I have learnt a lot from the story of my many friends who are already graduates from college and also, those that are still in college. For many of them, it was really hard to maintain a the relationships they go into, either from the college cycle, or outside the vicinity, while some were able to handle their relationship lives and keep up to their real self in the college.
This article is meant to show you how to handle any relationship you choose to start while you go into college so as to make sure that you don't start hurting different people in your life and changing your real self to someone known to be without good influence and an un-dateable person in college.
The college is a place where you meet with different new people in your life and also, get to know new things and gather new experiences in your life. One aspect of this new experience and a new system of living and getting is what we are going to discuss about.
The relationship and dating style in colleges.
The way you come around new people and start dating and eventually, go into a relationship is totally different from the way it is done in the outside world. That is to say, that dating and relationships in colleges are easy to start and takes no time before you can go into a relationship.
To tell you how easy it is to start dating in college, i was able to get a new girlfriend from my very first day in college, and it was so with many of my other friends who we all started college together.
The problem.
But the problem is not starting the relationship, it is how to sustain and keep the relationship going without breaking the relationship, or ending it, or falling into the wrong hands.
Just like i told you that i had a girlfriend from my first day in college, i was not able to keep it going and it couldn't last for even up to a month, it ended for so many reasons, and it was so with some of those my friends who we started college together.
Another problem is this, the fact that you are going into college and you are already in a relationship from outside the college, and it happens that you are dedicated to the relationship that you promised not to break the trust in the relationship even after you are into the college. Now the inability to sustain and keep such relationships is also one problem faced by many boys and girls once they are into college.
Are you one of those people faced with such problems, well you are at the right place to get the best advice for yourself.
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What to do when in college.
If you are in a relationship with someone in the college or outside the college, maybe at home, the following are the things you should do as you start the college run.
(1) Mingle with new people and be social.
The college is not a place to be selective of who to meet and talk to or being too sensitive about people you meet on a daily basis.
When you fail to meet with new people and hang out when others are hanging out, you will have less options and less choices in your life in the college.
As a result, you will be always eager to get someone who will always be beside you or someone you can talk to, and that makes you look desperate, and you can break your current relationship because of that.
Why it will help you while in college.
As a man, when you are able to socialize and meet new female friends in the college, it makes new women find you interesting and fun to be with and as a result, many of them will want to date you, and when it happens, you see many girls showing interest in you. And while you are enjoying the attention you get from other women, you are also in consideration of your current girlfriend and you would not want to loose her out to another girl whom you don't know if she is going to last.
Also as a woman, socializing with other men and women out there will let you know more about them and you must surely get new suitors from all angles, so are you going to date all of them? The answer is no. So if you are already in a relationship you are dedicated to, you better stick to it rather than letting other men take away your joy.
(2) Only take good relationship advice from your new college friends.
If you are not careful of the kind of people you meet in the college, they can ruin your relationship with what they tell you or what they ask you to do.
You already know that there are many people in the college you have had bad experience from relationships they had in the past and there are those who are good in doing what others have successfully influenced them to start doing.
For example, if you have not started having sex, you might be desperate to start or even start it once you are into college.
But this all depends on the kind of people you listen to and what they do right in your face.
So once you know you are comfortable with your relationship style, stick to it and don't allow other new people to change your real self into another self people don't know about.
Also as a woman, you might start to be too expensive and demanding when you start college, and it depends on the kind of new female friends you meet.
So once you know what you want, who you are and see no problem with how you present yourself, then you don't need to listen to the call to be expensive because once you join the cue of those expensive babes in high school, that's when you start having problems with your boyfriend if he cant meet your demands, and you will probably start to look out for some other expensive guys out there.
If you are committed to your relationship now, then you will make sure that nothing invades in and destroy what you have been building for long.
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(3) Know the place of your lover in your heart.
You should be able to know that the new friends you meet in college are not meant to replace your old friends, and likewise your lover.
So you should know and have it in mind that you have made your promises of keeping the relationship and making it last forever, so allowing your new college friends and college life to change you is absolute cheating, and once you start cheating in a relationship, then you can never be good in keeping any relationship. And instead of you to be able to inspire someone for a better relationship, you will only be making people take bad decisions in their relationship career.
College life is sweet, and adorable only when you are able to choose the good side of the challenges, relationships in colleges don't last or go anywhere outside the college and that have been the reports in most of the cases.
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Also, the most common of all kind of relationship in college is those that involves lust, and not love. And once you start taking the lusty habit of college students, you will never make any good in your relationship life, nor your whole entire life.
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