You might be that kind of person who jumps from one unhealthy relationship to the other. This is because you got into that relationship for the wrong reasons.
Everyone wishes to have a healthy relationship and even get married happily, but people get into relationships for many wrong reasons which they think is right and can lead them into a happy relationship.
True love is always seen and known for the mutual love and respect between two people and is not been influenced by any person outside(third party), peer group pressure or just to fill a void in ones life. So here are 9 reasons why people get into relationships which you must avoid and in turn help you avoid going into an unhealthy relationship.
1. Avoiding Ageism.
In today's life, the community rules have conditioned many of us to believe that once we are over 30 years old, we have passed our expiration date and therefore, we cannot be admired and loved by any individual. This affect women mostly who always panic and feel anxious.
A lot of comments from friends and family members about "Not getting any younger" always push many people into getting involved in a relationship which will eventually turn out to be a wrong decision. There can also be pressure from your older relatives to settle down and get married at a certain age and they just create a rule for you to follow.
Now all kinds of relationships created for the pressure and pleasure of the society, family, relatives or because of desperation can never stand for a long time. So avoid going into a relationship for such reasons.
Avoiding And Forgetting Problems.
This is also known as Rebound in which many people just get into a relationship to avoid or forget the problems they have.
. Sometimes, it is the outcome from bad past relationships or bad parenting, or a bad and abusive history of some individuals.
These kind of people get into such relationships to escape the predicament that fell on them. Many people go on a rebound into different relationships after a broken relationship in order to get over the past and give themselves time to heal from the hurt, loneliness or pain.
Now there can be passion and excitement in these this kind of relationship which are short termed, but at the end, they fail to survive overtime because they are not built on love.
3. Replacement For Missing Parents.
Well this can be surprising right? But let's get into reality, because there is a lot of truth to this.
Some men have been living with their mother and when one day, when she is no more close to them, they feel so void and so, try to get a girlfriend as a replacement for their mother. Also on the other end, some women who also grew up without having a stable and permanent father will try to fill this empty and void part of their life with a new boyfriend.
There is a difference between a mother and a girlfriend, same also with a father and a boyfriend and neither one can take the place of the other.
when getting into a relationship, keep your intentions and reasons clear and also know why you need a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If you need a boyfriend for the purpose of starting your accessories fixing, BBQ at dinner or to help you clean the yard, then maybe it's a father that you need and not a boyfriend.
4. Feeling Boredom.
This is one of the dangerous reasons why many people would want to rush into a relationship. In this life, a boyfriend or a girlfriend cannot make your life more interesting and fun as you think, there are many things to do in this life that can make your life more interesting.
Relationships are about giving of yourself and the other person giving to you. Don't go out trying to find someone to take you out to cinema's, taking a road trip with you or going out for launch together at the park. It is better and good for you to get and meet new friends, or getting a dog to fill your time, not a man or a girlfriend.
Getting a lover to kill boredom and pass the time will not lead to a life full of happiness.
5. Lonely And Afraid Of Being Alone.
There is a societal conditioning which suggests that before you start approaching your 40s, you should already be married with children at your 30s. This burden is mostly felt by women as they move towards the expiration dates of their life with no relationship in vision. So they always assume one fact that they will just end up being a lonely cat lady.
Now this thinking always affect their thinking when it comes to the process of choosing a man, desperation kicks in, and this will lead to choosing the wrong man.
This act of jumping into a relationship because of being single and lonely is the characteristics of many relationships today. But this will not solve the problem of being lonely rather, it will turn into a huge regret later.
6. Convenience.
Also many people fall into this category of going into a relationship because they find it convenient.
Let's say you just found a lover who always volunteer himself to drive you and your friends around from one cinema or bar to another, or maybe that person have an awesome house and a very cool and conducive pool where you and your friends can chill. Then the possibility here is that you and your friends are all teamed up and you just want to fit in on their "Couple Gateways" and therefore you need a man to fill that void for you.
Well maybe you found that kind of a man and he is loving and caring, but by the time he or she finds out that you are just up in the game for the things you are gaining, then don't be surprised as he catches you in the game and just leaves you up a doll with no ride home.
7. Being Influenced By Others.
The way your family and your friends influence your mind depends on the way you take their advice. Well sometimes you just decide to take the advice of your family to get into a relationship without thinking about the preparations you need to make for a happy relationship, and in order not to look like the odd one out, we just take their suggestions and at the end, you date someone you had no intentions of dating,
A strong foundation is the key to a long lasting and a happy relationship. The reason why you should embark in a relationship is because of the foundation. When you have a solid foundation, your relationship will be strong and grounded but when the foundation is weak, then all your labours will fall apart.
Many people just think of things this way that "Everyone else have someone, why not me?", now don't fall into the trap of getting into a relationship because of friends of influence.
8. Wanting a Challenge.
Many times, you see a guy or a lady you love and therefore, tend to win that persons heart by all means. Well winning over a man or a woman could be considered a triumph and victory to you and also a prize you will not stop fighting for until you achieve it.
Well that person you have been fighting for was not available to you from the start maybe because he or she is just not into you or is into a relationship already. So that challenge you had might be quite interesting and exciting, but you have to be sure that you are fighting for someone who will also be available and good to you because, you will hate it when you end up with the bad, hard to get guy or girl.
9. Pursuit For Physical Intimacy.
Physical attraction and intimacy should not be the basics for a relationship, though it is important in a relationship, but when you are always in desperation for sex, it results in jumping into the hands of the wrong people and failing to achieve anything except for the bedroom calls for s*x. If you are such type of a person, then you should not even expect that angel of your dreams to end up from your daily or weekend booty calls.
Most people who are looking for this kind of relationships are not even ready for real and true love relationships as they are just there for the physical intimacy and attraction.
Now to put it all together, always take your time to build a healthy, strong and happy relationship because rushing might lead to a broken heart and a family in disorder. When you rush into something, you might as well rush out of it.
Everyone wishes to have a healthy relationship and even get married happily, but people get into relationships for many wrong reasons which they think is right and can lead them into a happy relationship.
True love is always seen and known for the mutual love and respect between two people and is not been influenced by any person outside(third party), peer group pressure or just to fill a void in ones life. So here are 9 reasons why people get into relationships which you must avoid and in turn help you avoid going into an unhealthy relationship.
1. Avoiding Ageism.
In today's life, the community rules have conditioned many of us to believe that once we are over 30 years old, we have passed our expiration date and therefore, we cannot be admired and loved by any individual. This affect women mostly who always panic and feel anxious.
A lot of comments from friends and family members about "Not getting any younger" always push many people into getting involved in a relationship which will eventually turn out to be a wrong decision. There can also be pressure from your older relatives to settle down and get married at a certain age and they just create a rule for you to follow.
Now all kinds of relationships created for the pressure and pleasure of the society, family, relatives or because of desperation can never stand for a long time. So avoid going into a relationship for such reasons.
Avoiding And Forgetting Problems.
This is also known as Rebound in which many people just get into a relationship to avoid or forget the problems they have.
. Sometimes, it is the outcome from bad past relationships or bad parenting, or a bad and abusive history of some individuals.
These kind of people get into such relationships to escape the predicament that fell on them. Many people go on a rebound into different relationships after a broken relationship in order to get over the past and give themselves time to heal from the hurt, loneliness or pain.
Now there can be passion and excitement in these this kind of relationship which are short termed, but at the end, they fail to survive overtime because they are not built on love.
3. Replacement For Missing Parents.
Well this can be surprising right? But let's get into reality, because there is a lot of truth to this.
Some men have been living with their mother and when one day, when she is no more close to them, they feel so void and so, try to get a girlfriend as a replacement for their mother. Also on the other end, some women who also grew up without having a stable and permanent father will try to fill this empty and void part of their life with a new boyfriend.
There is a difference between a mother and a girlfriend, same also with a father and a boyfriend and neither one can take the place of the other.
when getting into a relationship, keep your intentions and reasons clear and also know why you need a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If you need a boyfriend for the purpose of starting your accessories fixing, BBQ at dinner or to help you clean the yard, then maybe it's a father that you need and not a boyfriend.
4. Feeling Boredom.
This is one of the dangerous reasons why many people would want to rush into a relationship. In this life, a boyfriend or a girlfriend cannot make your life more interesting and fun as you think, there are many things to do in this life that can make your life more interesting.
Relationships are about giving of yourself and the other person giving to you. Don't go out trying to find someone to take you out to cinema's, taking a road trip with you or going out for launch together at the park. It is better and good for you to get and meet new friends, or getting a dog to fill your time, not a man or a girlfriend.
Getting a lover to kill boredom and pass the time will not lead to a life full of happiness.
5. Lonely And Afraid Of Being Alone.
There is a societal conditioning which suggests that before you start approaching your 40s, you should already be married with children at your 30s. This burden is mostly felt by women as they move towards the expiration dates of their life with no relationship in vision. So they always assume one fact that they will just end up being a lonely cat lady.
Now this thinking always affect their thinking when it comes to the process of choosing a man, desperation kicks in, and this will lead to choosing the wrong man.
This act of jumping into a relationship because of being single and lonely is the characteristics of many relationships today. But this will not solve the problem of being lonely rather, it will turn into a huge regret later.
6. Convenience.
Also many people fall into this category of going into a relationship because they find it convenient.
Let's say you just found a lover who always volunteer himself to drive you and your friends around from one cinema or bar to another, or maybe that person have an awesome house and a very cool and conducive pool where you and your friends can chill. Then the possibility here is that you and your friends are all teamed up and you just want to fit in on their "Couple Gateways" and therefore you need a man to fill that void for you.
Well maybe you found that kind of a man and he is loving and caring, but by the time he or she finds out that you are just up in the game for the things you are gaining, then don't be surprised as he catches you in the game and just leaves you up a doll with no ride home.
7. Being Influenced By Others.
The way your family and your friends influence your mind depends on the way you take their advice. Well sometimes you just decide to take the advice of your family to get into a relationship without thinking about the preparations you need to make for a happy relationship, and in order not to look like the odd one out, we just take their suggestions and at the end, you date someone you had no intentions of dating,
A strong foundation is the key to a long lasting and a happy relationship. The reason why you should embark in a relationship is because of the foundation. When you have a solid foundation, your relationship will be strong and grounded but when the foundation is weak, then all your labours will fall apart.
Many people just think of things this way that "Everyone else have someone, why not me?", now don't fall into the trap of getting into a relationship because of friends of influence.
8. Wanting a Challenge.
Many times, you see a guy or a lady you love and therefore, tend to win that persons heart by all means. Well winning over a man or a woman could be considered a triumph and victory to you and also a prize you will not stop fighting for until you achieve it.
Well that person you have been fighting for was not available to you from the start maybe because he or she is just not into you or is into a relationship already. So that challenge you had might be quite interesting and exciting, but you have to be sure that you are fighting for someone who will also be available and good to you because, you will hate it when you end up with the bad, hard to get guy or girl.
9. Pursuit For Physical Intimacy.
Physical attraction and intimacy should not be the basics for a relationship, though it is important in a relationship, but when you are always in desperation for sex, it results in jumping into the hands of the wrong people and failing to achieve anything except for the bedroom calls for s*x. If you are such type of a person, then you should not even expect that angel of your dreams to end up from your daily or weekend booty calls.
Most people who are looking for this kind of relationships are not even ready for real and true love relationships as they are just there for the physical intimacy and attraction.
Now to put it all together, always take your time to build a healthy, strong and happy relationship because rushing might lead to a broken heart and a family in disorder. When you rush into something, you might as well rush out of it.
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