Many times, both the men and the women use to think that being successful and having physical qualities guarantee's them to finding a compatible partner for a relationship that match their standards, but its barely a true fact, that's why you see many successful men and women staying as singles without marriage.
Being a financially independent lady, or a successful man are not part of the qualities that many people consider while looking for a soul mate to settle down with. For the woman, being very attractive and successful does not even bring you a step forward to getting the rightful partner.
In today's life, many people choose not to look into qualities such as success and financial independence while looking for a compatible partner, and so if you think whose qualities will make a guy, or a lady to like you, then you are wrong.
Thinking of such qualities in this process is intimidating, though having a successful person as your partner is desirable, but not much considered while searching for true love and a compatible partner. There are so many things that matters a lot while looking for a compatible partner.
Setting your standards so high is one factor that will limit the choices you have in getting a compatible partner. But what does a compatible partner mean to you? Does it mean someone who also have the same success and financial stands like you? If so, then you are taking it the wrong way.
You should be able to learn that a compatible partner does not necessarily mean that the person must be successful as you are, but means someone who shares the same interest with you and is willing to love and cherish you no without thinking twice about your wealth status.
There are some things which makes other people think that coming for you will be a rejection for them, some of these things are:
1) You like your independence: as you know that you are financially independent and don't need anyone to help you spend your cash or tell you what and what to do with your cash, this will scare many people away because they think coming into your life will cause you discomfort and bring your financial independence to an end, and they probably think you will not allow them to do that. So because of that, they refuse to come because of your high standard of living.
2) You just want a person who will match your working class, someone who also have what you have, and that is to say, you are picky. Now you know that is not going to happen. standards are also good but finding someone whose personality is different from yours and who have different interest will make you have a very interesting relationship life.
3) When you live with high standards, many of the people who want to meet you for a serious relationship will be scared off because they think you don't need them, as your standards of living shows you are so self-sufficient and so, no one would like to think that you need them.
Finding a compatible partner for a relationship who you can settle with have to be done in a way that shows you are ready for the things coming regardless of your being a successful person.
So you need to ask your self these following questions.
1) What does being a suitable partner means to you?
2) Now that you are ready to settle down, what does compatibility means to you?
3) Assuming you did not find anyone compatible and suitable for you now that you are ready to settle down with someone, what will now be your next plan?
4) Since you are financially compatible and strong, what will be your expectations from that person you consider a suitable partner?
5) If you don't find anyone compatible and suitable to you and you are still single and searching for many years now, will you be ready to lower those things you are expecting from the partner of yours? Will you be ready to drop some one those expectations and just consider other factors like real love, care and support? Or will you just continue to look up to those standards?.
Now ask yourself those questions and if you find it hard answering them, then here are some things I consider you to do when things don't work out the way you want.
1) You must reduce those expectations and be less concerned about those expectations which you want to be in-line with your own standards.
2) Find a mentally stable person, and make sure you don't put much expectations from him/her.
3) Make sure you are good in listening, be a good listener and also be a patient person so that you will be able to listen well to situations around you.
4) Be sociable: at lest this will help you to find someone who is right for you and someone who can make you happy by showing much love and care without minding your financial status. Also this will give you the chance to see who will be right for you to move on with.
5) Don't expect your Mr. Right or Mrs. Right to just come with so much fitness, wealth and a happy countenance, a good reputation can never be built in one day, and so is a good man/woman, you don't expect the right person to be an achiever at first sight, you must give things time for change.
So as someone finding a compatible partner for a relationship, you must learn not to care so much about standards, though its desirable, and if you find a good person with such qualities, then it's a lucky one for you, but am sure that if you consider all the things been written down above, it will help you towards climbing the ladder to finding a compatible and a suitable partner.
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