3 quick ways to stop obsessing over your ex

 

How do you get over someone you once loved and shared everything with. Obsessing over your ex is very unhealthy because there's absolutely no future for you with them.

 

Obsessing over them means not coming to terms that they've really said goodbye and have moved on. You have to find the courage to move on with your life.

Relationship expert Dr. Jeff Gardere in a chat with Marlo Thomas of Huffington Post, lists thee simple ways people can get over their exes after a breakup.

1. Find something healthy to get obsessed with:  Dr Gardere says find a hobby. Turn your heart and mind towards something more entertaining.

 

2. Don't stop making yourself happy: Always believe in your ability. One failed relationship doesn't define who you are. You can't say you are nothing without them, you were something before they came along.

3. Avoid things, situations that remind you of them: Don't put yourself on the spot. Find other places you never went together, try some new experiences. Don't go to places where you are likely to run into your ex.

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8 Surprising THINGS That Makes WOMEN Want To Be LAID So Bad!!

While guys are generally up for se x whenever, wherever (regardless of the situation), women tend to need a bit more inspiration, according to Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D. and David M. Buss, Ph.D., psychology professors at theUniversity of Texas at Austin and coauthors of Why Women Have Se x: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between). For a better understanding of how to get her in the mood, consider the following eight factors that Meston and Buss say affects a woman’s li bido:



1. HER MAN’S APPEARANCE
Men are usually considered to be the most turned on by visual stimuli (think about it: how many strip clubs and adult magazines are actually targeted toward females?), but women are actually quite turned on by a man’s face, body and movement as well, say Meston and Buss. “Sexually, women are attracted to men with masculine features, although not too masculine,” Meston explains. “A little light stubble is usually a turn-on for women if it’s clean and well-kept. Body-wise, women generally find men with a V-shaped torso or a high shoulder-to-hip ratio sexually attractive. Motion is important, too, as women find athletic prowess and agility to be sexual turn-ons.” The bottom line: If you’d like to get her in the sack, a good first step to take might be getting yourself into the gym. 

2. THE TIME OF DAY
Meston says that women are very individualized in terms of when they most prefer to get it on: “In general, women want to have se x when they feel their best — when they have energy, feel connected to their partners, aren’t distracted by work or stressful daily events, and when they feel sexy — and that may or may not be at night.” In order to figure out when a woman’s most likely to be in the mood, pay attention to the times she seems the most energized and/or chilled out. Try thinking outside the box — you may find that she’d love a post-jog quickie right before her shower!

3. CERTAIN SMELLS
Meston and Buss explain that, for women, sense of smell is far more important than it is to men when it comes to sexual attraction. Simply put: if a woman doesn’t like the way a man smells, it’s often a deal-breaker — whether she consciously realizes it or not. The number one turn-off reported by most women is — not surprisingly — bad breath, says Buss. A woman’s sense of smell also plays an interesting biological role in what attracts her to a man, according to Meston: “Olfactory signals provide a woman with a wealth of information about a man’s health, hygiene, and even his genetic makeup,” she notes. Pheromones — tiny airborne molecules that humans emit from various glands in their body — can influence a woman’s desire to be sexually intimate with a man. Male pheromones have been shown to provide information on a man’s symmetry, which is an indicator of genetic fitness and ultimately can determine whether a man is genetically compatible with a woman. “For many women — whether they realize it or not — scent can play an important role in determining her willingness to have se x with a man, given her ‘sense’ of whether they can produce genetically healthy, strong children together,” says Buss.

4. HER GUY’S CHOICE OF WORDS
Often, what a man says is more important than what he does when he’s trying to get a woman in the mood. “Offering compliments is usually a sure-fire way of making someone want to get closer… although, if the compliments come across as insincere, they will actually turn her off,” says Meston.

To score extra sincerity points, make references to future activities you’d like to do together, explains Meston, noting that showing signs of commitment can often be sexually alluring to women. Buss also notes that a man with a sense of humor is also a sexual turn-on for the ladies: “If a man can make a woman laugh, it relaxes her and makes her feel that he ‘gets’ her,” he says, adding that a good sense of humor also conveys some key qualities women want in a mate: intelligence (it’s hard to be witty if you’re not too bright), the ability to gauge her emotional and social perspective (a.k.a. having the mind-reading skills to know what she will find amusing), and social verve or confidence.

  5. THE NEED FOR REVENGE
In their research, Meston and Buss found that many women had “revenge se x” with someone other than their most recent dating partner to get back at a cheating partner or to “even the score,” as some women put it. “Some women hoped their ex would find out about it and feel angry or hurt, and other women said they didn’t care if they found out or not — they felt better just knowing they had gotten revenge,” Meston explains. Why is the need for revenge such a turn-on for women? “Revenge can serve two basic functions,” Buss explains. The first function is one of deterrence: just as bullies stop picking on victims who retaliate, cheating partners sometimes stop their illicit activities when the other person retaliates in kind. The second function of revenge is “reputation management,” says Buss. “Women who are scorned sometimes suffer damage to their social reputation, whether they are cheated on or dumped. Having se x — especially if it is with someone who is relatively high in ‘mate value’ — can sometimes help to restore a woman’s reputation,” he explains.

6. GENETICS
Women prefer men whose MHC genes (or Major HistoCompatibility genes) are dissimilar to their own, because this is the set of genes involved in determining an individual’s immune function. “Having children with men who are dissimilar produces children with healthier immune systems,” Buss explains. “Astonishingly, women seem to be able to pick this up through sense of smell, especially at ovulation, if they are not on hormonal contraceptives.”

7. HER PHYSICAL HEALTH OR WELL-BEING
If you’re looking for a few good reasons why she should have se x with you, there are countless ways in which you can emphasize that “getting busy” would be a wise move for her health. “During orga sm, opiates — the body’s natural painkillers — are released, which can help decrease all sorts of aches and pains for women,” Meston explains. Se x can also help maintain the body’s flexibility and cardiovascular health, decrease anxiety, and enhance overall mood. Additionally, Meston notes, having se x during menstruation decreases a woman’s risk of experiencing endometriosis symptoms. Of course, se x (if it lasts long enough!) can also be a good calorie burner, so you can always suggest it as a fantastic way to burn off the chocolate cheesecake you shared for dessert. 

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Making L0ve To Her While She Is Menstruating: The facts!

If you thought that se-x during menstruation is off-limits, think again. Many of us are hesitant to try it, because we’re culturally conditioned to think it’s unclean.

From a purely medical standpoint, however, se-x during menstruation is completely normal. It even has a lot of benefits for both partners.

Here are some top facts…

1. S-ex during menstruation isn’t harmful

There’s a pervasive myth out there that menstrual blood is dirty and full of impurities that might harm the penis. This is nonsense!

Menstrual blood is a mixture of healthy blood and the discarded tissues that line the uterus each month in preparation for pregnancy. Coming in contact with this blood will not harm the penis in any way. In fact, menstruation blood serves as a great (and harmless) lubricant.

There is also a common misconception that the penis can hurt the uterus during s-ex while she’s having her period.

Although it’s true that a tiny opening corps up in the uterus to pass menstrual blood during her period, this hole is impossibly small for the penis to enter. S-ex during menstruation causes absolutely no harm to a woman’s uterus.

Menstruation may increase a woman’s s-ex drive

Many women feel a higher s-ex drive during their menstrual cycle. There is a lot of conflicting and confusing information about why this happens. But one reason, according to Sara Gottfried, M.D., author of The Hormone Cure, is that a woman’s estrogen is at an all-time low at the beginning of her period. As her estrogen levels rise over the following week, her testosterone levels rise as well, helping her be turned on more easily.

Another factor may be the increased blood flow and lubrication in the genital region, a heaviness that could translate into arousal. The possibility of getting pregnant is also lower during this time, which might make women feel more sexually liberal. Also, some women may become aroused by the thought of doing something sexually forbidden or unconventional.

You can still get pregnant.

The chances of becoming pregnant during menstruation are extremely small, but it can still happen. Though generally it is a very safe time to have unprotected s-ex if you’re trying to avoid pregnancy, a man’s sperm has the ability to survive inside the woman’s body for a few days and there is a small chance that an early ovulation could cause pregnancy. If you want to avoid getting pregnant, it is best to use contraceptives.

S-ex during menstruation can relieve cramps. Having an orgasm during the period may give you pain relief from cramps by releasing pain-reducing endorphins into the bloodstream. Also, according to some scientists, s-ex during this time provides further relief by using up chemicals, which are responsible for menstrual cramps.

S-ex during menstruation could also knock a few days off your period. This is because the extra contractions your uterus experiences during orgasm help get rid of menstrual blood faster, ending your cycle sooner than usual. But, you can expect a heavy flow during the initial days.

It’s more often women, not men, opposed to the idea.

According to a recent survey conducted on MensHealth.com, it’s women, rather than men, who choose to shut down sexual activities during menstruation. More than 75 percent of the men who were surveyed said they had no issues about having s-ex during their partner’s period, though 54 percent said they would only do it with a wife or serious girlfriend.

Do you know some more interesting facts about s-ex during the period?

Have you ever done it?

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Having Feelings For Someone Else While in a Relationship

Many people who are already in a relationship have this common challenge of having feelings and attraction for someone else outside the relationship.

This issue have grown to be a major problem many people do face in their relationships.
Sometimes you are tempted to ask,

Am i not matured enough to love one person?

Am i not so in love with him/her?

Am i not enjoying all the sex we do have?

Why do i keep feeling attraction for that other person?

But then, all those questions you might be tempted to ask will not really solve the problem here. You can be in a relationship that you enjoy all those things, and people can almost say you are in a healthy relationship but despite that, you find out that you were able to have feelings and attraction for someone else.

You can feel a natural attraction for someone and this kind of feeling is not very harmful or meaningful in any ones life, but the one that makes it more complicated confusing is when you are feeling something more than just the normal attraction and feelings for someone.

Reasons Why You Feel Attracted to Someone Else.
There are many reasons why you might be having feelings for someone else despite that you are in a relationship.
It can be that you just went into the relationship not because you really like your partner, but because you were eager to be in a relationship and that your partner showed interest in you, and so when you saw someone new out there, you were able to still grab attraction for them despite the fact that you are in a relationship.

At times, it can also happen that you are even in a dedicated relationship that have been for long, but then you just found out that you were just getting attracted to someone new even right inside your relationship.

Your heart is just like an organisation, which operates on its own and in ways that suits its interest, so for the fact that your heart saw someone new and started to like that new person, then you cannot stop your dear heart from doing that.

Well, whatever step you take in this situation is surely going to make a change in your relationship life.
(Also Read: How To End a Relationship You Are No More Interested In Keeping )

#What Do You Really Want?
Sometimes, the reason why these feelings grow and become harmful to you is when you are not able to know what you really want in the relationship you are said to involve in.

So you should be able to learn about those things you want in your relationship and the things you want in a partner.
When you are able to know these things and mark them out, it will help and aid you towards taking your next step towards handling that new person that is trying to create a break in your current relationship.

#Checkout On Your Relationship.
There was a time i was having troubles in my relationship and the reason was just because my girlfriend was looking outside the relationship. And initially, it was because i refused to have sex and i was reluctant to accepting her request for that, so this situation she found herself in can be equated to this subject matter.

You need to checkout on your relationship and consider those things you really want in your relationship and from your partner. So if those things that you want are all there, and you feel like there is no wrong in your relationship, then the best thing that you can do to help your situation is to get over that feeling you are having for the other person and take it to be only natural.

After doing that, you will see that everything goes either the right way, or the wrong way. If you find out that your relationship is lacking many things that you know you actually want, and you are thinking or you have hope that you will get those things from your new crush, then its simply more than a natural attraction that you are feeling for him/her.

After identifying those things you want in your relationship, and then you compare them with what you are getting in your current relationship. If they work along, then you should forget about that new crush of yours and dedicate yourself with your current relationship. But if you are lacking and you feel like you need something better, then the best thing you can do to help your situation is to check out on your new crush, perhaps, maybe its time to try something new, no big deal buddy.

#Staying in Your Current Relationship Despite Your New Feelings For Someone Else.
Sometimes, its hard to admit that you are having a new feeling of attraction for someone else despite that you are in a relationship.
But then, when you started your current relationship, you experienced happy and joyful moments of love sharing and you can even testify that the first stage of your relationship was more fun and exiting than any other thing you are feeling now.

You might be tempted to think that your new crush is the one giving you all the joy and happiness your heart needs, while your relationship is growing old and just getting boring, but its not so true.

When your relationship is still standing firm and rigid, and you have no single reason to break up, then why are you still thinking of your new crush? The best thing you can do to help your relationship to continue is to talk to crush and though you know what you are feeling and they might be feeling so too, so what you have to do is to tell them that you just want to be friends and that is all, once you are able to do that, then everything will move along well.

But if you are sincerely not happy in your relationship anymore and you have a reason or more reasons to breakup, then you should go ahead and find yourself new happiness with your new crush. But then, you should think of this, Are you going to be changing partners every time?

If you are always changing partners and you keep jumping from one relationship to another, then you cant be able to learn anything about how to grow and nurture your relationship, so you can never grow in your relationship life.

#Honesty With Your Current Partner.
If your relationship is facing such problems that might make you want to switch partner, then its time to talk to your significant other about what is happening to you and the relationship.

Honesty with your partner is a key that can unlock all those doors of opportunity for a better future. If you are taking your relationship serious and will want to embark on a long lasting relationship, then the needy part of the whole situation is to talk to your partner and make them amend those causes of failures in the relationship.

Also, you have to tell your partner about your new crush and the feelings developing for them in your heart, then explain to your partner the reasons why you don't need a new partner, and make them know that you really love to continue your relationship with them.

After doing all those things, and you have tried everything possible to make sure that you start getting new results in your current relationship, then you have done good. Giving your relationship a second chance is always a good idea to make everything in the relationship change.

So after all that shots and tries, nothing changed and maybe, things even keep getting worst, then you must have to consider trying out your new crush and get some new fun and excitements.
(Also Read: How to Deal With a Breakup And Avoid Making Things Worst )

You Should Respect Your Personality As a Good Person.
When things like this are happening and it happens that you are in a relationship, your personality and respect will work a great deal in keeping you on the right side of action.

First of all, when people know you as a good person who actually have a repetition to keep and maintain, they would not like to make you get involved in anything that will make you to harm others.

One of the easiest thing to do while in a relationship is cheating, and the reason why its easy is because it does not require any special action or communication strategy, it is effortless and can take any form.

When that your new crush is able to know that you are in a relationship and you are dedicated to keeping it without breaking anything from it, then they will walk away, and for them to know that you are in a relationship, it depends on how you relate with them and act whenever you are close to them.

A person that is in a relationship have a personality different from that of the person who is not yet in a relationship.
There are many people who have turned and walked away from you because they know you are already in a relationship, so why do you want to allow this new person without getting to know what is happening and why its happening.

To wrap it up and end this article, you should be able to learn that being genuine and honest in your relationship is very challenging and many people in relationships today are lacking those two components necessary for the well being of a relationship.

But to be the best among the rest of the other people in a relationship, you must be able to pass through that challenge and become outstanding in handling situations as regarding to feeling attraction for someone and having the love for the other.

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You Just Realized That Your Partner Is Cheating With You. So What Next?

Have you ever been in a situation where you discover that your partner have been using you to cheat on their relationships?

I have been in that situation before, and it happened a girl meet me, and was always wanting me to come over her house, or just make phone calls with her, somehow and finally, we started a relationship with her.
After been in the relationship for almost a month, that was when the truth came out from some close friends to her and they told she that she have a boyfriend they are together with, and she was just using me to cheat.

I became angry, sad and just pissed up about the whole stuff, i called her to confirm it and i was rigid on my points before she agreed to open up and beg me to forgive her.
I refused to continue the relationship because it was a kind of funny talking about the way she was using me to cheat.

Because am financially stable and i like giving out, she was like always making demands from me, and seeing her as a girlfriend i love so much, i couldn't resist giving her whatever she desires as far as she tells me something reasonable she is going to use them for. i was like her financial account and that month, almost half of my monthly budget was spent on her only.

I was doing all those things for her because she was able to blindfold me with much love and though it seemed to me like the love was real and straight from the heart, i never knew that she was just using me as her bank account and she kept showing me love like it was real (we never had sex! Bad for me.).
After i was able to find out what was really going, i have to start thinking about what i have to do.

Should i end the relationship? Or should i just continue?

Now that is the main point where this topic is heading to. The reason why you were used to cheat is not a problem, the problem is that you have been cheated on and you have been used to cheat on someone.

You are just like a third party in this situation because you have been used to serve a purpose.
What hurts you more is that you have been used to hurt the feelings of another person and come in between their relationship, but then what hurts most is the fact that you allowed yourself to grow in love with someone who lied to you and who is using you to cheat.

But then, you should not even think of staying in the relationship. You are not the only one involved with that person, who knows if you are 4 or 5 involved? So you see that you cant help such a situation thinking that it will get better and shift in your favour.
If you continue in the relationship, things might start getting worst because a lot criticism, break in trust and other things will start cueing up among you and the other person might get to know about what is happening, now you see that its going to be a lot of big problems to face.

There is no need being in a relationship with a liar and a cheater especially when your own characters and personality is of great value.
So the best to start with is to plan on ways you can bring the relationship to an end.

So here are a list of some guidelines to help you with ending such kinds of relationship affair and get a better life for yourself.

1. Accept the fact that you have been cheated on.

Sometimes when we find out that everything we were building have finally collapsed and when that happens, we refuse to believe and accept the reality of what is happening to us and make new decisions. When you now discover that you were cheated with and you were used for another purpose while to you, it seemed that you were the original

So when you find out that this is really happening to you, the first thing you can do to help yourself is to affect the fact that you have been cheated on, and that you have participated in a cheating act that will affect another individual.

So when you have accepted this fact without refusing to give in to the situation and change plans, them you will find out that taking the next step is nothing really hard to do.

2. Face Your Cheating Partner And Ask For Reasons.

They always say that the best way to tackle a problem is to face that problem and trace the root of that problem.
So meeting your affair partner and discussing your pain about happened is a good way to get yourself right and conscience clear about the dilemma you are going through.

Since you are now feeling the pain, guilt, anger and other things because of the occurrence, meeting the cheater and telling them how you felt and how things are now going with you is another way you can use in consoling yourself and pave a way out of the affair.

After that, you should be able to ask your affair partner the possible reasons why they decided to cheat with you and after that, you will find justification for whatever you participated in doing with him or her.

3. Distance Yourself Away and Avoid Your Partner.

Since you know that cheating is a very serious offence that always come with lots of consequence, the other next step you must take to help yourself is to distance yourself away from your cheating partner and break it off with him or her.

When you do that, you will find out that you finally have personal space and time to think about what is happening and to figure out your next plans for a better life.

When you are able to stay away from your partner who is cheating with you, it will also offer them more time to think about what they made you to indulge in and now, realising that they will be facing the consequence of what they have committed.

4. Start Erasing Their Thoughts And Memories in Your Life.

This is the most difficult aspect of the matter because at this point, you will find it hard to cope with the situation and move on with your life.

Anything that you know will remind you of the person should be totally deleted and done away with. Things like their social profiles, emails, messages, phone numbers, their gifts to you, clothes, gadgets, etc.
All these things which you know belongs to them must be done away with if you want to move on with your life.

5. Do Not Confront or Try Meeting Their Original Partners.

You already know that the girl or that man have been cheating with you and it happens that you know the original person they started with before you were involved.

So to manage and maintain your anger, dignity and respect, you should not go anywhere near that person whom you know that you were involved in cheating on him/her.

6. Determination on Your Decision.

Don't just say you are going to do all these things and take action as you are currently thinking in your mind. So you must first of all be determined in your heart and mind that you are surely going to leave their life because that is the only way you can help yourself become a better person.

Since indulging in the cheating act was not your original intention, having the determination to set yourself free and move on with your life is nothing hard to do, except if you want to continue in the act because you don't feel like going the right way, but altogether, these tips will work for your own good if you follow them practically and in the right manner.

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Things you should do to maintain your relationship and make it last for a long time

Having relationships that lasts have always been the dreams of many people today, and while some were able to live up to the task and maintain long lasting relationships, some are unable to achieve such aims and are jumping from one relationship to the other.

Not every relationships lasts for a long period of time, and once you are able to keep a relationship that have taken a form of a long term relationship, it is always hard for you to endure the lots of new problems that keep arising from time to time in the relationship.

If you want to keep a relationship that will last for long, then there are some practical steps you must take to ensure that everything is kept moving in the right direction it should go.
First, there are some things that will hinder you from being able to keep a long term relationship that is going to last for a long time.

#Lack of Trust.

When you find it hard trusting that person you are in love with, then it will be a hard thing for you to keep the relationship because you must always find one reason or the other to show them that you are uncomfortable with something going on in the relationship.

So once that trust is not there between the both of you, when you cant trust each others actions and when your words cant tell if there is truth in whatever you do, then i don't think you are ready to start a relationship that will last for a long period of time.

#Listening to Gossips from Third Parties.

This one can totally hinder you from even wanting to embark on a relationship that will last for a long period of time.
When people keep feeding you with facts and lies about your partner, it will make you to position yourself at one corner and then, allow those people to be the mediators between you and your lover.

Gossips will only make you to see so many faults in your partner that will make you to keep thinking the opposite direction about them, in truth, you are going to think that they are helping you to get the relationship better, but inside of the circle, you are going to find out that those gossips and bad mouthing from third parties is actually causing you to loose focus in the relationship.

So now that you have known that these two things are vital for making you to slow down your progress in your relationship life.
So i know that you want to maintain your relationship so that it will last for a long period of time.

To achieve that aim, i have been able to put down these tips that can help you to build the kind of long term relationship you want. So here are the things that you should do to maintain your relationship to last for a long period of time.

1. Show your partner that you like something about them.

There are a lot of women who normally loves it when their man always compliment them on the things they find attractive to them.
So if your woman falls under this category, then telling her about those things you like when you see her do them, wear them or act in such ways can trigger the love and care between the both of you.

Also as a woman, you surely know that there are many things you find attractive about your man and they always make you happy, so telling him about them can make him learn that you are really appreciative about the efforts he puts on trying to be at his best.

So when you become good and better in voicing out the things you like about your partner, he or she will start to do the same and from that point, you will discover you get along with each other and enjoy that aspect when the compliments and appreciation keeps flowing between the both of you.

2. Interact With Your Partner About Your Dreams And Goals in Your Life.

Have you ever thought of the reason why you are in a relationship with that person? Maybe you don't know why.
When you are in a relationship, you should know that you are not just into it because you want someone to make you happy or you want to enjoy some benefits that are attached to relationships. If that's your view about the relationship, then you can never settle for a long term relationship that will last.

The reason for starting any relationship should be solely for the purpose of sharing your life with your partner. And your life means your happiness and your achievements, or your dreams and your challenges you face in your life.
Sharing your dreams and goals in life will bring about motivation from your partner and he/she will always want to be in support of your dreams in your life.

So you must never underestimate the importance of sharing your goals in life with your partner because it brings about motivation and desire from both ends to see that those dreams are achieved.

3. Build up your compatibility and have common interest between the both of you.

One reason why many relationships today are thrown into the dust is because the partners have no compatibility between them, that is to say, they have nothing in common that brings their heads together.

For example, if you always like watching adventure, while she likes to watch romantic movies, or she likes taking strawberry and you don't like taking it but prefer mangoes, or she likes going to parties and hanging out while you hate hanging out nor partying.

When you discover that most of your interests, likes and dislikes are always different and are not common between you, then you can hardly get along as you get divided in many occasions and it will not be too good.

So if you know you really love your partner and you want something long lasting between the both of you, then the best idea to use is to start building your compatibility because everything have shown that you are not compatible with each other.

How do you start this process? It is easy, you must learn to start liking what your partner likes, no matter how hard you find it, but finally having something in common that both of you can discuss about can work a great deal in bring your heads together and also get your brains to function and work in the same direction.

4. Frequent Communication and Body Languages Usage.

Without communication, no relationship can last for long, so you must never play with this idea of keeping in touch with each other.

When you go out to work and have no hope of seeing your partner until when its evening, calling them to know how they are doing is a great way to show care and concern for them.
Communicate and talk to each other about anything that involves the both of you.

If you are having any challenge in your life, then tell your partner about it, if there is something you don't like about your partner, make them know about it and if you have any insecurity about your partner, then you must communicate all these things to them so that both of you can learn about each others problems more better and handle them in the best way you can.

Don't underestimate the importance of touching your partner always, this can be in form of hugging, hands holding, shoulder leaning and kissing, other advanced touch situations are massaging of your partner's body. All these activities will make you not to have any boring experience about what you see other people doing in their relationships.

Before you can be able to hold a long term relationship, there must be that dedication and interest in achieving such height of relationships, and once you are able to practice all those tips given above, then you can be able to maintain your relationship and make it last for a long period of time.

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How to End a Relationship You Are No More Interested in Keeping

I have once been in a relationship that i enjoyed but i later got very upset about something that happened to me personally and just because of that, i decided to look for a way to end the relationship.

The reason was not because i don't like my girlfriend anymore, and its not because she did anything wrong, but then something happened to me and because of that, i was determined to just end the relationship and get done with it once and for all.

But the truth of the matter was that i tried to end the relationship, but i could not. I tried the whole lot of lies i could think of but the breakup never happened, i looked for any exit door open but i could not get any and because of that, i have to consult my friend who was an expert whenever it comes to relationship matters.

That friend of mine was now able to give me new guidelines that i practiced and followed, and when i used them, i was now able to get out of the relationship with ease and i forgot about it completely.

From my experience, trying to end a relationship you have gone into is a very hard situation which can make you think that your life is going to end with that partner you are currently dating, and when you think of breaking up, there are two situations in which you can embark on a breakup plan.

Ending Your Relationship for No Reason.

Have you ever thought of this situation, it is the hardest form a breakup can take as there is no reason why you want to end the relationship.
You will be tempted to think and say to yourself that your partner loves you so much and will be hurt to see you go.

But right inside your heart, you know that you just want to breakup for a reason outside the relationship and not because of any other thing.
For example, you might want to breakup and end your relationship if you are relocating to another destination, or you are going away to school and you cant just continue the relationship because you cant meet again and have things as it uses to be.

Well this situation can come in different forms and depending on your own reason why you want to end the relationship, it might be harder for you to do so.

Ending Your Relationship For a Reason.

When you are ending the relationship for a reason, it is safer and more easier than when you are ending it for no reason.
There can be many reasons why you will want to end the relationship and those reasons are mostly accompanied with difficulties that arises inside the relationship.

Maybe you just found a new love and the kind of attention and attraction you get from them is greater than the kind you get from your present lover, and because of that, you just want to end the current relationship and start something new with another partner.

Or it happened that your significant other is not making you happy anymore in the relationship, and you get lots of misunderstanding with each other and as a result, you think that ending the relationship is the best option you are left with.

But whether you are wanting to end the relationship for a reason or for no reason, its no news that we normally suffer a great deal when wanting to initiate a breakup.
There must be that feeling of guilt, that rushing of memories, that remembrance of promises kept for each other, those happy romantic moments and those awesome sex nights you do enjoy in the relationship.

What makes a breakup more of a hard task is that your other partner will be your area of concentration and when that happens, you discover that you keep remembering everything that makes you happy with your partner and you mostly skip the bad memories about them.

So now, you want to just end the relationship right? And you have tried but you couldn't, or you just want to end it in a way that will not sound dramatic? Well are a list of those methods you can implement in other to end a relationship in no time.
(Also Read: How to Deal With a Breakup and Avoid Making Things Worst )

1. Stop Thinking About Your Partner.

The bes way you can start the process of ending a relationship you are no more interested in is to first stop thinking about your partner whom you now want to breakup with.
Any little thought about them can trigger your affection for that person and when you cant get them off your head, then you can hardly start the process of ending the relationship. Whenever you discover that you want to think about them, just distract yourself from thinking about them and think of something that will be of more importance to you than keep thinking about them.

2. Don't Call or Text Them, and Don't Reply Them either.

This one will also help you in initiating the breakup in a more easy and relaxed way while you just hold on to that reason why you want to end it.
When your partner calls or texts you, delete them and don't reply to any of them.
When you do that, you will be able to see that you are going easy and the end of the relationship will just be hanging around the corner, waiting for its due time.

3. Avoid any Thing that Belongs to Them Including Social Profiles.

Keeping any of the persons gifts that was given to you, or any thing you just know it belongs to the person can stop you and slow you down from fastening the whole process.

Their social profiles and accounts will also slow you down if you don't delete them from your profiles. Anything that will make you feel like you can still get in touch with each other can trigger affection in you and when that happens, it will just occur to you that you cant just end the relationship.

Also, you should just avoid anything that would remind you of them, places that reminds you of your partner should be forgotten and also, you should just avoid things that normally makes you to idealize them.

4. Call Them to Say "Its Over".

Sometimes, the reason why its always hard to end the relationship is because you cant communicate to your partner about it.
So when your partner starts seeing you change in your actions and they find you unaccessible from every angle, maybe it will send them a signal that something is happening to you. So when you observe it, you can now walk up to your partner and just tell them the word "I think its over between us, and the relationship have to end".

Now you should not just leave after saying that because it sounds rude and embarrassing, so you don't want to sound rude nor embarrassing, so what you do next after saying that is to tell them why you are leaving and ending the relationship.

You should try to be polite and convincing at this moment and make sure that you convince them that you can still be friends after the relationship is ended, i think that should be fair enough.

5. Finally, Don't Shake.

What i mean by this is that you should hold on to that reason why you want to end the relationship. You already know what you want to do and you are to take responsibility for whatever you decide that its best for you.

So as you embark on breaking up and ending your current relationship, you must ensure that the actions you choose do not come with regrets in the afterwards of the relationship breakup.

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Reasons Why You Should Take a Break if Problems Persist in Your Relationship

Have you ever thought of taking a break in your relationship because of one reason or the other?
If yes, then this article is for you, am going to give you insights about this topic and how it will work a big deal in bringing you and your lover together.

Sometimes when talking about relationships and taking a break from it, it does not go the direction of thinking that you are no more in love with your partner or that you are tired with the relationship.

I have faced so many problems in my relationship and as someone who knows much about relationships, i thought about taking a break in my relationship which i did, and after doing that, i got an impressive result and when we came back together, our love life was able to get better and we were once again happy with each other with the past confusions dealt with.

The main importance and the most significant part is what you do and what you engage in after taking a break from your relationship.
There are many problems that will arise in your relationship which will make you opt for taking a break from the relationship. But depending on the reason, the break can either lead to a breakup or it will strengthen the love between you and your partner.

The Need for Agreement Before Going Into a Relationship break.

Sometimes, before we go into a relationship break, we make mistakes of not having the agreement and go ahead from our partner before embarking on the break.

When you don't tell your partner about your intentions to go for a relationship break and also get them to agree that it will work for both of you together, your partner might misunderstand the reason why you are going for a break and when they don't get your concept for taking that break, it can lead to a breakup at the end.

So at first, you need to sit with your partner, and identify those difficulties that your relationship is facing, then tell your partner about the option you have opted to consider which in turn is going to make everything better.

After you have talked to your partner about this and have it that your partner have agreed that both of you should take a break from the relationship, then you must make sure that both of you hold on to the love you have for each other and not allowing it to slip away.

But when after talking to your partner about it, your partner was not able to show full support, then its best if you drop this option and consider taking up a new and better option because this point at a time is crucial and can either grow your relationship, or end it.

How Taking a Break Helps in Powering Up The Relationship.

Now after you have agreed to take a break in your relationship, you need to learn certain things you must do at that moment when you are now alone by yourself and then, waiting until when the tension, confusions and problems of the relationship are finally dealt with.

But before we tell you those things to do, here are the list of the ways taking a break will help you to improve your relationship and get it straight up on the tract of successful relationships.

One of the most heard reason why some people take breaks in relationship is because they need some Time to be Alone and think about things that makes the relationship so difficult to move on smoothly.

This is just one of thing you must first consider after you take a break from the relationship, you must know that you don't need to keep jumping up and down engaging in those things you were doing before you took the break in the relationship.

When you have the whole time alone, you feel more better and more happy because you finally have time to be yourself and think more about how to make things right in the relationship.

1. Motivation from both ends.

When you truly love your partner, then going on a relationship break can drive you nuts because it will be hard for you to bear those moments when you don't hear from your partner and get any tip as to what is happening to them.

Can you just imagine how you will feel when you know that both of you are still in love but cant hear from each other?
When you have this feeling in you, then you will be motivated towards making things right and replacing the unhappy events in your relationship and clear the ground for a better and happy reunion.

2. That Awkward Moment When You Are Missing Each Other.

When you take a relationship break, you must truly miss each other when the love is true between the both of you.
Before you took a break from the relationship, it may happen that you were always together and because of that, you may even think that you are not having personal space to be happy with yourself alone.

But after you take a break from the relationship, that is when you will find out and discover how you can not live without each other in your lives. So as a result of that you will be eager to get back with your partner and will be motivated to make them happy once again.

Why Honesty And Proper Communication Works Best.

When your love life gets though and hard to handle, and you just have taking a break as your own option to make things better, then its good and you can go ahead to do that and be rest assured that it is going to work.

But then, while taking a break works most of the times, it will be better if you consider sitting your partner down and having a conversation about the problems your relationship is facing and then, discussing about the possible ways you can use in making things better in your relationship.

So as you take this step of taking a break, don't play with the time in between the break and the reunion, and be careful because a break can lead to a break up if you don't handle it the right way.

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5 Signs That Tells Your Partner is Cheating on You

Many relationships that are in existence today are suffering from this single act of cheating, and cheating has been one of the most prominent situation many people face in their relationships.

But why do people cheat in relationships? I keep asking myself this question and i found no definite answer to this cause, maybe they feel like cheating and they see it as a normal thing in any relationship.

Not everyone is perfect in dating, and sometimes cheating comes as a mistake and not intentional, also when your relationship starts getting boring or melting in sweetness, then your partner might want to get another someone to give them the hotness they need, even when they know they are still in love with you.

When you love someone and you find out that he or she is cheating on you, it always hurt and if you are just suspecting that your partner is cheating on you, then here are some clues to know that your partner is cheating on you in the relationship.

1. Hiding her calls and texts from you.

This is one sure sign that your partner is cheating behind your back.
When you started the relationship, your partner seemed confident enough to pick calls in your presence and even allow you access to her text messages.

But now you observe that your partner always get nervous when someone calls or texts their phone in your presence.
When they get a call when you are around and instead of answering the call in your presence, they go out to answer the call, then you should just take it that your partner is cheating in the relationship.

This is just a good sign that you must watch out for because if the caller was their mom, dad, friend, co-worker or any family member, they will not be afraid of answering those calls in your presence.

2. Your partner starts giving excuses for not hanging out with you.

This is another crucial point that will tell you your partner is cheating.
When the relationship was new and still alive, your significant other is always ready to hang out with you, they are always ready spear their free time for you and you always stay overnight together with each other.

But now, what are you getting? Is your significant other always giving you excuses for not hanging out with you? Do they always tell you they are having work overtime and so can not hangout? Or do your partner find excuses not to spend much time together with you anymore, or just keep making excuses everyday and always?

When these excuses come up almost every day or every time, then chances are that your partner is spending all those moments with the person they are cheating with.

If your partner is not cheating, the relationship will always be growing and things will keep getting fun. But if the other is cheating, you find out that the relationship is dying down and things keep getting worst.

3. Your partner is now more secretive and don't talk about personal matters with you.

Normally when a relationship is still in good shape and condition, there are no secrets and even the past secrets are told in the course of the relationship, and your partner will always tell you about their personal matters that they cant make known to others.

But what now happens and what will tell you that your other is cheating?
They stop telling you anything personal and they refuse to tell you any new secret about them and about the things happening behind the door.

That's just a good sign to tell you that your partner is cheating on you because if they still love you and are not stabbing you from the back, they will have no reason to hold secrets  and keep things from you.

4. False accusation and complaints.

When your partner is cheating on you, that is when you find them accusing you of what you know you are not doing, and you keep hearing them complaining about every little mistake you do.

The most common of this false accusation is when your partner keep saying you are cheating and suspecting that you are doing something at their back.

All these accuses are done in a bid to make you leave or make you end the relationship so they can continue enjoying their new life with a new partner.
When you see this sign occurring and reoccurring, then just know that your significant other has something cooking at the back door. 

5. Your partner takes new interest in appearance.

Maybe you use to know your partner as someone who does not do too much of shaving and dressing up always as a man, or as a woman, you know that your girlfriend previously do not always do lots of make ups or go dress shopping always.

But when all these habits change and you recently found out that your partner just took new interest in their looks and they like dressing up, then its possible that your partner just saw someone new and then, they are trying to keep up on their looks so that the other new person will find them attractive and nice.

6. Change in sexual interest and body languages.

There are two forms this changes can take, it can be that your partner is no more interested in having sexual activities with you, or you find out that your partner does not want you to be touching them again.

This will tell you that they are no more interested in you, and then all those other signs are already there and when you add them up together, you will find out that loss of attraction have taken over and your partner hardly allows you to even kiss, not to talk of taken of their shirts for you.

The problem here is that no relationship can be fun without the normal touches and body language actions, and when those things start to be absent in the relationship, then you must check out for the possible reasons why it is happening.

Also, sex is another thing altogether, and when you have been indulging in sexual activities and just of recent, your partner no more have interest in getting intimate with you, then they have lost the pleasure they have in you and maybe they have gotten someone new they invest their whole sexual energy on.

These are just some of those signs that if you start noticing them in your relationship, then you should just know that your partner is cheating in the relationship.

And sometimes, it does not really imply that your partner is cheating in the relationship when those things happen, but when they do happen always and they keep occurring repeatedly, then its easy to say that your partner is cheating on you.

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How to Deal with a Breakup and Avoid Making Things Worse

Breakups are nothing new in the relationship world, and i believe you know how a breakup can turn someone into a state that explains that a lot of things are happening in the persons mind.

Emotional lost and confusing moments always characterise most of the breakups today, and you find out that the person is so hurt, lost of feelings is on the high and people do questionable things when ever they are experiencing a breakup.

Depending on how the breakup happened, it can cause you to be either emotionally weak and miserable, or it gets you angry and makes you act in stupid ways that will make you feel more hatred for the other.

There are many things that if you allow them to get over you and carry out those things, that they will keep backfiring at you and you will live with regrets in your life for even a more prolonged time that you never thought of.

The reason why a breakup can harm you more than doing good to you is because of the fact  that it takes a long period of time before it heals. It can even last for a long period of time more than some physical injuries people do sustain. But sometimes, we are the main reason why we take too long before healing from a heart break.

When you allow yourself to keep thinking and behaving in a manner that will make you think that you are helping yourself to forget about your ex, then you are not doing yourself any good but you are making your situation get from bad to worst.

When you use a natural means to approach a breakup and get it over you, then you might not be doing yourself any good as you lack in a proper and a better emotional cleanness.

Here are a list of what you should avoid and things you should do after a breakup so that you can give yourself time to heal and recover quickly.

#1. Forget your mistakes.

When you keep thinking about your mistakes from your just ended relationship and you keep disturbing yourself and rethinking about those mistakes, it makes you to keep regretting your mistakes.

And when this happens, then nothing is going to heal, and you will only keep regretting and brooding over all those things that caused your breakup.

2. Don't condemn yourself.

You already know that you have been hurt and your heart is suffering from the fact that it was hurt by another person. When you keep blaming yourself for your mistakes and the things that brought about the breakup, then you will only be adding more sorrows to the one you are having now.

The best treatment you can give to your wounded self is to be compassionate about yourself and just consolidate yourself and allow everything to pass away.

3. Don't try to text or call your ex after the breaking.

Stalking is very bad and it will cause you to keep remembering everything, i mean everything about you and your ex.
When you keep bordering your ex with phone calls and texts, it means that you are not over the relationship.

And when you do that, its possible that your ex don't just want you back anymore in their life, and when you cant stop reaching out to your ex when they are no more into you, that will just hurt you the more and keep causing you to regret your actions since before you broke up.

4. Don't over do anything after the breakup.

This can be in form of drinking too much, partying, hooking up or eating your self out.
You might think that doing all these things will make you feel better and forget about what is happening to you.

It will surely work, but will not last for up to 5 hours, and once you are back to your senses, you discover everything turns worst than it was before and you will keep being in bondage of your ex relationship thoughts.

So you must avoid this habit when you are heart broken after a breakup, you should just calm yourself down and give yourself the best consolation you can.

5. Never jump into a new relationship immediately after a breakup.

Sometimes, in a desperate bid to find solutions to our wounded soul and sorrowful heart, we go into a new relationship immediately after a breakup with our ex.

It will not work out the way you think because it happened that you just went on a rebound because you want to get over the just ended relationship and you were still feeling hurt.

So you will want your new partner to meet up to your immediate needs and you will find out that whenever your new partner makes a mistake, you immediately compare them to your ex and then, everything just seem not to be at its best as you expected.

6. Going on a break for sometime.

This is just a nice and good idea that can help you to recover from a breakup within a short time and move on with your life.

There are things that you enjoy doing when you were still with your ex, and there were places you normally like going to, so the best way to get healed from your past relationship wounds is to take a break from doing those things and going to those places.

Also, you must not rush into any new relationship after a breakup, but the best thing to do is to start enjoying your single life and freedom by meeting with new friends and new people, and talk to every woman or man that comes your way and do it with a clean and happy mood.

By so doing, you can be able to start regaining all your lost emotions and feelings that makes you the confident and happy man you used to be before.

A breakup will be hard on you only if you have never experienced it before or that you were deeply committed to your partner before things went sore.

To bring it all to close, being happy with who you are is the best idea to carry yourself on and after that, you should allow people in and out of your life because not all relationships are meant to last for a long period of time.

So once you start dating a multiple times, you can be able to learn that not everyone that comes into your life is meant to stay in it.

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How to Engage in First Dates that Won't Cost You Lot of Money

When it comes to dating and the course of wowing a girl just to make here like you and find you interesting, there has been a lot to this process and nothing is easy at this point in a man's life.

This topic is meant to draw your attention to the fact that pressure on you in order to wow a girl on the first date will make you think that you have to spend a lot and spill out your money on the first date before you can get everything to be fun and interesting.

The way you think on first dates is what will determine if the date will be great and fun, but it does not just go the spending way. You might spend on the date the entire day and end up getting nothing really interesting out of it and then, that becomes a total waste.

And also, most people who do dating have forgotten the whole concept about dating and they seem not to understand dating.
A friend of mine once told me that he will make sure that he spends much for a girl on a date and then, he expects her to repay him handsomely at the bedroom.

You should not take a date to be a moment of extra spending that ends with a call for the bedroom. There is difference between sex and dates and these two should not just be mixed up and taken as one.

So to avoid all these craps that do happen when a call for a date is made, you must know that you don't have to spend your money too much before you can achieve the best results after the date.

So in other to engage in a first date without spending much money, here are a list of what you should do to get the best result which you have always expected.

(1) Visit the food markets close to your community.

This is just a great second option for you to try and see how effective it works. You don't have to spend much there and you can even pick up one or two things from the market and make sure you let her to pick what is of interest to her from the farmers market.

When you take the girl out with you to the nearest farmers market in your community, its a great way to know more about your likes and dislikes when it comes to what to eat. And you will have more idea as to what food she enjoys the most and you can also tell her the ones you enjoy the most.

When you are doing this, both of you can talk about relevant issues about the market and the nature of the farmers and how they go about carrying out their farming activities.

This will show to the girl that you have many more things that are priority in your life and you don't only want to get her attraction, but also create attraction between the both of you and what you enjoy talking about.

(2) Have Dinners at home or somewhere comfortable.

The reason you should choose to have a dinner is because it is less expensive, less noisy and then, it gives you more and much time to talk to each other and get to know each other while having the dinner.

Another reason why having dinners is because it don't always turn out to be awkward and boring. Since its a dinner and you are at the comfort of your home or the house you went to, you have many things to switch and hold on to and as a result, you will not get any awkward and boring situation in the course of the date.

(3) Go for a run or do a sport activity together.

I choose arcades as the best and favourite activity that can be fun between the both of you and is nothing expensive.

By going for arcades, you are able to explore and see each others playful side and also enjoy the both of you competing with each other.

But you can only enjoy this if the girl is a humorous girl and enjoys to play and have fun, but if she is not, you should not start it because at will turn awkward and boring at the end.

(4) Opt to go for a walk and also for people watch.

This can be a best idea that makes a date fun and less expensive, you don't even need to spend anything at all.
You can ask her if she would like to take a walk with you and if she agrees, then you can choose to walk to anywhere you want.

And while doing that, you talk about everything you can think of and just enjoy the moment you spend and the time you send together with her. You should just get to know each other and that is jus what first dates are all about.

Also ask her if she would enjoy watching people out together with you. So both of you can find somewhere comfortable where you can sit down and view people as they go about their life and also, you can sit just to observe and see how the world moves around and how time passes. These are fun and less expensive budgets to carry out.

(5) Go to watch romantic movies together.

You are looking up to create something more attractive and fun between the both of you, so going to watch a romantic movie can be very fun and can cause a feeling of emotion to occur between the both of you at the end.

It is less expensive and once you are able to do that, you might be surprised to see her use more body languages that explains attraction when ever she is with you.

ADDITIONAL TIPS:

Avoid coffee's and drinks on first dates.

These two things does not end well with if you want to start a relationship with the girl you are dating, so its either that you want to take her to the bed and have a one night of hot sexual escapade, then it might be that you just want to be friends and that's all.

When you opt for a coffee, it does not signify or point out anything special between the both of you and perhaps, friendship is what a coffee always signify. And opting for drinks will not yield any better result save the other part of it, sex.
So to end it all, you must remember that the woman you picked does not really matter, and your spending does not matter to her too.

The ultimate purpose and reason for the date is just to get around each other and know each other well. So spending high means nothing and you might end up impressing the wrong people, so the best advice you can take with you is to go low and spend less on your first dates.

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What to Do When You Find an Attractive Girl at a Bar

The bar is a great place to meet with different kinds of women in your life and when you see an attractive lady who you start liking right inside the bar, you should not be afraid of making a move to get her.

Maybe you just went to the bar to grab a glass and meet with new people, then while in your cool at the bar, you just saw a very sweet and attractive girl and you started melting for her. Okay the point here is that you now want to talk to her, and make her notice you.

But you don't just know how to start initiating the whole process and you are stuck in one position, thinking of what to do to get the girl and start something that is likely going to end well.

You might be afraid and think that you cant have a great relationship with a girl you took up from a bar, and that is what most people say, but its not always true because i have seen many great relationships that started just from the bar or any other place similar.

That is not the problem here, what becomes a problem is you not being able to take the right approach at the right time in the bar, and once you are not able to do that, you find out that you will not record any success in your pursuit.

There are things you should do in other not to be like those other guys out there and also there are techniques you must use in other not to be that boring to her. Lets see some of those tips on what next to do after you see an attractive girl at the bar.

1. Use the old friend approach style.

When you want to approach her at the bar, doing it just the way other guys always do will not just work as you expected, and you can only get that "what is the matter" look from her and you will end up confused and short of things to say.

But why not try it a new way and get a different style for yourself?
This kind of approach goes along with boldness in you and then, go and meet her just like as if you have been friends for a long time, you can pretend to her like you have been friends since childhood and once she shows surprise and a little or much interest in you, just bring up a conversation that is going to last for a long time that you can ask her to follow you out of the bar.

This is not stressful at all, it only requires that positive energy in you and also the boldness as you initiate the process else, she might find your approach unimpressive and deceitful.

2. Look nice and clever.

Whenever you want to go to a party or a bar, there is need for you to always dress in good form and have yourself organised in case of moments like this when you find a girl attractive and so you want to approach her.

No woman will want to flirt and come around you if you appear in rags or appear like you are just taking a cool breeze from the tree under your roof. So appearing nice and looking good offers you more chances to get more women to hear you out and follow you around the bar.

You don't have to go an extra mile in dressing before you can appear and look good at the bar, but by just having a different clean and fresh styles on you and making sure every part of your body is well taken care of, you are already fit for any woman's admiration.

3. Avoid Pick Up Lines and be original.

Did you notice something about women and the way they react to pick up lines these days?
It seems to be likely said that they are already familiar with all of them and so, they don't get interested whenever men use it on them and instead of tipping you about it, they just mark you as one of those guys and you totally loose out.

Some of those pick up lines are just bad as crap and do not work at all because most of them do not work with every kind of woman and the initiators just use them without thinking about what a woman's reaction will be.

Instead of using pick up lines, the best natural way to do it at the bar is just to be yourself and not faking anything. There are many things you can ask a woman that makes her think twice and then come up with something to tell you and from there, you can start up a conversation.

What really matters when trying to get a girl is how real and original you are, so if you use those pick up lines, she will notice that you are only desperate and just a needy guy who wants to get her attention, and so she will cross her mind originally from the scratch.

4. Showing a lot of confidence in yourself.

Confidence has always been the thing, and when you are able to push yourself up and know that you are certainly going to face a lot of challenges when doing all these things, then be sure that you can do it.

You might be thinking that the girl will turn you down and you will feel rejected, but the cases have not always been like that. Once you are able to set your targets and goals, then use the tools you have to aim at them and get it right, then you are done, every other story can well end up in the bed room or a happy new relationship.

5. Pay for her drinks without asking.

This is also a nice way and one of the best ways you can use, not to get her attraction, but her attention to start up a new conversation without putting on much stress.

When you notice her ordering for drinks at the bar, you don't wait for her to ask the waiter how much it costs or wait for her to pay, you can just walk over to the attendant and ask him for her bill, then get it done for her and don't wait for her to come to you for appreciation, just take your leave immediately and go away from her presence.

When you do so, you will find out that she will be ready and even want to have a word of appreciation with you at that moment. The reason why you should leave is because everything might end at just the appreciation and nothing special happens again and as a result, she might take you as a nice guy.

So to avoid that, you have to leave her presence for the rest of the moment at the bar before she can see you again and when you both meet, the chemistry and physics will be high, so its left for you to utilize it to the best of your advantage.

There are many other tips on this subject and with time, we will update you with more of them but for the mean time, you must remember that not every girl at the bar is interested in making new boyfriends or getting to bed for a one night stand.

So you should create time to learn and know what that girl need and what she is looking for so that you can do the right thing and choose what will work for you out there.

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How to Prevent Your Relationship Life from Getting Boring

You know how it use to be when you start a relationship newly, and the way everything is so lively between you and your partner as the relationship kicks off, then as everything starts getting old and everything becomes familiar and frequent, the passion starts dying off and everything starts to slow down with time.

When a relationship starts getting bored, you normally knows it and it always occur that its not because the relationship encountered any problem. You and your partner are still happy to have each other and you always move together, but then it seems like the power and attraction in the relationship is gone, and you keep doing the same thing you used to do before, and the you keep going to places you use to go before, but nothing seem to get lively anymore,  and the boredom keeps advancing from bad to worst.

You should not have any feeling of guilt in you when your relationship starts getting boring, and just the way you are viewing the relationship, its also the same way your partner is viewing it, so you should be more concerned about finding out the reason behind the boredom in your relationship and how to do away with it.

The reason why boredom sets into most relationships is because nothing was done to prevent it from breaking into the relationship. And you might take it as a surprise as to why you are experiencing boredom in the relationship. But as you continue to wonder why, you should be able to come into a concluding knowledge that relationships are just tricky.

And even when you play them well, you still run into moments you get screwed up and keep thinking why you even started it in the first place, but also, relationships can make you feel like the happiest person ever in this life.

So these following tips will help you learn some measures you can take on how to prevent your relationship life from getting boring.

(1) Master the act of touching.

You must learn to understand and know those sensitive areas on the body of your partner that triggers the attraction in them, and once you are able to learn about the erotic parts that turn you and your partner on, you can talk more about it when together and doing that will encourage you and your partner never to stop doing what triggers the attraction between the both of you when you are together.

The most concrete kinds of touches that have existed for a long period of time are hugging, kissing, holding of hands and touching of the face or neck areas, so take your time to ensure you do those things at the right time and with the right expression so that you don't appear needy or something like that.

(2) Don't always have sex.

If you really enjoy having sex and it happens that you always have it with your partner, then its time to cut off that too much of sex and replace it with something more romantic that she will always love you do and appreciate you for doing them.

Instead of always having sex every night, why not option to give him/her a deep massage that he or she will always remember and want you to do more. Spend time using your hands to give your partner unending pleasure on their body parts as you continue to refuse sex and bear it within you even when you know its so hard for you to bear.

When you allow sex to take over your relationship, it will be the worst when your relationship starts getting boring because when the pleasure for that sex is not there, then every other thing is absolutely down to zero and nothing will seem to be of interest to both of you anymore.

(3) Get out of home and get busy.

Sometimes, too much care and attention backfires in a relationship and when you allow it to get much, everything about the relationship will not last for a long period of time.

When you always find yourselves together, you always talk and talk until you run out of new ideas and topics to talk about and as a result, silence can even set in and boredom can set in at those moments, though it will not last for long before both of you start talking again. But the more you spend time together and always talk and talk out of ideas, then the more you create space for boredom to set into the relationship.

So one among the best way to avoid this is to get out of the house and get more busy with other things outside your own world than the inside. By so doing, you will create more memories and new topics to talk about with your partner.

If the both of you can get out together, it will also be a good idea to keep everything fun and easy going without worrying about getting bored in the relationship. Seeing new things and going out to new places together can create more memories and multiply your topics for conversation.

(4) Do things that will add more passion and its memories.

Sometimes the way you refuse to show passion and create it with your partner can lead to boredom in your relationship.

Talking about touching your partner and that special way you do it that makes your partner to always think of it how they love it when you do it in whatsoever way you like to do it best.
Think about kissing your partner every now and then and how you do it to your partner, the way you kiss that will make your partner want to jump on to the bed with you.

What about looking into your partners eyes? That special way you do it that makes him to keep thinking of you always and  admire it. There are many things you can do to your partner that will cause a flow of passion and keep its memories in your brain.
The feeling of passion is a great way to keep the fire of the relationship burning because it makes you remember every small thing that occurred between you and your partner and the way you enjoyed them all.

To wrap everything up, you must always remember that the moment you are now reading this post is a moment to be happy and celebrate with your lover. Here is why.

You were able to live up to this moment while people die everyday, that's true gift of life for you and your creator and then, the love and happiness you are sharing is something to always be happy about.

So always show passion and love everyday of your life with your partner and by so doing, you can be able to drive away any sign of boredom trying to set into your relationship.

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