The influence your friends can have in your relationship life

I believe you are all familiar with this term known as peer pressure and how it works in destroying the lives of many men and women today.

Since from the beginning of creation, this peer influence has been in great display and has always led its victims towards doing the wrong things in this life. Its always good to have and be among your peers in the social world of today but then, choosing to do things in ones way have been ruled out and and replaced with peer influence which does not do one any favour in his/her life.

The direction this article is taking today is based on how peer groups can bring pressure into ones relationship and dating life which in turn, causes that individual to make the most stupid and wrong choices ever.

Not every peer influence on this aspect has a bad influence and bad conditions to it, many are good and very right for an individual to use to his advantage, while the others can be self-destructive and shameful at the end.

So in every relationship today, there are certain situations in which peer pressures can land you into taking wrong decisions and also doing what is actually wrong but, thinking that you are doing the right thing.
Lets talk about some of the bad peer influence which are based on relationships and possible ways to make sure that you don't fall into them.

Getting a beautiful/handsome partner for the course of your relationship.
This is one great aspect where you see a lot of peer groups and social groups giving same and exact definition to the kind of person they want you to engage with.

For the women, when they have a friend who wants to find a man for herself, they are fond of asking her to look for a handsome man with fine looks, tall or slim, fair or dark, etc.
They always tend to forget that a good man do not always appear in such forms and so, it is not always the best.

Fortunately for such women, they yield into such kinds of advice and peer influence and then, they find a very handsome man with all the qualities listed by her friends.
But unfortunately for such women, when the relationship has started and both parties are now engaged, they see the other sides of that man they have chosen.

Maybe it was unknown to her that the man is a womanizer, a smoker, drug addict, cultist, or any thing of such kind, and once they find out, it might just be too late to draw back because many things have been done which can never be undone.

Also for the men, its also the same situation many are facing. When you have chosen a lady to be with and the lady is not so attractive with all the qualities your friends want, they refuse to accept her in their midst and be a friend to the lover of their friend.
This act always discourages you entirely and perhaps, they must say a little and ask you to change and look for a better woman, this will now entice you to find a very beautiful woman with almost everything your friends need.

But her bad sides and the inner image in her might be hidden and unknown to you, and once the relationship have started, you see them change into something else which can cause you a lot of troubles and regrets.

She might turn out to be too expensive, likes to cheat and even have so many other lovers aside you, that's not a definition to the perfect love life you have always needed.

So when this kind of peer pressure sets in at the verge of your decisions making, the best companion you have is your heart. You should follow the good intentions in your heart and never minding what friends will say to you.
If your goal has always been to find a loving and a caring partner who will be honest and without considering each others looks, then you must follow your heart and do what is right for you.

When your friends see how both of you are relating and how you have been your best the whole time in the relationship, they will learn to accept your choices and move along with you because that is the only option they have and they will learn to embrace your choices.

Influence based on your sexual life.
This is also one of the aspects where peers have great influence in ones life.
For the men, they tend to influence their friends to engaging their lover with sexual intimacy.

In the men's aspect, many men receive peer influence from their friends stating to them that if their wife/girlfriend cant allow them have $ex, then they don't truly love them and so, to know if they truly have love for them, they demand sex from them.

Also, it can be for sexual pleasures, where your friends will put on great pressure on you about being the odd one among them and not been able to experience and experiment.
Because of that, a lot of men tend to fall for the games and engage their partners with sexual activities which they might not turn out to like or enjoy.

As a result, they face many damages in them and great regrets about what they have done, this is not a good situation in any relationship.
Sex is not an act that qualifies for true love, it can be destructive and of great self limitation for the woman and in a community where it is not accepted by all, it is always advisable not to fall for the act.

Dating the rich guy.
This influence is mainly categorised for the ladies where their friends will always pester them to date a rich guy who owns a nice luxury, a nice car and can take them anywhere they want.

This works well with the ladies and many of them do yield to such influences, but when the relationship starts to extend, it normally starts going astray.

When you just find a man and you are just concerned with the money, luxuries and friendly advantages based on his riches, he will later find out and once he does, he will gradually change. Later on, he will actually end the relationship and find a better woman to love him without looking at his wealth status.

These are some of those peer influence which you must desist from if you really want to live a better and a happier relationship life. Don't allow your friends to come in as a third party between you and your lover.
Its always a good choice following your own heart, and when friends come with good influence, embrace and use them, but when bad peer influence is seen in display, you must try every possible best to differentiate your heart from your friends and then, choose to follow your heart.

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What to do when your man likes being with other women every time

This is a common situation faced by many women who go into relationships today without considering every necessary factor that would tell if their man is a potential lover to them or just a player.

Many times, i meet with lots of women who always cry out loud for the fact that their man have been cheating on them.
And each time i hear them complain, i fall short of words to encourage and advice them on the next step they should take when their man don't want to play along with them.

But today in this article, you will learn about all the Relationship tips for women and the necessary things you must do when you actually know that your man does not like to be with a single woman.
So now, here are some insights to help you pass this level in your relationship and also, know about the best ways to handle such boyfriend's attitude.

Sometimes, you might just be dating without knowing the reason why you are dating, and because of that, you fail to understand every incident that makes it necessary for you to call on your lover and let him know how you feel about certain things he do with other women out there.

Define what you want from a man in your relationship.
Before you dash into a relationship, this is one of the things that you must make a priority to check on before you start going deep in the relationship.
What kind of a man would you want to be involved with? And what are the characters he must possess before he becomes qualified to be my lover.
If you don't check on the personality of that person, you might end up involving in a relationship with a man who is said to be a womanizer.

You might just see a man, looking so fresh and kush, with the brightest smile ever, and then you think to your self and you be like "wow!! This is just the kind of a man i want to be with".
Now at this point, the looks of that man have made you to be deceived into thinking you have gotten the perfect man.

When looking for a man who would not cheat or enjoy the company of other girls than with you, then the looks should not be a factor for involving in a relationship with such kind of a man. The thing you should watch out for is the character and the behaviour of that individual whom you want to involve with.

But the problem here is that, you have failed to define what you want from that man, and now he is cheating or just enjoys being together with other women.
So the only solution tip you have here is to call him to your attention and let him know how you feel about his actions and how they get you sad all the time, then you must not forget to advice him about the things he should do if he is willing to continue with you and get the relationship going.

Are you willing and ready to continue with a man who likes other girls too?
Now this can mean two things at the same point. It can mean that your man does not like dating only one girl, or that your man loves only you, but likes associating with other women too.

This situation can be a very had one for we the ladies because of many things we feel inside us. When our man is busy out there with other ladies, while we stay at home craving for their attention to us, it gives us lot of unrest because of the feeling of insecurity inside us.
So as women, this does not comfort us and we always feel lots of pain when this situation is prevalent in our relationship.

But if reversed is the case, and it happened that your man does not have only one girl, then the choice of the relationship is in your hands.
Will you now agree to continue in the relationship when you already know that you are not the only one he loves? Or you are going to just end it right there?

Play along if you want to return the favour.
Okay now, its crystal clear that your man is double dating, so should you just watch him while he cheats or you should return the favour?

Sometimes this is a nice option and a solution towards dealing with the grief and sadness that you feel inside you whenever he refuses to pay attention to you or have time for you either.
If you think its not yet time to let go of the relationship, then just bump up and start something too, start hanging out with many of your male friends and then, pick just one out of them as an alternative  and start rolling with him.

Once you have successfully kicked off the game of favours, every pain, grief and sorrow you always felt with gradually go and you will find reasons to also be happy.

Let your man him be.
Now after you have completed the step above, you should not be like one seeking for attention from someone who is not clearly interested in you.

So to achieve this aim, stop calling or texting him frequently, don't even do it at all, just give it a break and allow your new alternative man to enjoy the time been.
Once you do that, you can be able to determine if he still wants to be with you or if he was just done with your companionship.
If after you stop texting or calling him, he did not care to call and check on why you have been out of reach for d long time, then it means that he is done with you and has already moved on. But if he shows care and love after you took a break from reaching out to him, then chances are that he still cares and want to be with you.

But don't just relax at this point because this is the point where you have every opportunity to know what he actually feel for you and what he wants from you.
So you should now throw questions at him about the happenings between the both of you and then, read out your terms for the relationship and know if he is ready to comply with you and drop his old ways.

Relationships based on benefits from sexual intimacy.
This is also another pin point which many women fail to learn and understand in their relationship cycles.
There are many men who would just want to come into your life for the purpose of $ex and after that, it ends there.

Once those men succeed in having $ex with you, you see them starting to show certain strange behaviours which explains one fact that you are no more relevant in their lives.

When you already know that a man have already taken advantage of your body and after that, he starts showing certain strange behaviours, then the best option you have is to find a different man who will love you unconditionally.

These are just a few relationship tips for women tips which we know will be of help to you while facing such type of a relationship setback. We will be back to update you with more. Stay with us.

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Reasons why physical attractiveness counts no more in relationships

So you just see yourself as someone good looking, very beautiful/handsome and has everything anyone could want from a partner but yet, you are single, and you just keep imagining why.

In today's life, many people who go into relationships do not actually care about the physical looks, attractiveness and fitness of the individual they want to get entangled with.
There are many people today who are selective and those who are not, some go for the natural selection technique where they can find someone to fit in their gene and get the desired offspring they want.

But it does not count anymore, many people are smarter and more better than their gene today, and that makes it the reason why looks do no count anymore.
In those days, they often term beautiful women as well behaved, caring and intelligent, but in todays world, the story is known to have changed.

So what do people need in relationships today?

There are many factors people consider before they get into relationships today, and these factors they consider are mainly attributes and characters that are attached to them which makes other people to admire them.

Maturity.
This is one of the factor that people tend to check on before picking a partner to dive into the relationship world with.
So now you are beautiful, handsome and physically attractive but then, this character is found to be missing in you, how do you think someone will want to be with someone who is childish in behaviour and have no sense of maturity at all?

So you see that without this factor, you have a deficiency in getting a life partner.
Thats why your attractiveness does not count here in getting a life partner or just getting into a relationship.

Decency.
Another factor that people consider in finding relationship matches.
When a beautiful and handsome individual is known to lack decency in him/her and just live a life that has no shape of decency and smartness, am sure no one would like to go and make a bid for such kind of a person.

As a beautiful woman, a man would want you to be matured and after that, then comes decency, this is a sure bet for a man to get you into his heart. No man wants to be with a woman who does not know how to talk and also know the right words to use while communicating with others, thats dirtiness in other words, and that would make any man run out of your way.

Caring and loving.
As it is known in those days, beautiful women are the most well behaved, loving and caring ones because of their fine nature and what their parents teach them towards being beautiful, caring and loving, those are characters everyone will want in a woman.

But today, no one cares about the societal norms which are deemed as right prospectives for anyone to be in a relationship. Many just live their life the way they want and do not even care about those who loves them.

Though a woman/man can profess that they love someone, but then fails in their duty to show them love and care, no one will want to be with such kind of a person no matter how beautiful or handsome.

Some months ago, i read a novel about how a woman wanted a man who is well muscled, stubborn and aggressive, a man who will always be out and working towards bringing food and shelter to the family, and also fight to protect the family from other people. But today, how many women will want that?

Now for the man, thats why your muscular and agressive nature will not make a woman to be attracted to you for those reasons.
In todays world, both the women and men are seen all out to places of work twenty four hours in the whole week without thinking about any thing of such nature. So in this situation, what those people would want is just a loving and caring man or woman who can provide rest of mind and comfort for each other.

Sexual selection.
People today are more alike than being diferent, and that is where sexual selection works well.
Many times, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and so, go for those with their type of gene because they believe they would enjoy every benefit in what they choose to do. People do make choices based on their own interest and so, choosing someone more like them makes the reinforces their choice.

Also for some reasons which are seen as silly, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and that makes it a choice for them choosing those like them.
You might be doing something with a beautiful woman and if you are ugly, you feel uncomfortable, but while doing that same thing with someone ugly like you are, you feel comfortable and good, and that is same with the beautiful ones.

Also for sexual reason, an ugly woman with fine shape and very expensive sexual organs has the tendency to be selected when compared to a beautiful woman with little shape and weary sensual organs.

Natural selection.
When you are looking for someone to carry on the legacy based on your behaviors, when you want someone to be a good parent like you, thats when you talk about natural selection.

Now in this aspect, looking for a beautiful woman will not work towards achieving those goals. If someone would want an individual who would be reproductive and give many offsring to your generation, then looking for a beautiful woman might not be the case and that is why being beautiful or handsome does not count anymore.

The beauty and handsomeness would be in vain if that individual cannot reproduce and multiply your generation.

Relationships today are about survival, they are about the ability to survive every step in this life and be successful, beauty does not count any more.

So you just see yourself as someone good looking, very beautiful/handsome and has everything anyone could want from a partner but yet, you are single, and you just keep imagining why.

In today's life, many people who go into relationships do not actually care about the physical looks, attractiveness and fitness of the individual they want to get entangled with.
There are many people today who are selective and those who are not, some go for the natural selection technique where they can find someone to fit in their gene and get the desired offspring they want.

But it does not count anymore, many people are smarter and more better than their gene today, and that makes it the reason why looks do no count anymore.
In those days, they often term beautiful women as well behaved, caring and intelligent, but in today's world, the story is known to have changed.

So what do people need in relationships today?

There are many factors people consider before they get into relationships today, and these factors they consider are mainly attributes and characters that are attached to them which makes other people to admire them.

Maturity.
This is one of the factor that people tend to check on before picking a partner to dive into the relationship world with.
So now you are beautiful, handsome and physically attractive but then, this character is found to be missing in you, how do you think someone will want to be with someone who is childish in behaviour and have no sense of maturity at all?

So you see that without this factor, you have a deficiency in getting a life partner.
That's why your attractiveness does not count here in getting a life partner or just getting into a relationship.

Decency.
Another factor that people consider in finding relationship matches.
When a beautiful and handsome individual is known to lack decency in him/her and just live a life that has no shape of decency and smartness, am sure no one would like to go and make a bid for such kind of a person.

As a beautiful woman, a man would want you to be matured and after that, then comes decency, this is a sure bet for a man to get you into his heart. No man wants to be with a woman who does not know how to talk and also know the right words to use while communicating with others, that's dirtiness in other words, and that would make any man run out of your way.

Caring and loving.
As it is known in those days, beautiful women are the most well behaved, loving and caring ones because of their fine nature and what their parents teach them towards being beautiful, caring and loving, those are characters everyone will want in a woman.

But today, no one cares about the societal norms which are deemed as right prospectives for anyone to be in a relationship. Many just live their life the way they want and do not even care about those who loves them.

Though a woman/man can profess that they love someone, but then fails in their duty to show them love and care, no one will want to be with such kind of a person no matter how beautiful or handsome.

Some months ago, i read a novel about how a woman wanted a man who is well muscled, stubborn and aggressive, a man who will always be out and working towards bringing food and shelter to the family, and also fight to protect the family from other people. But today, how many women will want that?

Now for the man, that's why your muscular and aggressive nature will not make a woman to be attracted to you for those reasons.
In today's world, both the women and men are seen all out to places of work twenty four hours in the whole week without thinking about any thing of such nature. So in this situation, what those people would want is just a loving and caring man or woman who can provide rest of mind and comfort for each other.

Sexual selection.
People today are more alike than being different, and that is where sexual selection works well.
Many times, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and so, go for those with their type of gene because they believe they would enjoy every benefit in what they choose to do. People do make choices based on their own interest and so, choosing someone more like them makes the reinforces their choice.

Also for some reasons which are seen as silly, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and that makes it a choice for them choosing those like them.
You might be doing something with a beautiful woman and if you are ugly, you feel uncomfortable, but while doing that same thing with someone ugly like you are, you feel comfortable and good, and that is same with the beautiful ones.

Also for sexual reason, an ugly woman with fine shape and very expensive sexual organs has the tendency to be selected when compared to a beautiful woman with little shape and weary sensual organs.

Natural selection.
When you are looking for someone to carry on the legacy based on your behaviors, when you want someone to be a good parent like you, that's when you talk about natural selection.

Now in this aspect, looking for a beautiful woman will not work towards achieving those goals. If someone would want an individual who would be reproductive and give many offspring to your generation, then looking for a beautiful woman might not be the case and that is why being beautiful or handsome does not count anymore.

The beauty and handsomeness would be in vain if that individual cannot reproduce and multiply your generation.

Relationships today are about survival, they are about the ability to survive every step in this life and be successful, beauty does not count any more.

Beauty does not qualify for fitness and as a matter of fact, not everyone wants a beautiful or a handsome partner to roll with, and that is why the two qualities are not equal.
Someone can be said to be beautiful/handsome, but not fit both in morals, character and internal qualities.

So with all these explanations, i believe that you will find it helpful in finding a very compatible partner and not just a partner for attractiveness.

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Read how to maintain a long distance relationship without breaking your trust

Long distance relationships have been seen making waves in recent times due to the instability of people and the nature of their works. Its now seen clearly that most people now moves from one location to another because of work and other factors and as result, long distance relationships have been promoted in the recent times.

But many people who engage in such kinds of relationship seems to find it hard coping with the many disadvantages as it seems to them but not really disadvantages. Like in terms of seeing each other everyday, holding and cuddling each other and sharing of their emotions being together.

Some also find it hard keeping to their vows as they might not be able to see their partners every time of the week or the month. Some only see their partners twice in a month or even 3 times in a year, so you can see how challenging and difficult it is keeping up to the task. For some people, they find it comfortable at the beginning but they often run out of patience at the latter days of the relationship.

That's not supposed to be, I assume that before you go into LDR's, you must have known about what sacrifice you are going to make and what conditions to face and the tasks also ahead of you. So this kind of relationships are not always easy as it seems, the only thing of note for you in such relationships is the happy moments you share when you were together, and the trust both of you share, knowing that your partner does not hold any thing back from you, neither does your partner cheats on you.

In long distance relationships, its all about the philosophy, and not the distance, its the feeling of that love and the single sense of belonging, and also that magical feeling of trust, that's what mostly characterize a LDR going in good condition, but when these items are not present, then the relationship is at stake and a little shake can blow off the relationship into non-existence.

So here are some little tips that will help you maintain your stands and ground your long distance relationship into a type of relationship that you can term to be short and full of excitement.

Improve And Increase The Level Of Communication Between Both Of You.
This is the first step towards achieving a goal like this in long distance relationships. Without proper communication, you can break down and your partner can break down too. It does not really mean calling him or calling her every single hour of the day, no, that's not what it means to maintain proper communication.

When you know you have only a single chance to call your partner in the whole day, then you must pick that time up, and contact her, and you must make sure your call is not short and precise, let your partner know that yes you are interested in him/her and he or she is worth spending time for, get the call going for a long time, and discuss about the most important things, discuss and share your problems, get some jokes for both of you to laugh and feel happy, it always count. When you do such a thing, your partner will add more trust in you and believe that you care about his or her feelings.

Today, the world have spread into different dimensions through social networking, and today, you can find a lot of mediums through which you can communicate with your partner almost every time without stress. You can use social networks where you can even video chat and see each other speaking from each end. It must be fun if you can venture into such social arena's like facebook, twitter, whatsapp, skype, google hangout, etc.

But this is not always fun, it might get boring at some points and that is why you need to try other avenues for this purpose.

So improving your communication level sets you free from fears and complications, you will always be rest assured that your partner still loves you and is still willing to play along the relationship line.

Grow The Trust Between You And Your Partner.
This is the first step towards maintaining and having a long lasting long distance relationship. This is an important factor which will tell how long both of you can stay in that relationship.
So how far have you gone in trusting your partner? When you know he or she is miles away from you, when you don't have knowledge as to what he/she is doing at the closet, or in the open, when you don't even have any body to watch their actions and tell you about their moves and what they are doing, when all these things are unknown to you, how far have you gone to trust him/her?

Now it depends on you, and what you do towards ensuring that they are a trustworthy partner. You can know if your partner can be trustworthy when both of you are communicating to each other. The way your partner responds to you and what she tells you she feel about the relationship. Also when your partner is always interested in speaking with you and always eager to see you any time any where without restrictions, then trust can be seen present.

Grow your interests and do things that will let you grow personally
Now you have to get something doing, something that will ease you of the stress of thinking about your partner every time. You must also do things in her own interest and achieve goals that will better the tomorrow in your relationship.

Maybe advancing your career life, finding a better job or involving in activities that will give you good and sound memories about your partner without having that boredom feeling of them not being able to be together with you at that point in time.

While doing this, you must not forget to plan with your partner about the days and moments you will be seeing each other. Its vital towards ensuring that your partner keeps a check on the day that both of you will be seeing each other.

Live a happy life, enjoy with family and friends and ensure you don't feel bored most times because it gives you that sad thought about your partner and leaves you in a bad mood and shape.

Arguments are not good at all in LDR's , and you must do everything possible to avoid it, what are you arguing for by the way? So it's not always a good time to argue while in a long distance relationship.

Avoid being jealous.
This is one of the biggest challenge faced by people who engage in long distance relationships. So to avoid this, you must try to create a honest and trustworthy bond between you and your partner, not giving ears to rumors you hear about your partner because when you allow a third party into the relationship, then you will be left will suspicions everyday because there must always be a report which you don't actually know if it is true or false.

Always exercise patience.
Don't get easily upset or angry when you can't hear from your partner or when things go the way that does not favour you. Accept all the excuses and reasons for failure in any plan that did not turn out to go well. Your patience is what will keep the relationship going and if both of you have that love for each other, then I don't think any one will draw back from the other. So what will be the product to all these? A happy ending of course.

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What you should do when your girlfriend is having a crush on another guy

This is really a deciding situation because at this point in time, you find it hard figuring it out if she is ready to move on with you or her crush is taking over and replacing your place in her heart.

It is always troubling, uncomfortable and can make you angry when your girlfriend can't just tell that her crush that she is in a relationship. It makes you carry that burden of love inside you and makes you want to fix things to go the right way, well its time to talk some senses in to your head and her head too.

So what should I do when my girlfriend is having a huge crush on another guy?

The most alarming part of this situation is the fact that she don't want to tell her crush that she is in a relationship, and she even goes out to hang out with him not minding she is in a relationship, that's not fair at all, this will surely make any guy uncomfortable, heartbroken and love weakened. Why can't she just tell that guy she is already with another man? Or why can't she just stop hanging out with him?. Now is the time to act and compete your love for her.

Talk To Her About It.
You first need to talk to her about what she is doing, how it breaks you down and how it causes you discomfort. Though she have had feelings for him in the past, but you should let her know her place in your heart and how you see and take her. Let her see how dedicated you are to your relationship with her and how you would do everything possible to keep and secure her.

But you can only do this if you truly love, if there is true love between both of you, then you should be able to sit her down and talk about what is going on between both of you. Is the love still there or it is gradually fading away? You need to know everything going on in her heart so that you can know the next step to take.

Ask Her What She Really Want.
You should ask her about what it is that she actually want. Do she want to be with you or she want to start dating him? You deserve to know because you are the man and you control her heart, at this moment, you will be able to find out what she really wants. Ask her what's that potential quality in him that makes her want to always hang out with him, is he so special than you are and better than you are? You need to know.

You need to get her make a choice to who she really want, do she think he is of interest of getting into a relationship with her, or do she think he is as good as knows him before? You need to throw in those questions so that she can be sure of what she needs and not leading him on while she is causing her main man discomfort.

So when you do that, you get her to make a choice sooner, and if she gives you a straight answer to your question, then trust her, that's what she wants, but if she replies you with an answer which shows she is not ready to make a choice, like "I don't know", then its not a good time for you to continue that relationship. Let her be and let her complete her choice of who she really want. Once she gives you such an answer, you might also want to know if she is committed to your relationship. That leads you to the next step of what you should do.

Ask Her If She Is Committed To Your Relationship. When a woman is committed to a relationship, she does everything at her best to protect that relationship and the interest in the relationship. A girl who is committed to you will not rush into any guy who shows up interest on her and leaves you just to wonder about what is happening, giving you that kind of an expression that explains what the deal will be if she hangs out with that other guy, its pretty bad.

So you must learn and know if she is actually committed to the relationship, or she actually does not want the relationship to be exclusive any more. Well if that's what she want, and it causes you discomfort, and she already knows how you feel about it, then it's not a good time to stay in the relationship, you have to fight your way out despite the fact that you still love her, you know what it means to her? It means she does not care about you anymore, how you feel, and the way you will react, all does not matter to her anymore and you don't have any more value to her.

That's her own meaning for the relationship between both of you if she says she is not dedicated to the relationship, so you should just get out of the relationship because both of you can't be together forever if one of you still have a leg and an eye outside the relationship for another person.

Show Her How Much You Love Her
Now at this moment when you know it's complicated, and you feel like she is actually going for the other guy, if she truly loves you and you truly love her, then you have the right to stop her from going to any other guy. But you can't say what she really want now because it's known to you that she has been a side chick to another guy. This can be the time for you to dive into some competitions for your love and the girl you love, show her why you are better with her and why she is better with you, and know what interests her in the other guy which you have seen her hanging around with.

After you know you have showed her much love, then the next thing for you to do is to let her make her decisions by herself.

Let Her Alone To Decide
Sometimes, you have to let her be when it's hard for her to talk or when she don't want to decide. Letting her alone will let her make decisions which seems right to her. And you don't need to talk some senses into her at most cases because she might feel that you are attacking her and giving her that guilty conscience which will make her to even do more of what pleases her. But the moment you just let her be, then all the decisions is her's to make.

If she finally comes back to you and profess that you are the one she choose, then you have won it not because you tried to talk some sense into her, but because of her true feelings for you.

She Is A Cheater
If she probably don't want to make any decisions, then she is a cheater, and you deserve better than that. Since when did women start using men as air bags accustomed for some wounds? You are not a material she can use and throw away, and she actually does not love you, she just want to use you as an option, and in every relationship built on love, there is no IF condition attached to it. So you just need to walk out of her.

Your relationship should not suffer or even end just because she goes out to meet another guy outside the relationship, but if your relationship starts shaking because of that, then she is not meant for you and the best thing you can do to help yourself is to walk out of the relationship, move on and find another woman who would probably love, respect and show you a lot of commitment in your new relationship.

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When love gets confusing - What to do if he/she loves you but acts weird and strange sometimes

Men and women generally have been known for their strange behaviours sometimes in a relationship, but these strange behaviours does not have the same meaning in every man or woman, it takes different forms and meanings as to why they act in such a strange ways.

As a woman/man, you know when a guy or a woman truly loves you, and you know when a they starts to loose interest in you. And here comes this situation where you know that yes, they really loves you and will not do any thing to hurt you, but then sometimes, they just acts strange like they are not even interested in you, and if you are such type who easily gets shaken with a little challenge in your relationship, you start having nightmares as to what is happening and you grow suspicion in your relationship.

It's not a good time to get confused and frustrated when ever you see such things going on in your relationship. It does not mean that your partner is starting to loose interest in you. Your partner is well interested in you, in every relationship in existence today, there are moments when the man or the women suddenly acts weird and strange for no reason and later comes back to his or her normal senses in the relationship.

It has happened to me once or so, and it happened this way.
I went to see my girlfriend at her home, and before I left to go and meet her, I already informed her that I was coming and she was so happy, then I came. When i was approaching the house, I called her and told her i have already arrived and am approaching her home, she said okay and she never told me anything else. To me it was unusual, because the other times, whenever I told her am at her gate, she would run out, approach me and give me a hug, or a kiss, or even if she does not do any of that, she will probably come to welcome me and then walk me down to the parlor or into her room.

So it was a strange incident to me, I had to now walk into the house alone and when I entered the parlor, everyone was around, her dad, her mom, her sisters and brothers, although I already know them all and they know me too, but it was so strange to me and I was so shy. She was not even in the parlor, she was inside her room, so I decided to wait and see what she was upto.

We were in the parlor talking and chatting with everyone when she came with a glass of water and another bottled drink of a sort and kept them in front of me. Then no more word, she just went inside again and came out with some snacks in a plate, it wasn't for me, she went to the back seats in the parlor and sat down, I was wondering what was happening, she never talked to me as it used to happen before, then I just decided to watch her do her thing her own way.

Then almost everyone was out of the parlor in a short time because it's already night, I was left in the parlor with two of her sisters watching a movie. Then I decided to turn at my back and see what she was doing, immediately I looked back, our eyes meet and to my surprise, she gave me such a look that explains things like " why are you looking at me", "what an ugly face you have there, stop looking at me", "why are you looking at me? You are pissing me off", "am not interested in talking, don't look at me". Those are the explanations to the kind of look she gave me whining and rolling her eye balls from left to right, then up and down.

I felt a little angry, and embarrased of course, why will my girlfriend do such a thing? Oh maybe something was wrong, I need to find out, but how? She is not even interested in talking.

The first thing I did after what she did was to tell her sisters am going and I bounced out of the house angrily and with much curiousity as to why she did such a thing.

So what happened after that and how did I handle that situation? Am going to tell you while we talk about the subject matter.

So as a woman, you might have a similar case as mine or another case totally different from that, but I think it all explains the same situation, which is "Acting Strange and weird" all for no reasons. So this happens most times in every relationship. But there is no cause for alarm, you don't have to disturb yourself. Just consider the followwing things in order to handle such situations in your relationship.

Think of any previous incident that made your partner angry.
Now when your partner is now acting strange, you have to think if there was any previous incident between the both of you that made him/her angry and so, caused the strange attitude being portrayed.
So when you know something happened previously in the past, then you know that's the reason why he or she is acting strange.

All you need to do is to stop worrying and call your partner, then solve your problems and differences, if it requires you to appologise, then do it and get your relationship going.

Ask your part the reason behind the strange behaviour
Like in my own situation, it happened that she understood that I was angry about the fact she abandoned me and gave me a confusing look, and when I left the house and almost out of the gate, i saw her running towards me and was asking me to wait. I waited and she approached me, she asked me why I left, and asked me if I was angry or what. Then I replied her with a big "YES, I was angry because of what you did, for the fact that you did not even care to give me attention like you use to do before and also gave me such a confusing look, why do you have to do that? What is wrong with you, us? Have i done anything wrong? Please tell me, do you still love me and want to be with me?"

Those are just the questions I asked her and she replied them one after the other, to my surprise, she had no reason for acting the way she did, and she just asked me to forgive her that it's not going to happen again, and that yes, she still love me like those times we started dating.

Now after that, I was very much calm and understood that it was not her intention to act the way she did, maybe nature just decided to take over her and she could not help the situation, and having heard from her, I had no doubt in me that everything was fine and it was just a mere strange act.

So now, if you already know that there was no past incident which would have caused his/her strange act, then you should call him/her and calmly ask why he/she is acting in such a strange and weird way. Now this is not a time to fight, so while doing this, try to stay calm, focus on what they have to tell you and try to understand what they say.

The reason why your partner is acting strange might be maybe because they are going through a hard situation which they find hard to cope with or handle and as a result, you see such things reflecting your relationship and causing some changes.
So you should not judge your partner straight away, give your partner time and if he/she truly loves you, they will surely clear your minds and tell you that everything is alright just to make sure you put on a beautiful smile on your face once again.

Now when you have done all that and unfortunately, your partner refuse to answer to your questions or explain what is happening to you, then you know something is wrong, and the only thing you should do here is to give them space and time, and just keep yourself happy without caring about them. If they are ready to move along with you and make you happy again, then you will see that they come back to you and tell you everything you have to know.

Just love yourself for who you are and keep on smiling to those problems, you should just stop worrying and move on, if you were meant to continue and be together, your partner will surely come back to meet you were he/she left you.

So use these tips and I assure you that you will be a pro in handing such matters when they arise in any relationship you engage in.

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How to overcome shyness when talking to a new girl you just meet

Most times, I see a lot of guys being unable to speak out to a girl they newly meet, and it has been always hard for them breaking the ice with a new girl.

Most times, its this nervous feeling about where to start the talking and all these and that, and also maybe you think she is above your standards and so, she might not cooperate. It does not really matter who you are talking to, but what matters most is your ability to openly express your self and make friends with such girl without irritating her.

For example, you don't just see a girl walking down the road and heading somewhere else, then you just walk up to her, interrupted her walk and then try making a conversation at that spot, its really irritating for some girls. And also you as a shy guy, I don't really think you can do that, and if you try doing it, it will be really irritating because you can't freely express yourself, rather she will think you are up to her for another thing, like a dating matter or something of that sort.

With these little tips on How To Overcome Shyness When Talking To A New Girl You Just Meet , I hope you will not find any more problem communicating to a new girl.

1) Meet Her At The Right Spot.
You don't just meet a girl at any spot and start talking, the kind of place you meet a girl will show if you can talk to her at that moment or not. So you must find a suitable place where you know you will not feel shy talking to her. If you know a particular place where she like turning up to every time, or a place she always go to make herself happy. You can meet her at any of those places and talk to her, I believe you will not feel shy talking to her at any of these points because it is always fun, don't try meeting her at a crowded joint or a joint where all eyes are just on you as soon as you want to talk to the lady, it will make you to feel more shy.

Remember Their Names.
Maybe You have already meet her somewhere and you know her name, but you have not meet officially, now is the time to make use of that advantage and break the ice, try remembering their names before you try to start talking, you will not feel that shy as to where to even start because by calling out her name, she already know you meet her before and starting a new conversation will not be any thing so hard.

Introduce Yourself .
Now This is a simple part, after you try remembering her name, you just start something small like introducing yourself and trying to know more about her, make sure you are at ease while doing such. But if you can't remember her name, then you can make her feel at ease before much talking by being humorous, find a better way of asking her for her name without making her feel upset. For example, "oh,, hardly remember your name, don't be upset if I ask you again". Now this is gentle and humorous and will not make her feel any discomfort, rather it will put her at ease.

Listen More Than You Talk .
This is another good way of overcoming shyness while speaking to a woman either new or a friend. Don't be the one trying hard to do all the talking because you will feel so nervous at a certain point and you get that feeling like your bones are going to break at that moment. So you can try to avoid this by giving her questions that requires much expansion and explanation, don't ask her questions that will be replied with a Yes or No answer. When you try hard to do the whole talking, she can easily get irritated with your presence because you are not giving her a single opportunity to fully engage in the conversation. But giving her opportunity to talk will tell her that you are more interested in hearing her talk back to you and that you are interested in knowing her more.

Be Pleasant And Cordial .
Always be relaxed and have that pleasant looks that will make the lady want to talk more, be positive while you are talking to her and never try pissing her off with negative answers. Give her affirmative and positive signs to interesting speeches an let her know you are interested in what she is saying. Now you should also remember to smile, smile where you need to smile and don't do it too much, it might get her annoyed because she might miss the concept to why you are smiling at her.

At times, you also find a situation where the lady is also nervous and shy to talk to you, and you to you can't talk either, now when you find yourself in such situations, you must act well, be the ice breaker and make the first move with all confidence you got in you. Starting with lines like What is your name, Where did you come from, Where do you stay, how interesting did you find this place, etc. Now this is a good starter, and you must make her want to return the favour by also asking about you too. Now you should also tell her little things about you but not much. Don't tell her deep things about you at such early stages. The main aim is just to simply know each other and when that aim have been achieved, you get relieved because talking to he now will be a lot more easier.

Also some people who feel nervous while wanting to talk is because they are too quick to judging themselves, they think that if they approach the lady, she is going to judge them and so, they refuse to talk. Now you must be surprised that after thinking of something like that, what if they approach her, talk to her, and finally nothing happens?

So you must just let your self be and do what you have to do, it is because of the judgment you gave yourself that you can't make a move to speak to a lady, but once you let yourself be and give everything into the hands of karma, I tell you that you will feel a lot more better after approaching that lady and speaking to her.

For some people, this shyness is just a habit, and it is true in some people. If you are such type of a person, you must practice talking to other people any way, and in whatever way, do it regularly and try not to be distracted by other factors around you. With time you will be perfect in speaking up to any lady you meet without feeling nervous or any thing of such form.

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What to do when he pays more attention to other things than to you

It can be really annoying when your man does not give you attention and the time you need from him whenever you want.

Many men have been seen adapting to this attitude of paying more attention to other things more than they do with their partner.
It is unusual and not encouraging for the man to be out there doing something irrelevant when his girl is waiting for him to come around and stay with her.

But as a woman, trying to get more time with him by telling him to stop those activities which he always cherish will not favour him and would rather give him a reason to call for a breakup.
Trying to tell him what to do never works, but creates more reason for him to continue doing what he is doing.

There are many things your man enjoys doing which might stop him from creating time for you, it might be playing games on play stations, playing football, football betting, lotto, clubbing, moving around with friends, etc. All these activities can actually rob your man the time both of you have to spend with each other and also, trying to get him stop them will never work because they are part of the things that gives him reasons to live for another and makes him happy.

So, now that he barely gives you time just because of those activities, what are you planning to do? What do you think would be the best solution to the situation and how do you get him balance the between his activities of interest and you without having one taking down the other?
Lets see some things you should never do and those you should do.

Can cheating bring you happiness?
Since your man is not ready to create time to be with you and spend more time together, should you just get on and start chasing after another man?

That's just one of the dumbest and craziest thing you could ever do while in a relationship. Doing so will label you a cheater and your man will never entertain such a habit if he knows about it.

Your man is not cheating, and not creating more time for you does not make him a cheater, its just that he finds more pleasure doing those things. So that does not make him a cheater at all and it should not give you any reason to be a cheater.

It might be that your man failed to understand the relevance and importance of staying together with you and therefore, underestimates the need being together with you most times.

Also it might be that you were the cause of his attitude when both of you are together. What do you do when both of you stay together? What do you do towards ensuring that the moments you spend together are romantic and full of fantasies between both of you? Do you give him the joy and satisfaction of being together with you? Do you have the sense of humour and the ability to be humorous? Do u always make him angry when you are together?

Those are some of the things you must consider while you keep asking why your man does not give you much time as you need from him. When you don't know how to love your man, then you might be the reason why he acts the way he does.

Don't try to change him.
Trying so hard to change his attitude towards you can turn him off because it might be hard for him sacrificing many things that matters most to him.

If your man finds pleasure in doing something more than he finds pleasure been with you, then you should allow him and concentrate more on your life.

Compatibility.
This the most important factor that you consider before you even go into any relationship.
You can never change a man if you are not compatible, when he is more than you in every aspect of life and there is hardly one aspect in your life which makes it possible for you to talk to him and get him listen to you, then you can never get him to stop something.

And so, make sure both of you are compatible if not, it might not work the best for both of you as you will find it hard relating to one another.
Tell your man what you need from him but don't force him to do it, this means separating your need from the means to get it done.

When you do that, you will surely leave him to think and figure out a way to balance your needs with his own needs even without altering the other.

Join him to do what he likes doing.
Most times, this can help because you are now showing interest in what is also of interest to him, that's a nice move.

This will get him to show more concern towards you and create time to talk to you about those things that both of you now enjoy doing, and by so doing, the meeting streak will extend longer and you find yourselves always staying together.

Though this is an alternative and optional means to get what you want from your partner, so if you think you cant engage in it, then you look on to the other solutions here.

Tell him what you want from him.
This means taking the right manner of approach to talk to him about what you want from him.

You can just decide to call him, and tell him how you feel about what he is doing and how it makes you uncomfortable and disturbed. Tell him that you don't need him to stop what he likes doing, but that you are also part of his life and you deserve more of his time too.

So ask him to create more time for you and also let him know that he has all the decisions to make and now decide on what to do.
When you do that, he will see the need to balance you and his activities and given both equal time and if thought well, he will even pay more attention to you.

So those are the little things we have for you on this subject matter, so use the information provided the right way and you will see changes in the way your man relates with you.

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Choosing who comes first: your lover or your work?

Choosing between your lover and your startup can be something really hard to do these days and as a result, many relationships have turned awful and breaking up becomes the only option left for the other.

Sometimes, when people are planning of getting involved in a relationship, they tend not to discover and find out moments when their work becomes a priority, or when their partner becomes a priority.

There are times when you see your work denying you the time you need to go and spend with your partner, and not because you don't care about your partner, but because of the nature of your work.
Your partner might be an entrepreneur who is always away out of the home and is always busy with many works outside the family, and you as the wife might just be a woman without work always sitting at home and doing nothing. Now this situation will get you worried as a wife because you will not always get the love, care and warmth you need from a responsible husband.

But however, your partner's work can never define if he is responsible or not because it will never get you the right conclusion. So you must find a suitable way to handle this situation and ensure that the gap is balanced between you and your partner's work.

Also situations have it that relationships in this form do not go well most times, that is a situation where your partner is a business man and is always business minded all the time and everywhere. In this kind of a relationship, you find out as a wife or girlfriend that your partner does not care to give attention to matters that has to do with the both of you but rather, he has more pleasure talking to you about business matters and deals.

This is really not encouraging as it can cause confusion in your mind as to whether your partner really cares about you or pays more attention to his work. This is mostly the case and the worst effect might be that your wife or girlfriend might start seeking for care and attention else where and finally, you are now turned into a side kick.

Now all these things need to be organised and put in order because you as a husband or boyfriend, do not pay attention to your work more than her because you want to get her always sad. Its just the nature of your work and you can not change the course except if you want to get another job.

Now since this is making both of you uncomfortable, there is need for you to find a means to balance the two things while living your life just the normal way you use to.

Give your work the first priority.
This work is something more like your dreams, it has been your dream for years, to go to high school, get educated and have a good job, or to become one of the greatest entrepreneurs of time with your creativity and skills, or to venture into a business that earns you uncountable amount of money all the time.

Now those have been your dreams, now you have achieved those dreams and finally got settled with a wife or a girlfriend.
I don't think you should choose to give more attention to your partner than to your work. Your work is your means to living and once you abandon it, many things will extinct and your work might suffer loss, or have a massive loss in your business.

I believe that will not favour your girlfriend or wife, so you must first choose your work, then try finding ways to balance the both and live a better life.

Make her understand the nature of your work.
As a man in a relationship, it is always good that you find time to sit and discuss with your partner about your dreams and goals in this life. By doing so, you are giving each other an opportunity to know what your future will be like.

Now as the woman, when you find out his own dreams does not favour your wants, it is unkind of you to suggest that he abandons that dream just because you don't like it, hence allowing him to chase it will give him a reason to appreciate you in his life.

Now when you know that he cant leave his dreams, the first step you should take towards balancing the situation is to be supportive to him and work towards his own direction. This will make her understand the nature of your work and be knowledgeable to it.

On the contrary, the reason why your spouse finds it hard figuring you out is because she never understands the nature of the work and how it goes.
As it stands, when you don't know about how something works, you normally misquote them and take misconceptions on those things without thinking if its true or not.

So the first step to balancing between your wife/girlfriend and your work is to sit her down, then explain things to her and tell her about your work.
This will let her understand the nature of the work and why it has to be like that. Now this will get her to be more supportive and helpful towards your own paths in life.

Then after doing that, you must find time and create avenues when both of you will be together to spend the little of your time.
Though the time you spend without each other is much and great pain have been conceded, the time you spend together will surely take away those pains and replace them with joy.

What if she refuses to listen to you?
If after explaining things to your partner, but she failed or refuses to understand and be supportive, then the best thing for you is to let her go and move onto your road to greater acheivements. There is someone who will be willing to understand you and support your dreams, so look for one.

Relationships are  about adding values to each others life and assisting each other to chase their dreams. So you must be sure to keep your work in pace and never allow your spouse to slow it down, a good woman will respect her man's dreams and help him achieve them.

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Why you should stop flirting with a woman after she said no

Guys can never think and act right sometimes, especially when trying to get what they want from a lady, or when they see a lady whom they are actually having a crush on.

Naturally, it is not good that you keep pressing on a woman after she said no to you a quite number of times.
When its your first time asking her out and she said no, its okay to try again because maybe she needed to think before making her decisions, but when you ask her a second and the third time and she says no to all, then it must be the time for you to stop pushing.

A woman means her words especially when she repeats those same words in certain conditions and refuse to change them.
There are countless of women out there waiting to be loved, though it pains a lot knowing that a woman you are actually falling for aint falling for you.
Read about the ways in which a woman will certainly reject you.

Different methods used by women for turning men down and saying no to them.
Sometimes the rejection might be done the harsh way which can tear you apart and hurt you so much. For example, you asked her out, and what the hell,, both of you are in a public place, then she went like "hey!!! Just hold it there, am not interested in you, i dont even like you, you are not my class or my type, go for those other cheap girls and dont talk to me ever again."
You see, that will hurt you so much, and apart from that, the public embarrasment is much, and it will seem to you that the whole world is looking at you where being embarrased and turned down by a woman.

But sometimes, other girls would do it in such a way that will ease the pain and make you let go easily. Some girls will go like "oh poor you!! But am so sorry, am into a relationship, and i dont like cheating, so i can go with you right now, but do you mind if we still become friends?".
So you see the different modes here, one is cool and polite, the other is harsh and too arrogant, but all leading to one simple conclusion which means no for you.

Also for some other women, they might be confused thinking that they might be straight or bisexual, as a result, they use that opportunity to turn men down and have them never to return. For example, a woman might just tell you "am a lesbian, and i have a girlfriend, am sorry."

You see, this one is not harsh, neither cool nor polite, its will only cause complications inside your heart, maybe you might be thinking to turn her to change and love you, and at the same time, you feel like she is not worth anymore since she is a lesbian, so you will feel like letting her go.

But not withstanding, in all these, here are things you must have in mind as the Reasons why you should stop chasing a woman after she said no to you many times.

You are not of interest to her physically or emotionally.
When women want to make the choice of a man,they do seem to work along with the physical looks and how emotional they feel with the man.
So maybe your swag and looks are okay, and you look physically okay, she might not feel for you emotionally or have that romantic sight on you, so once that romantic part and emotional sign is absent in you, then she will not want to accept you.

So if you really want to get her, then you work on making yourself look romantic by going for the emotional sense teasers, like making of eye contacts, the sense of touch, the i care for you actions, the good night messages, etc.

She has friends she normally spend her time with.
Now maybe she is not even interested in this relationship of a thing, and she has her friends whom she spends more of her time with, she might not be willing to sacrifice her time to you just to forgone her friendships, so because of that, she prefer to say no and move on with her friends.

so you see that you are not of any importance to her, and she not willing to let her friends go means she cant be with you all the time, so the best thing to do is to stop chasing and move on with your life.

She's already in a relationship and not ready to cheat.
Am sure you will be happy if your girlfriend should say no to another guy just to save your relationship, so you dont blame that woman for rejecting you. Maybe she is in a relationship, and she does not want to cheat, so she is protecting her relationship from any harm.
Now you dont need to continue pressing on because am sure that if she was your girl, you would not appreciate anyone trying to be your rival.

She does what she want because she is her own self.
This is another reason a woman might turn you down, am sure you are not using any charm to get her, so i would just say, she is free to live her life anyway with anyone she choose to, so you just need to move on if she says no for this reason, maybe she is not ready for any relationship at that moment, so just stop and focus on other women.

The reason why many women get angry and irritated by men who ask them out is that they keep trying and coming even after they said no, refusing to take no for an answer..
When a woman is kind to you, you must not mistake it for emotional feelings because it is a different thing. So that is why you need to stop everything and look forward towards making yourself look fit for a better girl and a better life.

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Read the signs that tells a woman likes you.

Its now common in every community to see a lady developing interest in another guy and acting in such ways as to notify him of that feeling and get him to pick up the chance to be with her.

Many girls today show more interest in men whom they seem to like and they don't wait for the men to just come and play along with them.
They certainly know that if they like a particular man, then they must act and behave in some manners that will let the guy know that they are having a crush on them so that the man will decide to play along.

These signs are so common in many women and few of them are being exhibited by certain women who do it in a different way.
So as a man, if you find it hard figuring out if that lady likes you and is particularly crushing on you, these are some habits they enjoy to portray.

She tries to talk to you for the first time.
If the woman is a stranger to you or someone you have been seeing but have not officially meet, then her first aim is to try talk to you and know you personally.

So she finds any avenue and possible chances to have a word with you and hear you talk back at her.
This will lead both of you into talking and knowing more about each other.
If she is that shy type, you might just see a female friend of yours introducing her to you.

That's her first trick into knowing you and once she does that, it will now be easier for her to meet you at any point and say hi.
But if you have already known her officially, then just skip this one and read the next sign we got for you.

She always smile at you without limits
This one is probably a good sign to know that a lady is interested in you. But you must watch it, not every lady that smiles at you is also interested in dating you.
So you should find out, does she also smiles a lot with other men? Then its habitual and not that she likes you.
But if she only smiles at you, then it specially means that she want you to see her good sides and pick up a hint at her behaviour.

Also when she smiles, look at her and see her reaction, if she keeps smiling and even looking into your eyes, then she is interested in you.
Some ladies will smile at you, but will not look at you while doing so, but if she does the both at the same time, then be sure there is something to it.

But don't move too fast, wait and check on other factors that indicate she likes you, because a smile might not be convincing and assuring, she might not do it every time and that will frustrate you. So you must keep watching, read more of them below.

She makes eye contact with you every time.
Now this is a special one and shows you are already going in because not every woman does this with every man.

She wouldn't  just stop looking at you, when you look at her, she looks at you but then, drops her head down, and when she raises her head, she looks straight into your face.
At this point, be sure that something is already going on inside her heart and she can not just help it.
At this level, all she wants is to start talking to you when she has the slightest chance to do that.

But if you are already friends and she start showing these sign, it is a lot more easier to guess that she is now crushing on you.
You know a woman who is just a friend can not do that all the time, and if you see that she starts to do that every time you are together or when she sees you, then you are already her subject matter.

She just laughs at everything you say.
Especially your jokes, she just finds a reason to laugh at them, even the ones that are not funny enough to get her laugh. And she does this just because she want to make you feel that she is interested in anything you say and specially prevent boredom from setting in.

When she does that, its really fun and gives you more ideas to chat on without getting out of topics. But just know that her main aim here is to get you thinking that "wow!! This lady just likes me, and i like her too because she is fun to be with, can you imagine? She just laughs at everything i say, it seems she is up to something else. Hmm????". And when ever she laughs at your jokes, even the lame ones, you hear her say things like "jez!! You are so funny, cant stop laughing" .

You see when a lady does things like that, then am sure the first point of view is that she is loving up, so don't hesitate, check on the other signs before jumping into conclusion.

She suddenly starts been around your vicinity.
Now what she want is to always see you and talk to you, if she is someone new to you, she will try to know where you live so that she can always visit the area where you live.

When a woman does this, it will even make you feel more attracted.
If the woman is someone you are already friends with, then you see her making excuses and reasons for coming to your apartment or visiting your family house always.
All these things are sudden, she have not been doing them, then you just see her starting to do them, that indicates she is on to you.

She always find a means to touch you.
This can be done anyhow by any lady, but when a lady loves you, she does that in a special way that makes you feel more attracted to her.

For example, a lady might touch you anyway and anyhow when she want to take something from your hands forcefully, or when both of you are playing around.
But if that lady likes you, you see her touching you and making body contact with you in special forms.
For example, cleaning lint off your clothing, holding your hands while crossing the road, coming close to you and holding you tight when she gets afraid or frightened, etc.

Now that clearly shows she is interested in you, you don't have to doubt this one.

She calls and text you almost all the time.
A woman who is not too anxious and nervous to get you might not do this every time because she knows you might get bored and tired of it. So you see her doing things like: calling you every morning when she wake up,then every evening when she is back from work, and texting you every night before she goes to bed.

But when the lady is too nervous, she just calls you every time which will get you tired sometimes, but you already know what she is up to, so play along.

If the lady is already a friend of yours, then you see her increase the number of times she call you and also calling you at moments when lovers are due to call each other(morning and night hours).

She always tell you what she feels.
When you are just friends with a lady, she don't just tell you her problems and emotional feelings. But when something is starting to get cooked up inside her heart, she starts doing all those things without thinking a second time.

So when you see her telling you how she felt when she woke up in the morning, what she dreamt about, how the day's work went, how she almost had an accident during the day, etc. So when she does all those things, it shows that she is ready to share her life with you and so, you actually knows she is already loving you.

Also you find out that she tells you all her plans and things she will want to do over the weekend, also you see her creating empty spaces where you can fit and show interest in feeling. When she want you to come over to meet her, you see her make statements like "Damn!!! Am spending the weekend at home alone, how i wish i had someone to stay".

Statements like that makes you the favourite to that condition, am sure you will not think twice before saying yes to her.

So those are the little tips we have for you towards knowing when a lady is starting to like and love you. if you have more to contribute to this article, then kindly use the comment box to drop it.
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Effects of Long distance relationships and things that makes it unfavourable

Long distance relationships are the only kind of relationship that has been seen with lots of effects which might not favour the partners in the relationship.

LDR's are good and can ease you of many unnecessary situations but at the same time, it has the ability of making you do weird things which are out of your mind because your partner is no where near you.

In every long distance relationships, there are certain effects which are prevalent if given a room which in turn, can tear your relationship apart and set it ablaze.
Hence, there is need for you to keep a watch on those effects which might flow in anytime at any point.

At some points, these effects are challenges that people who engage in LDR's face both physically and emotionally.
So the main aim of this article is to inform you of those effects LDR has on you and how you can handle the situations effectively so you dont fall a victim to those challenges which can end up screwing you up in the relationship.
Here are some of those effects of long distance relationships and how to handle the situations when they set in or show up in your relationship.

You must choose to trust your partner.
This is one of the well known effect and criteria which is always a necessity in every LDR.
You must choose to trust your partner because that is the only option you have. Choosing not to trust them only puts the relationship in another mood which will always cause you problems and difficulties.

Unlike the other kinds of relationships, where you are always around your partner and you always get informed about any thing going around your partner, this gives you the opportunity to choose either to trust your partner, or choose to give your partner an untrustworthy mark because you have already known them in and out.

But when in a LDR, you are not close to your partner, and you are hardly informed and noticed about anything happening around your partner or anything going one in their cycle, now you only know that love is surely the bond that keeps both of you together, and to seal that bond, you must choose to now trust your partner to save your skins and maintain the relationship.

But what if your partner is not trustworthy? Well thats the case, you dont have an option because you dont really know the things going on around them. And if you want to keep the relationship, then its compulsory that you trust them.

Just ascertain that yes, your partner is trustworthy, and dont give it a second thought.
So knowing if your partner is trustworthy is left for you to find out when you are finally together.
Now this is a really great effect because you might and might not be making the right decision and sometimes, it turns you into a fool. But as it is always said, it's better to be a fool in love than to be wise and be alone, thats awesome, you win.

You always miss your partner.
This one is a though one, because you can find yourself doing a lot of strange things when you are missing your partner so much.

It have happened to me and i was almost a victim to that situation. It happened that i was taking the LDR type and a time came when i wanted the presence of my girlfriend so badly, i needed someone to hold me around her arms and give me a warm touch, i needed someone to share some lovely moments with, but she was no where near. Then there was another girl who was interested in me but i told her that am not ready for her, she lives near the place i live too, so i called her and told her am coming to meet her, she agreed and i was already on my way to her apartment.

I was almost into the compound when i got a call from my girlfriend, and she gave me a shocking surprise, she promised to come and see during the weekend.
I was so happy but almost lost my breath due to the senses that came back to my brain, i realized i was heading the wrong way, i just went back and i called the lady, lying to her that an important issue came up and so i could not turn up, then i started tidying things up for my girl's coming.

So you see how dangerous it was and the kind of effect it had on me.
While in a LDR, there are moments when you will want someone to hold you, be together with, share your feelings and someone to cluster round your arms, now your partner is not there and this is what you want so badly, you become like a hungry vampire craving for blood. Now you know what it means, you are completely out of your mind and unless if someone is there to talk senses into your head, you will end up doing something so crazy. Sometimes, its really hard to overcome and that is why it will have a bad effect on your relationship.

Everyone seems good and nice,so you know your partner in a different way.
It always happen in every long distance relationships because both of the partners are away from each other.
When ever both of communicate on the phone, everyone seems nice, good, hygeinic and perfect, but that is not the actual nature of the both of you.

You dont know if your partner is a dirty person, or is a talkactive, or someone who does not respect her elders, or someone who does not like making peace but causing troubles, or someone who just lacks every important quality to living happily with people.

So you see this can affect your relationship maybe when you are finally together as you will get to know and see many strange attitudes and nature which your partner always portray on the outside and inside.

There are also some of the effects which i did not mention because it occurs to only few people, but not minding, i will use them to summarise this great article.

In some people who take the LDR type, they in no time get bored of calling, video chats and other social networking means through which they communicate, some run out of things to talk about and as a result, boredom sets in.
Also you see some spending lots of money and also, travelling a lot of miles just to go and see their lover. Now this can be disturbing and inconsiderate sometimes.
Also in some people, they always spend time looking and searching for ways to make their relationship work, some might not be able to see each other easily, so the equally spend and waste much time looking for a means to hook up to each other.

All these things when considered, can mean lots of time waste trying hard to maintain the relationship where you dont actually know if there is a possible future for you and your partner.

However, nothing is a waste, it pays to be patience. Holding on to trust, loyalty and honesty is the only way your long distance relationship can work out and at the end, be happily united to one another in love.

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How to move away from the friend zone to become a potential lover and partner

One of the big mistakes people make while trying to be lovers is taking the friendly approach and syndrome when interacting with those people.

Certain actions always describe what people will make of you and who they will see and take you as. When you always try acting the light way in such a form that the other person might not see you as a potential individual for a date, then you are missing the trail.

There are many things that will determine how that girl will take you and know you as, and we are going to see into them.

Potentiality
When you have already let yourself to be friend zoned by a girl in your life, and now you feel like you want to be someone else and not just a friend, but a lover, then there is a factor that you must develop which both of you must adapt to before you can change the level of the kind of relationship between both of you.

This factor am talking about is the potentiality factor. You are said to be a potential partner when a possible future between you and that girl can be seen wavering around without doubts. But you have already killed the opportunity of meeting that criteria, which is why you must work on developing such a factor.

When you are a potential partner, then you are not just somebody dating an ordinary personality, you are someone dating an individual who means the whole world to you.
Now you are not yet dating, so you can't be termed a potential partner.

So how do you become a potential friend and not just a friend?
Since you have made the mistake of turning yourself into a friend which ended you up being friend zoned, you now need to walk your way up to making yourself a potential friend. This will enable the transformation to work effectively and allow her get a hint when you start making a move towards becoming a lover.

This also means that you want to transform yourself into someone she will want to date because of what she is now seeing in you.
So here are some steps you must take to enable you move away from the friend zone.

*Avoid being an amazing and caring friend
Many actions you take will tell her the level at which she will pace you. Here are some areas you must change and desist from if you want to move away from the friend zone.

*When you always act as the caring one physically and materially.
*If you always advice her on things to do and parts to take in life.
*Also if you like addressing her relationship and dating matters.
*When you like spirituality and talking about religious activities
*when you try hard to know her and understand her

Those things are some of the things which can keep you being friend zoned your entire life, so you must act up and wise up. So you must cultivate those habits and try other things that can replace such acts. Its just like reversing the above situation. Here is how.

*Go for her emotional needs and be caring more in her emotions, caring for her physical and material needs will only continue to tie you down inside the friend zone.

*You don't want to be her mentor or life teacher, so stop being the one telling her what to do and advising her about her life, doing that will only allow you to continue being her teacher, and perhaps, a friend, now these qualities can end you up in the friend zone.

*Don't talking about her relationship life, stop advising her about relationship matters because by doing so, you are excluding yourself from her emotional feelings and drawing other people closer to her. So to let yourself join the train, you must stop being the one telling her what to do in terms of her dating life.

*Now this is also a friend zoning point, when you like discussing about spiritual and religious things. You don't want to be her religious teacher or up keeper, so avoid this and give her something else to chew about you.

*Also when trying to understand a woman physically, you should not do it the friendly way because you will end up being friend zoned. So don't do that, rather learn to love her and know more about her emotional feelings so she can have that feeling of you being part of her life.

Now these are just a few of the things you should do to escape and move away from the friend zone, but you still have little more works to complete so as to perfect the condition that you are no more being friend zoned.
Here are a list of some more actions you must take to complete the process.

Spend much time together with her
This is one necessary step you should never neglect. Doing this will tell her that you are interest in always being to together with her which will also create another impression about you in her mind.

When you are together with her, you must talk about things that are pertaining to both of you and talk about emotional things. But you must not try too hard because you might start making her feel uncomfortable.

You should also be always around her and make her feel cared for emotionally.
You can try other things like texting her sweet messages at midnight so that she can wake up to read them in the morning, or you text her before she goes to bed, it works like magic if you do it the right way.

So after doing all these things, i assure you she will be able to take a hint at you and know what you are up to. So approaching her will not be any problem for you.

What if after doing all these things, she still can't take a hint at you?
Then the first thing to do is to distance yourself away from her, maybe she needs personal space to breath fresh air on what is happening in her cycle. Now she might realize how important you have been and how you have affected almost every area of her life. She probably will start missing you.

Once you have achieved that, then every other time is a good time to express your feelings to her and tell her how emotional you feel are when you are together.

But if you are not sure that everything you did worked, then you don't have to continue trying, give yourself some personal space also to take a fresh air on what happened in the past, now you must not give up, but give it another try as far as she is still who you know her to be.

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Things You Must Know Before Getting Into A Relationship

The process of dating is a long one and generally, some people just go into dating without having a definite purpose for going into the relationship, they seem to forget that there are certain factors that need to be considered before starting the relationship train.

Some others just go into relationships because of peer pressure and desperation, for some people, it is also for the thirst of experiencing and achieving sexual aims and not for the purpose of true love. Many others also go into relationships because they want to experience what love feels like.

When Is The Right Time To Start Dating?

There is no specific time set for individuals to start dating, as far as you have attained the age of 20+, then i assure you that you can start dating, and it does not matter if you are 30+, you can still start the dating process. You must only have in mind the purpose for which you are going into the relationship. You must find the right purpose for which you want to engage in the relationship.

Also before you start the relationship, you must know that it entails different kinds of sacrifice and there are many factors that makes a relationship move well. Without knowing what these factors are, you might find it hard coping with the relationship stands.
So here you go, before turning the dating lights on, here are necessary things you must take not of.
Things You Must Know Before Getting Into A Relationship

Know what you want in a potential partner.
I believe you are not someone looking for an anyhow partner with wrong intentions about the relationship. So to successfully venture into the dating arena, you must know what you want from someone you can say to be a potential partner. In a potential partner, there is love, care, respect and understanding, no hidden secrets and trust is always a compulsory criteria.

So once you have known what you want in that person, you can kick off for the dating game, when you discover that these options are missing in that individual, then he or she might not be a potential partner but just a lover, now you don't need just a lover.

Know What Your Deal breaker's are
In everything you do, there are things that makes you feel uncomfortable and comfortable, there are things you like and things you do not like.

So to make your relationship work well, know those things which makes you loose focus in the relationship, then you must rule them out, and make sure you find a potential partner who will not go for your deal breakers.

Find out what you don't fancy in a potential partner.
This is just the opposite to what you want from a potential partner. These are characters possessed by people which does not favour your dating conditions. For example if that girl or that guy is rude and disrespectful, i don't think that person will be a potential partner to you because she will not respect you and love you just the way you would want to love and respect her.

If that fellow you want to date have bad manners and lacks in speaking with a calm tone, and also have bad manners of approach to situations, then she might not be considered a potential partner to you. So when you have known what it is that you want from a potential partner, it will guide you towards making the right relationship choices.

Date someone who shares same interest with you
Now with this one step, you would be able to date someone who will always make you find comfort in whatever you are doing. Dating someone who shares same interest with you will help the relationship move in good shape without having misunderstandings.

If you are a footballer, and you like watching and playing football both at night and day, but the person you want to take as a partner loves dancing and going to the clubs, you see it will be hard for both of you to get along.

It might be the time for you to go watching a football match at night, and then that's the time your partner wants to visit the club to have fun, now you are at the cinema or in the house watching a football match, and your partner will probably be out there dancing at club, now this does not favour the relationship at all, things will be happening and there will be a lot of setback to the relationship.

So to define a true relationship, there must be similar interests between the two individuals and they must work towards a common goal that is of interest to both of them.

Be a trustworthy and honest individual
Without these two ingredients in a relationship, then it can never work well for you. Every relationship today that does not have a ground on trust and honesty, then that relationship will suffer lots of difficulties in the latter part of such relationships.
When you know you can easily cheat on a person, emotionally and physically, then it will be hard for you to maintain trust with your partner.

Also is honesty, when you are not honest in your daily living, then you can never be honest in the relationship, you must find a reason to lie and pretend to be truthful, and once that act is going on in your relationship, it will not take too long and your partner will discover your lies and dishonesty, that's the starting point to relationship problems.

So this trust and honesty is vital, you must learn to be trustworthy and honest because that's the only criteria on which your relationship can stand.

Know What Makes You Happy And Excited
This will help you find someone who clearly will want to have fun with you and make you feel okay because he or she have already known your points of happiness and excitement.

You will not find a partner who does not always smile and feel like he or she want to have fun, and then expect yourself to be happy with them always, you know it does not work that way. Being excited and happy requires someone who would make you to feel such way.

Now you just have to work on those aspects above in order to get into a working relationship life with lots of benefits without remorse and regrets. And don't forget that age matters a lot when we talk about dating, you should not date an individual who has much age gap between both of you or someone who is far enough to be your uncle or aunty, the relationship can turn out to be one sided. So that's what you must take note of before you start dating.

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