Many guys have been caught in this situation, and i guess you are one of them and now, you are here to look for help.
Have you ever thought of many conversations to make with a girl and what you will talk about if you are together? But then as you meet her and you sit together, your head turns like a formated computer system with nothing inside it, and your head goes empty.
Then you just find out that your conversation gets boring and a moment of silence follows. This is usually a situation that turns most women off and makes them find you unattractive.
The reason why this happens most time is because of the fact that you always want to appear right and do the right things just to impress that girl you like. And that is where the problem sets in but, you also started the conversation the wrong way and you were not prepared.
Now how do i overcome this situation of becoming short of words while talking to a girl i am interested in?
#Getting her attention first.
This is just a good conversation tip many guys don't know.
When you are able to start the interaction with a very attractive and interesting topic she likes, then you can be able to talk for long and generate new topic ideas without the fear of breaking down to silence.
But how do you learn about topics that are of great interest to her?
You have to watch her from close range and know what she likes talking about. You can get close to her friends just to get an idea of what she talks about the most.
When you have been able to know what she enjoys talking about, she will be surprised about how you knew about it and she will be interested and passionate to engage in the conversation with you.
#Concentrate on her and stop thinking inside your mind.
When you focus more on thinking about what to say and how to say it will make you self conscious and you forget about what you are doing and what she is saying.
You should never try to be right and perfect because no one is perfect in speaking with a woman. What matters the most is becoming your real self and not trying to fake your moves just to make her think you are a nice guy.
So when next you want to start a chat with a girl, the best treatment you can give yourself on this issue is just to focus and concentrate on her and what surrounds you. Make sure you slow your mind from thinking, take an inner stretch of your mind by breathing slow and relaxing your mind and that's where you should get ready to now talk, after that you can proceed to do the next thing.
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you make with women )
#Be an attentive and a good listener.
When you are able to grab each and every word a girl says in a conversation, then you will never run out of things to say when with a girl.
This will make you to be the best you can be while in a conversation with a girl.
But hey, been attentive does not mean nodding your head in affirmation to what she says or something like that.
To be a good listener, you must concentrate on the person speaking and what she is saying, and when you are able to do that, you can use whatever is said to create new ideas and keep the conversation going.
You can use body languages to show that you are listening to what she is saying and when you also pay attention to what she says, you will actually get new ideas on things to say.
#Talk about yourself first and she will do the same.
One mistake guys do make when trying to talk to a new girl is asking them questions and just questions.
If you want a girl to see you as a potential guy who has values to his name, then the best way you can do it is to talk to her about yourself.
Say interesting things about your life which will be of interest to her.
You can talk about your social life and why you like meeting new friends, the places you like to travel to, your best meals, your ex girlfriends and experience, your friends, etc.
When you talk about those things, she will discover that you have more values to offer than those other guys who just concentrate on trying to win her heart with flattering and sweet words.
So when you do this and she normally will respond in a nice way, you should now ask her few selected questions about her life, she will like to return the favour and talk to you about herself.
But make sure that you don't go off the point of what you are trying to do and start to make it feel like you are bragging.
When you are able to get this going with a girl, your conversation will never go into silence and you will always have new things to talk about.
#Don't ask questions that yields a "Yes/No" answer.
This is just another mistake that most guys do in a conversation and you know that, when this happens, usually after she say a yes or no to what you asked her, then you will not be fast to think of what next to say and as a result, silence emerges and she starts to feel uncomfortable been with you.
The reason why this happens is because you always ask questions that does not require any further explanation and normally, should end with a yes or no answer.
For example, you asked her something like "You love coming to this place right?" Or "Do you go to that church always?"
Normally those questions needs straight answers and then, its gone, no one talks about it again.
But what if you make it go this way, "It seems you like it here - why do you enjoy being here?" Or "You like going to that church - why do you like it there?"
You see now? The second part is more appealing and opened up therefore, she gets an intuition to say something about what is being asked and from there, you get more things to talk about.
#One thing leads to the other.
In a conversation where you are listening and also, talking about things you can equate to what happened to you in real life, you can be able to tap out important notes from the conversation and create more topics.
For example, both of you are talking about school, then she said something about a hash lecturer who is unfair to them, then you remembered about a wicked uncle you have got back then in school, you can just take control and talk about it.
It will be interesting to her and she will remember another thing that happened to her back then in school, and she will not refuse to talk to you about it.
Now when you are able to do this, you will never run out of words to say when with any girl.
When you carefully follow these tips, i can assure you that you will get rid of silence when with a girl and also stay clear of being short of words while talking to a girl.
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