You probably just meet someone new in your life, very smart and gorgeous looking and you are just having feelings or sensations about that individual which makes your heart pound and race faster with pleasure.
After meeting that person, two days later, it happened to you that you can't just stop thinking and remembering the smiles, looks and seductive kiss you shared on your previous date. You just sit and keep wondering for how long can you hold yourself back because the pleasure is there and you can't seem to let go. Now the third(3) date is approaching but you are not even sure of what to do or wear. Lets just start the discussion because its time you take it to the next lever, okay just wait! Is it time to take it to the next level? Or wait a bit longer? Is the 3 date hook up rule something to live by or just forget about?
Now The Three (3) Date Rule:
The three (3) date rule states that after 3 dates, it is perfectly okay and conducive to have sex with your new partner. This rule sometimes is great and in the clear way to avoid fast regrets and even judgement. 3 dates seem to be the perfect amount of time before you jump in to have s*x with your new partner. This is because it allows you to not come off too eager and be like someone who normally have s*x frequently with different partners. So on the first and second date, you get that romantic feeling with a bit of fun too and if you manage to hold out for long befor jumping to bed with him, then you are a great keeper.
But wait here for some minutes, if 3 dates is all that is needed before he gets into your pant and jump into the s*xy finish line that awaits in the bedroom, then why waste the time? If you are determined to live by the 3 date rule before having s*x, then your potential partner is open to a green light which leads to a sexually explicit count down. It makes him to lose focus and instead of your partner to take time to get to know you more genuinely, it distracts your partner and makes them to always keep it at the back of their mind that it's just remaining a single date before you both bump into the bedroom.
Now even if your date has more manners than expected, you are just at the risk of ruining your image. But guess what? If you really live by this 3 date rule, then congratulations! In the sense that you are that one girl who is interested in what is deemed by the society as normal and not making your own choice.
Now all i have to say to you ladies is: Have S*x When You Are Ready:
When we talk about the third date, it doesn't actually mean to be a s*x date. Stereotypical standards set by media and magazines should not be taken as a standard you should use in fitting your dating and s*x life. No matter what fear you have of going against a social norm or disappointing your date, do not allow anyone to force you into having s*x when you don't feel like or when you don't want to, don't let anyone to pressure you into making a choice you are not ready to make. Always have it in mind that you are in charge of your life and you can make any choice you feel is right for you at the right time and not for anyone else.
Now about having s*x?
There is no perfect way to make the choice of having s*x, no right or wrong time to have s*x with a new partner. But the right time is clearly up to you, take the plung and have fun by all means at the time you feel is conducive for you and when you feel you are happy and ready. But if you are not comfortable with the idea of having s*x, just take a step back and relax your mind, don't rush things because there is plenty of time to have s*x. And if your date or partner thinks otherwise, the best thing to do is to let him go, because you deserve to just be with someone who respects you. Someone who can wait no matter how long befor you get intimate.
As a woman, be open and honest with your date, if you are looking for something casual, it's okay, and if you are not, it's also okay. Set your own standards and live by them and not by the 3 date hook up rule. Be confident in your choice always and also feel good about it every time because it's your life. Focus on what you want, focus on just yourself and not on what the rule or others say.
Dear readers, what do you think? I would love to hear about your opinion on this topic, do you think there is any magical code to just have s*x with someone or just go on with the flow? Do you think living by the 3 date hook up rule is worth your life? Let me know by using the comment box below.
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