This have been a problem many men are facing today in their relationship and dating circle, the fact that many men think giving a woman too much attention and showing too much interest in her can make them win the love of the woman.
But the case and reports on this issue have always been very bad and sometimes pleasant.
One problem faced by many men today is the fact that they have no means or strategy on how to win a woman's love and keep the fire burning without it burning the whole relationship down.
Some men will start it right, but in the process of attracting the woman to love them, they over use the opportunities and means they have and then, destroy everything.
So among those strategies you have in getting a woman's attraction, we are going to tell you how and why showing too much interest or attention gets you off the edge and then, backfires at you and makes you loose everything.
Not every woman is interested in a man who shows too much attention and interest to her. In most cases, when you start showing a woman interest, she likes it normally, but when it starts getting TOO MUCH, then that's where the problem starts to develop and that's where you start loosing the whole thing.
#Women like men that offers them challenge.
Now think of this, do you think calling that girl 80 times a day, or always offering her gifts and attention will make her start to love you and feel attraction for you?
The answer is NO.
Normally when you do all those things for a woman, she enjoys it at first and as a man, you think that's what she really want and since she is enjoying it, you continue to do it.
When you continue doing it and she keeps enjoying it, you now become afraid to stop or slow down because you start thinking that other men will do it for her and you will get heart broken, so its like you add more pressure to what you are doing.
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Now to the woman whom you are doing all those things for, this is how it feels.
She starts thinking that you are a nice person, you are affectionate and kind and she continues to be good to you.
She will never think you are a dating potential because you are obsessed with her and you are just a kind and nice person, and that is all.
When you continue to do those things for her, she will start getting uncomfortable with it because you are not helping her to feel attraction for you, but then, she will be afraid to hurt you and get you to be heartbroken, and since she allowed you in the first place, she will just allow you to continue what you are doing and she will continue to see you as a nice person. So you see that you are only pumping in affection and that's not what a woman wants.
A woman wants a man who will offer her challenge, which will make her to show affection, and from there she starts to feel attraction for that man.
#The basis of every relationship.
There is one procedure which every relationship pass through before it stands.
Normally, you start from meeting with each other, and after that, you start dating and from dating, its either you start a relationship with each other, or it ends at dating and everything dies off.
I have not heard about cases where a relationship starts from friendship, its always hard for a friend to turn into a lover although, its possible but most of those instances always fail to evolve into standing relationships.
Now that is where the problem starts most times with we the men. We start by showing interest, compliments, buying of gifts and giving too much attention.
All those things should come after the relationship level, and not on the meeting or dating level.
When you move too fast and bombard the woman with too much of those things, it will burn down your whole chances of getting attracted.
And that's why she sees you as a nice person and as a caring friend.
A woman wants to be with a man who will trigger her attraction and not affection, that's why buying her gifts and all those things will not work in getting her attraction.
So to make everything work, you should consider slowing everything down because if you do them too much, it will backfire at you.
Buying gifts and complimenting a woman is good and generally, they love it and they also like the attention they get from men who find them attractive.
But when you overdo it and starts acting like a desperate and wired man, a woman will know that you are so in need and obsessed with her, so she will see no value in you.
Everything worth getting is not easy, and that is why you need to slow down so you can also get to know her and let her know you.
You must not over show interest in a woman if you like her and while you are trying to show less interest, always ensure that you don't make her start thinking that you don't like her company.
There is also the need to reduce the time you spend talking with her or the number of times you spend together, but you should not do it in such a way that will not make her think you are walking away.
Then after that, you take things slowly and step by step, one step after the other and then, you are already going. You must build up her interest in you step by step and also, her attraction for you.
It all depends on the way you do it, women like confident men who have so many things to talk about and do it confidently.
Women like men with other options, when you are not a sociable man who have been around so many women and have meet so many women in your life, that's when you lack the means and strategy to get close to any woman and win her heart.
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So you can start being around other women rather than focusing your whole attention on just one woman, and once you start coming close to other women in your life, you start learning about women more and you wouldn't care to pour out your interest on just one woman, your dating cycle becomes wider.
As i always tell you in my articles, that there is no shortcut to gaining the attention and attraction of a woman, it just takes the normal step by step presentation of strategies, and except you map out your skills, grow them, learn more about them and use them properly, giving any woman too much of attention, and showing so much interest on her can backfire at you anytime and at any point.
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