How to win the trust of your love partner in your relationship

In many relationships today, trust have been a hard component to keep active and as a result, many people who go into dating finds it hard to earn even a single trust from their partners.

In this article, you will learn many natural methods you can use in getting your lover to trust you in the course of your relationship.
But what type of trust are we talking about?
You already know that sometimes in a relationship, you can trust your lover with negativity and also, you can trust your lover with positivity.

When you always tell your lover lies about the things you do, your lover will never trust you and believe in you, but when you are credible for truth and honesty in your relationship, trust is guaranteed.

But in most relationships today, many find it hard trusting their lover and misinterpret most of their actions the wrong way and that is why you must know necessary measures you can use in earning the trust of your lover in your relationship.
Now having known where this topic is taking you to, lets take a look at some ways to earn your lover's trust in your relationship.

1) Keep Clean Eye Contact at the Right Times.
When speaking with your lover or when trying to explain a situation to him/her, keeping a good eye contact with your lover shows that you are straight without having any thing to hide from him or her. But when you can't make eye contact with your lover while speaking, he or she will rather give you a fair look than a trust mark.

2) Be Vulnerable:
Now you don't have to be vulnerable at all times, you should show vulnerability at moments when its due and by so doing, it shows that you are human and you deserve support from him or her when you are being attacked physically or emotionally.

3) Don't Be Deceitful.
You see, when you are that kind of person who loves playing smart on your man or woman in order to get what you want, then you don't stand any chance to be trusted because that shows you can do anything bad to get what you want or get away from anything that makes you vulnerable. But when you display those qualities of a trustworthy partner, you will surely be trusted by your lover in your relationship.

4) Be Hard Working all Time.
A lazy man or woman is not someone who can be trusted, so you make sure you work very hard towards everything in life and when your partner see from your actions that you are hard working, he or she will trust you more. Also, be smart while being hard working so you don't act like you are " trying too hard" to get over your partner's expectations.

5 Don't Be Selfish.
When you do things based on only your own interest and not for the interest of you and your lover, he or she will find it hard to trust you. While doing things, you have to also think about the position of your lover when such things matters to him or her and make sure you also do those things based on the interest of your lover.

Don't make decisions by yourself where you know you are taking a decision which affects your partner too, think from your partner's prospectives and make sure your partner is well informed before taking any final decisions.

6) Be Honest
When you are honest with the love of your life, that will surely earn you their trust, even when you find it inconvenient being honest. When you don't participate in evil doings and things that are not honestly done, then your lover will surely confide in you and will see you as someone who is trustworthy and because of that, you will probably gain his or her trust.

7) Avoid Gossiping
When everyone else is participating in a gossip, don't try to join them because they are all doing it, try to abstain from such gossiping acts and don't give an ear to their gossips.

8) Be A Good Secret Keeper.
When you are been told a secret by your lover, you should try not to make it public or get it exposed. when your lover trusts you, he or she will tell you his or her life secrets and when done, your lover expect it to be just between the both of you and don't expect it to reach to other people's ears. So when you know your lover's secret, keeping them safe with you will make them to trust you more and more.

9) Be Confident And Dress Well.
Confidence can be shown by making looking in the eyes of your lover while talking, and showing boldness in speech without fear, also when you have an open body language, it tells your lover that you are actually clean and have nothing to hide from him or her. this act can earn you a lot of trust.

So when next you want to earn the trust of your partner in your relationship, these tips above will be enough to get you started and see you achieving your goal on getting your partner to trust you in your relationship.

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When love gets confusing - What to do if he/she loves you but acts weird and strange sometimes

Men and women generally have been known for their strange behaviours sometimes in a relationship, but these strange behaviours does not have the same meaning in every man or woman, it takes different forms and meanings as to why they act in such a strange ways.

As a woman/man, you know when a guy or a woman truly loves you, and you know when a they starts to loose interest in you. And here comes this situation where you know that yes, they really loves you and will not do any thing to hurt you, but then sometimes, they just acts strange like they are not even interested in you, and if you are such type who easily gets shaken with a little challenge in your relationship, you start having nightmares as to what is happening and you grow suspicion in your relationship.

It's not a good time to get confused and frustrated when ever you see such things going on in your relationship. It does not mean that your partner is starting to loose interest in you. Your partner is well interested in you, in every relationship in existence today, there are moments when the man or the women suddenly acts weird and strange for no reason and later comes back to his or her normal senses in the relationship.

It has happened to me once or so, and it happened this way.
I went to see my girlfriend at her home, and before I left to go and meet her, I already informed her that I was coming and she was so happy, then I came. When i was approaching the house, I called her and told her i have already arrived and am approaching her home, she said okay and she never told me anything else. To me it was unusual, because the other times, whenever I told her am at her gate, she would run out, approach me and give me a hug, or a kiss, or even if she does not do any of that, she will probably come to welcome me and then walk me down to the parlor or into her room.

So it was a strange incident to me, I had to now walk into the house alone and when I entered the parlor, everyone was around, her dad, her mom, her sisters and brothers, although I already know them all and they know me too, but it was so strange to me and I was so shy. She was not even in the parlor, she was inside her room, so I decided to wait and see what she was upto.

We were in the parlor talking and chatting with everyone when she came with a glass of water and another bottled drink of a sort and kept them in front of me. Then no more word, she just went inside again and came out with some snacks in a plate, it wasn't for me, she went to the back seats in the parlor and sat down, I was wondering what was happening, she never talked to me as it used to happen before, then I just decided to watch her do her thing her own way.

Then almost everyone was out of the parlor in a short time because it's already night, I was left in the parlor with two of her sisters watching a movie. Then I decided to turn at my back and see what she was doing, immediately I looked back, our eyes meet and to my surprise, she gave me such a look that explains things like " why are you looking at me", "what an ugly face you have there, stop looking at me", "why are you looking at me? You are pissing me off", "am not interested in talking, don't look at me". Those are the explanations to the kind of look she gave me whining and rolling her eye balls from left to right, then up and down.

I felt a little angry, and embarrased of course, why will my girlfriend do such a thing? Oh maybe something was wrong, I need to find out, but how? She is not even interested in talking.

The first thing I did after what she did was to tell her sisters am going and I bounced out of the house angrily and with much curiousity as to why she did such a thing.

So what happened after that and how did I handle that situation? Am going to tell you while we talk about the subject matter.

So as a woman, you might have a similar case as mine or another case totally different from that, but I think it all explains the same situation, which is "Acting Strange and weird" all for no reasons. So this happens most times in every relationship. But there is no cause for alarm, you don't have to disturb yourself. Just consider the followwing things in order to handle such situations in your relationship.

Think of any previous incident that made your partner angry.
Now when your partner is now acting strange, you have to think if there was any previous incident between the both of you that made him/her angry and so, caused the strange attitude being portrayed.
So when you know something happened previously in the past, then you know that's the reason why he or she is acting strange.

All you need to do is to stop worrying and call your partner, then solve your problems and differences, if it requires you to appologise, then do it and get your relationship going.

Ask your part the reason behind the strange behaviour
Like in my own situation, it happened that she understood that I was angry about the fact she abandoned me and gave me a confusing look, and when I left the house and almost out of the gate, i saw her running towards me and was asking me to wait. I waited and she approached me, she asked me why I left, and asked me if I was angry or what. Then I replied her with a big "YES, I was angry because of what you did, for the fact that you did not even care to give me attention like you use to do before and also gave me such a confusing look, why do you have to do that? What is wrong with you, us? Have i done anything wrong? Please tell me, do you still love me and want to be with me?"

Those are just the questions I asked her and she replied them one after the other, to my surprise, she had no reason for acting the way she did, and she just asked me to forgive her that it's not going to happen again, and that yes, she still love me like those times we started dating.

Now after that, I was very much calm and understood that it was not her intention to act the way she did, maybe nature just decided to take over her and she could not help the situation, and having heard from her, I had no doubt in me that everything was fine and it was just a mere strange act.

So now, if you already know that there was no past incident which would have caused his/her strange act, then you should call him/her and calmly ask why he/she is acting in such a strange and weird way. Now this is not a time to fight, so while doing this, try to stay calm, focus on what they have to tell you and try to understand what they say.

The reason why your partner is acting strange might be maybe because they are going through a hard situation which they find hard to cope with or handle and as a result, you see such things reflecting your relationship and causing some changes.
So you should not judge your partner straight away, give your partner time and if he/she truly loves you, they will surely clear your minds and tell you that everything is alright just to make sure you put on a beautiful smile on your face once again.

Now when you have done all that and unfortunately, your partner refuse to answer to your questions or explain what is happening to you, then you know something is wrong, and the only thing you should do here is to give them space and time, and just keep yourself happy without caring about them. If they are ready to move along with you and make you happy again, then you will see that they come back to you and tell you everything you have to know.

Just love yourself for who you are and keep on smiling to those problems, you should just stop worrying and move on, if you were meant to continue and be together, your partner will surely come back to meet you were he/she left you.

So use these tips and I assure you that you will be a pro in handing such matters when they arise in any relationship you engage in.

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9 Good Reasons Why You Should Not Rush Into a Relationship

You might be that kind of person who jumps from one unhealthy relationship to the other. This is because you got into that relationship for the wrong reasons.
Everyone wishes to have a healthy relationship and even get married happily, but people get into relationships for many wrong reasons which they think is right and can lead them into a happy relationship.

True love is always seen and known for the mutual love and respect between two people and is not been influenced by any person outside(third party), peer group pressure or just to fill a void in ones life. So here are 9 reasons why people get into relationships which you must avoid and in turn help you avoid going into an unhealthy relationship.

1. Avoiding Ageism.
In today's life, the community rules have conditioned many of us to believe that once we are over 30 years old, we have passed our expiration date and therefore, we cannot be admired and loved by any individual. This affect women mostly who always panic and feel anxious.
A lot of comments from friends and family members about "Not getting any younger" always push many people into getting involved in a relationship which will eventually turn out to be a wrong decision. There can also be pressure from your older relatives to settle down and get married at a certain age and they just create a rule for you to follow.
Now all kinds of relationships created for the pressure and pleasure of the society, family, relatives or because of desperation can never stand for a long time. So avoid going into a relationship for such reasons.

Avoiding And Forgetting Problems.
This is also known as Rebound in which many people just get into a relationship to avoid or forget the problems they have.
. Sometimes, it is the outcome from bad past relationships or bad parenting, or a bad and abusive history of some individuals.
These kind of people get into such relationships to escape the predicament that fell on them. Many people go on a rebound into different relationships after a broken relationship in order to get over the past and give themselves time to heal from the hurt, loneliness or pain.
Now there can be passion and excitement in these this kind of relationship which are short termed, but at the end, they fail to survive overtime because they are not built on love.

3. Replacement For Missing Parents.
Well this can be surprising right? But let's get into reality, because there is a lot of truth to this.
Some men have been living with their mother and when one day, when she is no more close to them, they feel so void and so, try to get a girlfriend as a replacement for their mother. Also on the other end, some women who also grew up without having a stable and permanent father will try to fill this empty and void part of their life with a new boyfriend.
There is a difference between a mother and a girlfriend, same also with a father and a boyfriend and neither one can take the place of the other.
when getting into a relationship, keep your intentions and reasons clear and also know why you need a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If you need a boyfriend for the purpose of starting your accessories fixing, BBQ at dinner or to help you clean the yard, then maybe it's a father that you need and not a boyfriend.

4. Feeling Boredom.
This is one of the dangerous reasons why many people would want to rush into a relationship. In this life, a boyfriend or a girlfriend cannot make your life more interesting and fun as you think, there are many things to do in this life that can make your life more interesting.
Relationships are about giving of yourself and the other person giving to you. Don't go out trying to find someone to take you out to cinema's, taking a road trip with you or going out for launch together at the park. It is better and good for you to get and meet new friends, or getting a dog to fill your time, not a man or a girlfriend.
Getting a lover to kill boredom and pass the time will not lead to a life full of happiness.

5. Lonely And Afraid Of Being Alone.
There is a societal conditioning which suggests that before you start approaching your 40s, you should already be married with children at your 30s. This burden is mostly felt by women as they move towards the expiration dates of their life with no relationship in vision. So they always assume one fact that they will just end up being a lonely cat lady.
Now this thinking always affect their thinking when it comes to the process of choosing a man, desperation kicks in, and this will lead to choosing the wrong man.
This act of jumping into a relationship because of being single and lonely is the characteristics of many relationships today. But this will not solve the problem of being lonely rather, it will turn into a huge regret later.

6. Convenience.
Also many people fall into this category of going into a relationship because they find it convenient.
Let's say you just found a lover who always volunteer himself to drive you and your friends around from one cinema or bar to another, or maybe that person have an awesome house and a very cool and conducive pool where you and your friends can chill. Then the possibility here is that you and your friends are all teamed up and you just want to fit in on their "Couple Gateways" and therefore you need a man to fill that void for you.
Well maybe you found that kind of a man and he is loving and caring, but by the time he or she finds out that you are just up in the game for the things you are gaining, then don't be surprised as he catches you in the game and just leaves you up a doll with no ride home.

7. Being Influenced By Others.
The way your family and your friends influence your mind depends on the way you take their advice. Well sometimes you just decide to take the advice of your family to get into a relationship without thinking about the preparations you need to make for a happy relationship, and in order not to look like the odd one out, we just take their suggestions and at the end, you date someone you had no intentions of dating,

A strong foundation is the key to a long lasting and a happy relationship. The reason why you should embark in a relationship is because of the foundation. When you have a solid foundation, your relationship will be strong and grounded but when the foundation is weak, then all your labours will fall apart.

Many people just think of things this way that "Everyone else have someone, why not me?", now don't fall into the trap of getting into a relationship because of friends of influence.

8. Wanting a Challenge.
Many times, you see a guy or a lady you love and therefore, tend to win that persons heart by all means. Well winning over a man or a woman could be considered a triumph and victory to you and also a prize you will not stop fighting for until you achieve it.

Well that person you have been fighting for was not available to you from the start maybe because he or she is just not into you or is into a relationship already. So that challenge you had might be quite interesting and exciting, but you have to be sure that you are fighting for someone who will also be available and good to you because, you will hate it when you end up with the bad, hard to get guy or girl.

9. Pursuit For Physical Intimacy.
Physical attraction and intimacy should not be the basics for a relationship, though it is important in a relationship, but when you are always in desperation for sex, it results in jumping into the hands of the wrong people and failing to achieve anything except for the bedroom calls for s*x. If you are such type of a person, then you should not even expect that angel of your dreams to end up from your daily or weekend booty calls.

Most people who are looking for this kind of relationships are not even ready for real and true love relationships as they are just there for the physical intimacy and attraction.

Now to put it all together, always take your time to build a healthy, strong and happy relationship because rushing might lead to a broken heart and a family in disorder. When you rush into something, you might as well rush out of it.

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3 Best Ideas And Creative Budget To Celebrate Valentine's Day

So to get your preparations started, here is the list of the 3 best ideas and creative budgets to celebrate your Valentine's Day because everyone wants to make this day fun and memorable for their loved ones.

It have been known that the Valentines Day is one of the sweet, nice and pleasant holidays in the world! The most beautiful feeling in this world is celebrated on Valentine's Day and that feeling is LOVE. Let's go there.

1. Decorate Your Home. Decorating your home will make your celebration more romantic and fun while at your house. It is one of the most romantic yet cheap idea for this valentine's day. But it will be surprising if your lover will just bump into your house only to find it amazing with a bautiful decoration.

2. Romantic Movie And a Dinner at Home.
Watching a romantic movie at home together with a very delicious dinner with your sweetheart is just one among the best ways to spend the valentine holidays.
Both of you will feel happy and comfortable at your home because of the warm atmosphere you have created by decorating your home. This will be the best option than going to the restaurant as it is not so expensive.

3. Romanic Massage.
This is also another romantic idea to try on the valentine's Day. Giving each other a lovely and so romantic massage will bring you and your sweetheart closer and help the relationship to grow.

You don't have to go all day and night spending for your sweetheart just to make her feel happy.

So with these 3 good and creative valentine's budgets, your sweetheart will feel like the happiest duo in the world.

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