Reasons why showing a woman too much interest backfires

This have been a problem many men are facing today in their relationship and dating circle, the fact that many men think giving a woman too much attention and showing too much interest in her can make them win the love of the woman.

But the case and reports on this issue have always been very bad and sometimes pleasant.
One problem faced by many men today is the fact that they have no means or strategy on how to win a woman's love and keep the fire burning without it burning the whole relationship down.

Some men will start it right, but in the process of attracting the woman to love them, they over use the opportunities and means they have and then, destroy everything.
So among those strategies you have in getting a woman's attraction, we are going to tell you how and why showing too much interest or attention gets you off the edge and then, backfires at you and makes you loose everything.

Not every woman is interested in a man who shows too much attention and interest to her. In most cases, when you start showing a woman interest, she likes it normally, but when it starts getting TOO MUCH, then that's where the problem starts to develop and that's where you start loosing the whole thing.

#Women like men that offers them challenge.
Now think of this, do you think calling that girl 80 times a day, or always offering her gifts and attention will make her start to love you and feel attraction for you?

The answer is NO.
Normally when you do all those things for a woman, she enjoys it at first and as a man, you think that's what she really want and since she is enjoying it, you continue to do it.

When you continue doing it and she keeps enjoying it, you now become afraid to stop or slow down because you start thinking that other men will do it for her and you will get heart broken, so its like you add more pressure to what you are doing.
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Now to the woman whom you are doing all those things for, this is how it feels.
She starts thinking that you are a nice person, you are affectionate and kind and she continues to be good to you.
She will never think you are a dating potential because you are obsessed with her and you are just a kind and nice person, and that is all.

When you continue to do those things for her, she will start getting uncomfortable with it because you are not helping her to feel attraction for you, but then, she will be afraid to hurt you and get you to be heartbroken, and since she allowed you in the first place, she will just allow you to continue what you are doing and she will continue to see you as a nice person. So you see that you are only pumping in affection and that's not what a woman wants.
A woman wants a man who will offer her challenge, which will make her to show affection, and from there she starts to feel attraction for that man.

#The basis of every relationship.
There is one procedure which every relationship pass through before it stands.
Normally, you start from meeting with each other, and after that, you start dating and from dating, its either you start a relationship with each other, or it ends at dating and everything dies off.

I have not heard about cases where a relationship starts from friendship, its always hard for a friend to turn into a lover although, its possible but most of those instances always fail to evolve into standing relationships.

Now that is where the problem starts most times with we the men. We start by showing interest, compliments, buying of gifts and giving too much attention.
All those things should come after the relationship level, and not on the meeting or dating level.

When you move too fast and bombard the woman with too much of those things, it will burn down your whole chances of getting attracted.
And that's why she sees you as a nice person and as a caring friend.

A woman wants to be with a man who will trigger her attraction and not affection, that's why buying her gifts and all those things will not work in getting her attraction.

So to make everything work, you should consider slowing everything down because if you do them too much, it will backfire at you.
Buying gifts and complimenting a woman is good and generally, they love it and they also like the attention they get from men who find them attractive.
But when you overdo it and starts acting like a desperate and wired man, a woman will know that you are so in need and obsessed with her, so she will see no value in you.

Everything worth getting is not easy, and that is why you need to slow down so you can also get to know her and let her know you.
You must not over show interest in a woman if you like her and while you are trying to show less interest, always ensure that you don't make her start thinking that you don't like her company.

There is also the need to reduce the time you spend talking with her or the number of times you spend together, but you should not do it in such a way that will not make her think you are walking away.

Then after that, you take things slowly and step by step, one step after the other and then, you are already going. You must build up her interest in you step by step and also, her attraction for you.

It all depends on the way you do it, women like confident men who have so many things to talk about and do it confidently.
Women like men with other options, when you are not a sociable man who have been around so many women and have meet so many women in your life, that's when you lack the means and strategy to get close to any woman and win her heart.
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So you can start being around other women rather than focusing your whole attention on just one woman, and once you start coming close to other women in your life, you start learning about women more and you wouldn't care to pour out your interest on just one woman, your dating cycle becomes wider.

As i always tell you in my articles, that there is no shortcut to gaining the attention and attraction of a woman, it just takes the normal step by step presentation of strategies, and except you map out your skills, grow them, learn more about them and use them properly, giving any woman too much of attention, and showing so much interest on her can backfire at you anytime and at any point.

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How to know when you are prepared to start a relationship

Well, today we are up with another discussion, and this time around, we are hitting it at you. Yes you! I just got you, you want to start a relationship right? And you want to know if you are ready for it right?

Or no, lets just say you have started the relationship, but then you want to know if you are right about the relationship you are into?
I am here to enlighten you more about this subject matter and what it entails.

Normally you would want to start a relationship, and you are just waiting to start it, and now you want to kick start it with that beautiful girl you just meet, and you just think that she is the right girl for you. Or that handsome guy you just meet and you think he is the right guy for you.

When you want to start a relationship, you have to think about yourself, what you want, your beliefs, your behaviours and attitudes, among others, and then, see if that other person you want to get into a relationship with is capable and fit to occupy that hungry and empty space in your life.

Or just think it this way, think within yourself why you need a soulmate to continue your life with. Maybe you would just think now and say you just need a partner that will show you love, care and affection, understanding and support.

You are right when you think that way, but does it really matter? Are your answers really convincing about why you want to start the relationship? Okay if it is right, then ask yourself. WHAT IF I START THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT MAN/WOMAN BUT AT THE WRONG TIME?.

Let me show you some signs that you are not ready to start a new relationship life, or some signs that tells you have to wait first.
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#Wanting someone to rescue you.
Yes, this can be the reason why you want to start dating and if it is, you are starting it the wrong way. By this, i mean that maybe you are thinking of how miserable your life is and so, you want someone to save you out of that misery and in the process, you might get someone who is also in that situation and also wanting to be saved, and from that, your misery gets doubled.

#Wanting to fill an empty space in your life.
Yes it do happen this way too, you think you need someone to complete your life for you, and you start searching for one, well you are starting it the wrong way. You might be with the right person, but at the wrong time.

Also, maybe you cannot differentiate from love and interest. Are you chasing for love or what is of interest to you? If you want love, then sorry, you got it wrong, you should chase after your interest and not love.

Also, maybe you are now trying to change and look loveable to that person you want to start dating or something like that. That does not define being ready for a relationship.
If you are trying to start a relationship just because your friends are into it, oh that's wrong too.

There are so many reasons and signs to say that you started or you want to start a relationship wrongly and for the wrong reasons and at the wrong time.
But how do i know that i am ready and prepared to start a relationship that is going to last longer?
See the signs below.

#You have no past that still hurts.
One reason why people fail in moving on and getting the best kind of relationship they want is because they refuse to erase and clean the thoughts of old memories and things that makes them sad and demanding when ever they think about love.

So if you want to start it at the right time and along with the right person, then you must forget about your old relationships, your ex, things that gets you angry about your ex,  and all that.

So be ready to forget about everything that hurts and then, move on with your life. Now that is when you are ready to start a new relationship at the right time.

#You are always happy with who you are.
When you are not always happy for whom you are and naturally, happy with yourself and what you have generally in your life, then you are not ready to start a new relationship.
If you cant be happy with yourself alone and therefore you are looking for someone to make you happy and be happy together, you are not ready.

People who are ready for relationships are people who just want someone to share their life and happiness with. So if you are not always happy with yourself, how will you share your happiness with that person? Now you know. Without you being happy with yourself, you can not be happy with that other guy or girl either.

#You can handle being single.
What i mean by this is that being single is not a problem to someone who is ready for love.
When you are ready for a relationship, you create more time for your own happiness so you can make the other person happy and so, if you can not be happy as a single person and enjoy your life as a single person, then you are not ready for a relationship.

You only want someone to share your life with and not someone to complete it for you. Your life should be complete and intact before you start thinking of starting a relationship.

#You are open minded and have nothing to hide.
Before you can start a relationship that is going to last for a long time, you must not have any thing to hide which you don't want any one to know. You must be ready to be open minded to whomsoever you want to start the relationship with.

That's what it means to be in a relationship, sharing of your life episodes together without withdrawing any truth and keeping it hidden with you.
When you hide any truth from your relationship, it will surely haunt your relationship down in any way it will come.

#You have friends that means the world to you.
You have to know that only one person can never make you happy in your life, and that's where your friendship cycle comes into consideration.
Relationships are like sudden wind, it blows and then, goes off, girls/guys will come and go, but your friends lasts forever.

So if you want to start a relationship, make sure that you have a fulfilling friend list and make sure that they are supportive in your life.

#Unconditional love.
This is another pin point where many people are caught rushing towards in their relationships.
You should not have any condition or reason for going into a relationship apart from the fact that you want to share your happy life with another person that does not lack in what characterise your own life.

#Bold and courageous.
You have to know that going into a relationship requires you to be courageous and bold to confront whatever is to come in the after bond.
Boldness and courage signifies willingness, determination and strength to carry the loads of the relationship you want to start.
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Do you have exit doors that are left open in your life? If yes, then you need to close them before you start the relationship.
Sometimes when you start a relationship, you might eventually discover some wrong things in the relationship which will make you want to get out of the relationship.

Now you have to reconsider those things that will make you want to run out of the relationship and then, close them up and amend those things so that they don't affect your new relationship.

Relationships are like toys, they need to be handled with care and take risks because you are about to start something that will affect and change many story lines in your life.

There are many things to talk about when ever it comes to the issue of starting a relationship, but all of them can never be said here, we will add more to it in our articles ahead. Feel free to share your thoughts on this subject matter and add more to what have been discussed.

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Steps to attracting a girl to become more than just friends

Have you ever had a female friend whom you have been friends with and you actually like her? But you don't know how to get out and be more than just friends with her?

This is one problem many guys face with the girls they bump into, but there is a reason behind this.
Normally, women have been known for their different definitions when it comes to friendship and romantic relationship.

When a woman has any feelings in her mind for you, and she always have one special reason in her mind as to why she wants to be with you, then she is ready to be intimate with you and have a romantic relationship with you?
But when she just sees you as someone who she always talk with just to laugh, get advice and then, just turn around, that's when friendship is said to be the bond between the both of you.

Women are complex creatures, and when a woman has no feeling for you inside her, then it is difficult for you to curl in some sense of feeling inside her and make her to start loving you. However, there is something you can always do and practice and once you are able to do them, you will successfully get any woman to start thinking of you and even change your state in her mind. Lets see some of those things you can do.

#Plan a day or two days walk or trip with her.
This can be quite overwhelming right? It might seem to you that this one here cant work, but doing this will create a new room and opportunity to share ideas and observations that can bring about the evolvement of a romantic relationship.

Okay, the first step here is to ask her to come over for a walk to somewhere with you, or a trip to somewhere with you. She is your friend, a very good and particularly best and close one to you, so i don't see any reason why she will refuse to come with you.

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Once this is set, then you can select the best and romantic places to go around with her, and let her also select some of her favourite places. In the course of this event, do not get things boring, you must be the man, make it fun and interesting, romantic and worth talking about, do things that she would observe while you are doing them and also, get her to do things that will give you points to talk about after the walk or trip.

Normally when its evening, and almost getting dark, both of you are already planning to be back home and so, the call is made. But do you just let all the fun from the trip just slip away without talking to each other about it? That's why you must...

#Arrange a dinner night together with her.
Oh she will not refuse it, she needs refreshment, and you too, so what will you offer her more than a more romantic dinner night together?

Okay you successfully got the dinner talks in and she agreed to that and both of you are at dinner together, refreshing and getting stronger. Do you just talk about other things while at dinner or you keep quite and make everything boring? I guess no, you wouldn't risk your chance with that.

So while the dinner is going on, you should talk about the walk or trip you had together, tell her many things you observed and loved about her during the trip, and also get her to tell you about her own observations about the trip. If everything went on very well, then you are gradually getting some things into her.

You should talk more about the romantic aspect of the trip, and that is where the magic works, because everything about women is emotional and once a romantic conversation comes in between the both of you, then it sends some emotional thoughts about you into her.

After that, you can ask her if you can have such kind of walk or trip some other time to other new places she have always wished to go to, when you do that and she responds in a welcoming and romantic way, then you are gradually winning, and she might not notice what you are doing.
She will notice that you are trying to get intimate when you are not bold.

#Boldness in your actions.
One of the important keys towards achieving such aims is having boldness in you.
Like for example, when you are saying something romantic to her and then, your voice broke down, and you acted nervous, and just like you missed your lines, she will notice it and inside her, she would start thinking that you have some feelings for her and everything you were doing was just because you are now into her.

That would probably risk your chances of letting your thoughts flow through her and get more attracted. Though tipping her about your feelings for her is good, and letting her know about your new love for her is good too, but that will not be the best and ideal way to let her know about it.

For her to know about your love for her and not risking the chances of getting her to love you, you are to be bold in speech, be smart in words, and wise in thinking, don't linger or keep waiting for an answer or action response once you have tipped her.

These are just some of the things that you need in other to move along the game line, but then, there are some things some guys and even you, yes even i, we all do it and it is wrong and actually gets every girl loose feelings and attraction for us.

When a girl is so close to you and you start to think of changing the friendship into a relationship, then that's where you start to hit it wrong and get the inscription "I DON'T JUST GET IT" written on your forehead.

When you start buying a girlfriend of yours so many gifts and showering her with compliments, knowing that she is just a friend so close but without any mutual feelings for you, then YOU DON'T JUST GET IT.
And that's the normal way many guys do act and then, risk their chances of getting a girlfriend to love them and get attracted for love.

A girl sees you as a lost person who don't just get it when she got close to you, and you started buying her gifts and compliments.

When you are already dating a woman, yes she would enjoy and cherish every bit of compliments and gifts you shower her, but when you just meet a girl not even up to 3 weeks, and you start buying her gifts and starts to be nice, then you have already wasted your chance of getting her.
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A woman have already seen many men wanting to win her heart and attraction and this happens every day in her life, as a result, she have known that cheap and easy path many men come through just to get her, and once you come along and take that same path and root, then you should expect nothing less than a rejection.

So for you to get her, you must learn to be patient and avoid the easy paths to lure her into your heart, you must study her very well and then, try other roads and paths that will lead you to that same thing you want from her.

More help and tips on this aspect will be updated and we will feed you more. For the mean time, any more thought and contribution from you as our reader is highly welcomed.

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See The Reasons Why Men Get so Angry With Woman in Their Relationships

I have seen a lot of blogs coming up with articles related to men getting angry with women in their relationships and today, it is a proven fact that most men now get so angered over a little incident which occurred between them and their woman.

What you might keep asking yourself is the reason why a man just get so angry over a woman who he is said to love and care for.
Have you ever been in this situation before? That moment when you and your lover seem to be having fun and then, something happened, and you just got angry right there.

When long distance relationship is involved, that is where it happens a lot because as a man, you find out that little feminine actions your woman portrays will make you to live in fear, discrimination, feeling attacked, etc.

Normally, every man has a particular way he reacts to different relationship situations and therefore, we have different kinds of experience which makes us get angry with our woman mostly. And when you are angry with your woman, you normally lash out on her or tell her how angry you are and how you feel on what she did.

So what are those reasons why men get angry with women?
There are many reasons why as men, we get angry with our woman and act in whatever way we have learnt when we are angry, let me drop some regular reasons as to why men get angry with women.

#1. We as men, it have been a part of us that we can not just understand the process involved in the feeling of emotions and how we can come up with an idea to stop the trigger at that moment when its happening. This act can be traced back to our childhood days.

Now can you remember? That time when you were a child, and daddy will always get angry at you and correct you in an angry mode? Or when mummy did not prepare launch in time and then, you saw how angry daddy was and how he talked angrily to mum?

Just trace back and you can recall incidents when your dad or mum was angry with you and caught you in a harsh way and corrected you.
Now here is what you have to know, that as you were growing up, you grew up with those actions right in your view and brain and you never learned how to control anger or get someone to teach you about the act of getting angered and how to control it.

So as you now grew up and you are now a man, you act the same way you learnt when you were a young boy and it becomes a part of you. And when your woman gets you angry, you act just the way you have known in times past when you are a kid and a young boy.

#2. What you are experiencing is not what you want in your life.

Another reason why you get angry with a woman is because you are not getting what you expect out of your life.
Yes that's the true fact, a man who have everything he wants in this life will always be happy with everyone and women most especially.
So you don't have what you want in your life yet, and that simply explains the reason why you are angry.

Well now, you have gotten a clue to why you get angry with a woman right? So how do you go about dealing with your anger with a woman and stop hurting yourself every time because of a woman.

In my own case, here is what mostly makes me angry with my woman.
"When we are on a call with her, then maybe she ran out of airtime and the call ended, or i ran out of airtime, and so the call ended, then i went on to buy airtime and after that, i call her number and i saw her number was busy on another call, while i am held on call waiting, then she was on that other call and its lasting for more than 10 minutes,".

Hell no!!, i normally get angry on this issue alone and i will talk to her to the extent that will almost talk out my nerves, it triggers my anger a lot and makes me so easy and weak when am seen.
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How to deal with it.

Well now you have understood this whole concept of getting angry with a woman. So what do you do to make yourself always happy with everything you do?

#1. Mark out your desires.
What you want in this life and also, what you dream and aspire to have is known as your desires.
To deal with that anger you always feel, you have to discover and search out what you are looking for in a woman and in your life.

But as you are doing that, you must keep it in mind and know that what you want and desire is not just an object, person or any activity of a thing. The part way to experiencing what you want is through people, activities and objects that yields an outcome.

A woman in her nature can only help you experience and feel what you desire when you are with a woman?
Do you desire a woman to tell you sweet words and stories? Do you desire a woman to kiss you, hug you and make you feel the warmness of her body? Or you desire to get sexually intimate with that woman?

Well it all depends on you, if you want to be happy with a woman, the best tip to work it out is to write down what you expect and desire from a woman as a whole.

For example, when it comes to money, having a lot of money is not what you desire, what you are planning to do with the money and the experience you will encounter is what you desire and you don't desire riches, but the pleasure of riches.

So when you are able to mark out and identify what you actually want in a woman, then that is when you can be able to have a clear goal and mind when you encounter any difficulty on your travel.

#How you feel.
How you feel with a woman is what will tell if you can be happy with her or not, and so you should mark this point out and think about it.
Okay do you feel that she is cheating on you? Or you feel she is not honest at all? Or you feel angry with her actions and behaviour? Okay only you can tell whatever it is.

#How do you want to feel?
After marking out and knowing how you feel with that woman, it is possible that you have now understood that actually, what you are feeling is not the way you want to feel and that's why you always get angry.

Love goes with affection, but emotion goes with feelings.
So a woman showing you love and affection does not mean she can satisfy what you want to feel and how you want to feel it.
So learn to write down how you want to feel with a woman.

After doing that, then try comparing How you feel and How you want to feel.
If what you feel and how you want to feel does not go in line with each other, then everything have gone wrong, and you are off the track.
So to get back to the track, you have to re-organise yourself, push away your current script and take out a new script.

#Your new live and script.

Now having known that the current woman you are rolling with does not provide you with the results you want, you need to get a new live by getting around and meeting some other women to get new experiences and also grab the right woman to start writing your new script for you.
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Trying to talk to your current woman is not an option. Here is why!

She is just like an old script, which have already been roughened and dirtied with so many mistakes and corrections, and though corrections have been made, it still looks rough and dirty and can never be clean no matter what. Now do i need to tell you that having your work done on a clean and new script will be the best outcome you can have than allowing it to be on that old script?

Now considering the woman heart, you can never make a woman to change her thought on the way she feels, because what she feels is what drives her and hence, even though you succeed in talking to her and expecting her to change, she can never change.

Now that is why you need to move on and get a new life with some other new people, and when you finally meet the right woman that will make you to feel the way you have always wanted to feel, you will discover that your life will get better and completely taking a new happy turn.

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How to avoid being short of words while talking to a girl

Many guys have been caught in this situation, and i guess you are one of them and now, you are here to look for help.
Have you ever thought of many conversations to make with a girl and what you will talk about if you are together? But then as you meet her and you sit together, your head turns like a formated computer system with nothing inside it, and your head goes empty.

Then you just find out that your conversation gets boring and a moment of silence follows. This is usually a situation that turns most women off and makes them find you unattractive.

The reason why this happens most time is because of the fact that you always want to appear right and do the right things just to impress that girl you like. And that is where the problem sets in but, you also started the conversation the wrong way and you were not prepared.

Now how do i overcome this situation of becoming short of words while talking to a girl i am interested in?

#Getting her attention first.

This is just a good conversation tip many guys don't know.
When you are able to start the interaction with a very attractive and interesting topic she likes, then you can be able to talk for long and generate new topic ideas without the fear of breaking down to silence.

But how do you learn about topics that are of great interest to her?
You have to watch her from close range and know what she likes talking about. You can get close to her friends just to get an idea of what she talks about the most.

When you have been able to know what she enjoys talking about, she will be surprised about how you knew about it and she will be interested and passionate to engage in the conversation with you.

#Concentrate on her and stop thinking inside your mind.

When you focus more on thinking about what to say and how to say it will make you self conscious and you forget about what you are doing and what she is saying.

You should never try to be right and perfect because no one is perfect in speaking with a woman. What matters the most is becoming your real self and not trying to fake your moves just to make her think you are a nice guy.

So when next you want to start a chat with a girl, the best treatment you can give yourself on this issue is just to focus and concentrate on her and what surrounds you. Make sure you slow your mind from thinking, take an inner stretch of your mind by breathing slow and relaxing your mind and that's where you should get ready to now talk, after that you can proceed to do the next thing.
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you make with women )

#Be an attentive and a good listener.

When you are able to grab each and every word a girl says in a conversation, then you will never run out of things to say when with a girl.
This will make you to be the best you can be while in a conversation with a girl.
But hey, been attentive does not mean nodding your head in affirmation to what she says or something like that. 

To be a good listener, you must concentrate on the person speaking and what she is saying, and when you are able to do that, you can use whatever is said to create new ideas and keep the conversation going.

You can use body languages to show that you are listening to what she is saying and when you also pay attention to what she says, you will actually get new ideas on things to say.

#Talk about yourself first and she will do the same.

One mistake guys do make when trying to talk to a new girl is asking them questions and just questions.
If you want a girl to see you as a potential guy who has values to his name, then the best way you can do it is to talk to her about yourself.

Say interesting things about your life which will be of interest to her.
You can talk about your social life and why you like meeting new friends, the places you like to travel to, your best meals, your ex girlfriends and experience, your friends, etc.

When you talk about those things, she will discover that you have more values to offer than those other guys who just concentrate on trying to win her heart with flattering and sweet words.

So when you do this and she normally will respond in a nice way, you should now ask her few selected questions about her life, she will like to return the favour and talk to you about herself.
But make sure that you don't go off the point of what you are trying to do and start to make it feel like you are bragging.

When you are able to get this going with a girl, your conversation will never go into silence and you will always have new things to talk about.

#Don't ask questions that yields a "Yes/No" answer.

This is just another mistake that most guys do in a conversation and you know that, when this happens, usually after she say a yes or no to what you asked her, then you will not be fast to think of what next to say and as a result, silence emerges and she starts to feel uncomfortable been with you.

The reason why this happens is because you always ask questions that does not require any further explanation and normally, should end with a yes or no answer.

For example, you asked her something like "You love coming to this place right?" Or "Do you go to that church always?"

Normally those questions needs straight answers and then, its gone, no one talks about it again.
But what if you make it go this way, "It seems you like it here - why do you enjoy being here?" Or "You like going to that church - why do you like it there?"

You see now? The second part is more appealing and opened up therefore, she gets an intuition to say something about what is being asked and from there, you get more things to talk about.

#One thing leads to the other.

In a conversation where you are listening and also, talking about things you can equate to what happened to you in real life, you can be able to tap out important notes from the conversation and create more topics.

For example, both of you are talking about school, then she said something about a hash lecturer who is unfair to them, then you remembered about a wicked uncle you have got back then in school, you can just take control and talk about it.

It will be interesting to her and she will remember another thing that happened to her back then in school, and she will not refuse to talk to you about it.
Now when you are able to do this, you will never run out of words to say when with any girl.

When you carefully follow these tips, i can assure you that you will get rid of silence when with a girl and also stay clear of being short of words while talking to a girl.

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How to deal with asking a girl out and avoid fear of rejection.

In the whole dating process every man engage in, facing rejection by girls after asking them out is just an unavoidable condition that he must face, and it is just a normal thing.

Guys who have recorded a lot of success in getting many dates will always tell you that they asked many girls out, and they got rejected and some other times, they are accepted. It is just a normal thing you must face when ever you get fully engaged in the dating cycle.

But because of this fear of rejection and embarrassment, many guys shun great opportunities to date a good number of nice women and get what they have always desired.
You are among those guys and men right? Well i know that's why you are here, so read on.

When you are afraid of getting rejected by a girl you want to approach, that is the worst moment when you will experience so much emotional flaws that will even make you to just give up before trying your luck. And it have been hard for many guys to deal with this situation because at this stage, you get confused in what to think about, you get your emotions and feelings heightened and your breath becomes faster.

But what about the actual rejection? This is not actually as bad as the fear of rejection, because the girl can reject you in a soft manner that will even get you happy in a particular way and create more chance for you to shoot back at her.

Well whatever case it is, you just need to learn how to get over it all and cope with that moment when she rejects you or when you are afraid of getting rejected.

So before you go out to ask that girl out, here is what you should have in your mind.

#Learn about the real meaning of rejection and its concept.
When you ask her out and she just walks away or just says something not annoying to you, that's no rejection and when that happens , then you have more chances of winning her to yourself.

#Stop getting disturbed.
This will make you to gain more confidence in asking her out without any fear of rejection.
This rejection happens to everyone, but it does not happen every time. So don't just disturb yourself and when you are rejected, just learn how to move on and everything will gradually fade away.

#Stop doing things that attracts rejection.
Do you know some of those things that makes a woman reject you without thinking twice?
They are as follows:
Starring at her while passing bye, using your friends to draw her attention and letting her notice you, telling her that she looks sweet and hot, trying to compare her to other women, talking dirty to her, etc.

#Get a back up plan and social options.
You are still single right? So why not get more than just one crush? Because when you do that, you have another one to fall back on and continue doing your thing like nothing really happened previously.

All these things are known to attract rejection from a woman, so make sure you don't engage or do any of them.
(Also Read: How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women )

Now, lets talk about the part of getting rejected. Normally after being rejected by a girl, here is what will happen to you as a man.

#1. You get angry:
Yes this happens a lot, when you just approach her, say your mind and you got bounced out immediately, and just then, you feel angry, and you don't feel anything for her, you feel like spiting on her face or giving her the insult of her life, etc.

#2. You refuse to give up.
When she denies you and rejects you, then you just think that its not a game over and you will never stop until you get her to love you, and you keep on chasing after her.

Many guys are guilty of this act and believe me, it have not always turned out to be good.

#3. You give reasons to be accepted.
Some guys are so stupid and go to this extent after a girl rejects them.
I mean why on earth should you be explaining to a girl reasons why she should love and accept you?

If she should have any reason to accept you, she would have known and seen it as you are coming to meet her.

#4. You feel sorry for yourself.
This is another state where a rejection hurts so much, and that's where your sorrow begins, seeing her walk away and rejecting you, you feel like crying and shouting your nerves out.

You start regretting why you formally asked her out and why you did not wait for sometime.

Well those are just some of the painful moments a a man will cause himself to experience after being rejected by a girl. Rejection is just inevitable and you can never tell the way it would go and where it will lead.

Don't do any of those things most guys do after getting rejected because it will never make you to move on with your life, it will only leave you at that junction of rejection and in an emotional trauma. So as a man, here is what you should do after getting rejected by a girl.

#1. Rejection is something that is common with girls.
When she turns down your proposal to her, first you should know that she did not reject you because of your character or nature, its just that she does not want to date you, and that's just her state of mind to the rejection.

Many guys have faced rejection before you and they know how they felt, but guess what? They were not rejected because they were found unattractive or nor where they just disliked. Its just a way women act and you don't have an option to that.
(Also Read: Extra ideas on how to make a girl fall in love with you )

#2. Stop worrying about her.
Okay she rejected you right? Yes she did, so do you just sit there and keep thinking about her and how her rejection hurt your feelings?

Come on, you are a man, and you don't have to do that, so here is what to do.
Just cool your nerves and stay silent, gradually avoid her and do things that will make her feel jealous of you or get irritated.

#3. Find time to be with other people.
After she rejected you, the next best thing that can make you to move on is to just stay away from her, then meet and interact with others and just live a positive life. Meet with new girls and ask them out and make yourself enjoy the company of others.

#Get around and engage in sports activities.
Another thing that can bring back your confidence is to start exercising your body.
You can play football, tennis, racing, weight lifting, etc.
All these activities will boast your moral and make you gain more confidence in yourself.

So just get up now, start doing something and get a better life for yourself, you just deserve better than just rejection.

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5 Steps on how to make your ex-girlfriend come back to you.

Have you ever regretted leaving and breaking up with a girlfriend of yours and now, you are wanting to get her back for either one or two reasons?

Well this is just a simple thing to do if you plan it well and execute the tricks the right way. But then, there are many reasons why you would want to get her back and those reasons have different manners of approach so that you can successfully get down to those goals of yours.

#Reason 1: For one more round of hot s€x.
Wow! I think i got it right, or maybe wrong, but i have observed that many guys who kept wishing they could get their ex girlfriends back have this one goal of getting one more night of hot sexual intercourse with them.

Maybe you could not get that before you broke up, and now you have realized that you really need to get into her skirts and get something done. Or you want to have it once more with her.
Well that's an easy one, and am going to show you how.

#Reason 2: keeping her safe again in your arms.
Oh! You really enjoyed the times both of you spent together and those moments of happiness you shared. But for one reason or the other, the both of you decided to go for a breakup and now, you are no more together.

But then, you discovered that you cant just stop thinking of her and every moment of happiness you shared together kept rushing up your mind like crazy, and you kept regretting why you went for a break up. So you cant help it anymore and now, its time to get her back under your comfort and keep her more safe with you.

Well those are the two main reasons why men seek to get their ex back after a break up, but how do you go about doing it now and getting it right? Read on.

Getting your ex girlfriend back is one thing that can be done easily by using the right composition at the time set. Tapping just a few buttons on your cell phone can do this simple trick for you, a trick i call the "TEXTING SENSATION.".

But then, there are some mistakes men do when they text their ex girlfriend after a breakup and those kinds of text messages will damage their chances of winning her back.
Normally, these kinds of text messages are as a result of hash or non-inspiring breakups where the man runs out of logic and is emotionally heightened.

Sending the following kinds of text messages to your ex after a breakup will utterly destroy your chances of getting her back.
(Also Read: Finding a true lover who can be a potential partner to you )

#1. Disturbing her with too much texts in her inbox.
When you text your ex girlfriend too many messages after a breakup, it will be so annoying and stupid of you to her as she does not want to see you text or even call her again.
When you do this, it almost tells her the fact that you are still suffering from the trauma of the breakup and you are almost turning into a psycho.

Hell don't do that because if you do, she will start to loose any further attraction she has for you.

#2. Sending her hateful text messages.
This is just one mistake that will make her hate you more and even forget about you.
After a breakup, don't go around her inbox sending her messages that will get across a signal indicating your loss of attraction and affection towards her.

#3. Sending her overemotional texts that indicates begging.
When you do this, just be sure that you have totally lost your chances of getting her back.
When you cant control your emotions after a breakup and maybe, you settled for regrets other than moving on, then that is when emotional text messages come into your mind which if you send them to her, will tell her that you are begging to come back and that is just it, you blew your chances away.

Women want to be with a real man who are just themselves and who are probably been chased by other women. Making her know that you have not found any other woman or enjoying the company of other women will set her dating market value high and bring yours down and when that is done, you have lost it already.

So now you know the first thing, normally you have to text her if you want to win her back, but what will you text her? And at what time should you get the message across to her? Lets see into that now.

#Don't contact her for a period of time.

Yea, a lot of guys says it works while some says you need to put more effort before it could work.
Well what matters after a break up is giving each other personal space and time to recover from the pains and sadness that accompanied the break up.

So if you want to get her back, you don't have to start the test immediately after the breakup, you should go on a no contact situation for sometimes, and the time you are to be away and out of sight depends on when she finally decides to settle and get over things.

At this period, make sure that you don't have any real situation that will make you get back to her, just be out of sight, view and reach. You can do that for up to a month and when that is done you can proceed to the next step.

#Getting Her jealous using fake texts and fake calls.

Okay this sounds am advising you to make her think that you have moved on with a new girl, but that's not the point here.
When you send her a fake text that makes her to understand that it is meant for another woman, it makes her feel jealous about the false news that you are dating a new girl.

Types of fake text.
It depends on the level of jealousness you want to make her feel, for example you can just fake a text reading "Hey! Am coming over to your place tonight, make sure you don't forget to keep my promise ready. bye"
Example 2: "Hey what should i buy for you while coming? Don't tell me ice cream this time around, waiting ASAP."

Well it all depends on you, create a fake text that will create an emotional feeling within her and then, just text it to her. She will feel that its real but then, she knows and gets the signal that the message was not meant for her, so she will call you back to confirm and clarify if it was meant for her or another person. You should make sure you do this occasionally.

Now you have got a chance to talk a little, just throw in one or two emotional lines to her and then leave her that way, you can now tell her that it was meant for someone else but not a girlfriend, yes, make sure she does not feel like you have got a new girl else, your plans will naturally fail.

Fake calls from another girl.
If you really want to get her back, then doing this should never be a problem to you.
To do this, you need to find another woman, either your sister or any female friend you can convince to do such a thing.
Then here is what to do.
Tell them to call your ex's number, then let her ask about you and get her feel that something is happening upstairs.

This act will make her feel jealous and also, make her to know that you are wanted by other girls.
(Also Read: How to end a relationship when you are not sure about the future of your relationship )

#Additional Steps.

Hey man, there are no special tricks on how to win her back, it all depends on how you go about it.
The time you take before trying to get into her affairs is one important factor that determines the state of you getting her back.

Okay now here is another tip, how about if you just get an ally to help you talk back to her face to face? Maybe you have a male friend who also happened to be close to that your ex girlfriend, now get him play the game along with you, give him some catchy lines to use and get that message across to her.

For example, you can ask him to tell her something like "Hey, you just need to watch your boyfriend and keep a close eye on him, many girls have been chasing him and trying to talk to him these days, and he have been talking about you since the past week, i guess he don't wanna break your heart, so watch him dear.".

After getting your friend to say something like that to her, she might show to him that you both are no more together, but that doesn't matter, what matters is that you want to get signal across to her which you have done, that is enough to get her think about you for the whole day.

#The "I just want us to be friends again" text.

After you have done all those things above, am sure that the ground is now leveled and you can walk up to her without getting hurt.
So why not just pick up your cell phone, get on your messages box and type in a text that tells her you just want to be friends again?

That's so simple, easy and very emotional but friendly, isn't it? So after texting her that way, she will never resist becoming friends with you again, and from there, the old times will naturally come back and things will get on.

Here is an example of what to text her: "Hi _____(her name), am just happy with myself that i have moved on and even though we broke up, i never thought we will end that way, but i really want us to be friends, just that am okay, let me know what you think okay?".

When you have sent her that kind of a text, her emotions will flow and she will almost get that feeling of love for you, and if she does not, she will still get back to your text.

Every breakup is unique in its own way, and every breakup does not go the same way, some breakups goes after much exchange of hateful words, fighting and throwing of properties, while some just ends in the coolest way you can ever think of.

Also, every woman is unique and totally different in her reaction to a breakup, and what worked for that other woman might not work for the other. And also depending on the way the breakup happened, chances are that you will have to exercise much patience and widen your tactics towards winning her back, we will talk about that in our upcoming articles, just stay with us.

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How to be a powerful confident man when dealing with women

I have seen many guys complain about their inability to get a woman attracted to them and love them as expected, and their normal reasons for not been able to record success is because of either shyness, anxiousness, fear or nervousness.

In today's dating and relationship ground, you will be left begging if you lack this one single component of a real man any woman will want to date. And what is that component?

#CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is one in a million must have character you must possess if you want to attract any woman in your life. Here is why!

Women have been known to fall and lounge for a man who will make them feel safe, cared for and secured, and without having confidence in you, you can never fulfil any of a woman's wish.
So confidence is the only thing you must learn to master and perfect in your dating life which will make other women to keep chasing after you.

But have you ever asked yourself why you lack confidence?
The reason is fear, because when you are afraid of approaching a beautiful woman, it stops you from being able to date any girl in your life, when you can not kiss a lady because of fear, etc. The fear and trauma caused in these instances now brings about lack of confidence.
So how do you get rid of this fear which leads to lack of confidence?
(Also Read: 5 Unhealthy conversation mistakes you always make with women )

#Start Building Your Physical Science.

When you are not confident in doing anything, you discover that what you think mentally is what almost brings about your lack of confidence, so to start this building of confidence, you need to forget what you think mentally about any woman you meet and then, learn more about developing your physics.

Yes, you normally think that woman is bigger than you and so you can not date her, or she is more beautiful, or i don't look good, so she can not love me, oh! she is older than i, so things cant work, etc.

All these thoughts have to be erased because it will keep causing you to have a low self esteem to yourself and make you unable to approach any woman in your life.

So you should just forget about every mental aspect of your thought and then, concentrate on the physical aspect of yourself, you need to get something doing, anything that will boast your self esteem and worth.

#Exercise your body.

You should engage in any kind of physical activity that will keep you up and going, join the gym groups, footballing, weight lifting, race down and up the field, the activity you choose does not really matter, just do it because engaging in any activity that will increase the testosterone level in your body will work like magic. But how does it work?

When you strengthen your body, you strengthen your mind and if your mind is in a healthy state, then confidence is generated because your mind is at ease.
Just make this your goal and never loose sight of it because if you stop, then it is better that you have not started it at all.

#Improve On the way you pose.

When you master a better way of posing and behaving, you stand a chance to add more confidence to yourself.
Your psychology is affected by your physiology and that is why you need to improve on your behavioural aspect of thinking about women.

When you stand, talk or sit in a way that does not signify a victorious man, your feelings are affected and you will not feel any good, and that lowers your confidence.
You can never feel bad when smiling, even if its a fake smile, you can stand tall on your fit and get your arms up in the air, this can get a lot of testosterone rushing up your system and also, having cortisol decreased, doing that will get you gain more confidence than ever before.

Hey man! Don't walk like a person who just lost a race or talk like someone who is suffering from a disease, that will lower your confidence when it comes down to women.
(Also Read: How to be that special man every woman will want to date )

#Pay attention to the way you breath.

When you are with a woman and you seem not to be confident and suffer from anxiousness, nervousness and fear, you find out that you breath faster and it is almost visible from your pitch while talking, you tend to talk fast like you are in a hurry to do something, you are not comfortable and you are just like a lost fellow.

Hey man, when next you sit with a woman, relax your mind, take a deep breath, stay quite as you do that for some seconds and then, concentrate on what you are about to say and not on her, go easy and gentle, don't let your heart beat faster and when you are talking, make sure you bring your whole attention to the present situation and not the past. Read the next step now.

#Forget about the past and bring your thoughts back to the present.

Most times, the fear and nervousness you feel when with a woman is as a result of what you are thinking in your mind.
When you think about the times when you failed in getting that other girl like you, and when what will happen if you should approach this one now, thinking that she might not accept you, she will think you are not good, etc.

All those thoughts can bring your confidence down to 10%. So when you are with that woman, forget about the past and just bring your awareness and thoughts back to the present. Doing that will ease you off any tension or pressure that might come out of your imaginations.

#Destroy your fears through action and visualise victory.

The best way to master a thing and get perfect is to do it even with the fear of failing to do it right.
After you do a thing you are afraid of doing because of fear, then you discover that you are no more afraid of doing it and you get perfect in doing it.

Just do it! And that's the only language you can use to conquer any fear and after that, you will discover that you are no more afraid of doing that thing.

Now before you even go to meet that woman, what do you think of? Do you think of failing or becoming successful in your pursuit?
Now even before you go out to meet her, make sure you have already recorded success in your mind and be sure that you will not fail this time around.

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Things a woman say that means something different

Women have probably been known for not going straight  to the point while having a discussion with anyone who they come across and today, we are going to talk about some of those things a woman say but actually takes a different meaning.

You can never understand the mind of a woman and the way she thinks and that is why you sometimes misunderstand and translate what she says wrongly. That is why most relationships gets boring now and then because when you expect your woman to clearly state her state of mind to a current situation, she does not say it straight but says it in such a way that it makes you get the wrong understanding to what she said.

Well without wasting much time doing introductions, i believe you know why you are here and so, if you fall among the category of those guys who can not understand and read a woman's thought as she beats around the bush, let me now show you some of those things your woman will tell you which you don't clearly understand and interpret.

#1. When your woman tells you "You don't need to buy me anything okay!"

When your woman tells you something like that, what comes to your mind first?
You are naturally going to think that she has everything she needs and you don't need to disturb yourself buying her anything.

But actually that's not what she means. When a woman says that to you, she just meant that you already know what she likes, and she don't have to tell you what she needs, she also expects you to ask her friends or sisters if you don't know what she needs, she just mean that if you really care, then you will figure out the right thing she wants.

#2. When your woman exclaims "What?''.

When you hear your woman say that to you, i know what comes to your mind, yes, i said something that seems unclear to hear and so, she wants me to repeat it so she can hear again.

Though sometimes, it is so and that interpretation works in situations like that, but in the other words and vocabulary of the woman's heart, she heard what i said but she is literally giving me a second option to reverse what i said previously and change it. That's how things work with women.

#3. When she tells you to "Go ahead and do whatever you want"

Yes as a man who does not understand the language of a woman, you just think that she is now giving you the power and might to do make decisions by yourself or do that thing that is right to you.

But in the language of a woman, that is not what she is telling you. She is only telling you that you should not do whatever you want without asking her, asking her will make her feel that you really care for her, but if you go ahead and do what you want, she will repay you or revenge it another time.

#4. When a woman asks you "Are you going to wear that?"

Don't think that she is asking you to confirm that you want to wear that cloth or shoes so she can complement on them, that's not the signal here.

What she is trying to tell you is that you should not even dare to wear that shoe or cloth because it does not fit, and if you are already putting them on, you better go and take them off and change. You just don't look sharp on that attire, period!!

#5. When she asks "Am i fat?" or "Am i slim?".

Don't think she is trying to know from you if she is fat or slim because that is the first thing that comes to your mind as a man when a woman tells you that.

But that is not what she means, she is only trying to hear from you if you find her attractive, sexy or not. And when she asks you that, she want to hear you say that you find her very hot and attractive and that you don't even know you are going to find someone so hot like her.

#6. When she says "You don't care for me".

Some men will even get angry when they hear their woman say something like this to them which gets the woman off her thoughts and tells them sorry, and that's another thing, she is not really sorry, you just turned her off.

When a woman says that to you, she does not really mean that you don't care or love her, she just think that you have not been showing much care and love, so what do you do about that? She wants you to improve on that and show more care.

#7. When she says "Its nothing, just forget it, am fine and okay".

This is another point you should never mess with. You will just think that she just told you that she have forgotten about what happened or what you did to her.

But in her mind, thought and meanings, she is only asking you to fix what happened and resolve the situation if not, she is going to take things her own way.

Also she might say any of those things if she want to make you forget any situation or anything that you insist on talking about.

#8. When she says "I am sorry".

You will think it as a normal word which she said straight from her heart and so, you take it like that.

But it is not so, she is just saying that so that she can get herself out of a hot awkward situation and get over it with you. Though sometimes, it is genuine and some women mean it when they say such things.

#9. When she says "I will be back in 4 minutes" or "I will be done in 2 minutes time" or "wait, i will call you back in 3 minutes".

As a man, you will normally think that she will be ready to get back to you after the time she gave as a waiting time and you expect it to be so. It have happened to me a lot until i learned not to believe that.

When a woman says any of that to you man, you just have to just relax your mind, get one or two things doing and get busy before she gets back, comes to meet you or call you back, because anytime she say that, she is just trying to make you feel comfortable with her leaving.

#10. When she says "I love you".

Hmm, and finally, when she say this to you, what do you expect? That she is also not straight?

Well don't misinterpret this language when it comes from a woman because it comes from her heart because she loves you, that is why she is bold to say that to you. Relax your mind and sit back, then think of all the above listing and know how to handle them all when it comes from a woman you consider so potential to you.

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Knowing the right time to ask for a girl's phone number

Many guys have this problem of moving too fast with a women when it comes to the issue of the girl letting the guy to have her phone number. When to ask for her number and how to get it quickly have been the focus of many guys when ever they meet a new girl.

The problem with moving too fast is associated with the thoughts of many guys as to limited chances of meeting with that certain girl again and so, missing your chances of getting her phone number. Getting her to drop her phone number to your phone book is not a success or achievement as you may think. So because you got her number by all means should not make you think that you can start a relationship with her.

Whenever you are interacting with a woman, you should first of all check on the urgency of the current situation and therefore, you learn the risks you must take while trying to get her phone number, email address or even ask her out for a date.

When ever it comes to women, everything becomes risky and that is why you need to learn about different time frame conditions while talking with a woman which in turn, helps you know the right time to make any move you wish, this will also make you not to miss important opportunities.

You might have had a very wonderful moment with a woman in your life but because of this single mistake of moving too fast to get her number, you were able to scare her away and make her loose attraction.

#Why you fail in getting a girls phone number.
As you have known, it starts just the normal way, you ran into a girl, you start a conversation, everything starts very sound and smooth but then, it happened that either you or the girl have a schedule ahead which have to be attended to and now, the conversation have arrived at a break point.

The conversation now starts to wind up and you immediately get nervous about the aspect of getting her phone number as you think about it inside you. Now you know you have a chance to ask for her phone number but then, you just have few minutes to do that and you don't want to risk your chance away to getting rejected, turned down and embarrassed.

When you don't know how to get a girl's phone number, the first step you take after getting over your fear of rejection is "Can i have your phone number?"

Immediately you do that, a girl will act the normal way, think to her self and reason on why you need her phone number, from there she can decide to play hard to get and will give you a response like "I don't think or really know yet, but can you give me yours instead?"

Now what came into your mind? boom!! You know you have failed and she just saved you that awkward moment of feeling embarrassed and rejected, but then, both of you went away with excitement and good moods but from the inside, you are struggling with your new defeated quest.

#Why she did not give you her phone number.

When she turned down your request for her phone number, what comes into your mind is that feeling of you, thinking that she actually likes you and she is even in to you.

It do happen a lot and as a man, you first of all think that there was attraction between the both of you.
Not knowing how to and also, making it seem like like a big deal and a hard attempt is the reason why many guys fail to get a girl's phone number in a very smooth way.

But then, i assume you already know women, and the totally different kind of way they sound on phone.
Usually, women have different reasons for giving and not giving out their phone numbers. Some girls like the attraction they get from many men calling them, while many just like to turn down any request made for their phone number. But depending on how you do it and the situation surrounding your interaction, you can get a girls phone number in not more than 5 minutes.

Here a four reasons why a woman decides not to give you her phone number:
(1) She experienced a kind of fear, intimidation or pressure when she was having interactions with you and so, she could not let you have her number because you gave her a wrong impression about yourself.

(2) You were nice, just like other guys and the way you approached her and acted is not different from her day to day experience with other guys and that is to say, you are not remarkable and just the same with those other guys who stalk her around and at the end, desperately wanting for her digits.

(3) Oh you don't know? Come on, she has a boyfriend and so she don't need any more man to start preaching the gospel of love and sweet words to her, that's a big moral rejection for her.

(4) When she does not trust you, then she will never like to give you her phone number.

(5) She has adapted to the habit of turning down guys and playing hard to get until the smartest one convinces her to give it out to him.

(6) She does not feel any attraction for you, no sensual and romantic scene occurred when you were both together.

Now when a woman have any of the above options attached to her when she is together with you, then there are possibilities that both of you will not get along well.
(Also Read: Signs That Tells A Girl Likes You And Is Ready To Date You )

#How do you now get her phone number?

Having a girl give you her phone number does not involve any big trick or games, it is easy to get her phone number when she has any of the following traits inside her when ever you are together.

(1) When she trusts you that you can always get her happy just the way you started.

(2) She feels something extraordinary for you, and her experience with you was romantic and there was that sensual attraction she felt for you.

(3) When she has no boyfriend, or have no dating or friendship morals and laws you are trying to invade.

(4) You were so different and remarkable, just different from the other guys.

Now you have to know that without you delivering your game in a nice and different way, a girl will not get interested in you and when that interest is not there, then she can not let you have her phone number.

So for you to achieve your aim, you have to explore other aspects and means of having a conversation that will turn her on and get her interested in you.
You might succeed in getting a girls number without making her interested in you but then, she will never sound good and nice on phone because nothing interesting and mutual existed between the both of you.

So to get her interested in you and get her to be attracted, read these tips on " 5 Best Ways To Get A Girl Interested In You ".

After you have achieved the aims in that article, you can just come back and relax your mind and then, just use that same polite manner to get her write her phone number down for you.

#Tips: It will be good and best if you move around with a little classy pen and just a little nice paper and when you just bump into a girl and conversation is almost ending. Now here is what you would do.

1st step: After you are done talking and after exchanging pleasantries and both of you have turned and almost going separate ways. Now turn back to her and draw her back her attention like "Hey!! ". She will turn back and notice you, then ask her "Do you engage in any social network? Like facebook, bbm or skype?".. you should not include whatsapp chat because that's where her number goes. Now she would tell you if she does any of them.

Now just hand her your classy pen and a little paper, then ask her to write her pin or username down, she would not turn you down on that, now while she is doing that, ask her to also write down her phone number particularly the one she uses for whatsapp chat if she does, and when you immediately ask her to include her number, support your mood with a line like "don't think i have airtime to always call, but don't worry, i will only call 20 times in a day".

Believe me that when you do that, she would smile as she obeys your command, now you have done it and you have achieved your aim.
Just go ahead and give it a try, and when you have practiced all these, you will be a boss and a master of the game when ever it involves getting a girls phone number.

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8 Unattractive behaviours that turns a woman off

Women are particularly different every where you meet them as you live on your daily life. Sometimes you get to know and meet those who are very cool and easy going in whatever way you would push them to, while some are really hard and get turned off easily following some characters you portray towards them.

So here in this article, i am going to tell you some of those traits most women, i would say 90% consider as a great turn off and mastermind for disregarding any man they come across.

In most of the articles i do put down for you guys, i have in many instance emphasized on the need for a good and great personality which you must have attached to your name, because that's one of the attribute women consider whenever trying to pick up a guy for a date. But that's not all as we look into an important subject today which will eliminate some trashy habits present inside you when ever you come around a woman.

Yea, i know you have come across many women who be like, "i don't like guys who smokes, smells bad, appear shabby, ", bla bla bla. Well with these tips below on the top 8 things that turns a woman off, you can now get prepared and get ready for what next is to come whenever you meet a woman.

#1. Distractions From Your Mobile Phone And Other Women.
So when next you are with that woman, and you keep staring at other girls around and those passing by, what do you expect that one you are sitting with to do? She would probably get angry and leave or just make an excuse just to go her way and get a better man to hang around with.

When you are out on a date with a woman, its not a good time for you to start checking out on your phone, facebook, instagram or twitter. While she is busy eating and you don't engage her with any conversation but rather, you made your phone your best friend at that moment, i tell you that girl will never want a date or time to spend with you again. So whenever you are out on a date with a woman, just stay concentrated on her and let everything be about her. She would love to hang out with you again.

#2. Getting too nervous and unsecured.
If you are not confident about yourself as a guy, how would she know that she have meet that type of guy she have always wanted to meet?

Sometimes one problem men create for themselves is the inability to be confident that they are capable of dating that particular lady, and they just think that she is just above their class and so, they just feel unsecured and nervous that they are not meant to be together.

So that will just turn any woman off because as she comes closer to you, she will notice your insecurity and nervous/scared feeling, and oh no!! No woman wants to be with a man scared or nervous about her.

#4. Always Shabby And Not Well Dressed And Smells Bad.
This is also an important issue you have to deal with if you are fond of not getting well dressed and organised, and in most cases, not even taking a shower.

No woman will want to meet a guy who looks like he has been suffering from HIV for the past one year, i mean, why would you wear a dress that does not fit and makes you look like you are putting on your father's cloth?

Come one, before you go out to meet that woman, get some dress that fits and can be complemented on, put on a nice perfume and body spray, nice belts, fine shoes and if the need be, the latest fashion trend should be your aim as you are not trying to get a cheap girl like you.

#5. You Are That Boring And Dumb Guy.
Hey, hope you dig this? When you are just with that woman and everything seems not interesting to her, and her faces would be like sharp objects wanting to pierce into your eyes or want to make you say by.

Every woman wants to be with a guy who will talk about things that are of interest to her and not things that make her want to say hey "i don't like hearing you say that! Just stop." .

So when you are with that woman and you see her just turning her eyes from left to right, or staring somewhere else, just get the hint that your conversation ain't too good and interesting to her, so just get a nice topic to talk about and take away that boredom in your conversation.

Now about that dumb that, its when you just speak your mind to a girl on a date without thinking about it. When you find out the topic is not interesting to her, don't say things like "oh, i know you are getting bored, am i right?", or when you see her yawn or maybe not feeling too okay, then you just go ahead to ask her if she is hungry or what?.

Don't stay and keep asking like she paid you for that, just do the needful and stop acting like a village champion who just arrived Las Vegas.

#6. Too Rude And Have No Manners.
Every woman wants to be with a man with good knowledge on how to treat a woman in a polite way, knows how to make her comfortable being around him and also how to be polite and not rude to the people around him.

Now if all the above attributes are absent in you, then maybe you just need to go back to your parents to get some teachings about manners and how important it is towards the people you meet in your daily life.

Don't shout anyhow at dinner, in a cab or elsewhere, stay calm as she is around you, and that's just the way to go.

7. Too Pompous And Talks More About
Yourself.
Many guys are fond of doing this, just because they think they have it all or they always get others praising them based on their life achievements.

So are you that type of a guy? Who talks to a girl about your cars, gadgets, your live, what you have achieved? Your father's wealth, your good deeds and misdeeds? Then you need to put those things off so that it does not make that woman to get turned off.

If you do such a thing, every woman will think you are proud and arrogant, so you must learn to differentiate between arrogance and confidence.

8. Just That Cheap Guy Who Thinks Every Woman Wants To Get Laid.
Cheap is not the way to go, so don't appear cheap on any woman or buy her cheap things, take her to cheap places or just appear so cheap.

Now if you are also that type of a guy who just talks to any girl you meet about explicit activities and desires, then she will think you only want to get sexual on her and probably, that's what you are thinking she needs.

Now unless if you have meet that perfect runs girl, then all these traits will put you in a bad situation when next to her because she will probably not want to meet you again.

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5 Tips on how to make a guy you like love you

Its already known that many girls have always found it hard getting that guy they like to come closer to them and love them, and as a result, they live in anxiety and worry because they can not attract that special person they want to be with.

Tips on how to make a guy you like love you

It is obviously true to say that women possess every weapon and strategy that can be used in drawing a man closer to them and to love them with great zeal and passion.
Whether a guy has a girlfriend or not, a woman can use just a simple tactics to draw him close enough and get him to fall for her.

However, most women find it hard employing their womanly skills bestowed upon them towards getting any guy to fall for them, and as a result, many of them are still single, and searching for a man who can date them.
I heard that some women blame their ugly nature for not been able to get a guy like and love them, lol. That's not true, we are going to lead you through towards getting that guy to like and love you.

Now to you ladies, here are sure tips on how to get a guy like and love you.

#1 Create time to be with him always.
This is one of the best ways which you can use as a lady to get a guy to love you.
You don't expect that guy to feel something for you when you don't make yourself available and around him always.
So to get that guy to start thinking about you and have the thoughts of you on his mind, you have to make yourself available around him to create a more friendly atmosphere with him.

But you must ensure that you don't over do it, coming to meet him always might intrude and go into his personal space and as a result, he might get uncomfortable seeing you around because you hardly give him time attend to his personal needs. So while doing this, you should know those moments when he is free and ready to meet or welcome anyone who comes to see him.

#2 Talk about yourself when together with him.
Another buster for getting him to like you is to always talk about personal self and get him to say things about you when ever you are together.
Talk to him about the things you like, the places you like going, the dress code that appeals much to you, the things you hate, your goals in life, how you wish you could have a boyfriend, etc.

When you do that, he will become more interested in you and even wish to know more and also talk to you about himself.
The potentiality in you will gradually be known to him when you are doing that. But you must try to be real and not faking everything.

#3 Hang out to favourite places with him.
Tell him about places you like going and hanging out, not only to your favourite places, but also to occasions, birthday parties of friends, etc. Then ask him to be with you or come with you to those places, make sure you select the best and interesting ones that will be of great delight to him.

Now when you are out with him, you must make sure never to allow other things to take you away from him or leave him to wait for you. You should stay around him and make him entertained.

When at birthday parties or occasions, stick to him and don't let the fun there to leave him all alone, if you ask him to come dance with you and he did not, because of shyness, don't leave him and dance alone, other guys around might want to come and dance with you, so just sit with him and make him feel entertained by your presence alone.

#4 Take a break, be unaccessible for some time.
Now after much of the hangouts, and staying together, talking, partying and much fun going between the both of you, stay out of sight and reach. Don't pick up your calls, stop coming to see him, stop going to your favourite hangouts, just stay out of any occurrence that catch both of you together.

Doing this will make him think about you more and be worried about your whereabout, so make sure you do this for sometime and then come back to him and start answering his calls, you will be surprised to know how we was so disturbed and always thinking about you since your disappearance.

But you must not do this for too long, taking much time to get back to him might risk everything you have done as he can just decide to get you off and let everything you have done together whisk away. Staying out of his reach and sight for 5 days is okay.

#5 Use your body language every now and then.
The use of body language to communicate and relate in conversions is another point to turn him on and feel attracted to you.
This will also make him have a feeling of affection towards you as he finds you getting closer to him more and more.

To achieve this aim, you can use your eyelashes to sigh at him, showing interest to what he is telling you, or what he is about to tell you. Also, you can lean on his body when you are feeling tired or when you just want to do that,hold his hands when both of you are taking a walk or about to cross the road. Any opportunity that makes it possible for you to make body contacts without suspicion, then do it and you are at already at the point to getting him to like you.

Try to make more body contact with him and do things that will make your body of interest to him, also you can wear dresses that will put your body on its best shape. Arousing him and making him want to come close to your body is a sure way to get him to love you.

#Treat him in a special way.
One of the ways you can use to get him like you and love you is to treat him in a manner that shows your strong interest in his life.
Be concerned about his friends, family, and work, interests and dislikes.

When both of you are out among your friends, pay attention to him, and hear him out while talking, ask him to come along with you while with your friends, always get him involved in the things you do, this is a sure way to making him feel he have got that type of a woman he have always wanted.

#6 Be smart, descent and good looking.
Don't start doing this just because you want to attract that guy you love, do it because you are confident in your looks and your accessory. Be at your finest feature from your hair, down to your teeth and your dress, look clean and smart, be well behaved and stay out of troubles.

When you do all these things without faking it and trying too hard, he will feel more attracted to you because of your attributes and nice appearance. No guy will want to be with a girl who does not pay more attention to her looks and appearance.

#7 Copy what he does.
Do something that brings out some similarity between the both of you, observe what he likes and start liking them, do some of the things you know he likes doing.

You can also try doing what he does when the both of you are together. For example: when he takes a glass of water to sip, also do the same, when he behave in an awkward but funny way, repeat what he did and by doing that, you will create an amazing and funny moments that he will always remember you with.

#8 Laugh/Smile at him.
This last one here do not need any explanation. You already know that smiling at a guy gives him that impression that you are interested in him. And when he does any thing or say anything funny, the best treatment you can give him is a laugh box.

So once you have done all these, that guy will know that you are interested in him, and he will return you the favour by doing the same, and from there, you just got him.

These tips here are sure and will work out perfectly if you know how to implement and when to execute them.

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See 15 Important Words you should say to your Lover Everyday

A healthy relationship is one of the essential part of a happy life and daily living. But in todays life, building a strong hold in a relationships is a truly hard challenge faced by many lovers.

There are no tutorials or guides for the empowerment of your dream partnership but there are some important things which are easy to carry out after which, your relationship can be made stronger and improved.

In order to make your joint life with your lover better, you must make the saying of "Important words" to each other a habit in your life and once you are good in that, your relationship will definately turn from good to better.

So here are a list of 15 important things things you should say to your lover every day.

1. I was thinking about you!

2. How was your day?

3. I love you

4. Goodnight!

5. I disagree!

6. I respect you..

7. You are the best!

8. My life would have been nothing without you.

9. Sorry my love.

10. I support you.

11. We should go.

12. I love your mind.

13. I will dream about you when I close my eyes to sleep.

14. Sweet dreams my love.

15. My love for you will always be.

The first component for building a healthy relationship is love, which is also the foundation and bedrock of a healthy relationship.
Love is being what you want others to be to you in return and this act of love is being characterised by words, action and attitude.

when there is love, there is the tendency to drop down to another low level of esteem just to relate with such a person in whom you found love.
When you put yourself in another persons situation in order to make that person have a sense of belonging, that is the work of love.

When there is love, then other components and ingredients of love will be formed. And these other ingredients are understanding, openness, communication, trust and tolerance. With these components put together, a healthy relationship and a happier life is obtained.

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How To Keep Your Man Happy (Best 5 Tips)

Sometimes, you find out in many relationships that the man is not always happy with his wife/lover. This is because the woman have never cared to find out how to make her man happy .
So as a woman, these tips are so simple and you will be able to execute them anytime and see your man give you the inscription of the best girlfriend/wife ever. So let's go there.

1. Let Him Alone.
Now you should not do this at all times, but take for instance, when he comes home from work or when he is really tired and stressed about something, what a guy needs most is to be quite and left alone himself for sometime. Now when you as his lady recognises this and you give him that personal space, he will notice it and he will be to greatful.

2. Let Him Be In Control.
Every guy like to feel like he is in control of his woman at all time. So you should try letting go of your own opinions to be right(even though you are right). Allow him to pick your outing spots, the restaurant to launch at, or even the movie to watch. Now let him do all those things without interjecting with your "better idea" as this will make him feel like he is just in charge and that you also trust his actions with no doubt.

3. Surprise Him With Something Sexy.
. Maybe putting on lingerie (sexy underwear) is not something you like doing, don't worry, guys do not need that at all times. But try going outside your comfort zone every now and then, surprise him with some sexy underwear or meet him out for a drink in an especially little LBD(little black dress), he will know you are just doing it for him.

4. Lend Him An Ear.
It is sometimes tempting to take control when your man is in a deep mess, but you should try and pause for a second. Don't try to solve his problems or tell him how you would do if you were in his shoes. So let him talk, you should listen, and be supportive as he tries to get things in order.
So jumping in to fix his problems will not be too good. What he needs is some feminine nurturing, so you should listen to him, give him a hug and let him vent.

5. You should show him that you want him
You don't need to be over sexual before your man knows that you want him. Try subtle things like just slipping your hand into his crotch during a drive home, or at a movie, or under the table at dinner. He will be pleased like no other if he knows how sexually attracted you are to him.

So with these helping tips I outlined, I believe you will use it to make an impact and change in your relationships today.

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