Choosing between your lover and your startup can be something really hard to do these days and as a result, many relationships have turned awful and breaking up becomes the only option left for the other.
Sometimes, when people are planning of getting involved in a relationship, they tend not to discover and find out moments when their work becomes a priority, or when their partner becomes a priority.
There are times when you see your work denying you the time you need to go and spend with your partner, and not because you don't care about your partner, but because of the nature of your work.
Your partner might be an entrepreneur who is always away out of the home and is always busy with many works outside the family, and you as the wife might just be a woman without work always sitting at home and doing nothing. Now this situation will get you worried as a wife because you will not always get the love, care and warmth you need from a responsible husband.
But however, your partner's work can never define if he is responsible or not because it will never get you the right conclusion. So you must find a suitable way to handle this situation and ensure that the gap is balanced between you and your partner's work.
Also situations have it that relationships in this form do not go well most times, that is a situation where your partner is a business man and is always business minded all the time and everywhere. In this kind of a relationship, you find out as a wife or girlfriend that your partner does not care to give attention to matters that has to do with the both of you but rather, he has more pleasure talking to you about business matters and deals.
This is really not encouraging as it can cause confusion in your mind as to whether your partner really cares about you or pays more attention to his work. This is mostly the case and the worst effect might be that your wife or girlfriend might start seeking for care and attention else where and finally, you are now turned into a side kick.
Now all these things need to be organised and put in order because you as a husband or boyfriend, do not pay attention to your work more than her because you want to get her always sad. Its just the nature of your work and you can not change the course except if you want to get another job.
Now since this is making both of you uncomfortable, there is need for you to find a means to balance the two things while living your life just the normal way you use to.
Give your work the first priority.
This work is something more like your dreams, it has been your dream for years, to go to high school, get educated and have a good job, or to become one of the greatest entrepreneurs of time with your creativity and skills, or to venture into a business that earns you uncountable amount of money all the time.
Now those have been your dreams, now you have achieved those dreams and finally got settled with a wife or a girlfriend.
I don't think you should choose to give more attention to your partner than to your work. Your work is your means to living and once you abandon it, many things will extinct and your work might suffer loss, or have a massive loss in your business.
I believe that will not favour your girlfriend or wife, so you must first choose your work, then try finding ways to balance the both and live a better life.
Make her understand the nature of your work.
As a man in a relationship, it is always good that you find time to sit and discuss with your partner about your dreams and goals in this life. By doing so, you are giving each other an opportunity to know what your future will be like.
Now as the woman, when you find out his own dreams does not favour your wants, it is unkind of you to suggest that he abandons that dream just because you don't like it, hence allowing him to chase it will give him a reason to appreciate you in his life.
Now when you know that he cant leave his dreams, the first step you should take towards balancing the situation is to be supportive to him and work towards his own direction. This will make her understand the nature of your work and be knowledgeable to it.
On the contrary, the reason why your spouse finds it hard figuring you out is because she never understands the nature of the work and how it goes.
As it stands, when you don't know about how something works, you normally misquote them and take misconceptions on those things without thinking if its true or not.
So the first step to balancing between your wife/girlfriend and your work is to sit her down, then explain things to her and tell her about your work.
This will let her understand the nature of the work and why it has to be like that. Now this will get her to be more supportive and helpful towards your own paths in life.
Then after doing that, you must find time and create avenues when both of you will be together to spend the little of your time.
Though the time you spend without each other is much and great pain have been conceded, the time you spend together will surely take away those pains and replace them with joy.
What if she refuses to listen to you?
If after explaining things to your partner, but she failed or refuses to understand and be supportive, then the best thing for you is to let her go and move onto your road to greater acheivements. There is someone who will be willing to understand you and support your dreams, so look for one.
Relationships are about adding values to each others life and assisting each other to chase their dreams. So you must be sure to keep your work in pace and never allow your spouse to slow it down, a good woman will respect her man's dreams and help him achieve them.
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