and respect, and nothing have changed, apart from the fact that you have known the hidden facts about her. And sometimes when you try to talk to her in the direction of her characters, she refuses to admit to her character and accept the fact that its who she is, and she keep telling you that she is nothing like what you are thinking and she cant do what you are thinking about.
Now you already know her attitudes, and you already know that it have started to affect the relationship from your own direction, but she is not changing the direction her love is taking, you have every reason to believe that you are the one she loves and her attitudes in her life are not affecting the love she have for you. This i know will make you believe that she is truthful and faithful to you, but then, you don't want to believe it.
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HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH SITUATIONS.
Leaving the relationship will not do you any good, because if you think back and take off the thought of her attitude from your heart, you will find no reason to cut off and end the relationship.
So the best things you can do to help her and help your relationship are as follows.
(1) Occasionally talk to her about those attitudes and characters:
The reason why you should do that is to keep reminding her that without her being honest and truthful to you, your relationship will never last and that there is no amount of lie on this earth can be able to keep your relationship.
By lying to you about her secrets and hiding them from you, she can keep you, but she can never keep your relationship. The more she continues in her habits and keep hiding them from you, the more she makes you to walk away and when you walk far away from her heart, she have lost you completely.
(2) Talk to her about her friends whom you know can be responsible for her attitudes:
Another way to make her stop and get her along the right way is to challenge her about those bad friends she have whom you have already known their habits and she knows that you know who they are really.
Let her know that friends with bad habits have nothing to do in her life if she is really good as she claims to be, and to avoid them from changing her to be like them or to keep damaging her, she have to quit the friendship between them and focus on getting new friends who will affect her life positively.
(3) Talk to her about the kind of things she makes priority in her life.
A woman without any vision in her life is a woman without dreams, and a woman without goals in her life is a woman without focus.
Ask her what are her goals, her number one thing in this life and how she work towards achieving such aims in her life.
If she couldn't tell you anything about this, tell her more about how you care towards sharing your life and your dreams with her, and tell her about your own dreams, and by so doing, she will learn to start thinking of something definite in her life and how she can achieve it.
Ask her to cut off some irrelevant activities she engage in her life that makes her more vulnerable and exposed to the stupid activities of the world.
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(4) Promise to give her good support in her life:
After everything, she will want to know that you are really serious in all those things you are saying to her, tell her that you want to see her just change so you can be happy, you must have been hearing bad things about her, tell her that you don't want to hear any bad thing about her any more.
Then you must promise her support in everything and render her help anywhere necessary, with that she becomes happy with you and you both will come into terms with each other.
Now you must make sure that you don't relent and grow cold in doing all i have said above, every habit and attitude that requires change must be taken slowly, with understanding and with patience. And when you have done all those, you can drop us a feedback on the result you got by using the comment box below. And we can tell you what next to do when you have achieved either a positive or negative result.
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