The bar is a great place to meet with different kinds of women in your life and when you see an attractive lady who you start liking right inside the bar, you should not be afraid of making a move to get her.
Maybe you just went to the bar to grab a glass and meet with new people, then while in your cool at the bar, you just saw a very sweet and attractive girl and you started melting for her. Okay the point here is that you now want to talk to her, and make her notice you.
But you don't just know how to start initiating the whole process and you are stuck in one position, thinking of what to do to get the girl and start something that is likely going to end well.
You might be afraid and think that you cant have a great relationship with a girl you took up from a bar, and that is what most people say, but its not always true because i have seen many great relationships that started just from the bar or any other place similar.
That is not the problem here, what becomes a problem is you not being able to take the right approach at the right time in the bar, and once you are not able to do that, you find out that you will not record any success in your pursuit.
There are things you should do in other not to be like those other guys out there and also there are techniques you must use in other not to be that boring to her. Lets see some of those tips on what next to do after you see an attractive girl at the bar.
1. Use the old friend approach style.
When you want to approach her at the bar, doing it just the way other guys always do will not just work as you expected, and you can only get that "what is the matter" look from her and you will end up confused and short of things to say.
But why not try it a new way and get a different style for yourself?
This kind of approach goes along with boldness in you and then, go and meet her just like as if you have been friends for a long time, you can pretend to her like you have been friends since childhood and once she shows surprise and a little or much interest in you, just bring up a conversation that is going to last for a long time that you can ask her to follow you out of the bar.
This is not stressful at all, it only requires that positive energy in you and also the boldness as you initiate the process else, she might find your approach unimpressive and deceitful.
2. Look nice and clever.
Whenever you want to go to a party or a bar, there is need for you to always dress in good form and have yourself organised in case of moments like this when you find a girl attractive and so you want to approach her.
No woman will want to flirt and come around you if you appear in rags or appear like you are just taking a cool breeze from the tree under your roof. So appearing nice and looking good offers you more chances to get more women to hear you out and follow you around the bar.
You don't have to go an extra mile in dressing before you can appear and look good at the bar, but by just having a different clean and fresh styles on you and making sure every part of your body is well taken care of, you are already fit for any woman's admiration.
3. Avoid Pick Up Lines and be original.
Did you notice something about women and the way they react to pick up lines these days?
It seems to be likely said that they are already familiar with all of them and so, they don't get interested whenever men use it on them and instead of tipping you about it, they just mark you as one of those guys and you totally loose out.
Some of those pick up lines are just bad as crap and do not work at all because most of them do not work with every kind of woman and the initiators just use them without thinking about what a woman's reaction will be.
Instead of using pick up lines, the best natural way to do it at the bar is just to be yourself and not faking anything. There are many things you can ask a woman that makes her think twice and then come up with something to tell you and from there, you can start up a conversation.
What really matters when trying to get a girl is how real and original you are, so if you use those pick up lines, she will notice that you are only desperate and just a needy guy who wants to get her attention, and so she will cross her mind originally from the scratch.
4. Showing a lot of confidence in yourself.
Confidence has always been the thing, and when you are able to push yourself up and know that you are certainly going to face a lot of challenges when doing all these things, then be sure that you can do it.
You might be thinking that the girl will turn you down and you will feel rejected, but the cases have not always been like that. Once you are able to set your targets and goals, then use the tools you have to aim at them and get it right, then you are done, every other story can well end up in the bed room or a happy new relationship.
5. Pay for her drinks without asking.
This is also a nice way and one of the best ways you can use, not to get her attraction, but her attention to start up a new conversation without putting on much stress.
When you notice her ordering for drinks at the bar, you don't wait for her to ask the waiter how much it costs or wait for her to pay, you can just walk over to the attendant and ask him for her bill, then get it done for her and don't wait for her to come to you for appreciation, just take your leave immediately and go away from her presence.
When you do so, you will find out that she will be ready and even want to have a word of appreciation with you at that moment. The reason why you should leave is because everything might end at just the appreciation and nothing special happens again and as a result, she might take you as a nice guy.
So to avoid that, you have to leave her presence for the rest of the moment at the bar before she can see you again and when you both meet, the chemistry and physics will be high, so its left for you to utilize it to the best of your advantage.
There are many other tips on this subject and with time, we will update you with more of them but for the mean time, you must remember that not every girl at the bar is interested in making new boyfriends or getting to bed for a one night stand.
So you should create time to learn and know what that girl need and what she is looking for so that you can do the right thing and choose what will work for you out there.
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