Things you should never say to avoid ruining your first date with a woman

As a man, you will always want to impress the woman you just meet on a new date and in the process of doing those things that makes you think will make her interested in you, you end up doing something that will ruin everything for you.

One thing that men always forget and underestimate while dealing with women is confidentiality and being your real self.
Once you cant be able to maintain your true and real nature when with a woman on a first date, it will be hard and rare getting a call for a second date.

One thing you should throw your focus on is how to make her feel attracted to you and making her enjoy every bit of seconds she spent with you on the first date.
Confidence is one thing character that can even serve as a pass for another date and also a guarantee that your first date will be a success, so once you have this confidence in you, then you are good to start your test and in other words, your dating game.

#Personality.
This is the basis towards achieving success even before you start a date with a woman. Once you have a good name to yourself and everyone is able to recognise you with your great achievements, or the good things you are known for, and what a good person and great individual you are, then you are good to go.

Even without telling the woman about yourself, she might have heard about your minor achievements and also about how a great and good person you are, so even before the date is started, you find out that everything is just promising and its just going to sound to her like a queen is going to meet a king.

So to make success, there are some things that you should not do to avoid ruining your first date with a woman.
(Also Read: The 6 most most annoying habits men hate in their girlfriends )

(1) Asking her who she is calling or texting.
Is it really a time to start getting jealous over something that does not really matter?
When you find out that the woman you are together with is answering a call or texting someone you don't know, you don't have to start asking or questioning her about it.

You are not yet in a relationship with her and so, you don't have to jump into her personal affairs and act like both of you are now lovers.
She can go out with another guy for a date and you don't have any right against her, so its only when you are able to get her to start loving you and that is when you have all those rights against her.

Who she is texting or calling should not be your problem, and you should also avoid taking out your phones while on a date so that when she sees you without your phone, she might as well keep hers back.

(2) Asking her about her work and financial status.
It is actually bad and not nice to just ask a woman about her work or financial related issues while on a date with her, and it makes her feel like you are trying too hard to get over her in no time.

She might have a work that pays her well but will not be comfortable telling you about it since you are just dating. And maybe she have a job that sounds bad in the ear, asking her about it will turn her off and can make her loose interest in you.

So when ever on a date, make sure you don't go anywhere near her job and financial stands because it might happen to turn her off and make her loose interest.

(3) Talking to her about your ex and past relationships.
This can be a good sign that you are not ready to take your date to a high level and possibly switch into a relationship with her.

When you find it hard getting over your ex talks and past relationship talks, then you will find it hard getting a new girlfriend that will treat  you as her boyfriend, you will only end up with a woman who treats you as a mother and sees you as her child.

Also this act do irritate many women on a date and it gives them a sign that you still have your old partner in your mind and since you enjoy talking about her, chances are that she left you and you still want to get back if she will allow you.

She will not be ready to accept you into her life with such kind of a habit of not getting over your past relationships, so find a way to get this done with and stop talking to women you are dating about matters like that.
(Also Read: How to handle your relationship while still in college )

(4) Comparing her with other women.
A woman will not take it likely with you when you keep comparing her to other women you have dated maybe you probably take compliments like "You are the best among other girls i have dated" to back up your comparison which sounds bad.

Its better if you can come up with such instances in a more pleasant way, you can tell her that you are happy to meet a wonderful person like her, but not putting it the other way round that sounds like you are a practical womanizer.

Also its good to tell her that she looks like your mom, your sister or something like that, but many women find it not appealing.
Trying to be different from other women is one thing they like doing, and once you compare them with other women, you are indirectly telling them that they can never be better than those women you have compared them to.

(5) Giving attention to your phone than her.
This one also turns a girl off while on a date together with a man, and if you are not careful of this, she can just get angry and leave at once, unless if you have enough skills to handle this.

You should be able to know that she needs your attention every now and then while on a date and so, you need to be attentive to here and be a good observer, carefully studying the environment where both of you are in and trying to learn more about her bodily languages so you don't act like a freak or a weirdo.
(Also Read: How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character )

These whole concepts about first dates with women is something very fun and interesting if you master how to be a confident guy and just be your real self, then you desist from any of those things listed above and when you do, i bet you will not be struggling with handling first dates anymore.

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6 Annoying habits men hate in their girlfriend

Have your boyfriend ever showed displeasure and turned away in reaction to some things you do? If yes, then you are probably among the list of annoying girlfriends with habits that men always hate.

Its not like as if your man does not love you when he acts or does something strange some moments in your relationship, but the reason is that there are some girlfriend habits in you that your man probably don't like, and it annoys him when he sees you acting in such annoying forms.

A friend of mine in college once told me that he had a girlfriend, and he loves her so much, and she loves him too but then, there are many things she does that he is not comfortable with and whenever she does them, it annoys him.

More so, i have learnt about many other girlfriend habits that men do hate in their girlfriends and am going to show you some of the common and recent ones hitting most relationships today.
So as a woman, if you find out that some of your habits made a list among those common habits, then just know that your man has not always been happy with that.
(Also Read: How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character )

(1) The first among the list is Wearing too much makeup on your body parts.
This habit is one of those that annoys me the most.
Its crystal clear that we always like to see our woman attractive and we want everyone to find her attractive but then, who is she attracting by the way?

Your natural beauty and looks are far more better for us than those makeups you are putting on, painting your finger nails with different colors like rainbow, do you expect us to like that? And then, you paint your lips with colors that turns them blue, red or pinky, how on earth do you want us to kiss your natural adorable lips?

I mean just think of it, its not worth it at all, and it makes us more angry when you do all those makeups and everything only to find out that you are going out in that form to a party, or to hang out with your friends, or to a special occasion.
Look, the truth be told, we adore and respect your real and natural beauty more than those makeup looks that turns you almost like a cartoon and besides, no man wants to hear another man tell him that his girlfriend wears too much makeup and doesn't look original and natural.

(2) A bad breathing habit.
I will be the angriest man ever if my girlfriend cant brush up her teeth and take good foods.
I mean is that fair enough for your man to be sitting beside you and while in a conversation, he can only notice you breathing badly with some unpleasant smell savouring from your mouth and then, he can even notice that your teeth are yellowish?

For goodness sake, it pisses us off and we don't just like it, we will be afraid to take you out because people will notice and we will be the ones to bear the shame.
We don't like it when our girlfriends have poor hygiene especially on the oral aspect, it irritates us that we even hate to kiss when you are having that habit in you.

(3) Lack of any sense of humour.
I also hate this aspect about any girlfriend and i have meet some with this habit and seriously, it gets me off the edge.
Though you can be intelligent and knowledgeable but then, humour and the sense of humour is another thing that if you don't have, it turns everything about you boring.

There was a girlfriend i once had and it happened that i was telling her a very funny joke but to my surprise, she responded in a negative way that signifies she did not understand anything about the joke.
I was very displeased and not happy at all that my girlfriend could not understand jokes, even the most straight forward jokes.

I have seen girlfriends who do not laugh or joke to their boyfriends, that is to say, they are straight forward and it irritates and bore us away.
Try to be lively, joke and laugh, just loosen your mind a bit and try to put on some humorous habits, that's when we start knowing what we are doing.
(Also Read: See reasons why men get so angry with their woman in their relationship )

(4) Being comfortable with other men than with him.
Hey we actually get angry and do question this action most times.
You know that you are my girlfriend, and that you totally own everything about me and you are free and allowed to express your mind and feelings to me than any one, then why on earth will you be hanging out with other men, flirting with them in a happy way and even allowing them to feel feely touchy with you to the extent that they might think you are single?

We sometimes fail to understand why and despite the fact we are secured about your feelings for us, you still don't feel always comfortable with us just like the way you do with those other men. We don't just enjoy and like that feeling we get when we see that happening.

(5) Taking too long before you turn up.
Every girlfriend is a victim to this act, even my girlfriend and i hate it so much.
Why will you tell me that you will be done within just 10 minutes but you end up returning to meet me or call my mobile after almost 1 hour? Is that fair enough?

When your man have a tight schedule and you both have to be on together, and you keep delaying the timing and keep him waiting, he will no tolerate that and some day, he will start nagging about that.

(6) Lies and gossip about others and everything.
I hate it when my girlfriend lie to me about something i know is true.
Why will you not just stop lying and start becoming honest in your relationship? It will only help to build up the trust that rests on the relationship.

When you lie about those calls you are receiving 24/7, and you lie about some facts in your past relationship life, lie about the number of men you have dated, lie about the places you went to, etc.

Another aspect women enjoy and does most is this gossip part. Gossiping about people and their life, and talking about all sort of things at their back, it is a very bad habit and i will leave if i found out that my girlfriend is someone not different.

We don't really care about all those information, but we will appreciate your truth and honesty in the relationship, that is the only way we can say if the relationship is going to last or not.
(Also Read: Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires )

So those are just some of those habits in you that we hate, if you can hastily walk away from them, then your man will be proud of you, but if you cant just stop and you continue in them, then make sure you start to number your days as your relationship might be cut short.

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How to handle your relationship while still in college

I have learnt a lot from the story of my many friends who are already graduates from college and also, those that are still in college. For many of them, it was really hard to maintain a the relationships they go into, either from the college cycle, or outside the vicinity, while some were able to handle their relationship lives and keep up to their real self in the college.

This article is meant to show you how to handle any relationship you choose to start while you go into college so as to make sure that you don't start hurting different people in your life and changing your real self to someone known to be without good influence and an un-dateable  person in college.

The college is a place where you meet with different new people in your life and also, get to know new things and gather new experiences in your life. One aspect of this new experience and a new system of living and getting is what we are going to discuss about.

The relationship and dating style in colleges.
The way you come around new people and start dating and eventually, go into a relationship is totally different from the way it is done in the outside world. That is to say, that dating and relationships in colleges are easy to start and takes no time before you can go into a relationship.

To tell you how easy it is to start dating in college, i was able to get a new girlfriend from my very first day in college, and it was so with many of my other friends who we all started college together.

The problem.
But the problem is not starting the relationship, it is how to sustain and keep the relationship going without breaking the relationship, or ending it, or falling into the wrong hands.

Just like i told you that i had a girlfriend from my first day in college, i was not able to keep it going and it couldn't last for even up to a month, it ended for so many reasons, and it was so with some of those my friends who we started college together.

Another problem is this, the fact that you are going into college and you are already in a relationship from outside the college, and it happens that you are dedicated to the relationship that you promised not to break the trust in the relationship even after you are into the college. Now the inability to sustain and keep such relationships is also one problem faced by many boys and girls once they are into college.

Are you one of those people faced with such problems, well you are at the right place to get the best advice for yourself.
(Also Read: How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character )

What to do when in college.
If you are in a relationship with someone in the college or outside the college, maybe at home, the following are the things you should do as you start the college run.

(1) Mingle with new people and be social.
The college is not a place to be selective of who to meet and talk to or being too sensitive about people you meet on a daily basis.

When you fail to meet with new people and hang out when others are hanging out, you will have less options and less choices in your life in the college.
As a result, you will be always eager to get someone who will always be beside you or someone you can talk to, and that makes you look desperate, and you can break your current relationship because of that.

Why it will help you while in college.
As a man, when you are able to socialize and meet new female friends in the college, it makes new women find you interesting and fun to be with and as a result, many of them will want to date you, and when it happens, you see many girls showing interest in you. And while you are enjoying the attention you get from other women, you are also in consideration of your current girlfriend and you would not want to loose her out to another girl whom  you don't know if she is going to last.

Also as a woman, socializing with other men and women out there will let you know more about them and you must surely get new suitors from all angles, so are you going to date all of them? The answer is no. So if you are already in a relationship you are dedicated to, you better stick to it rather than letting other men take away your joy.

(2) Only take good relationship advice from your new college friends.
If you are not careful of the kind of people you meet in the college, they can ruin your relationship with what they tell you or what they ask you to do.

You already know that there are many people in the college you have had bad experience from relationships they had in the past and there are those who are good in doing what others have successfully influenced them to start doing.

For example, if you have not started having sex, you might be desperate to start or even start it once you are into college.
But this all depends on the kind of people you listen to and what they do right in your face.
So once you know you are comfortable with your relationship style, stick to it and don't allow other new people to change your real self into another self people don't know about.

Also as a woman, you might start to be too expensive and demanding when you start college, and it depends on the kind of new female friends you meet.
So once you know what you want, who you are and see no problem with how you present yourself, then you don't need to listen to the call to be expensive because once you join the cue of those expensive babes in high school, that's when you start having problems with your boyfriend if he cant meet your demands, and you will probably start to look out for some other expensive guys out there.

If you are committed to your relationship now, then you will make sure that nothing invades in and destroy what you have been building for long.
(Also Read: The best ways to get a girl interested in you )

(3) Know the place of your lover in your heart.
You should be able to know that the new friends you meet in college are not meant to replace your old friends, and likewise your lover.

So you should know and have it in mind that you have made your promises of keeping the relationship and making it last forever, so allowing your new college friends and college life to change you is absolute cheating, and once you start cheating in a relationship, then you can never be good in keeping any relationship. And instead of you to be able to inspire someone for a better relationship, you will only be making people take bad decisions in their relationship career.

College life is sweet, and adorable only when you are able to choose the good side of the challenges, relationships in colleges don't last or go anywhere outside the college and that have been the reports in most of the cases.
(Also Read: Signs That Tells A Girl Likes You And Is Ready To Date You )

Also, the most common of all kind of relationship in college is those that involves lust, and not love. And once you start taking the lusty habit of college students, you will never make any good in your relationship life, nor your whole entire life.

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How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character

I have made a lot of mistakes of going into a relationship with women i barely know anything about and at the end, i find out that i am bound in a relationship with a woman with the worst kind of habit and character i have ever seen.

I am here to give you help on how to handle and deal with such situations where you go into a relationship with a woman who have a bad attitude and character to her name.

In this kind of situation, it normally do not occur to you at first that you are dating a woman with bad influence to your life. And you start the relationship feeling the sweetness and she keeps showering you her love with no limitations.
But as time goes by, you discover that you are not with the kind of woman you want to be with in your life and as a result, you are left with no option other than leaving, but no, i don't think its time to leave, hope you have not forgotten too soon that you promised to be with her forever, and for better or for worst.

#The kinds of bad attitudes and characters a woman can possess.
A woman can possess any kind of attitude and character depending on the domain where she is exposed to, the kind of teachings she learn and the kind of people she associate with.
Though not every kind of a woman can be influenced by those factors above but in most cases, those factors are responsible for any kind of attitude a woman can turn out to possess and live with.

Being a troublesome woman is one kind of character a woman can possess, and this depends on the kind of people she move along with and the kind of environment she is exposed to.

Acting like a whore to other men and being known as a slut is also one character i have seen many women who are even dating possess. I have bumped into many women who i know to be dating but still, i can take them out and bed them anytime i wish or talk dirty and get naughty with them, and it has never been a problem to them.

Also, many women possess the character of a fighter. I have seen many women who can fight anytime and anywhere if any one should offend them or get them angry. And you see them fighting any man or woman as far as they don't go in terms and in peace with each other.

Gossiping and malice keeping have been the most common recently among women and many of them have allowed that character to take over them, and they go in groups gossiping about others and getting heated up and causing an uproar among those they consider as their enemies.
(Also Read: Steps to attracting a girl to become more than just friends )

Among other characters, you can see impatience, lack of understanding and wisdom towards judging matters, prostitution for money and others.

#Why it happened that you are dating any of such types of women.
The reason why you are dating such kind of a woman is because you just jumped into the relationship without thinking if you are ready to be in the relationship, and without learning about the woman you want to start your relationship career with.
Maybe you just saw the woman just a week before you started dating, and you never cared to know about her in and out, and you just proceeded to asking her out for a relationship and she accepted your proposal.

Then as time went on and you spent more time, days and months, or even years dating, you started realising her hidden features which you were not comfortable with and then, it started dawning on you that those characters are not characters you want in a woman you want as a partner and so, you start thinking its high time you end the relationship and find someone better and with such qualities you would want her to have in her.

Why ending the relationship is not an option.
As a man, after you have realised her real character, what will be in your mind is just to leave and find someone better, but i know that it must have occurred to you this way.

Despite that you have known her real habits, and how it can affect your thinking and the relationship, she still shows you that love, care and respect, and nothing have changed, apart from the fact that you have known the hidden facts about her. And sometimes when you try to talk to her in the direction of her characters, she refuses to admit to her character and accept the fact that its who she is, and she keep telling you that she is nothing like what you are thinking and she cant do what you are thinking about.

Now you already know her attitudes, and you already know that it have started to affect the relationship from your own direction, but she is not changing the direction her love is taking, you have every reason to believe that you are the one she loves and her attitudes in her life are not affecting the love she have for you. This i know will make you believe that she is truthful and faithful to you, but then, you don't want to believe it.
(Also Read: Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires )

HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH SITUATIONS.
Leaving the relationship will not do you any good, because if you think back and take off the thought of her attitude from your heart, you will find no reason to cut off and end the relationship.

So the best things you can do to help her and help your relationship are as follows.

(1) Occasionally talk to her about those attitudes and characters:
The reason why you should do that is to keep reminding her that without her being honest and truthful to you, your relationship will never last and that there is no amount of lie on this earth can be able to keep your relationship.
By lying to you about her secrets and hiding them from you, she can keep you, but she can never keep your relationship. The more she continues in her habits and keep hiding them from you, the more she makes you to walk away and when you walk far away from her heart, she have lost you completely.

(2) Talk to her about her friends whom you know can be responsible for her attitudes:
Another way to make her stop and get her along the right way is to challenge her about those bad friends she have whom you have already known their habits and she knows that you know who they are really.

Let her know that friends with bad habits have nothing to do in her life if she is really good as she claims to be, and to avoid them from changing her to be like them or to keep damaging her, she have to quit the friendship between them and focus on getting new friends who will affect her life positively.

(3) Talk to her about the kind of things she makes priority in her life.
A woman without any vision in her life is a woman without dreams, and a woman without goals in her life is a woman without focus.
Ask her what are her goals, her number one thing in this life and how she work towards achieving such aims in her life.

If she couldn't tell you anything about this, tell her more about how you care towards sharing your life and your dreams with her, and tell her about your own dreams, and by so doing, she will learn to start thinking of something definite in her life and how she can achieve it.

Ask her to cut off some irrelevant activities she engage in her life that makes her more vulnerable and exposed to the stupid activities of the world.
(Also Read: See reasons why men get so angry with their woman in their relationship )

(4) Promise to give her good support in her life:
After everything, she will want to know that you are really serious in all those things you are saying to her, tell her that you want to see her just change so you can be happy, you must have been hearing bad things about her, tell her that you don't want to hear any bad thing about her any more.

Then you must promise her support in everything and render her help anywhere necessary, with that she becomes happy with you and you both will come into terms with each other.

Now you must make sure that you don't relent and grow cold in doing all i have said above, every habit and attitude that requires change must be taken slowly, with understanding and with patience. And when you have done all those, you can drop us a feedback on the result you got by using the comment box below. And we can tell you what next to do when you have achieved either a positive or negative result.

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Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires

This have been a problem many men are facing today in their relationship and dating circle, the fact that many men think giving a woman too much attention and showing too much interest in her can make them win the love of the woman.

But the case and reports on this issue have always been very bad and sometimes pleasant.
One problem faced by many men today is the fact that they have no means or strategy on how to win a woman's love and keep the fire burning without it burning the whole relationship down.

Some men will start it right, but in the process of attracting the woman to love them, they over use the opportunities and means they have and then, destroy everything.
So among those strategies you have in getting a woman's attraction, we are going to tell you how and why showing too much interest or attention gets you off the edge and then, backfires at you and makes you loose everything.

Not every woman is interested in a man who shows too much attention and interest to her. In most cases, when you start showing a woman interest, she likes it normally, but when it starts getting TOO MUCH, then that's where the problem starts to develop and that's where you start loosing the whole thing.

#Women like men that offers them challenge.
Now think of this, do you think calling that girl 80 times a day, or always offering her gifts and attention will make her start to love you and feel attraction for you?

The answer is NO.
Normally when you do all those things for a woman, she enjoys it at first and as a man, you think that's what she really want and since she is enjoying it, you continue to do it.

When you continue doing it and she keeps enjoying it, you now become afraid to stop or slow down because you start thinking that other men will do it for her and you will get heart broken, so its like you add more pressure to what you are doing.
(Also Read: How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection )

Now to the woman whom you are doing all those things for, this is how it feels.
She starts thinking that you are a nice person, you are affectionate and kind and she continues to be good to you.
She will never think you are a dating potential because you are obsessed with her and you are just a kind and nice person, and that is all.

When you continue to do those things for her, she will start getting uncomfortable with it because you are not helping her to feel attraction for you, but then, she will be afraid to hurt you and get you to be heartbroken, and since she allowed you in the first place, she will just allow you to continue what you are doing and she will continue to see you as a nice person. So you see that you are only pumping in affection and that's not what a woman wants.
A woman wants a man who will offer her challenge, which will make her to show affection, and from there she starts to feel attraction for that man.

#The basis of every relationship.
There is one procedure which every relationship pass through before it stands.
Normally, you start from meeting with each other, and after that, you start dating and from dating, its either you start a relationship with each other, or it ends at dating and everything dies off.

I have not heard about cases where a relationship starts from friendship, its always hard for a friend to turn into a lover although, its possible but most of those instances always fail to evolve into standing relationships.

Now that is where the problem starts most times with we the men. We start by showing interest, compliments, buying of gifts and giving too much attention.
All those things should come after the relationship level, and not on the meeting or dating level.

When you move too fast and bombard the woman with too much of those things, it will burn down your whole chances of getting attracted.
And that's why she sees you as a nice person and as a caring friend.

A woman wants to be with a man who will trigger her attraction and not affection, that's why buying her gifts and all those things will not work in getting her attraction.

So to make everything work, you should consider slowing everything down because if you do them too much, it will backfire at you.
Buying gifts and complimenting a woman is good and generally, they love it and they also like the attention they get from men who find them attractive.
But when you overdo it and starts acting like a desperate and wired man, a woman will know that you are so in need and obsessed with her, so she will see no value in you.

Everything worth getting is not easy, and that is why you need to slow down so you can also get to know her and let her know you.
You must not over show interest in a woman if you like her and while you are trying to show less interest, always ensure that you don't make her start thinking that you don't like her company.

There is also the need to reduce the time you spend talking with her or the number of times you spend together, but you should not do it in such a way that will not make her think you are walking away.

Then after that, you take things slowly and step by step, one step after the other and then, you are already going. You must build up her interest in you step by step and also, her attraction for you.

It all depends on the way you do it, women like confident men who have so many things to talk about and do it confidently.
Women like men with other options, when you are not a sociable man who have been around so many women and have meet so many women in your life, that's when you lack the means and strategy to get close to any woman and win her heart.
(Also Read: 5 Tips on how to be that special man every woman wants )

So you can start being around other women rather than focusing your whole attention on just one woman, and once you start coming close to other women in your life, you start learning about women more and you wouldn't care to pour out your interest on just one woman, your dating cycle becomes wider.

As i always tell you in my articles, that there is no shortcut to gaining the attention and attraction of a woman, it just takes the normal step by step presentation of strategies, and except you map out your skills, grow them, learn more about them and use them properly, giving any woman too much of attention, and showing so much interest on her can backfire at you anytime and at any point.

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How to know when you are prepared to start a relationship

Well, today we are up with another discussion, and this time around, we are hitting it at you. Yes you! I just got you, you want to start a relationship right? And you want to know if you are ready for it right?

Or no, lets just say you have started the relationship, but then you want to know if you are right about the relationship you are into?
I am here to enlighten you more about this subject matter and what it entails.

Normally you would want to start a relationship, and you are just waiting to start it, and now you want to kick start it with that beautiful girl you just meet, and you just think that she is the right girl for you. Or that handsome guy you just meet and you think he is the right guy for you.

When you want to start a relationship, you have to think about yourself, what you want, your beliefs, your behaviours and attitudes, among others, and then, see if that other person you want to get into a relationship with is capable and fit to occupy that hungry and empty space in your life.

Or just think it this way, think within yourself why you need a soulmate to continue your life with. Maybe you would just think now and say you just need a partner that will show you love, care and affection, understanding and support.

You are right when you think that way, but does it really matter? Are your answers really convincing about why you want to start the relationship? Okay if it is right, then ask yourself. WHAT IF I START THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT MAN/WOMAN BUT AT THE WRONG TIME?.

Let me show you some signs that you are not ready to start a new relationship life, or some signs that tells you have to wait first.
(Also Read: 5 Tips on how to be that special man every woman wants )

#Wanting someone to rescue you.
Yes, this can be the reason why you want to start dating and if it is, you are starting it the wrong way. By this, i mean that maybe you are thinking of how miserable your life is and so, you want someone to save you out of that misery and in the process, you might get someone who is also in that situation and also wanting to be saved, and from that, your misery gets doubled.

#Wanting to fill an empty space in your life.
Yes it do happen this way too, you think you need someone to complete your life for you, and you start searching for one, well you are starting it the wrong way. You might be with the right person, but at the wrong time.

Also, maybe you cannot differentiate from love and interest. Are you chasing for love or what is of interest to you? If you want love, then sorry, you got it wrong, you should chase after your interest and not love.

Also, maybe you are now trying to change and look loveable to that person you want to start dating or something like that. That does not define being ready for a relationship.
If you are trying to start a relationship just because your friends are into it, oh that's wrong too.

There are so many reasons and signs to say that you started or you want to start a relationship wrongly and for the wrong reasons and at the wrong time.
But how do i know that i am ready and prepared to start a relationship that is going to last longer?
See the signs below.

#You have no past that still hurts.
One reason why people fail in moving on and getting the best kind of relationship they want is because they refuse to erase and clean the thoughts of old memories and things that makes them sad and demanding when ever they think about love.

So if you want to start it at the right time and along with the right person, then you must forget about your old relationships, your ex, things that gets you angry about your ex,  and all that.

So be ready to forget about everything that hurts and then, move on with your life. Now that is when you are ready to start a new relationship at the right time.

#You are always happy with who you are.
When you are not always happy for whom you are and naturally, happy with yourself and what you have generally in your life, then you are not ready to start a new relationship.
If you cant be happy with yourself alone and therefore you are looking for someone to make you happy and be happy together, you are not ready.

People who are ready for relationships are people who just want someone to share their life and happiness with. So if you are not always happy with yourself, how will you share your happiness with that person? Now you know. Without you being happy with yourself, you can not be happy with that other guy or girl either.

#You can handle being single.
What i mean by this is that being single is not a problem to someone who is ready for love.
When you are ready for a relationship, you create more time for your own happiness so you can make the other person happy and so, if you can not be happy as a single person and enjoy your life as a single person, then you are not ready for a relationship.

You only want someone to share your life with and not someone to complete it for you. Your life should be complete and intact before you start thinking of starting a relationship.

#You are open minded and have nothing to hide.
Before you can start a relationship that is going to last for a long time, you must not have any thing to hide which you don't want any one to know. You must be ready to be open minded to whomsoever you want to start the relationship with.

That's what it means to be in a relationship, sharing of your life episodes together without withdrawing any truth and keeping it hidden with you.
When you hide any truth from your relationship, it will surely haunt your relationship down in any way it will come.

#You have friends that means the world to you.
You have to know that only one person can never make you happy in your life, and that's where your friendship cycle comes into consideration.
Relationships are like sudden wind, it blows and then, goes off, girls/guys will come and go, but your friends lasts forever.

So if you want to start a relationship, make sure that you have a fulfilling friend list and make sure that they are supportive in your life.

#Unconditional love.
This is another pin point where many people are caught rushing towards in their relationships.
You should not have any condition or reason for going into a relationship apart from the fact that you want to share your happy life with another person that does not lack in what characterise your own life.

#Bold and courageous.
You have to know that going into a relationship requires you to be courageous and bold to confront whatever is to come in the after bond.
Boldness and courage signifies willingness, determination and strength to carry the loads of the relationship you want to start.
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you make with women )

Do you have exit doors that are left open in your life? If yes, then you need to close them before you start the relationship.
Sometimes when you start a relationship, you might eventually discover some wrong things in the relationship which will make you want to get out of the relationship.

Now you have to reconsider those things that will make you want to run out of the relationship and then, close them up and amend those things so that they don't affect your new relationship.

Relationships are like toys, they need to be handled with care and take risks because you are about to start something that will affect and change many story lines in your life.

There are many things to talk about when ever it comes to the issue of starting a relationship, but all of them can never be said here, we will add more to it in our articles ahead. Feel free to share your thoughts on this subject matter and add more to what have been discussed.

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Steps to attracting a girl to become more than just friends

Have you ever had a female friend whom you have been friends with and you actually like her? But you don't know how to get out and be more than just friends with her?

This is one problem many guys face with the girls they bump into, but there is a reason behind this.
Normally, women have been known for their different definitions when it comes to friendship and romantic relationship.

When a woman has any feelings in her mind for you, and she always have one special reason in her mind as to why she wants to be with you, then she is ready to be intimate with you and have a romantic relationship with you?
But when she just sees you as someone who she always talk with just to laugh, get advice and then, just turn around, that's when friendship is said to be the bond between the both of you.

Women are complex creatures, and when a woman has no feeling for you inside her, then it is difficult for you to curl in some sense of feeling inside her and make her to start loving you. However, there is something you can always do and practice and once you are able to do them, you will successfully get any woman to start thinking of you and even change your state in her mind. Lets see some of those things you can do.

#Plan a day or two days walk or trip with her.
This can be quite overwhelming right? It might seem to you that this one here cant work, but doing this will create a new room and opportunity to share ideas and observations that can bring about the evolvement of a romantic relationship.

Okay, the first step here is to ask her to come over for a walk to somewhere with you, or a trip to somewhere with you. She is your friend, a very good and particularly best and close one to you, so i don't see any reason why she will refuse to come with you.

(Also Read: How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection )

Once this is set, then you can select the best and romantic places to go around with her, and let her also select some of her favourite places. In the course of this event, do not get things boring, you must be the man, make it fun and interesting, romantic and worth talking about, do things that she would observe while you are doing them and also, get her to do things that will give you points to talk about after the walk or trip.

Normally when its evening, and almost getting dark, both of you are already planning to be back home and so, the call is made. But do you just let all the fun from the trip just slip away without talking to each other about it? That's why you must...

#Arrange a dinner night together with her.
Oh she will not refuse it, she needs refreshment, and you too, so what will you offer her more than a more romantic dinner night together?

Okay you successfully got the dinner talks in and she agreed to that and both of you are at dinner together, refreshing and getting stronger. Do you just talk about other things while at dinner or you keep quite and make everything boring? I guess no, you wouldn't risk your chance with that.

So while the dinner is going on, you should talk about the walk or trip you had together, tell her many things you observed and loved about her during the trip, and also get her to tell you about her own observations about the trip. If everything went on very well, then you are gradually getting some things into her.

You should talk more about the romantic aspect of the trip, and that is where the magic works, because everything about women is emotional and once a romantic conversation comes in between the both of you, then it sends some emotional thoughts about you into her.

After that, you can ask her if you can have such kind of walk or trip some other time to other new places she have always wished to go to, when you do that and she responds in a welcoming and romantic way, then you are gradually winning, and she might not notice what you are doing.
She will notice that you are trying to get intimate when you are not bold.

#Boldness in your actions.
One of the important keys towards achieving such aims is having boldness in you.
Like for example, when you are saying something romantic to her and then, your voice broke down, and you acted nervous, and just like you missed your lines, she will notice it and inside her, she would start thinking that you have some feelings for her and everything you were doing was just because you are now into her.

That would probably risk your chances of letting your thoughts flow through her and get more attracted. Though tipping her about your feelings for her is good, and letting her know about your new love for her is good too, but that will not be the best and ideal way to let her know about it.

For her to know about your love for her and not risking the chances of getting her to love you, you are to be bold in speech, be smart in words, and wise in thinking, don't linger or keep waiting for an answer or action response once you have tipped her.

These are just some of the things that you need in other to move along the game line, but then, there are some things some guys and even you, yes even i, we all do it and it is wrong and actually gets every girl loose feelings and attraction for us.

When a girl is so close to you and you start to think of changing the friendship into a relationship, then that's where you start to hit it wrong and get the inscription "I DON'T JUST GET IT" written on your forehead.

When you start buying a girlfriend of yours so many gifts and showering her with compliments, knowing that she is just a friend so close but without any mutual feelings for you, then YOU DON'T JUST GET IT.
And that's the normal way many guys do act and then, risk their chances of getting a girlfriend to love them and get attracted for love.

A girl sees you as a lost person who don't just get it when she got close to you, and you started buying her gifts and compliments.

When you are already dating a woman, yes she would enjoy and cherish every bit of compliments and gifts you shower her, but when you just meet a girl not even up to 3 weeks, and you start buying her gifts and starts to be nice, then you have already wasted your chance of getting her.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man while dealing with women )

A woman have already seen many men wanting to win her heart and attraction and this happens every day in her life, as a result, she have known that cheap and easy path many men come through just to get her, and once you come along and take that same path and root, then you should expect nothing less than a rejection.

So for you to get her, you must learn to be patient and avoid the easy paths to lure her into your heart, you must study her very well and then, try other roads and paths that will lead you to that same thing you want from her.

More help and tips on this aspect will be updated and we will feed you more. For the mean time, any more thought and contribution from you as our reader is highly welcomed.

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See The Reasons Why Men Get so Angry With Woman in Their Relationships

I have seen a lot of blogs coming up with articles related to men getting angry with women in their relationships and today, it is a proven fact that most men now get so angered over a little incident which occurred between them and their woman.

What you might keep asking yourself is the reason why a man just get so angry over a woman who he is said to love and care for.
Have you ever been in this situation before? That moment when you and your lover seem to be having fun and then, something happened, and you just got angry right there.

When long distance relationship is involved, that is where it happens a lot because as a man, you find out that little feminine actions your woman portrays will make you to live in fear, discrimination, feeling attacked, etc.

Normally, every man has a particular way he reacts to different relationship situations and therefore, we have different kinds of experience which makes us get angry with our woman mostly. And when you are angry with your woman, you normally lash out on her or tell her how angry you are and how you feel on what she did.

So what are those reasons why men get angry with women?
There are many reasons why as men, we get angry with our woman and act in whatever way we have learnt when we are angry, let me drop some regular reasons as to why men get angry with women.

#1. We as men, it have been a part of us that we can not just understand the process involved in the feeling of emotions and how we can come up with an idea to stop the trigger at that moment when its happening. This act can be traced back to our childhood days.

Now can you remember? That time when you were a child, and daddy will always get angry at you and correct you in an angry mode? Or when mummy did not prepare launch in time and then, you saw how angry daddy was and how he talked angrily to mum?

Just trace back and you can recall incidents when your dad or mum was angry with you and caught you in a harsh way and corrected you.
Now here is what you have to know, that as you were growing up, you grew up with those actions right in your view and brain and you never learned how to control anger or get someone to teach you about the act of getting angered and how to control it.

So as you now grew up and you are now a man, you act the same way you learnt when you were a young boy and it becomes a part of you. And when your woman gets you angry, you act just the way you have known in times past when you are a kid and a young boy.

#2. What you are experiencing is not what you want in your life.

Another reason why you get angry with a woman is because you are not getting what you expect out of your life.
Yes that's the true fact, a man who have everything he wants in this life will always be happy with everyone and women most especially.
So you don't have what you want in your life yet, and that simply explains the reason why you are angry.

Well now, you have gotten a clue to why you get angry with a woman right? So how do you go about dealing with your anger with a woman and stop hurting yourself every time because of a woman.

In my own case, here is what mostly makes me angry with my woman.
"When we are on a call with her, then maybe she ran out of airtime and the call ended, or i ran out of airtime, and so the call ended, then i went on to buy airtime and after that, i call her number and i saw her number was busy on another call, while i am held on call waiting, then she was on that other call and its lasting for more than 10 minutes,".

Hell no!!, i normally get angry on this issue alone and i will talk to her to the extent that will almost talk out my nerves, it triggers my anger a lot and makes me so easy and weak when am seen.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women )

How to deal with it.

Well now you have understood this whole concept of getting angry with a woman. So what do you do to make yourself always happy with everything you do?

#1. Mark out your desires.
What you want in this life and also, what you dream and aspire to have is known as your desires.
To deal with that anger you always feel, you have to discover and search out what you are looking for in a woman and in your life.

But as you are doing that, you must keep it in mind and know that what you want and desire is not just an object, person or any activity of a thing. The part way to experiencing what you want is through people, activities and objects that yields an outcome.

A woman in her nature can only help you experience and feel what you desire when you are with a woman?
Do you desire a woman to tell you sweet words and stories? Do you desire a woman to kiss you, hug you and make you feel the warmness of her body? Or you desire to get sexually intimate with that woman?

Well it all depends on you, if you want to be happy with a woman, the best tip to work it out is to write down what you expect and desire from a woman as a whole.

For example, when it comes to money, having a lot of money is not what you desire, what you are planning to do with the money and the experience you will encounter is what you desire and you don't desire riches, but the pleasure of riches.

So when you are able to mark out and identify what you actually want in a woman, then that is when you can be able to have a clear goal and mind when you encounter any difficulty on your travel.

#How you feel.
How you feel with a woman is what will tell if you can be happy with her or not, and so you should mark this point out and think about it.
Okay do you feel that she is cheating on you? Or you feel she is not honest at all? Or you feel angry with her actions and behaviour? Okay only you can tell whatever it is.

#How do you want to feel?
After marking out and knowing how you feel with that woman, it is possible that you have now understood that actually, what you are feeling is not the way you want to feel and that's why you always get angry.

Love goes with affection, but emotion goes with feelings.
So a woman showing you love and affection does not mean she can satisfy what you want to feel and how you want to feel it.
So learn to write down how you want to feel with a woman.

After doing that, then try comparing How you feel and How you want to feel.
If what you feel and how you want to feel does not go in line with each other, then everything have gone wrong, and you are off the track.
So to get back to the track, you have to re-organise yourself, push away your current script and take out a new script.

#Your new live and script.

Now having known that the current woman you are rolling with does not provide you with the results you want, you need to get a new live by getting around and meeting some other women to get new experiences and also grab the right woman to start writing your new script for you.
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Trying to talk to your current woman is not an option. Here is why!

She is just like an old script, which have already been roughened and dirtied with so many mistakes and corrections, and though corrections have been made, it still looks rough and dirty and can never be clean no matter what. Now do i need to tell you that having your work done on a clean and new script will be the best outcome you can have than allowing it to be on that old script?

Now considering the woman heart, you can never make a woman to change her thought on the way she feels, because what she feels is what drives her and hence, even though you succeed in talking to her and expecting her to change, she can never change.

Now that is why you need to move on and get a new life with some other new people, and when you finally meet the right woman that will make you to feel the way you have always wanted to feel, you will discover that your life will get better and completely taking a new happy turn.

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How to avoid being short of words while talking to a girl

Many guys have been caught in this situation, and i guess you are one of them and now, you are here to look for help.
Have you ever thought of many conversations to make with a girl and what you will talk about if you are together? But then as you meet her and you sit together, your head turns like a formated computer system with nothing inside it, and your head goes empty.

Then you just find out that your conversation gets boring and a moment of silence follows. This is usually a situation that turns most women off and makes them find you unattractive.

The reason why this happens most time is because of the fact that you always want to appear right and do the right things just to impress that girl you like. And that is where the problem sets in but, you also started the conversation the wrong way and you were not prepared.

Now how do i overcome this situation of becoming short of words while talking to a girl i am interested in?

#Getting her attention first.

This is just a good conversation tip many guys don't know.
When you are able to start the interaction with a very attractive and interesting topic she likes, then you can be able to talk for long and generate new topic ideas without the fear of breaking down to silence.

But how do you learn about topics that are of great interest to her?
You have to watch her from close range and know what she likes talking about. You can get close to her friends just to get an idea of what she talks about the most.

When you have been able to know what she enjoys talking about, she will be surprised about how you knew about it and she will be interested and passionate to engage in the conversation with you.

#Concentrate on her and stop thinking inside your mind.

When you focus more on thinking about what to say and how to say it will make you self conscious and you forget about what you are doing and what she is saying.

You should never try to be right and perfect because no one is perfect in speaking with a woman. What matters the most is becoming your real self and not trying to fake your moves just to make her think you are a nice guy.

So when next you want to start a chat with a girl, the best treatment you can give yourself on this issue is just to focus and concentrate on her and what surrounds you. Make sure you slow your mind from thinking, take an inner stretch of your mind by breathing slow and relaxing your mind and that's where you should get ready to now talk, after that you can proceed to do the next thing.
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you make with women )

#Be an attentive and a good listener.

When you are able to grab each and every word a girl says in a conversation, then you will never run out of things to say when with a girl.
This will make you to be the best you can be while in a conversation with a girl.
But hey, been attentive does not mean nodding your head in affirmation to what she says or something like that. 

To be a good listener, you must concentrate on the person speaking and what she is saying, and when you are able to do that, you can use whatever is said to create new ideas and keep the conversation going.

You can use body languages to show that you are listening to what she is saying and when you also pay attention to what she says, you will actually get new ideas on things to say.

#Talk about yourself first and she will do the same.

One mistake guys do make when trying to talk to a new girl is asking them questions and just questions.
If you want a girl to see you as a potential guy who has values to his name, then the best way you can do it is to talk to her about yourself.

Say interesting things about your life which will be of interest to her.
You can talk about your social life and why you like meeting new friends, the places you like to travel to, your best meals, your ex girlfriends and experience, your friends, etc.

When you talk about those things, she will discover that you have more values to offer than those other guys who just concentrate on trying to win her heart with flattering and sweet words.

So when you do this and she normally will respond in a nice way, you should now ask her few selected questions about her life, she will like to return the favour and talk to you about herself.
But make sure that you don't go off the point of what you are trying to do and start to make it feel like you are bragging.

When you are able to get this going with a girl, your conversation will never go into silence and you will always have new things to talk about.

#Don't ask questions that yields a "Yes/No" answer.

This is just another mistake that most guys do in a conversation and you know that, when this happens, usually after she say a yes or no to what you asked her, then you will not be fast to think of what next to say and as a result, silence emerges and she starts to feel uncomfortable been with you.

The reason why this happens is because you always ask questions that does not require any further explanation and normally, should end with a yes or no answer.

For example, you asked her something like "You love coming to this place right?" Or "Do you go to that church always?"

Normally those questions needs straight answers and then, its gone, no one talks about it again.
But what if you make it go this way, "It seems you like it here - why do you enjoy being here?" Or "You like going to that church - why do you like it there?"

You see now? The second part is more appealing and opened up therefore, she gets an intuition to say something about what is being asked and from there, you get more things to talk about.

#One thing leads to the other.

In a conversation where you are listening and also, talking about things you can equate to what happened to you in real life, you can be able to tap out important notes from the conversation and create more topics.

For example, both of you are talking about school, then she said something about a hash lecturer who is unfair to them, then you remembered about a wicked uncle you have got back then in school, you can just take control and talk about it.

It will be interesting to her and she will remember another thing that happened to her back then in school, and she will not refuse to talk to you about it.
Now when you are able to do this, you will never run out of words to say when with any girl.

When you carefully follow these tips, i can assure you that you will get rid of silence when with a girl and also stay clear of being short of words while talking to a girl.

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How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection.

In the whole dating process every man engage in, facing rejection by girls after asking them out is just an unavoidable condition that he must face, and it is just a normal thing.

Guys who have recorded a lot of success in getting many dates will always tell you that they asked many girls out, and they got rejected and some other times, they are accepted. It is just a normal thing you must face when ever you get fully engaged in the dating cycle.

But because of this fear of rejection and embarrassment, many guys shun great opportunities to date a good number of nice women and get what they have always desired.
You are among those guys and men right? Well i know that's why you are here, so read on.

When you are afraid of getting rejected by a girl you want to approach, that is the worst moment when you will experience so much emotional flaws that will even make you to just give up before trying your luck. And it have been hard for many guys to deal with this situation because at this stage, you get confused in what to think about, you get your emotions and feelings heightened and your breath becomes faster.

But what about the actual rejection? This is not actually as bad as the fear of rejection, because the girl can reject you in a soft manner that will even get you happy in a particular way and create more chance for you to shoot back at her.

Well whatever case it is, you just need to learn how to get over it all and cope with that moment when she rejects you or when you are afraid of getting rejected.

So before you go out to ask that girl out, here is what you should have in your mind.

#Learn about the real meaning of rejection and its concept.
When you ask her out and she just walks away or just says something not annoying to you, that's no rejection and when that happens , then you have more chances of winning her to yourself.

#Stop getting disturbed.
This will make you to gain more confidence in asking her out without any fear of rejection.
This rejection happens to everyone, but it does not happen every time. So don't just disturb yourself and when you are rejected, just learn how to move on and everything will gradually fade away.

#Stop doing things that attracts rejection.
Do you know some of those things that makes a woman reject you without thinking twice?
They are as follows:
Starring at her while passing bye, using your friends to draw her attention and letting her notice you, telling her that she looks sweet and hot, trying to compare her to other women, talking dirty to her, etc.

#Get a back up plan and social options.
You are still single right? So why not get more than just one crush? Because when you do that, you have another one to fall back on and continue doing your thing like nothing really happened previously.

All these things are known to attract rejection from a woman, so make sure you don't engage or do any of them.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women )

Now, lets talk about the part of getting rejected. Normally after being rejected by a girl, here is what will happen to you as a man.

#1. You get angry:
Yes this happens a lot, when you just approach her, say your mind and you got bounced out immediately, and just then, you feel angry, and you don't feel anything for her, you feel like spiting on her face or giving her the insult of her life, etc.

#2. You refuse to give up.
When she denies you and rejects you, then you just think that its not a game over and you will never stop until you get her to love you, and you keep on chasing after her.

Many guys are guilty of this act and believe me, it have not always turned out to be good.

#3. You give reasons to be accepted.
Some guys are so stupid and go to this extent after a girl rejects them.
I mean why on earth should you be explaining to a girl reasons why she should love and accept you?

If she should have any reason to accept you, she would have known and seen it as you are coming to meet her.

#4. You feel sorry for yourself.
This is another state where a rejection hurts so much, and that's where your sorrow begins, seeing her walk away and rejecting you, you feel like crying and shouting your nerves out.

You start regretting why you formally asked her out and why you did not wait for sometime.

Well those are just some of the painful moments a a man will cause himself to experience after being rejected by a girl. Rejection is just inevitable and you can never tell the way it would go and where it will lead.

Don't do any of those things most guys do after getting rejected because it will never make you to move on with your life, it will only leave you at that junction of rejection and in an emotional trauma. So as a man, here is what you should do after getting rejected by a girl.

#1. Rejection is something that is common with girls.
When she turns down your proposal to her, first you should know that she did not reject you because of your character or nature, its just that she does not want to date you, and that's just her state of mind to the rejection.

Many guys have faced rejection before you and they know how they felt, but guess what? They were not rejected because they were found unattractive or nor where they just disliked. Its just a way women act and you don't have an option to that.
(Also Read: Extra ideas on how to make a girl fall in love with you )

#2. Stop worrying about her.
Okay she rejected you right? Yes she did, so do you just sit there and keep thinking about her and how her rejection hurt your feelings?

Come on, you are a man, and you don't have to do that, so here is what to do.
Just cool your nerves and stay silent, gradually avoid her and do things that will make her feel jealous of you or get irritated.

#3. Find time to be with other people.
After she rejected you, the next best thing that can make you to move on is to just stay away from her, then meet and interact with others and just live a positive life. Meet with new girls and ask them out and make yourself enjoy the company of others.

#Get around and engage in sports activities.
Another thing that can bring back your confidence is to start exercising your body.
You can play football, tennis, racing, weight lifting, etc.
All these activities will boast your moral and make you gain more confidence in yourself.

So just get up now, start doing something and get a better life for yourself, you just deserve better than just rejection.

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