Thursday 28 May 2015

Reasons why physical attractiveness counts no more in relationships

So you just see yourself as someone good looking, very beautiful/handsome and has everything anyone could want from a partner but yet, you are single, and you just keep imagining why.
In today's life, many people who go into relationships do not actually care about the physical looks, attractiveness and fitness of the individual they want to get entangled with.
There are many people today who are selective and those who are not, some go for the natural selection technique where they can find someone to fit in their gene and get the desired offspring they want.
But it does not count anymore, many people are smarter and more better than their gene today, and that makes it the reason why looks do no count anymore.
In those days, they often term beautiful women as well behaved, caring and intelligent, but in todays world, the story is known to have changed.
So what do people need in relationships today?
There are many factors people consider before they get into relationships today, and these factors they consider are mainly attributes and characters that are attached to them which makes other people to admire them.
Maturity.
This is one of the factor that people tend to check on before picking a partner to dive into the relationship world with.
So now you are beautiful, handsome and physically attractive but then, this character is found to be missing in you, how do you think someone will want to be with someone who is childish in behaviour and have no sense of maturity at all?
So you see that without this factor, you have a deficiency in getting a life partner.
Thats why your attractiveness does not count here in getting a life partner or just getting into a relationship.
Decency.
Another factor that people consider in finding relationship matches.
When a beautiful and handsome individual is known to lack decency in him/her and just live a life that has no shape of decency and smartness, am sure no one would like to go and make a bid for such kind of a person.
As a beautiful woman, a man would want you to be matured and after that, then comes decency, this is a sure bet for a man to get you into his heart. No man wants to be with a woman who does not know how to talk and also know the right words to use while communicating with others, thats dirtiness in other words, and that would make any man run out of your way.
Caring and loving.
As it is known in those days, beautiful women are the most well behaved, loving and caring ones because of their fine nature and what their parents teach them towards being beautiful, caring and loving, those are characters everyone will want in a woman.
But today, no one cares about the societal norms which are deemed as right prospectives for anyone to be in a relationship. Many just live their life the way they want and do not even care about those who loves them.
Though a woman/man can profess that they love someone, but then fails in their duty to show them love and care, no one will want to be with such kind of a person no matter how beautiful or handsome.
Some months ago, i read a novel about how a woman wanted a man who is well muscled, stubborn and aggressive, a man who will always be out and working towards bringing food and shelter to the family, and also fight to protect the family from other people. But today, how many women will want that?
Now for the man, thats why your muscular and agressive nature will not make a woman to be attracted to you for those reasons.
In todays world, both the women and men are seen all out to places of work twenty four hours in the whole week without thinking about any thing of such nature. So in this situation, what those people would want is just a loving and caring man or woman who can provide rest of mind and comfort for each other.
Sexual selection.
People today are more alike than being diferent, and that is where sexual selection works well.
Many times, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and so, go for those with their type of gene because they believe they would enjoy every benefit in what they choose to do. People do make choices based on their own interest and so, choosing someone more like them makes the reinforces their choice.
Also for some reasons which are seen as silly, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and that makes it a choice for them choosing those like them.
You might be doing something with a beautiful woman and if you are ugly, you feel uncomfortable, but while doing that same thing with someone ugly like you are, you feel comfortable and good, and that is same with the beautiful ones.
Also for sexual reason, an ugly woman with fine shape and very expensive sexual organs has the tendency to be selected when compared to a beautiful woman with little shape and weary sensual organs.
Natural selection.
When you are looking for someone to carry on the legacy based on your behaviors, when you want someone to be a good parent like you, thats when you talk about natural selection.
Now in this aspect, looking for a beautiful woman will not work towards achieving those goals. If someone would want an individual who would be reproductive and give many offsring to your generation, then looking for a beautiful woman might not be the case and that is why being beautiful or handsome does not count anymore.
The beauty and handsomeness would be in vain if that individual cannot reproduce and multiply your generation.
Relationships today are about survival, they are about the ability to survive every step in this life and be successful, beauty does not count any more.
So you just see yourself as someone good looking, very beautiful/handsome and has everything anyone could want from a partner but yet, you are single, and you just keep imagining why.
In today's life, many people who go into relationships do not actually care about the physical looks, attractiveness and fitness of the individual they want to get entangled with.
There are many people today who are selective and those who are not, some go for the natural selection technique where they can find someone to fit in their gene and get the desired offspring they want.
But it does not count anymore, many people are smarter and more better than their gene today, and that makes it the reason why looks do no count anymore.
In those days, they often term beautiful women as well behaved, caring and intelligent, but in today's world, the story is known to have changed.
So what do people need in relationships today?
There are many factors people consider before they get into relationships today, and these factors they consider are mainly attributes and characters that are attached to them which makes other people to admire them.
Maturity.
This is one of the factor that people tend to check on before picking a partner to dive into the relationship world with.
So now you are beautiful, handsome and physically attractive but then, this character is found to be missing in you, how do you think someone will want to be with someone who is childish in behaviour and have no sense of maturity at all?
So you see that without this factor, you have a deficiency in getting a life partner.
That's why your attractiveness does not count here in getting a life partner or just getting into a relationship.
Decency.
Another factor that people consider in finding relationship matches.
When a beautiful and handsome individual is known to lack decency in him/her and just live a life that has no shape of decency and smartness, am sure no one would like to go and make a bid for such kind of a person.
As a beautiful woman, a man would want you to be matured and after that, then comes decency, this is a sure bet for a man to get you into his heart. No man wants to be with a woman who does not know how to talk and also know the right words to use while communicating with others, that's dirtiness in other words, and that would make any man run out of your way.
Caring and loving.
As it is known in those days, beautiful women are the most well behaved, loving and caring ones because of their fine nature and what their parents teach them towards being beautiful, caring and loving, those are characters everyone will want in a woman.
But today, no one cares about the societal norms which are deemed as right prospectives for anyone to be in a relationship. Many just live their life the way they want and do not even care about those who loves them.
Though a woman/man can profess that they love someone, but then fails in their duty to show them love and care, no one will want to be with such kind of a person no matter how beautiful or handsome.
Some months ago, i read a novel about how a woman wanted a man who is well muscled, stubborn and aggressive, a man who will always be out and working towards bringing food and shelter to the family, and also fight to protect the family from other people. But today, how many women will want that?
Now for the man, that's why your muscular and aggressive nature will not make a woman to be attracted to you for those reasons.
In today's world, both the women and men are seen all out to places of work twenty four hours in the whole week without thinking about any thing of such nature. So in this situation, what those people would want is just a loving and caring man or woman who can provide rest of mind and comfort for each other.
Sexual selection.
People today are more alike than being different, and that is where sexual selection works well.
Many times, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and so, go for those with their type of gene because they believe they would enjoy every benefit in what they choose to do. People do make choices based on their own interest and so, choosing someone more like them makes the reinforces their choice.
Also for some reasons which are seen as silly, people like doing what they see others of their kind doing and that makes it a choice for them choosing those like them.
You might be doing something with a beautiful woman and if you are ugly, you feel uncomfortable, but while doing that same thing with someone ugly like you are, you feel comfortable and good, and that is same with the beautiful ones.
Also for sexual reason, an ugly woman with fine shape and very expensive sexual organs has the tendency to be selected when compared to a beautiful woman with little shape and weary sensual organs.
Natural selection.
When you are looking for someone to carry on the legacy based on your behaviors, when you want someone to be a good parent like you, that's when you talk about natural selection.
Now in this aspect, looking for a beautiful woman will not work towards achieving those goals. If someone would want an individual who would be reproductive and give many offspring to your generation, then looking for a beautiful woman might not be the case and that is why being beautiful or handsome does not count anymore.
The beauty and handsomeness would be in vain if that individual cannot reproduce and multiply your generation.
Relationships today are about survival, they are about the ability to survive every step in this life and be successful, beauty does not count any more.
Beauty does not qualify for fitness and as a matter of fact, not everyone wants a beautiful or a handsome partner to roll with, and that is why the two qualities are not equal.
Someone can be said to be beautiful/handsome, but not fit both in morals, character and internal qualities.
So with all these explanations, i believe that you will find it helpful in finding a very compatible partner and not just a partner for attractiveness.

Paul Samuel Uchechukwu

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