Amazing!! See What Ladies Want From You On a First Date

I have seen a lot of guys making big and silly mistakes on a first date with a lady whom they like or when they are on an outing with their new catch.
One of the biggest thing that can kill your morale on a first date is over excitement.
So even if that lady is proving a hard to get syndrome or not, these little tips will help boast your chances of winning a woman's heart while on a date.

So these are What ladies want from you on a first date .

Note: Whenever am writing articles about finding love on a first date, I always emphasise on the type of personality you have, if you don't have a good personality, a lady will never come to even think of loving you even if you are handsome or whatever. So having a good personality sets you on the right part to practice these below tips.

1) Dress Smart And Cute.
You should ensure a proper dress code which will give that lady a feeling that you are smart and even cute, but then do not get over-dressed or even go to the extent of lending a cloth because you want to entice her and get her to like you more, don't do that.

2) Avoid a Bad Body Smell/Odour:-
When you apply a harsh body spray, or perfume, it will cause her great discomfort which is also a big turn off point because she will want to device an excuse to leave and find herself better comfort.

Also if you Actually Know you have a bad body smell, then try using a body spray that is not so harsh and which she can find comfortable so that you will not cause discomfort to her mood during conversation.

3) Never Talk About Your Past Relationship.
Many girls hate it when you talk about your past relationship while in conversation. And also some ladies will intentionally ask you about your past relationship so that they can know what will be your attitude towards them and your reaction even if they left you.

Well as a smart guy, it is wiser and better never to speak anything about your past relationship, you better say non of it but rather, say more about her and her positive attitude and also make her your priority at that moment. Say things that will impress her and make her have a feeling of belonging and also make her feel cared for.

4) Don't Talk About Your Family Status.
Well this one is common among the less matured guys out there, who like bringing in their family status, wealth e.t.c while discussing with a lady. This will reduce and lower your chances of getting her to like you and you know what that means, a big failure.

5) Avoid Taking Her To Un-conducive Places.
Places like the beer parlour is not conducive while on a date, she will not like it, also an unconducive eatery joint is not good on a date, a noisy environment will limit your conversation because both of you will definitely loose the focus and concentration you should have.

6) Don't Be Late On a Date.
Avoid being late when she request for an outing or when you have already made your plans and have a time set, taking her out to a place very late will cause murmuring and panicking.

7) Appreciate Her.
Always appreciate her for giving you her precious time and even creating out time just to spend the day or even the week with you even if things did not go well as you expected and wanted.

8) Send Her Lovely Messages.
The best time to send a lady lovely text is during the early morning hours and midnight hours. So at these periods in time, always send her lovely messages which suits the time and her mood. If she is sick, send her messages wishing her a quick recovery, if she is sad, send her messages that will put a smile on her face, when she is discouraged and stranded, send her messages that will uplift her and make her gain confidence in her self, if she is feeling like she is a no body, send her messages that will make her see and gain back her self worth.

Well with all these tips I have articulated, I see no reason why she would not want to be with you.

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How to know if you are dating a boy instead of a man

So for the ladies, am just dropping these hints for you in order to know and see if your guy is a boy or a real man.
Using a boy here does not mean a teenage, so am referring to someone who does not treat you right, respect you and take your feelings very serious and considerate. When your guy is a boy, you see him always acting like the world is revolving around him alone and feels he is in a world of his own.

On the contrary, a real man knows what is best for his lover, the love, care and respect is present and her emotions and feelings are properly contained.
So to enjoy your relationship at its best this year, here are the list of the easiest signs on..

How to know if you are dating a boy instead of a man

1) He Likes Testing You Constantly.
Because he is not even sure that you love him, so he does that to see and know from your reactions if you really love him. This can be dangerous sometimes because you can be emotionally high, so desist from such a guy who always like testing you.

2) He Is Not Reliable.
When your man is not always there when you need him, then the care is not there and you cannot be looking fine as the relationship goes. This kind of attitude clearly shows that you are rolling with a boy and not a man.

3) He is Selfish.
If he does things at his own interest and never cares about you in any way, then it's good you set your aims at the right direction because you aimed at the wrong guy you needed.

4) He Plays With Your Emotions
When he don't actually care how you feel when something is wrong, or when he does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, then he might end up dumping you someday because how you feel is not of interest to him.

5) He Has No Plans For His Future
When you try asking him his plans in the future, he just gives you an I don't know answer and tells you he has no future plans. Also you can clearly see that he is just living his life like someone filling an empty space in his life, so you should be careful not to fall deeply in love with such a man, lol, did I just say a man? No, he is just a boy.

6) He Still Lives With His Parents.
Well sometimes, guys who still live with their parents all the time do not know much about life and how it treats people because they are still under parental care and so, you will hardly find the qualities of a good man in such guys.

7) He Can't Hold Down a Job
He only likes moving around with friends, partying or sporting, he doesn't care about his financial and your financial needs and he even opt to drop a particular job he does when he feel like it is not comfortable to him.

8) He Gets High Too Often
When you make a little mistake that will not take even 30 seconds to resolve, he instead get high and shouts at you and maybe, he later calms down and you will still be the one to apologise, my dear you might look like a jerk to him who always make simple mistakes as he calls them.

9) Making You Jealous Intentionally
Maybe he likes moving around with female friends, if he usually does things that makes you jealous like holding another girls hand, hugging another girl, hanging out with other girls more than he does with you, and also saying things about other girls. Then chances are that he does not really take you as a potential partner. He is not a man, but a boy.

10) He believes Sex Is Medicine
He just believes that without him having sex with you, then, there is no need for your relationship and whenever he have problems, he just demands sex from you, as a solution to his problems. Now that is really bad.
{Also Read: How To Avoid Men Who Only Want Sex From You .}

So if your boyfriend possess any or even many of the traits listed and explained above, congratulations!! You are dating a boy.

But this is not good though, so I will advice you to watch him as he grows up, or better still you can quit the relationship and find yourself a real man.

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Wow!! See Advantages That Men Have In Dating Black Women

It is generally known that some men prefer dating black women over women who are fair in complexion, but the reason behind this is not yet known.
Some say black is beautiful and natural, some say black is original and from God. Lol, all this and all that, well that's by the way. Some also date black women because they come with plenty advantages which will not cause you too much stress as a guy.

Well here are five advantages men have in dating black ladies than dating fair ladies

1) Longer Date:
When dating a black lady, there are chances for a longer date than the fair ones. This is because they don't have that flashy nature that will attract men from any angle and make other men to like them, but because of the flashy nature of the skin of fair ladies, it makes them experience influx of guys any where they are and see different men trying to make friends with her both offline and online.

Now when that fair lady is having too much male friends, it will start affecting her relationship with her man because as time goes by, those guys will find a way to get their phone number and once they have it, they will find it friendly to call her always and even send her love messages both at day and in the middle of the night. If the boyfriend finds out about this, it will cause him to loose confidence in her and start being suspicious which might latter lead to their relationship dying off.
Now when you are dating a black lady, these challenges will not set in at all cost.

2) Financial Sense:
When it comes to body maintenance, black ladies are less expensive. The level of interest fair ladies have on their looks surpasses the interest they have on food they eat. A fair lady can choose to spend her last money on cosmetics and body items to make her look good and choose to leave their stomach empty. This is because the cosmetics they use are more expensive than the ones used by black ladies because of their skin nature. Most times we see many fair ladies who cannot look nice and presentable without applying a cream with a worth of N5,000 naira in the market while many of the black ladies would always be satisfied and even look fine and beautiful with their N100 naira vaseline.

So as a guy, you see that if you are dating a fair lady, both of you will have to share this particular financial burden even indirectly or directly because you must have already known her needs in this aspect.

3) Fear:
Because of the fair nature of your girlfriend, you see different guys out there showing her different kinds of love and affection all in the pretence of friendship, this will cause you insecurity and the fear of your love will always occupy your mind.

As a result of this, when she is not around and close to you, or when you could not reach her through the phone when you wanted or any other means, you start having those wrong thoughts beginning to flow on your mind especially when you know the rate at which many guys offer her invitations or promises.

Well that's one of the reason why your relationship with a fair lady will not last long. In black ladies and women, this also occurs, but at a very low rate.

4) Hardworking:
Black women are always suitable for work anywhere any time and the work they can do out-passed that of the fair women of our generation.

Many fair ladies cannot do any work under the sun because of the nature of their skin and they run from the sun complaining that it tells on their skins.
Because of this effect, anyone could say definately that black ladies are more hardworking than the fair ones.

5) Pride:
Fame is one of the reasons why many fair ladies have pride in them. Once she has male friends running after her in much numbers, she will instantly feel big as well.

The respect due for her man might be affected as a result of that pride which might lead to misunderstanding and eventual break up. Well you already know, this is not so common in black ladies.

So now before you make your choice of choosing a girlfriend, these are some of the things you should consider. You should go for the ones you know you can control and afford so as to avoid regrets in your relationship.

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How To Avoid Heartbreak In a Relationship

You actually know that not all relationships will lead to marriage.
Most relationships are for a reason and others are for a season, only few are for a life time.

Well don't go around shouting and crying because you had a bad relationship and a break up, if it doesn't work out for you, don't try to kill yourself because that relationship you had was actually for a reason which you must have learnt.

Now here are 11 Tips to avoid heartbreak in a relationship.

1) you should not get carried away with money or beauty, if the inner person in that individual cannot keep you, then even his/her money or beauty cannot keep you in any way.
2) Discover the purpose of the relationship and move on.
3) Don't ever give a man or a woman the totality of your heart, but first, give the totality of your heart to God. Just love that person but put God first always.

4) Love is not everything, don't forget other ingredients like understanding, wisdom, patience, tolerance, and compatibility which are very important in every relationship.

5) Avoid extreme jealousy as it is the quickest act that can trigger a break up.

In your relationship, you should never demand trust from your partner rather, trust should be earned, built or shown.

7) Your heart can easily get broken if the negative signs of the relationship are more than the positive signs, so you better withdraw earlier before its late as regrets set in.

8) Love, care and concern should be the focus of your relationship and not only focused on marriage at last.

9) Many people go to church/mosque but are not in touch with God, so don't go about marrying him/her because you saw him/her in a religious meeting.

10) God will give you only the man of your dream and not the man of your dreams, so if you keep dreaming always about someone, it is possible that he/she is just the man or woman of your dreams and not your dream. So attracting the right person involves you to just discover the purpose of that particular relationship.

With these quick tips, I tell you that you can avoid heartbreak in all your relationships, just put them into consideration and give them a try.

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Signs To Know That Your Relationship Is Over Or Should Be Over

Have you ever heard of this phrase " I miss your smile, but I miss mine more " ?
In this life, there are moments when you have to make the hardest break up decision. This is a moment when you finally give up and admit that your relationship isn't working, it is when you realise that those fantasies you have been wishing for are never going to be fulfilled.
This decision to break up comes not because you have failed, but because it didn't work and its finally time to end it.

So when is a break up something you must do? When do you decide that you love that person but you love yourself more?
Any person that has ever had a breakup will always tell you that "He/she knew long before it ended, that its going to be over. So at this point where you already know that your relationship can't work out any longer, then that is the place where you have to do it. And one of the markers of this point in time when a breakup is necessary is when you have the sensation of " I miss your smile, but I miss mine more ".

Well before you go on a breakup and end that relationship, choose to honour yourself and your intuition. A lot of excuses and settling for less has already been done more than you deserve and you should delay any longer. But if you find it hard looking for reason to breakup or knowing it when that person is no more in love with you, then here are.. signs to know that your relationship is over or should be.

1) You start making excuses for him/her.

2) You feel like what you are getting from him/her is less than what you deserve.

3) You stop wanting to be your best self.

4) You stop putting energy in your appearance ( i.e makeup, shaving e.t.c), and it is not because you feel comfortable, but just because you don't care and feel anymore.

5) You stop wanting to touch him/her.

6. You start giving excuses to why you can't have sex or kiss at that moment he/she wanted.

7. Everything and everyone else starts to be more important to you than spending time with him/her.

Toxic relationships can be completely debilitating. They can bring down your career, force a wedge between your friendships and even destroy you completely, what you deserve, who you are and your ability to take care of yourself will no more be relevant to you.
You may be thinking and convincing yourself that the relationship is not that bad, so why would you want to break up? Well let me ask you: Why do you feel so awful, alone, insecure, scared, worthless, stupid or small?
You have to know that a healthy relationship will never make you feel that way. When you get into an unhealthy relationship, you feel that it isn't serving you, its just hurting you, your ego is non existent, and you just feel you are a different version of yourself when you are with him/her. You feel like you have two personalities. (1) The strong and fun person who your friends and family see, and (2) The half person who your friends and others cuts you down to be .

In all these challenges, you have to be the one to make a decision as a choice to step out and move on.
Though its not an easy one, but if you really want to find true and real love, you have no other choice than to move on.

Now after you have made your choice, you have to take the steps to follow through without severe pain and sorrows of the past. That step is the means of removing yourself from the triggers that always tempt you to go back. After that, you have to Reset, Rebound and find Love in yourself first, then you will also find someone who is more better and more interesting to you.

A break up, a divorce, loosing a job or even feeling seriously down can actually ground you and rough you up a bit, but all these happenings drops you a lesson which will make you stronger and wiser in the next adventure.
Life is about experiencing the both side of it which are the Good and the Bad sides.

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