It can be really annoying when your man does not give you attention and the time you need from him whenever you want.
Many men have been seen adapting to this attitude of paying more attention to other things more than they do with their partner.
It is unusual and not encouraging for the man to be out there doing something irrelevant when his girl is waiting for him to come around and stay with her.
But as a woman, trying to get more time with him by telling him to stop those activities which he always cherish will not favour him and would rather give him a reason to call for a breakup.
Trying to tell him what to do never works, but creates more reason for him to continue doing what he is doing.
There are many things your man enjoys doing which might stop him from creating time for you, it might be playing games on play stations, playing football, football betting, lotto, clubbing, moving around with friends, etc. All these activities can actually rob your man the time both of you have to spend with each other and also, trying to get him stop them will never work because they are part of the things that gives him reasons to live for another and makes him happy.
So, now that he barely gives you time just because of those activities, what are you planning to do? What do you think would be the best solution to the situation and how do you get him balance the between his activities of interest and you without having one taking down the other?
Lets see some things you should never do and those you should do.
Can cheating bring you happiness?
Since your man is not ready to create time to be with you and spend more time together, should you just get on and start chasing after another man?
That's just one of the dumbest and craziest thing you could ever do while in a relationship. Doing so will label you a cheater and your man will never entertain such a habit if he knows about it.
Your man is not cheating, and not creating more time for you does not make him a cheater, its just that he finds more pleasure doing those things. So that does not make him a cheater at all and it should not give you any reason to be a cheater.
It might be that your man failed to understand the relevance and importance of staying together with you and therefore, underestimates the need being together with you most times.
Also it might be that you were the cause of his attitude when both of you are together. What do you do when both of you stay together? What do you do towards ensuring that the moments you spend together are romantic and full of fantasies between both of you? Do you give him the joy and satisfaction of being together with you? Do you have the sense of humour and the ability to be humorous? Do u always make him angry when you are together?
Those are some of the things you must consider while you keep asking why your man does not give you much time as you need from him. When you don't know how to love your man, then you might be the reason why he acts the way he does.
Don't try to change him.
Trying so hard to change his attitude towards you can turn him off because it might be hard for him sacrificing many things that matters most to him.
If your man finds pleasure in doing something more than he finds pleasure been with you, then you should allow him and concentrate more on your life.
Compatibility.
This the most important factor that you consider before you even go into any relationship.
You can never change a man if you are not compatible, when he is more than you in every aspect of life and there is hardly one aspect in your life which makes it possible for you to talk to him and get him listen to you, then you can never get him to stop something.
And so, make sure both of you are compatible if not, it might not work the best for both of you as you will find it hard relating to one another.
Tell your man what you need from him but don't force him to do it, this means separating your need from the means to get it done.
When you do that, you will surely leave him to think and figure out a way to balance your needs with his own needs even without altering the other.
Join him to do what he likes doing.
Most times, this can help because you are now showing interest in what is also of interest to him, that's a nice move.
This will get him to show more concern towards you and create time to talk to you about those things that both of you now enjoy doing, and by so doing, the meeting streak will extend longer and you find yourselves always staying together.
Though this is an alternative and optional means to get what you want from your partner, so if you think you cant engage in it, then you look on to the other solutions here.
Tell him what you want from him.
This means taking the right manner of approach to talk to him about what you want from him.
You can just decide to call him, and tell him how you feel about what he is doing and how it makes you uncomfortable and disturbed. Tell him that you don't need him to stop what he likes doing, but that you are also part of his life and you deserve more of his time too.
So ask him to create more time for you and also let him know that he has all the decisions to make and now decide on what to do.
When you do that, he will see the need to balance you and his activities and given both equal time and if thought well, he will even pay more attention to you.
So those are the little things we have for you on this subject matter, so use the information provided the right way and you will see changes in the way your man relates with you.
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