This is really a deciding situation because at this point in time, you find it hard figuring it out if she is ready to move on with you or her crush is taking over and replacing your place in her heart.
It is always troubling, uncomfortable and can make you angry when your girlfriend can't just tell that her crush that she is in a relationship. It makes you carry that burden of love inside you and makes you want to fix things to go the right way, well its time to talk some senses in to your head and her head too.
So what should I do when my girlfriend is having a huge crush on another guy?
The most alarming part of this situation is the fact that she don't want to tell her crush that she is in a relationship, and she even goes out to hang out with him not minding she is in a relationship, that's not fair at all, this will surely make any guy uncomfortable, heartbroken and love weakened. Why can't she just tell that guy she is already with another man? Or why can't she just stop hanging out with him?. Now is the time to act and compete your love for her.
Talk To Her About It.
You first need to talk to her about what she is doing, how it breaks you down and how it causes you discomfort. Though she have had feelings for him in the past, but you should let her know her place in your heart and how you see and take her. Let her see how dedicated you are to your relationship with her and how you would do everything possible to keep and secure her.
But you can only do this if you truly love, if there is true love between both of you, then you should be able to sit her down and talk about what is going on between both of you. Is the love still there or it is gradually fading away? You need to know everything going on in her heart so that you can know the next step to take.
Ask Her What She Really Want.
You should ask her about what it is that she actually want. Do she want to be with you or she want to start dating him? You deserve to know because you are the man and you control her heart, at this moment, you will be able to find out what she really wants. Ask her what's that potential quality in him that makes her want to always hang out with him, is he so special than you are and better than you are? You need to know.
You need to get her make a choice to who she really want, do she think he is of interest of getting into a relationship with her, or do she think he is as good as knows him before? You need to throw in those questions so that she can be sure of what she needs and not leading him on while she is causing her main man discomfort.
So when you do that, you get her to make a choice sooner, and if she gives you a straight answer to your question, then trust her, that's what she wants, but if she replies you with an answer which shows she is not ready to make a choice, like "I don't know", then its not a good time for you to continue that relationship. Let her be and let her complete her choice of who she really want. Once she gives you such an answer, you might also want to know if she is committed to your relationship. That leads you to the next step of what you should do.
Ask Her If She Is Committed To Your Relationship. When a woman is committed to a relationship, she does everything at her best to protect that relationship and the interest in the relationship. A girl who is committed to you will not rush into any guy who shows up interest on her and leaves you just to wonder about what is happening, giving you that kind of an expression that explains what the deal will be if she hangs out with that other guy, its pretty bad.
So you must learn and know if she is actually committed to the relationship, or she actually does not want the relationship to be exclusive any more. Well if that's what she want, and it causes you discomfort, and she already knows how you feel about it, then it's not a good time to stay in the relationship, you have to fight your way out despite the fact that you still love her, you know what it means to her? It means she does not care about you anymore, how you feel, and the way you will react, all does not matter to her anymore and you don't have any more value to her.
That's her own meaning for the relationship between both of you if she says she is not dedicated to the relationship, so you should just get out of the relationship because both of you can't be together forever if one of you still have a leg and an eye outside the relationship for another person.
Show Her How Much You Love Her
Now at this moment when you know it's complicated, and you feel like she is actually going for the other guy, if she truly loves you and you truly love her, then you have the right to stop her from going to any other guy. But you can't say what she really want now because it's known to you that she has been a side chick to another guy. This can be the time for you to dive into some competitions for your love and the girl you love, show her why you are better with her and why she is better with you, and know what interests her in the other guy which you have seen her hanging around with.
After you know you have showed her much love, then the next thing for you to do is to let her make her decisions by herself.
Let Her Alone To Decide
Sometimes, you have to let her be when it's hard for her to talk or when she don't want to decide. Letting her alone will let her make decisions which seems right to her. And you don't need to talk some senses into her at most cases because she might feel that you are attacking her and giving her that guilty conscience which will make her to even do more of what pleases her. But the moment you just let her be, then all the decisions is her's to make.
If she finally comes back to you and profess that you are the one she choose, then you have won it not because you tried to talk some sense into her, but because of her true feelings for you.
She Is A Cheater
If she probably don't want to make any decisions, then she is a cheater, and you deserve better than that. Since when did women start using men as air bags accustomed for some wounds? You are not a material she can use and throw away, and she actually does not love you, she just want to use you as an option, and in every relationship built on love, there is no IF condition attached to it. So you just need to walk out of her.
Your relationship should not suffer or even end just because she goes out to meet another guy outside the relationship, but if your relationship starts shaking because of that, then she is not meant for you and the best thing you can do to help yourself is to walk out of the relationship, move on and find another woman who would probably love, respect and show you a lot of commitment in your new relationship.
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