How to deal with a girlfriend with bad attitude and character

I have made a lot of mistakes of going into a relationship with women i barely know anything about and at the end, i find out that i am bound in a relationship with a woman with the worst kind of habit and character i have ever seen.

I am here to give you help on how to handle and deal with such situations where you go into a relationship with a woman who have a bad attitude and character to her name.

In this kind of situation, it normally do not occur to you at first that you are dating a woman with bad influence to your life. And you start the relationship feeling the sweetness and she keeps showering you her love with no limitations.
But as time goes by, you discover that you are not with the kind of woman you want to be with in your life and as a result, you are left with no option other than leaving, but no, i don't think its time to leave, hope you have not forgotten too soon that you promised to be with her forever, and for better or for worst.

#The kinds of bad attitudes and characters a woman can possess.
A woman can possess any kind of attitude and character depending on the domain where she is exposed to, the kind of teachings she learn and the kind of people she associate with.
Though not every kind of a woman can be influenced by those factors above but in most cases, those factors are responsible for any kind of attitude a woman can turn out to possess and live with.

Being a troublesome woman is one kind of character a woman can possess, and this depends on the kind of people she move along with and the kind of environment she is exposed to.

Acting like a whore to other men and being known as a slut is also one character i have seen many women who are even dating possess. I have bumped into many women who i know to be dating but still, i can take them out and bed them anytime i wish or talk dirty and get naughty with them, and it has never been a problem to them.

Also, many women possess the character of a fighter. I have seen many women who can fight anytime and anywhere if any one should offend them or get them angry. And you see them fighting any man or woman as far as they don't go in terms and in peace with each other.

Gossiping and malice keeping have been the most common recently among women and many of them have allowed that character to take over them, and they go in groups gossiping about others and getting heated up and causing an uproar among those they consider as their enemies.
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Among other characters, you can see impatience, lack of understanding and wisdom towards judging matters, prostitution for money and others.

#Why it happened that you are dating any of such types of women.
The reason why you are dating such kind of a woman is because you just jumped into the relationship without thinking if you are ready to be in the relationship, and without learning about the woman you want to start your relationship career with.
Maybe you just saw the woman just a week before you started dating, and you never cared to know about her in and out, and you just proceeded to asking her out for a relationship and she accepted your proposal.

Then as time went on and you spent more time, days and months, or even years dating, you started realising her hidden features which you were not comfortable with and then, it started dawning on you that those characters are not characters you want in a woman you want as a partner and so, you start thinking its high time you end the relationship and find someone better and with such qualities you would want her to have in her.

Why ending the relationship is not an option.
As a man, after you have realised her real character, what will be in your mind is just to leave and find someone better, but i know that it must have occurred to you this way.

Despite that you have known her real habits, and how it can affect your thinking and the relationship, she still shows you that love, care and respect, and nothing have changed, apart from the fact that you have known the hidden facts about her. And sometimes when you try to talk to her in the direction of her characters, she refuses to admit to her character and accept the fact that its who she is, and she keep telling you that she is nothing like what you are thinking and she cant do what you are thinking about.

Now you already know her attitudes, and you already know that it have started to affect the relationship from your own direction, but she is not changing the direction her love is taking, you have every reason to believe that you are the one she loves and her attitudes in her life are not affecting the love she have for you. This i know will make you believe that she is truthful and faithful to you, but then, you don't want to believe it.
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HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH SITUATIONS.
Leaving the relationship will not do you any good, because if you think back and take off the thought of her attitude from your heart, you will find no reason to cut off and end the relationship.

So the best things you can do to help her and help your relationship are as follows.

(1) Occasionally talk to her about those attitudes and characters:
The reason why you should do that is to keep reminding her that without her being honest and truthful to you, your relationship will never last and that there is no amount of lie on this earth can be able to keep your relationship.
By lying to you about her secrets and hiding them from you, she can keep you, but she can never keep your relationship. The more she continues in her habits and keep hiding them from you, the more she makes you to walk away and when you walk far away from her heart, she have lost you completely.

(2) Talk to her about her friends whom you know can be responsible for her attitudes:
Another way to make her stop and get her along the right way is to challenge her about those bad friends she have whom you have already known their habits and she knows that you know who they are really.

Let her know that friends with bad habits have nothing to do in her life if she is really good as she claims to be, and to avoid them from changing her to be like them or to keep damaging her, she have to quit the friendship between them and focus on getting new friends who will affect her life positively.

(3) Talk to her about the kind of things she makes priority in her life.
A woman without any vision in her life is a woman without dreams, and a woman without goals in her life is a woman without focus.
Ask her what are her goals, her number one thing in this life and how she work towards achieving such aims in her life.

If she couldn't tell you anything about this, tell her more about how you care towards sharing your life and your dreams with her, and tell her about your own dreams, and by so doing, she will learn to start thinking of something definite in her life and how she can achieve it.

Ask her to cut off some irrelevant activities she engage in her life that makes her more vulnerable and exposed to the stupid activities of the world.
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(4) Promise to give her good support in her life:
After everything, she will want to know that you are really serious in all those things you are saying to her, tell her that you want to see her just change so you can be happy, you must have been hearing bad things about her, tell her that you don't want to hear any bad thing about her any more.

Then you must promise her support in everything and render her help anywhere necessary, with that she becomes happy with you and you both will come into terms with each other.

Now you must make sure that you don't relent and grow cold in doing all i have said above, every habit and attitude that requires change must be taken slowly, with understanding and with patience. And when you have done all those, you can drop us a feedback on the result you got by using the comment box below. And we can tell you what next to do when you have achieved either a positive or negative result.

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List of the best marital gifts you can give to your spouse after marriage

Many couples who get wedded newly daily are always filled with expectations and desires from their new spouse and partner of life.
For both men and women, these expectations comes in different forms and what you want from your spouse after marriage might be different from what you want from from him or her after the marriage.

Before you talk of giving your new spouse any marital gift, you must first consider their type of person and what they possibly want in their life after the marriage. Lets take a look at a list of the best gifts you can give to your spouse after marriage.

* For the woman: your virginity.
In some men, your virginity as a woman is the best gift you can offer them after marriage. It gives your man that joy and satisfaction that you have never been with any man in your life and you were strong enough to hold on to your virginity until when your marriage comes.

But also, you must know that some men don't really cherish your virginity after the marriage. When some men observe that they are married to a virgin, they have that sad look and feeling inside them. Here is why.

Many men today want to be with a woman who is filled of lots of experience in sexual activities and who can fully satisfy them and give them the whole pleasures of sex.
So also to other men, giving them a lot of satisfaction in bed can be a nice gift, and when you are a virgin, you might not be capable of giving them that satisfaction because you are new to the whole process.

Sharing common interest.
This is also a nice gift to offer your new spouse in your new marriage. Maybe before you got married, both of you had different interests and have nothing similar that you share.
She likes watching hockey games, you only like football games, she likes taking glossaries, you only like snacks, she likes to sleep early, you only sleep when its late at night, she likes to read, you like going out every morning to see friends, you like partying, she likes to stay at home all times, etc.

All those things notes out the fact that you have no common interest. But now after your marriage, changing those habits can be a surprising gift to your spouse, start showing interest in what your spouse likes doing or what your spouse likes to have. When you do that, you observe that both of you will even enjoy doing or having the same thing at a time.

Change the name you call her.
Before you were married, maybe you were fond of calling him or her by her first name or nickname and both of you had no problem with that.
When you now get married, changing the name you call your spouse can be a big gift to him/her which signifies a change of state.

Its important that you consider doing this after you get married because if you continue calling your spouse by their real name, people might consider it to be a sign of disrespect as the society deems it.

Giving up everything for your spouse.
There are many other gifts you can offer your spouse in the your new marriage life and those things consist of your daily activities, your attitudes, bad habits, irrelevant activities and friends are some other things which you can give up as a gift for your new love life.
You can decide to get over anything that can come between the both of you in your new marriage relationship.

Marriage is a great institution which changes the single state which someone finds himself into an engage state in which someone start caring about things that matters to two set of partners said to be couples in love.
So when you get married, and when planning to get married, you should consider these options and list for the best gifts to give to your new spouse after marriage.

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Parental love and care - Mistakes you should never make while training your kids

A lot of things have been happening in many family cycles and today, i will like to draw your attention to this particular situation where parents take a lot of wrong steps towards training their children in recent times.

This is the reason why we see lots of children living a scary or shocking kind of live which will make you want to know their parents and ask about the ways in which they do train their children.

Lets just say, this is a new dispensation, and the challenges we have today surpasses those our parents had in the past. Yet, they forget to consider that fact and try training their children in their own old ways. That's just one of those mistakes which they always make while training their children.
Well let us consider and see some of those mistakes parents make in child training.

Inconsistency in speech.
When raising up kids, you see a lot of parents making promises to their kids, but never fulfils them, or give rules and commands to their kids, but they will abandon the kids and not ensuring that they do what they are being asked to do. Also parents make a lot of mistake while in argument in front of their kids, instead of backing each other up, they just pick their own sides, this will result in the child also picking side and backing one, either the father or the mother.

This is not supposed to be so, when ever you make promises to your kids as parents, your duty in their up keeping and learning there is to make sure you fulfil that promise because if you do not, you are probably teaching your kid how to be a promise breaker or someone who cannot keep up to his words.
Also same with what you tell them to do or the rules you give them, you must ensure that they are obedient to your words and rules, by so doing, they will not disobey anyone outside the family also because they have been adapted to such acts.

When it comes to the argument aspect of you as parents, yes there must always be arguments and you must probably disagree with each other at some points, but when ever you want to do that, you do it away from the kids and not in their presence so that you don't get them playing one parent against the other.

Many times, we see majority of parents to be inconsistent with their kids and the major reason is tiredness or stress.
Maybe they become too tired of handling their kids and rather than always getting enough rest, sleep and figuring out on how to be consistent with the kids, they just give in to the act of nagging and forget about the effects all these will have on their kids.

Also, you see a lot of parents being overstrict, harsh and non-tolerant with their kids just because they have had a bad work day or they are feeling stressful because of work.
It is not supposed to be so, all you need to do is to take some rest and try not to be aggressive all the time while at home with the kids.

Showing conditional love.
This is one of the great mistakes made by parents while in the act of raising their children.
Many parents are seen loving their children only when they live up to their expectations and when they have what they want from the children.

Parents today choose to withdraw their love from their children because they don't act the way their parents want, or simply because the kid is not meeting their expectations.
They tend to control their children and make them do what they want, or what others want them to do, and when that child is seen not doing what he was told to do, the parents withdraw their love from the child and only show him love when he has meet their own needs.

It is not supposed to be so with parents, as a teacher to your kids, though you correct them and punish them whenever they don't act the way you want, showing them love unconditionally is what you must do without limitations.
You are not the one to decide how your kid should live his life, though the child is yours to toil with in the mean time, but as soon as the child starts to turn into a grown up person, then you will probably be seeing a new person whom you had not effected with your attitude towards him/her when they were just kids.

Not trusting the abilities of their child.
A lot of parents do make this common mistake too while raising their children.
Many parents tend to protect and cover their children from the difficult aspects of life, thinking that they cant reason and walk their way through those problems.

Parents do think that when they allow their children to taste many aspects and situations of life, they allow them to know many things in their brain and eventually reason the wrong way. But they are wrong actually.

Parents should focus on helping their children realize their dreams in life and allow them make their decisions, and also teaching them how to make the right choices by teaching them how to solve and analyze critical conditions in their life. As parents, don't force your kids to do what you want, rather, teach them how to weight the both sides of life and make a choice of their own.

There is also one of the conditions that parents use in raising their children which is the worst of all kind of conditional love.
I have seen some parents allowing religion to haunt and hurt their relationship with their kids.
Maybe because the child does not live according to the way religion wants them to live, they force their children to do so and show them lots of hardship until they accept to live according to the standard of the religion.

You can not force a child to repent and change to what you want, that's though love because, though you love them which is why you are forcing them, its not favouring them and that makes it though for them to adapt and live up to.
Its better you choose your kids and shun any religion that suggests you to force your children into doing what is right.

I also see a lot of parents talking to their children anyhow, rebuking them and comparing them to other children who they know are better than them.
Every child is not born with the same skill and ability, and just because another child is skillful and intelligent does not mean that your child can be capable of such better abilities.

Everyone is born with different abilities and skills, and as children grow into youths and adults, they soon realize theirs.
So don't go hard on your children, with time you will see them realizing the areas their ability lies on.

These are some of the things parents should be careful of while training their children, and if as parents you are found guilty of any of these things, then consider using the solution and right protocols being mention so as to have a happy life with your children.

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10 Tips To Live In Love And Happiness Everyday

In today's life, many people have made the new year resolution a habit to starting up every new year as they give a new style and mode of conduct and living to their lifestyle.
So as we continue to live our life this year, here are 10 tips to live in love and happiness and also get us to receive all the best we are wishing for in2015.

1. Have A Grateful Heart.
Every morning when you wake up from sleep, there is need to be grateful to your creator for another new day. Also showing appreciation for a new day and hoping for the best out of it puts us a step closer to our heart's desire.

2. Always Maintain Self care.
For you to look good and be at your best this year and everyday, then you need to take nutritious meals, exercise your body and get a good and comfortable night rest. This will set a good start for harnessing positive energy and looking our best.

3. Practice Forgiveness.
holding back to our past holds us captives and stuck in resentment. Adapting to the act of forgiving and forgetting all past deeds sets our mind free and also our heart becomes open to love.

4. Not Sweating The Small Stuff.
You should try not to worry yourself about little things that do not really matter and are of no importance. When you feel like you are into a problem which is so big, always remember that everything is just the way it is supposed to be and one day, that problem will become like a speck of dust, so always have it in mind that everything will work all together for good someday.

5. Stop Negative Thinking.
Always have a positive thinking, stop thinking negatively about yourself, your loved ones and your circumstances. Have positive thought like "This year, am going to gain admission", "This year, I will get married", "This year, I will buy a new car". Replace your bad thoughts with positive thinking and affirming statement's.

6. Choose Inspiring Relationships And Friends.
Moving around with unmotivated and negative people will keep you depressed and make your life stagnant. But keeping positive friends who are very supportive and motivating will push us forward to achieve what we want.

7. Have a Creative Ability.
You need to develop a creative ability and dividends so that they will motivate you to be happy every day. Any creative ability you feel that you have in you, then grow and develop it to entertain everyone including your family and friends.

Laugh More And Add More Fun.
The number one thing that retains and keep a man's attraction to us is our positive energy. And being more funny and sillier takes the edge off. So we should try as much as possible to be fun and happy to be with because it is only when we are happy that the world also rejoices with us.

So now it is up to you, feel happy everyday in this year, and show great and real love to every one. I believe this is a year for change.

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