Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires

This have been a problem many men are facing today in their relationship and dating circle, the fact that many men think giving a woman too much attention and showing too much interest in her can make them win the love of the woman.

But the case and reports on this issue have always been very bad and sometimes pleasant.
One problem faced by many men today is the fact that they have no means or strategy on how to win a woman's love and keep the fire burning without it burning the whole relationship down.

Some men will start it right, but in the process of attracting the woman to love them, they over use the opportunities and means they have and then, destroy everything.
So among those strategies you have in getting a woman's attraction, we are going to tell you how and why showing too much interest or attention gets you off the edge and then, backfires at you and makes you loose everything.

Not every woman is interested in a man who shows too much attention and interest to her. In most cases, when you start showing a woman interest, she likes it normally, but when it starts getting TOO MUCH, then that's where the problem starts to develop and that's where you start loosing the whole thing.

#Women like men that offers them challenge.
Now think of this, do you think calling that girl 80 times a day, or always offering her gifts and attention will make her start to love you and feel attraction for you?

The answer is NO.
Normally when you do all those things for a woman, she enjoys it at first and as a man, you think that's what she really want and since she is enjoying it, you continue to do it.

When you continue doing it and she keeps enjoying it, you now become afraid to stop or slow down because you start thinking that other men will do it for her and you will get heart broken, so its like you add more pressure to what you are doing.
(Also Read: How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection )

Now to the woman whom you are doing all those things for, this is how it feels.
She starts thinking that you are a nice person, you are affectionate and kind and she continues to be good to you.
She will never think you are a dating potential because you are obsessed with her and you are just a kind and nice person, and that is all.

When you continue to do those things for her, she will start getting uncomfortable with it because you are not helping her to feel attraction for you, but then, she will be afraid to hurt you and get you to be heartbroken, and since she allowed you in the first place, she will just allow you to continue what you are doing and she will continue to see you as a nice person. So you see that you are only pumping in affection and that's not what a woman wants.
A woman wants a man who will offer her challenge, which will make her to show affection, and from there she starts to feel attraction for that man.

#The basis of every relationship.
There is one procedure which every relationship pass through before it stands.
Normally, you start from meeting with each other, and after that, you start dating and from dating, its either you start a relationship with each other, or it ends at dating and everything dies off.

I have not heard about cases where a relationship starts from friendship, its always hard for a friend to turn into a lover although, its possible but most of those instances always fail to evolve into standing relationships.

Now that is where the problem starts most times with we the men. We start by showing interest, compliments, buying of gifts and giving too much attention.
All those things should come after the relationship level, and not on the meeting or dating level.

When you move too fast and bombard the woman with too much of those things, it will burn down your whole chances of getting attracted.
And that's why she sees you as a nice person and as a caring friend.

A woman wants to be with a man who will trigger her attraction and not affection, that's why buying her gifts and all those things will not work in getting her attraction.

So to make everything work, you should consider slowing everything down because if you do them too much, it will backfire at you.
Buying gifts and complimenting a woman is good and generally, they love it and they also like the attention they get from men who find them attractive.
But when you overdo it and starts acting like a desperate and wired man, a woman will know that you are so in need and obsessed with her, so she will see no value in you.

Everything worth getting is not easy, and that is why you need to slow down so you can also get to know her and let her know you.
You must not over show interest in a woman if you like her and while you are trying to show less interest, always ensure that you don't make her start thinking that you don't like her company.

There is also the need to reduce the time you spend talking with her or the number of times you spend together, but you should not do it in such a way that will not make her think you are walking away.

Then after that, you take things slowly and step by step, one step after the other and then, you are already going. You must build up her interest in you step by step and also, her attraction for you.

It all depends on the way you do it, women like confident men who have so many things to talk about and do it confidently.
Women like men with other options, when you are not a sociable man who have been around so many women and have meet so many women in your life, that's when you lack the means and strategy to get close to any woman and win her heart.
(Also Read: 5 Tips on how to be that special man every woman wants )

So you can start being around other women rather than focusing your whole attention on just one woman, and once you start coming close to other women in your life, you start learning about women more and you wouldn't care to pour out your interest on just one woman, your dating cycle becomes wider.

As i always tell you in my articles, that there is no shortcut to gaining the attention and attraction of a woman, it just takes the normal step by step presentation of strategies, and except you map out your skills, grow them, learn more about them and use them properly, giving any woman too much of attention, and showing so much interest on her can backfire at you anytime and at any point.

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List of the best marital gifts you can give to your spouse after marriage

Many couples who get wedded newly daily are always filled with expectations and desires from their new spouse and partner of life.
For both men and women, these expectations comes in different forms and what you want from your spouse after marriage might be different from what you want from from him or her after the marriage.

Before you talk of giving your new spouse any marital gift, you must first consider their type of person and what they possibly want in their life after the marriage. Lets take a look at a list of the best gifts you can give to your spouse after marriage.

* For the woman: your virginity.
In some men, your virginity as a woman is the best gift you can offer them after marriage. It gives your man that joy and satisfaction that you have never been with any man in your life and you were strong enough to hold on to your virginity until when your marriage comes.

But also, you must know that some men don't really cherish your virginity after the marriage. When some men observe that they are married to a virgin, they have that sad look and feeling inside them. Here is why.

Many men today want to be with a woman who is filled of lots of experience in sexual activities and who can fully satisfy them and give them the whole pleasures of sex.
So also to other men, giving them a lot of satisfaction in bed can be a nice gift, and when you are a virgin, you might not be capable of giving them that satisfaction because you are new to the whole process.

Sharing common interest.
This is also a nice gift to offer your new spouse in your new marriage. Maybe before you got married, both of you had different interests and have nothing similar that you share.
She likes watching hockey games, you only like football games, she likes taking glossaries, you only like snacks, she likes to sleep early, you only sleep when its late at night, she likes to read, you like going out every morning to see friends, you like partying, she likes to stay at home all times, etc.

All those things notes out the fact that you have no common interest. But now after your marriage, changing those habits can be a surprising gift to your spouse, start showing interest in what your spouse likes doing or what your spouse likes to have. When you do that, you observe that both of you will even enjoy doing or having the same thing at a time.

Change the name you call her.
Before you were married, maybe you were fond of calling him or her by her first name or nickname and both of you had no problem with that.
When you now get married, changing the name you call your spouse can be a big gift to him/her which signifies a change of state.

Its important that you consider doing this after you get married because if you continue calling your spouse by their real name, people might consider it to be a sign of disrespect as the society deems it.

Giving up everything for your spouse.
There are many other gifts you can offer your spouse in the your new marriage life and those things consist of your daily activities, your attitudes, bad habits, irrelevant activities and friends are some other things which you can give up as a gift for your new love life.
You can decide to get over anything that can come between the both of you in your new marriage relationship.

Marriage is a great institution which changes the single state which someone finds himself into an engage state in which someone start caring about things that matters to two set of partners said to be couples in love.
So when you get married, and when planning to get married, you should consider these options and list for the best gifts to give to your new spouse after marriage.

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See 15 Important Words you should say to your Lover Everyday

A healthy relationship is one of the essential part of a happy life and daily living. But in todays life, building a strong hold in a relationships is a truly hard challenge faced by many lovers.
There are no tutorials or guides for the empowerment of your dream partnership but there are some important things which are easy to carry out after which, your relationship can be made stronger and improved.

In order to make your joint life with your lover better, you must make the saying of "Important words" to each other a habit in your life and once you are good in that, your relationship will definately turn from good to better.

So here are a list of 15 important things things you should say to your lover every day.

1. I was thinking about you!

2. How was your day?

3. I love you

4. Goodnight!

5. I disagree!

6. I respect you..

7. You are the best!

8. My life would have been nothing without you.

9. Sorry my love.

10. I support you.

11. We should go.

12. I love your mind.

13. I will dream about you when I close my eyes to sleep.

14. Sweet dreams my love.

15. My love for you will always be.

The first component for building a healthy relationship is love, which is also the foundation and bedrock of a healthy relationship.
Love is being what you want others to be to you in return and this act of love is being characterised by words, action and attitude.

when there is love, there is the tendency to drop down to another low level of esteem just to relate with such a person in whom you found love.
When you put yourself in another persons situation in order to make that person have a sense of belonging, that is the work of love.

When there is love, then other components and ingredients of love will be formed. And these other ingredients are understanding, openness, communication, trust and tolerance. With these components put together, a healthy relationship and a happier life is obtained.

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3 Best Ideas And Creative Budget To Celebrate Valentine's Day

So to get your preparations started, here is the list of the 3 best ideas and creative budgets to celebrate your Valentine's Day because everyone wants to make this day fun and memorable for their loved ones.

It have been known that the Valentines Day is one of the sweet, nice and pleasant holidays in the world! The most beautiful feeling in this world is celebrated on Valentine's Day and that feeling is LOVE. Let's go there.

1. Decorate Your Home. Decorating your home will make your celebration more romantic and fun while at your house. It is one of the most romantic yet cheap idea for this valentine's day. But it will be surprising if your lover will just bump into your house only to find it amazing with a bautiful decoration.

2. Romantic Movie And a Dinner at Home.
Watching a romantic movie at home together with a very delicious dinner with your sweetheart is just one among the best ways to spend the valentine holidays.
Both of you will feel happy and comfortable at your home because of the warm atmosphere you have created by decorating your home. This will be the best option than going to the restaurant as it is not so expensive.

3. Romanic Massage.
This is also another romantic idea to try on the valentine's Day. Giving each other a lovely and so romantic massage will bring you and your sweetheart closer and help the relationship to grow.

You don't have to go all day and night spending for your sweetheart just to make her feel happy.

So with these 3 good and creative valentine's budgets, your sweetheart will feel like the happiest duo in the world.

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