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Saturday, 6 June 2015

Online dating tips - how to get a girl to love you online

There are many people who start online dating to find someone who can love them and meet up with them finally in real life, but they find it hard successfully get someone who they can roll with.
So this article here will tell you all the necessary online dating tips to help you accomplish your aims.

Finding a date online is easy, but people just don't get the right prospectives on how they can start it and that's why they are never successful in their date mission online.
Here are some tips to get you started with this online date system.

(1) Upload a smart display picture: Some people who want to start a date online will just go all the way to upload a very boring and unpleasant display picture and expect others to like them and get attracted to them.

To start well, you must upload a nice, smart and clean display picture so that anyone looking at you will definitely know you are a clean and smart fellow. No one wants to get into a date with a dirty person, so when you have a clean display picture, you are set to start the trend.

The second tip is for you to be real.
Never lie about your age, about your work, location, school,etc. Also you must never lie about your photos, try to upload a real profile picture will clearly says you are the one on the profile display picture.

When you are not real, you will encounter lots of problem if you started an online date and a lot of lies will be involved in your relationship, this is not good at most times.

The third tip is for you to be polite and calm while engaging in conversation with someone you want to date online.
This will give that person lots of confidence that he/she is involved with someone good and nice, not someone stubborn, unkind and rugged.
Also, when you are calm in conversation, it eases you of nervous expression and makes you free from discomfort while in a conversation.

The next step towards a successful online date is to flirt that person with compelling sentence lines that matches every aspect of their life.
Flirting will let that person know that you are interested in him/her and so, it will guarantee you a yes as you make a move as far as you are clear and always straight to your dating points.

Avoiding the friendly approach is another great way to push yourself up for an online date with someone you like. You must show that you can be a potential lover and not just a friend to that person. So how do you now start it?

You should avoid telling her things related to friendship, schools, religion and family matters because they will all make that person to take you as an adviser to her life, a helper, mentor and even a religious father to her.

Try not to do all those things, talk to that person about things related to each of your lives, adventures you faced in life, your hard and good times and memories, your wishes and wants in life, etc.

Those are things that will get that individual to take you as someone potential and important in their lives because you share life problems together and talk about things mostly related to the both of you.

There is no specific way you can even start and learn how to get a date online, what you want to achieve is what really matters, so when you are able to follow those tips, am sure you are going to find someone to date online.

Friday, 29 May 2015

What to do when your man likes being with other women every time

This is a common situation faced by many women who go into relationships today without considering every necessary factor that would tell if their man is a potential lover to them or just a player.

Many times, i meet with lots of women who always cry out loud for the fact that their man have been cheating on them.
And each time i hear them complain, i fall short of words to encourage and advice them on the next step they should take when their man don't want to play along with them.

But today in this article, you will learn about all the Relationship tips for women and the necessary things you must do when you actually know that your man does not like to be with a single woman.
So now, here are some insights to help you pass this level in your relationship and also, know about the best ways to handle such boyfriend's attitude.

Sometimes, you might just be dating without knowing the reason why you are dating, and because of that, you fail to understand every incident that makes it necessary for you to call on your lover and let him know how you feel about certain things he do with other women out there.

Define what you want from a man in your relationship.
Before you dash into a relationship, this is one of the things that you must make a priority to check on before you start going deep in the relationship.
What kind of a man would you want to be involved with? And what are the characters he must possess before he becomes qualified to be my lover.
If you don't check on the personality of that person, you might end up involving in a relationship with a man who is said to be a womanizer.

You might just see a man, looking so fresh and kush, with the brightest smile ever, and then you think to your self and you be like "wow!! This is just the kind of a man i want to be with".
Now at this point, the looks of that man have made you to be deceived into thinking you have gotten the perfect man.

When looking for a man who would not cheat or enjoy the company of other girls than with you, then the looks should not be a factor for involving in a relationship with such kind of a man. The thing you should watch out for is the character and the behaviour of that individual whom you want to involve with.

But the problem here is that, you have failed to define what you want from that man, and now he is cheating or just enjoys being together with other women.
So the only solution tip you have here is to call him to your attention and let him know how you feel about his actions and how they get you sad all the time, then you must not forget to advice him about the things he should do if he is willing to continue with you and get the relationship going.

Are you willing and ready to continue with a man who likes other girls too?
Now this can mean two things at the same point. It can mean that your man does not like dating only one girl, or that your man loves only you, but likes associating with other women too.

This situation can be a very had one for we the ladies because of many things we feel inside us. When our man is busy out there with other ladies, while we stay at home craving for their attention to us, it gives us lot of unrest because of the feeling of insecurity inside us.
So as women, this does not comfort us and we always feel lots of pain when this situation is prevalent in our relationship.

But if reversed is the case, and it happened that your man does not have only one girl, then the choice of the relationship is in your hands.
Will you now agree to continue in the relationship when you already know that you are not the only one he loves? Or you are going to just end it right there?

Play along if you want to return the favour.
Okay now, its crystal clear that your man is double dating, so should you just watch him while he cheats or you should return the favour?

Sometimes this is a nice option and a solution towards dealing with the grief and sadness that you feel inside you whenever he refuses to pay attention to you or have time for you either.
If you think its not yet time to let go of the relationship, then just bump up and start something too, start hanging out with many of your male friends and then, pick just one out of them as an alternative  and start rolling with him.

Once you have successfully kicked off the game of favours, every pain, grief and sorrow you always felt with gradually go and you will find reasons to also be happy.

Let your man him be.
Now after you have completed the step above, you should not be like one seeking for attention from someone who is not clearly interested in you.

So to achieve this aim, stop calling or texting him frequently, don't even do it at all, just give it a break and allow your new alternative man to enjoy the time been.
Once you do that, you can be able to determine if he still wants to be with you or if he was just done with your companionship.
If after you stop texting or calling him, he did not care to call and check on why you have been out of reach for d long time, then it means that he is done with you and has already moved on. But if he shows care and love after you took a break from reaching out to him, then chances are that he still cares and want to be with you.

But don't just relax at this point because this is the point where you have every opportunity to know what he actually feel for you and what he wants from you.
So you should now throw questions at him about the happenings between the both of you and then, read out your terms for the relationship and know if he is ready to comply with you and drop his old ways.

Relationships based on benefits from sexual intimacy.
This is also another pin point which many women fail to learn and understand in their relationship cycles.
There are many men who would just want to come into your life for the purpose of $ex and after that, it ends there.

Once those men succeed in having $ex with you, you see them starting to show certain strange behaviours which explains one fact that you are no more relevant in their lives.

When you already know that a man have already taken advantage of your body and after that, he starts showing certain strange behaviours, then the best option you have is to find a different man who will love you unconditionally.

These are just a few relationship tips for women tips which we know will be of help to you while facing such type of a relationship setback. We will be back to update you with more. Stay with us.

Saturday, 23 May 2015

What you should do when your girlfriend is having a crush on another guy

This is really a deciding situation because at this point in time, you find it hard figuring it out if she is ready to move on with you or her crush is taking over and replacing your place in her heart.

It is always troubling, uncomfortable and can make you angry when your girlfriend can't just tell that her crush that she is in a relationship. It makes you carry that burden of love inside you and makes you want to fix things to go the right way, well its time to talk some senses in to your head and her head too.

So what should I do when my girlfriend is having a huge crush on another guy?

The most alarming part of this situation is the fact that she don't want to tell her crush that she is in a relationship, and she even goes out to hang out with him not minding she is in a relationship, that's not fair at all, this will surely make any guy uncomfortable, heartbroken and love weakened. Why can't she just tell that guy she is already with another man? Or why can't she just stop hanging out with him?. Now is the time to act and compete your love for her.

Talk To Her About It.
You first need to talk to her about what she is doing, how it breaks you down and how it causes you discomfort. Though she have had feelings for him in the past, but you should let her know her place in your heart and how you see and take her. Let her see how dedicated you are to your relationship with her and how you would do everything possible to keep and secure her.

But you can only do this if you truly love, if there is true love between both of you, then you should be able to sit her down and talk about what is going on between both of you. Is the love still there or it is gradually fading away? You need to know everything going on in her heart so that you can know the next step to take.

Ask Her What She Really Want.
You should ask her about what it is that she actually want. Do she want to be with you or she want to start dating him? You deserve to know because you are the man and you control her heart, at this moment, you will be able to find out what she really wants. Ask her what's that potential quality in him that makes her want to always hang out with him, is he so special than you are and better than you are? You need to know.

You need to get her make a choice to who she really want, do she think he is of interest of getting into a relationship with her, or do she think he is as good as knows him before? You need to throw in those questions so that she can be sure of what she needs and not leading him on while she is causing her main man discomfort.

So when you do that, you get her to make a choice sooner, and if she gives you a straight answer to your question, then trust her, that's what she wants, but if she replies you with an answer which shows she is not ready to make a choice, like "I don't know", then its not a good time for you to continue that relationship. Let her be and let her complete her choice of who she really want. Once she gives you such an answer, you might also want to know if she is committed to your relationship. That leads you to the next step of what you should do.

Ask Her If She Is Committed To Your Relationship. When a woman is committed to a relationship, she does everything at her best to protect that relationship and the interest in the relationship. A girl who is committed to you will not rush into any guy who shows up interest on her and leaves you just to wonder about what is happening, giving you that kind of an expression that explains what the deal will be if she hangs out with that other guy, its pretty bad.

So you must learn and know if she is actually committed to the relationship, or she actually does not want the relationship to be exclusive any more. Well if that's what she want, and it causes you discomfort, and she already knows how you feel about it, then it's not a good time to stay in the relationship, you have to fight your way out despite the fact that you still love her, you know what it means to her? It means she does not care about you anymore, how you feel, and the way you will react, all does not matter to her anymore and you don't have any more value to her.

That's her own meaning for the relationship between both of you if she says she is not dedicated to the relationship, so you should just get out of the relationship because both of you can't be together forever if one of you still have a leg and an eye outside the relationship for another person.

Show Her How Much You Love Her
Now at this moment when you know it's complicated, and you feel like she is actually going for the other guy, if she truly loves you and you truly love her, then you have the right to stop her from going to any other guy. But you can't say what she really want now because it's known to you that she has been a side chick to another guy. This can be the time for you to dive into some competitions for your love and the girl you love, show her why you are better with her and why she is better with you, and know what interests her in the other guy which you have seen her hanging around with.

After you know you have showed her much love, then the next thing for you to do is to let her make her decisions by herself.

Let Her Alone To Decide
Sometimes, you have to let her be when it's hard for her to talk or when she don't want to decide. Letting her alone will let her make decisions which seems right to her. And you don't need to talk some senses into her at most cases because she might feel that you are attacking her and giving her that guilty conscience which will make her to even do more of what pleases her. But the moment you just let her be, then all the decisions is her's to make.

If she finally comes back to you and profess that you are the one she choose, then you have won it not because you tried to talk some sense into her, but because of her true feelings for you.

She Is A Cheater
If she probably don't want to make any decisions, then she is a cheater, and you deserve better than that. Since when did women start using men as air bags accustomed for some wounds? You are not a material she can use and throw away, and she actually does not love you, she just want to use you as an option, and in every relationship built on love, there is no IF condition attached to it. So you just need to walk out of her.

Your relationship should not suffer or even end just because she goes out to meet another guy outside the relationship, but if your relationship starts shaking because of that, then she is not meant for you and the best thing you can do to help yourself is to walk out of the relationship, move on and find another woman who would probably love, respect and show you a lot of commitment in your new relationship.

How to overcome shyness when talking to a new girl you just meet

Most times, I see a lot of guys being unable to speak out to a girl they newly meet, and it has been always hard for them breaking the ice with a new girl.

Most times, its this nervous feeling about where to start the talking and all these and that, and also maybe you think she is above your standards and so, she might not cooperate. It does not really matter who you are talking to, but what matters most is your ability to openly express your self and make friends with such girl without irritating her.

For example, you don't just see a girl walking down the road and heading somewhere else, then you just walk up to her, interrupted her walk and then try making a conversation at that spot, its really irritating for some girls. And also you as a shy guy, I don't really think you can do that, and if you try doing it, it will be really irritating because you can't freely express yourself, rather she will think you are up to her for another thing, like a dating matter or something of that sort.

With these little tips on How To Overcome Shyness When Talking To A New Girl You Just Meet , I hope you will not find any more problem communicating to a new girl.

1) Meet Her At The Right Spot.
You don't just meet a girl at any spot and start talking, the kind of place you meet a girl will show if you can talk to her at that moment or not. So you must find a suitable place where you know you will not feel shy talking to her. If you know a particular place where she like turning up to every time, or a place she always go to make herself happy. You can meet her at any of those places and talk to her, I believe you will not feel shy talking to her at any of these points because it is always fun, don't try meeting her at a crowded joint or a joint where all eyes are just on you as soon as you want to talk to the lady, it will make you to feel more shy.

Remember Their Names.
Maybe You have already meet her somewhere and you know her name, but you have not meet officially, now is the time to make use of that advantage and break the ice, try remembering their names before you try to start talking, you will not feel that shy as to where to even start because by calling out her name, she already know you meet her before and starting a new conversation will not be any thing so hard.

Introduce Yourself .
Now This is a simple part, after you try remembering her name, you just start something small like introducing yourself and trying to know more about her, make sure you are at ease while doing such. But if you can't remember her name, then you can make her feel at ease before much talking by being humorous, find a better way of asking her for her name without making her feel upset. For example, "oh,, hardly remember your name, don't be upset if I ask you again". Now this is gentle and humorous and will not make her feel any discomfort, rather it will put her at ease.

Listen More Than You Talk .
This is another good way of overcoming shyness while speaking to a woman either new or a friend. Don't be the one trying hard to do all the talking because you will feel so nervous at a certain point and you get that feeling like your bones are going to break at that moment. So you can try to avoid this by giving her questions that requires much expansion and explanation, don't ask her questions that will be replied with a Yes or No answer. When you try hard to do the whole talking, she can easily get irritated with your presence because you are not giving her a single opportunity to fully engage in the conversation. But giving her opportunity to talk will tell her that you are more interested in hearing her talk back to you and that you are interested in knowing her more.

Be Pleasant And Cordial .
Always be relaxed and have that pleasant looks that will make the lady want to talk more, be positive while you are talking to her and never try pissing her off with negative answers. Give her affirmative and positive signs to interesting speeches an let her know you are interested in what she is saying. Now you should also remember to smile, smile where you need to smile and don't do it too much, it might get her annoyed because she might miss the concept to why you are smiling at her.

At times, you also find a situation where the lady is also nervous and shy to talk to you, and you to you can't talk either, now when you find yourself in such situations, you must act well, be the ice breaker and make the first move with all confidence you got in you. Starting with lines like What is your name, Where did you come from, Where do you stay, how interesting did you find this place, etc. Now this is a good starter, and you must make her want to return the favour by also asking about you too. Now you should also tell her little things about you but not much. Don't tell her deep things about you at such early stages. The main aim is just to simply know each other and when that aim have been achieved, you get relieved because talking to he now will be a lot more easier.

Also some people who feel nervous while wanting to talk is because they are too quick to judging themselves, they think that if they approach the lady, she is going to judge them and so, they refuse to talk. Now you must be surprised that after thinking of something like that, what if they approach her, talk to her, and finally nothing happens?

So you must just let your self be and do what you have to do, it is because of the judgment you gave yourself that you can't make a move to speak to a lady, but once you let yourself be and give everything into the hands of karma, I tell you that you will feel a lot more better after approaching that lady and speaking to her.

For some people, this shyness is just a habit, and it is true in some people. If you are such type of a person, you must practice talking to other people any way, and in whatever way, do it regularly and try not to be distracted by other factors around you. With time you will be perfect in speaking up to any lady you meet without feeling nervous or any thing of such form.

Friday, 22 May 2015

What to do when he pays more attention to other things than to you

It can be really annoying when your man does not give you attention and the time you need from him whenever you want.

Many men have been seen adapting to this attitude of paying more attention to other things more than they do with their partner.
It is unusual and not encouraging for the man to be out there doing something irrelevant when his girl is waiting for him to come around and stay with her.

But as a woman, trying to get more time with him by telling him to stop those activities which he always cherish will not favour him and would rather give him a reason to call for a breakup.
Trying to tell him what to do never works, but creates more reason for him to continue doing what he is doing.

There are many things your man enjoys doing which might stop him from creating time for you, it might be playing games on play stations, playing football, football betting, lotto, clubbing, moving around with friends, etc. All these activities can actually rob your man the time both of you have to spend with each other and also, trying to get him stop them will never work because they are part of the things that gives him reasons to live for another and makes him happy.

So, now that he barely gives you time just because of those activities, what are you planning to do? What do you think would be the best solution to the situation and how do you get him balance the between his activities of interest and you without having one taking down the other?
Lets see some things you should never do and those you should do.

Can cheating bring you happiness?
Since your man is not ready to create time to be with you and spend more time together, should you just get on and start chasing after another man?

That's just one of the dumbest and craziest thing you could ever do while in a relationship. Doing so will label you a cheater and your man will never entertain such a habit if he knows about it.

Your man is not cheating, and not creating more time for you does not make him a cheater, its just that he finds more pleasure doing those things. So that does not make him a cheater at all and it should not give you any reason to be a cheater.

It might be that your man failed to understand the relevance and importance of staying together with you and therefore, underestimates the need being together with you most times.

Also it might be that you were the cause of his attitude when both of you are together. What do you do when both of you stay together? What do you do towards ensuring that the moments you spend together are romantic and full of fantasies between both of you? Do you give him the joy and satisfaction of being together with you? Do you have the sense of humour and the ability to be humorous? Do u always make him angry when you are together?

Those are some of the things you must consider while you keep asking why your man does not give you much time as you need from him. When you don't know how to love your man, then you might be the reason why he acts the way he does.

Don't try to change him.
Trying so hard to change his attitude towards you can turn him off because it might be hard for him sacrificing many things that matters most to him.

If your man finds pleasure in doing something more than he finds pleasure been with you, then you should allow him and concentrate more on your life.

Compatibility.
This the most important factor that you consider before you even go into any relationship.
You can never change a man if you are not compatible, when he is more than you in every aspect of life and there is hardly one aspect in your life which makes it possible for you to talk to him and get him listen to you, then you can never get him to stop something.

And so, make sure both of you are compatible if not, it might not work the best for both of you as you will find it hard relating to one another.
Tell your man what you need from him but don't force him to do it, this means separating your need from the means to get it done.

When you do that, you will surely leave him to think and figure out a way to balance your needs with his own needs even without altering the other.

Join him to do what he likes doing.
Most times, this can help because you are now showing interest in what is also of interest to him, that's a nice move.

This will get him to show more concern towards you and create time to talk to you about those things that both of you now enjoy doing, and by so doing, the meeting streak will extend longer and you find yourselves always staying together.

Though this is an alternative and optional means to get what you want from your partner, so if you think you cant engage in it, then you look on to the other solutions here.

Tell him what you want from him.
This means taking the right manner of approach to talk to him about what you want from him.

You can just decide to call him, and tell him how you feel about what he is doing and how it makes you uncomfortable and disturbed. Tell him that you don't need him to stop what he likes doing, but that you are also part of his life and you deserve more of his time too.

So ask him to create more time for you and also let him know that he has all the decisions to make and now decide on what to do.
When you do that, he will see the need to balance you and his activities and given both equal time and if thought well, he will even pay more attention to you.

So those are the little things we have for you on this subject matter, so use the information provided the right way and you will see changes in the way your man relates with you.

Wednesday, 6 May 2015

Be The Man: What You Must Do To Maintain Control In Your Relationship

I come across a lot of people asking a question like "How can I be the man in my relationship" and I use to wonder what they mean by that. Then with time, I discovered many things about this question will help you also to maintain that role of leadership and control in every relationship you go into.

This is what many people have always want to get answers to, but you see, originally, when you are into a relationship as a man, then there you go, you are already the man in your relationship, but for you to continue being the man in that relationship, there are certain things you must do so that your girlfriend or your wife do not turn into the one controlling you and the relationship.

Generally, when you can't make your own decisions final in a relationship, then you are not in control, if you does any thing she asks you to do, then you are not in control, and if you don't give straight forward answers to certain situations, you might end up loosing control and becoming the dog in your relationship.

Okay now, so how can I be the man in my relationship. When you try to always be loving, very sweet and attentive to your wife or girlfriend, you will end up selling yourself into her own hands and that will utterly destroy your relationship. so always be who you are, maintain your real self as you go into any relationship and not turning yourself into a respectful, attentive and obedient house dog.

Here are Things You Must Do To Maintain Control In Your Relationship.

1) Learn To Say No!
For a long period of time, you have been doing everything she asked you to do, going everywhere she wants you to go, eating anything she wants you to eat. And you are being obedient because you don't want to miss any opportunity to make her happy. You just do things to ensure you please her even if it will cost you your whole money and time. Hell no! That's so wrong of you, that's why she treats you like a dog in your relationship. And you must stop it before it destroys your relationship. And if you are not doing it, then don't try doing it just because you feel like doing all those things will make her happy.

Start Saying "No!!" to her, start saying no from every small thing to the biggest, but make sure you choose the areas of application carefully. You don't expect yourself to say No to having $ex with her because you want to be in control (lol), that's not right, it's rather another thing else(showing displeasure). So you must learn the places and points in time to say No.

If your wife or girlfriend wants you to buy her something which you know you can't afford, then say No to her. Or if she want to cook a dinner you hated so much insisting that you must take it, say No to her. Now think of this, can you just imagine your wife or girlfriend ordering you to get her the TV remote? Say No immediately and insist that she should take it her self, unless if the situation warrants, for example when she is Pregnant as your wife, you can help her do that, but for those of us still with our girlfriend, this is a hot one for you. Also imagine your girlfriend telling you to "Get dressed, we are going to my mom's house". Is that really necessary? You must learn to say no to these pivotal things which can turn you into a dick head in your relationship.

2) Create and Form Your Own Opinions.
This one is a natural step and it occurs to nature. You must know that not every situation in a relationship can be handled with a simple "No", Questions like " What do you think we should take for dinner", it will not make any sense if you just shout No to questions like this, it rather sounds stupid. But also at the same time, avoid giving answers which will turn you into a slave to whosoever that received the answer to the question. For example, answers like "well it's up to you" will actually tell her to do prepare whatever she likes which you must accept because that was the option you gave her. Such phrases will get her to be in control of your actions and your life too

So in other to make sure you maintain control in situations like this, you must learn to form your own opinions which favours both of you and an opinion which you think is the best. Don't be in a hurry to give out a reply, be relaxed and calm, don't just rush. Then think about what is been asked, and come out with certain answer which you know will benefit the both of you. When you are sure you have completed the above steps, then you are ready to move on.

3) Be The Leader.
This one here does not mean you should dominate her and get her to do things your own way. You must be cooperative in an effective and efficient way, and make sure you show her signs of equality between the both of you. As the leader, you have to make sure you take responsibility of everything both good and bad.

4) Protect Her
This does not mean that you should confront anyone who tries to harm her physically or tackle anything that will harm her physically. You should be able to handle and take care of arising problems, or take care of things before they become bigger problems. Don't expect your wife or girlfriend to handle things her own way because she might not be able to take care of some things that may arise, so you must be there to always protect those things from her and also avoid those problems from coming in.

5) Be The Provider
You should make sure that you provide for her needs, now not only her financial needs, but also provide emotionally. When you allow your shortcomings to be carried along with the loads of her emotional burdens. Make sure you get things done, and not allowing her to do those things. When you allow her to do things, she will take responsibility of those things, then use that opportunity to pickup your slack and even act as your mother.

6) Deliver Everything but Don't Promise Anything
Do not tell your wife or girlfriend of your upcoming plans which you know will change things. You can inform her about things that also concerns her and which you think she should know. But you should not let her know that you are making changes in your life. When you let her know when maybe you want to start something new which will bring progress to your life, she will probably increase her demands and her standards which you might find hard to fulfil but nevertheless, you will always want to get those things for her. This will tie you down to her and cause you more setback.

Changes like this must be done without telling a single soul, not even your wife, or your girlfriend, it must be discretely done. And when you do it this way, you gradually start achieving your goals, and she will gradually notice your progress. This will get her to respect you more, love you more. And she will appreciate you wholeheartedly which earns you her trust.
When you keep things discrete until done, other people will notice it when you start achieving your new goals.

You should create more confidence in your relationship and limit that which you have in other aspects of your life. This will turn you into the man other people want to be like. So for you to become a better person, you must be the "man" in your relationship.

Tuesday, 24 March 2015

Amazing!! See What Ladies Want From You On a First Date

I have seen a lot of guys making big and silly mistakes on a first date with a lady whom they like or when they are on an outing with their new catch.
One of the biggest thing that can kill your morale on a first date is over excitement.
So even if that lady is proving a hard to get syndrome or not, these little tips will help boast your chances of winning a woman's heart while on a date.

So these are What ladies want from you on a first date .

Note: Whenever am writing articles about finding love on a first date, I always emphasise on the type of personality you have, if you don't have a good personality, a lady will never come to even think of loving you even if you are handsome or whatever. So having a good personality sets you on the right part to practice these below tips.

1) Dress Smart And Cute.
You should ensure a proper dress code which will give that lady a feeling that you are smart and even cute, but then do not get over-dressed or even go to the extent of lending a cloth because you want to entice her and get her to like you more, don't do that.

2) Avoid a Bad Body Smell/Odour:-
When you apply a harsh body spray, or perfume, it will cause her great discomfort which is also a big turn off point because she will want to device an excuse to leave and find herself better comfort.

Also if you Actually Know you have a bad body smell, then try using a body spray that is not so harsh and which she can find comfortable so that you will not cause discomfort to her mood during conversation.

3) Never Talk About Your Past Relationship.
Many girls hate it when you talk about your past relationship while in conversation. And also some ladies will intentionally ask you about your past relationship so that they can know what will be your attitude towards them and your reaction even if they left you.

Well as a smart guy, it is wiser and better never to speak anything about your past relationship, you better say non of it but rather, say more about her and her positive attitude and also make her your priority at that moment. Say things that will impress her and make her have a feeling of belonging and also make her feel cared for.

4) Don't Talk About Your Family Status.
Well this one is common among the less matured guys out there, who like bringing in their family status, wealth e.t.c while discussing with a lady. This will reduce and lower your chances of getting her to like you and you know what that means, a big failure.

5) Avoid Taking Her To Un-conducive Places.
Places like the beer parlour is not conducive while on a date, she will not like it, also an unconducive eatery joint is not good on a date, a noisy environment will limit your conversation because both of you will definitely loose the focus and concentration you should have.

6) Don't Be Late On a Date.
Avoid being late when she request for an outing or when you have already made your plans and have a time set, taking her out to a place very late will cause murmuring and panicking.

7) Appreciate Her.
Always appreciate her for giving you her precious time and even creating out time just to spend the day or even the week with you even if things did not go well as you expected and wanted.

8) Send Her Lovely Messages.
The best time to send a lady lovely text is during the early morning hours and midnight hours. So at these periods in time, always send her lovely messages which suits the time and her mood. If she is sick, send her messages wishing her a quick recovery, if she is sad, send her messages that will put a smile on her face, when she is discouraged and stranded, send her messages that will uplift her and make her gain confidence in her self, if she is feeling like she is a no body, send her messages that will make her see and gain back her self worth.

Well with all these tips I have articulated, I see no reason why she would not want to be with you.

Thursday, 26 February 2015

7 Extra Ideas On How To Make A Lady Fall In Love With You

There is no need to say much of introduction to this topic because it have been discussed in our previous articles, so these are additional update which are simple and easy to apply if you want to get any girl to like you and fall in love with you. Now let's go there.
{ Also On Bestlovegoodies, Read: How to get a girl to like and love you }

Getting a girl to like you is easy, but you have to do additional and extra works so that she will fall in love with you, so with these tips, you can get a girl to like you and also fall in love with you.

1. Buy Her Gifts.
No matter the class and standard of a girl, it will be hard for her to decline gifts from you. It is one of the main characteristics of ladies, they like you to buy them gifts and surprises, so if you have been eyeing a lady and you want her to be your side chick, then this will work things out as you surprise her with a gift you know she will love to have.

2. Tell Her Some Secrets About You.
Telling a girl something that is supposed to be a secret about you will make her feel like she knows a part of you that no one else knows.

But avoid telling her your deep and inner secrets because if problems later sets in, and both of you don't work things out any more, she might use them against you.
So just tell her something that will make her feel that she knows something others don't know about you.

3. Take Her Out Somewhere.
Make your stay with her worthwhile and filled with good memories by taking her out to Cinema's to watch movies, clubs to dance and have fun, concerts to see exciting shows and even to the restaurant for launch.
Also you should be helpful and in control while practising any of the above mentioned, make her feel secured, comfortable and cared for.

4. Excite Her With Pleasure.
Exciting her will make her to want you for something more special.
Touch her where you find it necessary and make her feel the excitement in your touch. If you do this the proper way, she might even have the feeling and pleasure of spending a night with you and have you know what that means, much more fun.

5. Motivate Her.
In everything you do with her, always come up with motivating and encouraging chat up lines, but don't try to stress her out because she will end up feeling that your personality is not for potential dates, so she might end up dumping you in the friends zone where you will not be able to express your feelings anymore.

6. Be Generous With Compliments.
Make her feel like she is the best woman out of the millions in the world. Every girl likes to be in the spot light and outstanding.
Compliment her with words that will give her an impression that you are special and interested in her looks.

7. As additional bonus, try using words that will send your intentions and feelings across to her but without making her feel uncomfortable. For example, words like "I know we are not dating but I get jealous when.....". You see this line will surely send a cool chill down her spine and get her to think more about you, and this will make her to see your love for her. She might end up falling for you.

So now, after practising all these tips and ideas listed above, you can go ahead to let her know your mind and feelings for her, and if she bounce you out and declines you that moment, then you should just move on and don't talk to her about your strong feelings any more.

So that's all for now, feel free to read more of our articles and share with your friends too. Also don't forget to say something about this article.

Sunday, 22 February 2015

7 Things You Should Never Do To Impress A Lady

Am not against the fact that a guy should do anything possible to impress a lady who is either your friend or your girlfriend.
Impressing a lady is quite good and it is a goal every guy wishes to achieve, but the truth is that most times, these actions come back to haunt us and at the end, everything turns out to be a regret. So as you press on to your goals of impressing a lady, here are 6 red flags to avoid in order to avoid regrets.

Here are the list of the things a guy should not do to impress a lady.
1. Lying
Now lying here does not mean telling her little lies that will not be a to you in the future, am talking about bragging and showing off to a lady about what you are not.
You know your dad is not working in a big company, or he is not that rich as you wanted, but you went ahead to lie to a lady that your father owns a big company, or your father is Dangote's brother. You also know that you don't work in a place that earns you big money but you went ahead to lie to her that you work in shell company, etc.

These types of lies will only make her desires and expectations from you high and it will be a problem to you because you will always try to live up to her expectations. Don't be surprised the day she will find out that you lied to her about your personality and then, the rest will be a story.
2. Taking Too Much Alcohol.
Most guys are guilty of this act and they sometimes do it when trying to woo a lady or when taking her to bed.
This is totally wrong in many ways because it will damage your health and also, you will temporarily loose your mentality at that moment if you took too much of it.

Also this act will not guarantee you of wooing her or performing in bed successfully. It will show the lady that you lack confidence and self esteem. So please be yourself and also avoid this act while trying to impress a girl.

3. Spending Unnecessarily.
You don't have to be buying anything for her anyhow. And also you don't have to be buying stuffs anyhow in order to look rich and fly. I don't see the reason why you should spend anyhow just to impress a lady because she will only fall for your money and spend them too, and by the time that you realize that your spending is unnecessary, it might be already late and then, regrets set in.

4. Backbiting Your Fellow Man
Maybe you found out that there is another man coming after that girl you are trying to impress or even your girlfriend, it is a wrong idea to say something bad about him in any way because he or she is trying to cause you discomfort. Tale bearing and fighting with another man because of one single lady is not good and not worth it.

If that girl discover that both of you are having a heated fight or argument, or she finds out that you are just a tale bearer because of another guy, you might loose the game to another man, so be careful.

5. Hiding Your Personality.
. There is no need to be a bad guy who you know you are not. If you are not a confident guy, don't force yourself into acting like someone who is confident and inside you, you know you are that shy type.
There are girls out there who still value the good guys, so be that good guy and don't turn bad because you want to impress a lady. People who know you will even know that you are just acting up and that will not be too good.

6. Giving Up Your Values And Belief.
If you are a committed Christian or Muslim who is devoted to your religious activities and ways of living, then do not try to drop your religious values just because you want to impress a lady.
You know that your religion is against physical intimacy before marriage, but just because she asked you for s*x, you now gave up your religious norms and went the wrong way.

When everything seems to go wrong, your faith in your religion is what will keep you going and when you have already given up that faith, then you have lost everything and you will be left with no option than to start your life all over again.

7. Abandon Your Friends.
Do not abandon your loved ones and friends when you are into a lady. Don't act like they don't matter to you anymore because that girl now gives you everything and makes you happy.

when everything seems going down and problems start setting in, its your friends who are going to be there to lift you up and give you hope for better things ahead. But when you abandon and forget about them just because of a lady, and at the end, she left and you now remember your friends and try to run back to them, you will only be a laughing stock to them and they will not accept you back with helpful hands.

So, no matter what you do while trying to impress a girl, avoid all the red flags listed above and you will be good to continue in your quest.

These tips here are just few among the list of the things you should not do to impress a girl, so keep visiting our website and get updated with new tips on the above subject matter.

Sunday, 15 February 2015

How To Keep Your Man Happy (Best 5 Tips)


Sometimes, you find out in many relationships that the man is not always happy with his wife/lover. This is because the woman have never cared to find out how to make her man happy .
So as a woman, these tips are so simple and you will be able to execute them anytime and see your man give you the inscription of the best girlfriend/wife ever. So let's go there.

1. Let Him Alone.
Now you should not do this at all times, but take for instance, when he comes home from work or when he is really tired and stressed about something, what a guy needs most is to be quite and left alone himself for sometime. Now when you as his lady recognises this and you give him that personal space, he will notice it and he will be to greatful.

2. Let Him Be In Control.
Every guy like to feel like he is in control of his woman at all time. So you should try letting go of your own opinions to be right(even though you are right). Allow him to pick your outing spots, the restaurant to launch at, or even the movie to watch. Now let him do all those things without interjecting with your "better idea" as this will make him feel like he is just in charge and that you also trust his actions with no doubt.

3. Surprise Him With Something Sexy.
. Maybe putting on lingerie (sexy underwear) is not something you like doing, don't worry, guys do not need that at all times. But try going outside your comfort zone every now and then, surprise him with some sexy underwear or meet him out for a drink in an especially little LBD(little black dress), he will know you are just doing it for him.

4. Lend Him An Ear.
It is sometimes tempting to take control when your man is in a deep mess, but you should try and pause for a second. Don't try to solve his problems or tell him how you would do if you were in his shoes. So let him talk, you should listen, and be supportive as he tries to get things in order.
So jumping in to fix his problems will not be too good. What he needs is some feminine nurturing, so you should listen to him, give him a hug and let him vent.

5. You should show him that you want him
You don't need to be over sexual before your man knows that you want him. Try subtle things like just slipping your hand into his crotch during a drive home, or at a movie, or under the table at dinner. He will be pleased like no other if he knows how sexually attracted you are to him.

So with these helping tips I outlined, I believe you will use it to make an impact and change in your relationships today.

Tuesday, 3 February 2015

How to get a girl to like and love you

Understanding the mind of a girl and knowing the way she think is one of the great steps towards getting a girl to like you in no time

Without laying the right foundation for that girl to like you, then all your efforts towards getting her to like you will never make any difference. The process is complicated because not all girls are same, every girl have her likes and her dislikes. So without understanding what that girl wants in a guy, you can never get her to like you even after all your impressions and after wooing her. There is one thing which is the most important of all if you want a girl to like you, thats your personality. Without having a great personality, that girl can never like you. 

The reason is because its only your personality, its the kind of person you are and who you are that matters when trying to get a girl to like you. So these steps below will help you to improve your personality and become just the best you can be and you will see how irresistable you will be to any girl. 
Remember, the only thing that can draw all girls to you is a great personality. 

1. Be The Alpha Male 
By being the alpha male, we are not saying you should be the leading goat in your group or community. Dont try to be the godfather of your group, but also, you should try not to be taken for granted by your group friends or people around your community. Dont be an attention seeker among your friends but rather, be the one to command your very friends and make them to respect you. Be that type of a guy who people will respect and appreciate your friendship. 

2. Respect Yourself.
In this aspect, you have to think from other people's point of view about you, though you might see yourself as a great guy. Do you try to cling and hang out with people anywhere whether they invited you or not? Do your friends leave you out of their plans and make you feel lonely? Do they make plans without seeking for your opinion and forget to invite you to parties? Then just forget about those friends because you don't belong to their group and they really dont respect you. You just have to find some new friends who will respect you because you end up loosing respect for yourself when you are not respected by your friends and no girl would like to be with a guy who have no respect and self esteem for himself. 

  3. Dont be idle.
Do you sit idle and know nothin good to do? Do you shuffle your feet and play with your hair, use your hand to write on the ground? Or do you just site back and relax your mind? I will advice you not to be idle, because they are a sign of weakness and self-concious behaviour. Many women dont like guys who are idle and fidgets every time. If you are just owkay and comfortable with yourself, sitting calm and composing yourself well is a thing you should do. Being idle and fidgetting can distract a girl's attention and she might not like it. 

  4. Speak With a Calm Voice. 
 Some guys will just whin and grumble all times, thats so annoying. Always try and calm your voice while talking. Even when you are unhappy or angry, always speak with a calm and low voice, and also be composed. Dont speak with a highly intonated voice, but learn to speak with a low intonated voice that will please others and then, you will see how the girls will love to talk to you. A girl would not like to talk with a guy who nags at all time. 

  5. Be A Great Conversationist And Be In Command.
For the first time you meet a girl, talk about what she likes and things that are of interest to her, so just think from her own point of view and talk about those things you think she will like, and also try and watch how she respond to them, if you see that she is not interested, just drop the topic and pick another one. Talking about movies and football might not interest a girl and she would not like to talk about them. So you should remember that not every girl shares same interest like you. Be updated about events and happenings that can interest her so that you can talk about them. Also when you are out on a date, you have to be helpful and in command. If she mistakenly drops her pause on the ground or her fork drops to the ground while having launch or dinner, don't sit there and be wondering what to do, but kindly ask the waiter for another fork or pick up her pause without delay. Make her feel as if she don't have anything to worry about and let her feel safe with you. You need to learn to be in command if you want to be respected and have a great personality. 

  6. Be A Happy Guy And Not Panicking.
When something goes wrong, a lot of guys lose their nerve and as a result, they behave in a manner that will irritate everyone around them. Don't whine and chew your nails just because your date did not turn up early or keep looking at your watch just because you are late on a date or keep chewing your lips because you have nothing to talk about on a date. Lastly, be happy because girls love happy guys, when you are happy, it shows and the world smiles with you too and it will also attract girls to be with you. You may have numerous problems in your day to day life, but try to smile and be happy at all times. Even if you like thinking about how life have been unfair to you, don't be fustrated at all times. You just have to look at all your problems of this life as little obstacles you must overcome to get a happier life in the future. I assure you that every girl will want to be with you when you are optimistic and enjoy your life. So do not forget that, a good personality is the biggest factor in getting a girl to like you.

I think i have said much, so over to you dear fans on starboyvilla. We are trying to get you unique contents and interesting tips to promote your love life to the next level. What are your thoughts over these tips? Also tell us if you found them helpful and useful. You can also share more light on this article by using the comments form below.

For The Ladies: Ways To Avoid Men Who Only Want Sex From You.

In todays world, we women are mostly seen and thought of as merely sex objects because of the way we dress and look sometimes. Some of the women are naturally beautiful and also attract men wherever they go, and many times, the wrong kind of men are being attracted.

Now to my ladies, use these tips to spot the signs of those men who just need you for the purpose of sex and also use these tips to stay away from them. 

  1. Do Not Use Sex To Get A Man's Attention:
As a women , if you always talk about sex in all your conversation or in majority of your conversation, or you always try to behave and act like a woman who needs a man to unzip her bra right away, then all the men will just get the wrong impression about you. It will make those men to define you as a sex object and as someone who is in need of it, this will attract the wrong men to you and land you into a bad relationship. Talking about sex is not the key to having a successful relationship. 

  2. Do Not Wear Too Short Dresses: 
Women are more sexy when they are a little more covered up on a date or a night and so men will always want to take advantage of that. If you always wear low cut tops and short skirts, more is left to mens imagination, but when you cover your shoulders, men will not think about pulling down your materials to kiss them down, if you wear a longer dress, he will not even fantasize about running his hands up your leg, he can only wonder about your sexy underwear if your top is a little higher and so, he barely have those little chances to bump up into action and want you for sex. 

  3. Avoid Sex To Keep His Attention. 
 Talking about sex on dates or on first few meetings will give him a sex imagination, so talk about any other thing and every other thing but not about sex. If he is truely a dating potential, he will surely be interested in you for your good and clean conversation and the things you told him about yourself. It will also make him want to make eye contact with you and if he does not, then maybe he is probably somewhere thinking about someone else. 

  4. Take Things Slow And Mix up Your Dates.
Maybe you just meet that guy in a bar or in the cinema, just exchange numbers and or perhaps, just kiss on the first few dates. Dont just jump into his bed on the first few dates, try "The three dating rule" or even try knowing each other much more better before you jump into the bedroom. Also try not to always opt for the dinner date because it could lead to being a late dinner and result in a sex routine. Try opting for couply things like a walk in the park or just a morning coffee because that will never lead one thing to another. And if you discover that he doesn't want to meetup with you, then it might happen that he does not want to be seen in the public with you. Also try not to go back to his house on the first few dates because it might encourage him to have sex with you and it might result to a walk of shame if he decides not to call for another date. 
  So My Ladies, thats all i have for you today,See you all in my next writeup and don't forget to drop your opinions about this great article. Bye.

 

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