Have you ever been in this situation ever since you started your relationship life with women? This situation explains that moment when a girl actually takes you just as her friend, and have no interest or special feeling of been sexually attracted to you, you are not a dating option to her and in other words, she just sees you as a brother and never a potential somebody.
But in recent times, i have learnt a lot about what triggers the friend zoning habits that exist in every feminine creature, thus, concluding on the fact that there are certain traits that men exhibit that triggers and develop the sense of a girl to put any man in her friend zone.
When you have a female friend you have always loved, you see it that it is always difficult for you to escape the friend zone state of her mind, though you have always wanted to be more than a friend to her, you want her to just feel the same way you feel about her, but unfortunately for you, she does not feel anything for you.
There are different levels of a friend zone you can be pushed into, and it all depends on how you triggered the friend zone spirit inside her.
For example: (1)The girl will never hurt your feelings by telling you she is not romantically interested in you and so, she just tells you that she just wants you to be friends only.
(2) When you accept her call for you to just be friends but yet, you could not stop following her around and treating her like your girlfriend. You keep spending more time with her and treating her in a romantic way and having hopes that things might turn around, but oh!! You just kept hurting yourself.
(3) Another level of the friend zone is that situation when you have been good and best friends with a girl for a long time and gradually, at a point in time you now observe that you are now liking her and that you just want to be more than friends, but when you tell her about your feelings, it might not end up well, depending on what she feels about you.
Well you have learnt them all, but how do you now go about escaping this friend zone and diverting into the lovers zone of her heart?
You can do that, you can correct the messes you built in the past. Well i know you are eager to know how, so read on.
#Confidence and courage - using the right words and moves.
I bet you did not think about this, but what if i tell you? That getting out of this situation is never any hard as far as you have courage, you are confident about who you are, and also when you use the right words and body languages.
(Also Read: The best ways to get a girl interested in you )
#Make her to know and feel that you are wanted.
You don't have to keep following her around and acting like she is the only female friend you have got in your entire life, if you really want her to start feeling something for you and erase the friend zone barrier between the both of you, then you must give her space and then, move around here and then with other girls and let her notice it.
So when you do this, it can trigger a competitive feeling that she can also be better than those girls you are moving around with and hence, she would actually know that you are wanted by other girls. So when she starts getting jealous of that, then you are gradually getting out of the friend zone.
#Over Complimenting On Her Nature is a big mistake.
A girl starts to set her self on a high esteem when you shower her with too many compliments that she does not even deserve and as a result, she starts thinking that she is just too good to be with someone like you.
If you really want to make her know that she is beautiful or sexy, and you want to make her feel it and not just hearing it, then do it with action! As they always say, action speaks louder than voice.
#Honesty and Clarity matters a lot.
You don't expect a girl to know about your feelings for her except you make it known to her by clearly telling her.
When you are not been honest with her as to what you really want from her, you keep getting deep and deeper into her friend zone and will even become more satisfied with you as a friend to her.
But when you just tell her the truth and allow her to know your new motive concerning her, then you become satisfied with what you are doing and you find out that you no more worry about getting her to want you for a date.
#Get Close, do more Touching and use body languages.
As i said that action speaks louder than voice, this can be a great way to show her what you feel about her rather than saying it to hear hearing, but you know that over doing this can get her off the edge and get her uneasy with you.
So how do you do this, first you have to conduct yourself in a good way and show confidence in doing this, smoothly doing it with the right expression can make her feel attracted to you and think that you can be more than a friend to her.
Touch her when making a joke, touch her laps or arms when making an example or explaining a thing, hold her when trying to cross a bridge or road together, etc. Just be animated and express your feelings in this way and if she is a type that understands body languages, then she will take a hint and understand what you are doing.
But you should also never try to be too sexual in your actions and words, it will make her never to even think of you because she thinks you are just like those other guys who just drool all over her with nasty interests.
#Determination to stay or go away.
Since you don't want to be kept in her friend zone forever, and you have made all possible thing you can do to make her change you into the lovers zone but yet, it seemed she is not changing her mind.
You now know that enough is enough and you just have to either accept that part of friendship and then, totally erase any special feelings you have for her in your mind. By so doing, you are now able to lift that heavy weight on you and now be able to live the kind of a life you have always wanted.
You must know that a girl can cause you great setback in your life, and make you to live in a state of worry and anxiety and as a result, you loose sight to what you actually want in your life.
Well and okay, now you know you are in the friend zone, the best way to get out this friend zone is to be honest, courageous and confident in yourself.
When you do all these things and do it with the right motives, you will never go the wrong way and anytime she sits to think about her relationship life, she can be able to determine the position you occupy in her life.
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