Safeguarding your relationship - Understanding the feelings of a woman

Women are creatures who can never be understood sometimes, they behave in such a way that you can never predict what they are going to do. But as a man, its always your duty towards safeguarding your relationship in any way you can.

As a man who is in control of your relationship, you will discover that you will always need your woman to be around you. Her duty in the relationship is not only to provide food and making fun always. A woman will always encourage good things in your relation and will make you always look hygienic. A woman will always expose you to different forms of happiness in your life.

But then, not all women are gifted with such moral values and violent impulses to give a man the things he desire, many women always give their man though time in their relationship life which is not always good in the love cycle.

This act which women always portray in giving their man hard times is very unpleasant and never acceptable by any man, but through those difficulties and hard times your woman gives you, you can be able to understand your woman's psychological habits and then, give yourself the best treatment to every situation in the relationship.

Why you should not react when your woman is giving your love life hard times.
Sometimes, you can never explain a woman's behaviour in the normal sense it is taken as because when you do that, you will get it the wrong way and can actually land you on the wrong side of the love cycle.

When your woman gives you hard and though times, or always acts in manners that upset your mind all the time, the best way to explain and view the situation is taking it as a "test".

One of a woman's major role in a relationship is to test her partner. And when you can understand why she is testing you, then you will find better ways for handling the problems she gives you and make a better relationship. Its one of her roles also in safeguarding your relationship.

Many times, you will observe a woman's behaviour when she is testing you out of her own insecurities and fear about the relationship. So because she want to ensure that she still have you at her side, you observe her putting up tests that will actually make you feel like she will never trust your love for her.

Your woman can come out boldly to ask you questions that you will arguably accept that they are reasonable. To her, what she is doing is perfectly the right thing for her to do when it comes to safeguarding the relationship.

So once your woman is up and asking you things that sound stupid to your ears and will even want to make you act so angrily, remember and try not to be angry and over react. Be calm first of all and then, reason and think on what she is saying and try to understand her key points in what she is doing. Okay now lets take a look at some things she can ask you.

She might ask you things like "do you really love me?", "Who is that girl i saw you standing with?", "why were you moving around with that lady?", "where were you last night when i was ringing you up and you were not answering my calls".

All those things are done out of her feelings of insecurity and you don't expect her to be happy about what is happening with you.
So once you can be able to understand and identify what those tests are for, you should device any means to ensure that you get those matters dealt with.

Women can be afraid of loosing out a relationship they are enjoying, but once you can give a woman reassurance about your efforts in safeguarding your relationship and understanding her actions, that will be enough to spice up her boldness in the relationship and give you a 100 grade trust in your love life together.

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What you should do when your girlfriend is having a crush on another guy

This is really a deciding situation because at this point in time, you find it hard figuring it out if she is ready to move on with you or her crush is taking over and replacing your place in her heart.

It is always troubling, uncomfortable and can make you angry when your girlfriend can't just tell that her crush that she is in a relationship. It makes you carry that burden of love inside you and makes you want to fix things to go the right way, well its time to talk some senses in to your head and her head too.

So what should I do when my girlfriend is having a huge crush on another guy?

The most alarming part of this situation is the fact that she don't want to tell her crush that she is in a relationship, and she even goes out to hang out with him not minding she is in a relationship, that's not fair at all, this will surely make any guy uncomfortable, heartbroken and love weakened. Why can't she just tell that guy she is already with another man? Or why can't she just stop hanging out with him?. Now is the time to act and compete your love for her.

Talk To Her About It.
You first need to talk to her about what she is doing, how it breaks you down and how it causes you discomfort. Though she have had feelings for him in the past, but you should let her know her place in your heart and how you see and take her. Let her see how dedicated you are to your relationship with her and how you would do everything possible to keep and secure her.

But you can only do this if you truly love, if there is true love between both of you, then you should be able to sit her down and talk about what is going on between both of you. Is the love still there or it is gradually fading away? You need to know everything going on in her heart so that you can know the next step to take.

Ask Her What She Really Want.
You should ask her about what it is that she actually want. Do she want to be with you or she want to start dating him? You deserve to know because you are the man and you control her heart, at this moment, you will be able to find out what she really wants. Ask her what's that potential quality in him that makes her want to always hang out with him, is he so special than you are and better than you are? You need to know.

You need to get her make a choice to who she really want, do she think he is of interest of getting into a relationship with her, or do she think he is as good as knows him before? You need to throw in those questions so that she can be sure of what she needs and not leading him on while she is causing her main man discomfort.

So when you do that, you get her to make a choice sooner, and if she gives you a straight answer to your question, then trust her, that's what she wants, but if she replies you with an answer which shows she is not ready to make a choice, like "I don't know", then its not a good time for you to continue that relationship. Let her be and let her complete her choice of who she really want. Once she gives you such an answer, you might also want to know if she is committed to your relationship. That leads you to the next step of what you should do.

Ask Her If She Is Committed To Your Relationship. When a woman is committed to a relationship, she does everything at her best to protect that relationship and the interest in the relationship. A girl who is committed to you will not rush into any guy who shows up interest on her and leaves you just to wonder about what is happening, giving you that kind of an expression that explains what the deal will be if she hangs out with that other guy, its pretty bad.

So you must learn and know if she is actually committed to the relationship, or she actually does not want the relationship to be exclusive any more. Well if that's what she want, and it causes you discomfort, and she already knows how you feel about it, then it's not a good time to stay in the relationship, you have to fight your way out despite the fact that you still love her, you know what it means to her? It means she does not care about you anymore, how you feel, and the way you will react, all does not matter to her anymore and you don't have any more value to her.

That's her own meaning for the relationship between both of you if she says she is not dedicated to the relationship, so you should just get out of the relationship because both of you can't be together forever if one of you still have a leg and an eye outside the relationship for another person.

Show Her How Much You Love Her
Now at this moment when you know it's complicated, and you feel like she is actually going for the other guy, if she truly loves you and you truly love her, then you have the right to stop her from going to any other guy. But you can't say what she really want now because it's known to you that she has been a side chick to another guy. This can be the time for you to dive into some competitions for your love and the girl you love, show her why you are better with her and why she is better with you, and know what interests her in the other guy which you have seen her hanging around with.

After you know you have showed her much love, then the next thing for you to do is to let her make her decisions by herself.

Let Her Alone To Decide
Sometimes, you have to let her be when it's hard for her to talk or when she don't want to decide. Letting her alone will let her make decisions which seems right to her. And you don't need to talk some senses into her at most cases because she might feel that you are attacking her and giving her that guilty conscience which will make her to even do more of what pleases her. But the moment you just let her be, then all the decisions is her's to make.

If she finally comes back to you and profess that you are the one she choose, then you have won it not because you tried to talk some sense into her, but because of her true feelings for you.

She Is A Cheater
If she probably don't want to make any decisions, then she is a cheater, and you deserve better than that. Since when did women start using men as air bags accustomed for some wounds? You are not a material she can use and throw away, and she actually does not love you, she just want to use you as an option, and in every relationship built on love, there is no IF condition attached to it. So you just need to walk out of her.

Your relationship should not suffer or even end just because she goes out to meet another guy outside the relationship, but if your relationship starts shaking because of that, then she is not meant for you and the best thing you can do to help yourself is to walk out of the relationship, move on and find another woman who would probably love, respect and show you a lot of commitment in your new relationship.

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How to overcome shyness when talking to a new girl you just meet

Most times, I see a lot of guys being unable to speak out to a girl they newly meet, and it has been always hard for them breaking the ice with a new girl.

Most times, its this nervous feeling about where to start the talking and all these and that, and also maybe you think she is above your standards and so, she might not cooperate. It does not really matter who you are talking to, but what matters most is your ability to openly express your self and make friends with such girl without irritating her.

For example, you don't just see a girl walking down the road and heading somewhere else, then you just walk up to her, interrupted her walk and then try making a conversation at that spot, its really irritating for some girls. And also you as a shy guy, I don't really think you can do that, and if you try doing it, it will be really irritating because you can't freely express yourself, rather she will think you are up to her for another thing, like a dating matter or something of that sort.

With these little tips on How To Overcome Shyness When Talking To A New Girl You Just Meet , I hope you will not find any more problem communicating to a new girl.

1) Meet Her At The Right Spot.
You don't just meet a girl at any spot and start talking, the kind of place you meet a girl will show if you can talk to her at that moment or not. So you must find a suitable place where you know you will not feel shy talking to her. If you know a particular place where she like turning up to every time, or a place she always go to make herself happy. You can meet her at any of those places and talk to her, I believe you will not feel shy talking to her at any of these points because it is always fun, don't try meeting her at a crowded joint or a joint where all eyes are just on you as soon as you want to talk to the lady, it will make you to feel more shy.

Remember Their Names.
Maybe You have already meet her somewhere and you know her name, but you have not meet officially, now is the time to make use of that advantage and break the ice, try remembering their names before you try to start talking, you will not feel that shy as to where to even start because by calling out her name, she already know you meet her before and starting a new conversation will not be any thing so hard.

Introduce Yourself .
Now This is a simple part, after you try remembering her name, you just start something small like introducing yourself and trying to know more about her, make sure you are at ease while doing such. But if you can't remember her name, then you can make her feel at ease before much talking by being humorous, find a better way of asking her for her name without making her feel upset. For example, "oh,, hardly remember your name, don't be upset if I ask you again". Now this is gentle and humorous and will not make her feel any discomfort, rather it will put her at ease.

Listen More Than You Talk .
This is another good way of overcoming shyness while speaking to a woman either new or a friend. Don't be the one trying hard to do all the talking because you will feel so nervous at a certain point and you get that feeling like your bones are going to break at that moment. So you can try to avoid this by giving her questions that requires much expansion and explanation, don't ask her questions that will be replied with a Yes or No answer. When you try hard to do the whole talking, she can easily get irritated with your presence because you are not giving her a single opportunity to fully engage in the conversation. But giving her opportunity to talk will tell her that you are more interested in hearing her talk back to you and that you are interested in knowing her more.

Be Pleasant And Cordial .
Always be relaxed and have that pleasant looks that will make the lady want to talk more, be positive while you are talking to her and never try pissing her off with negative answers. Give her affirmative and positive signs to interesting speeches an let her know you are interested in what she is saying. Now you should also remember to smile, smile where you need to smile and don't do it too much, it might get her annoyed because she might miss the concept to why you are smiling at her.

At times, you also find a situation where the lady is also nervous and shy to talk to you, and you to you can't talk either, now when you find yourself in such situations, you must act well, be the ice breaker and make the first move with all confidence you got in you. Starting with lines like What is your name, Where did you come from, Where do you stay, how interesting did you find this place, etc. Now this is a good starter, and you must make her want to return the favour by also asking about you too. Now you should also tell her little things about you but not much. Don't tell her deep things about you at such early stages. The main aim is just to simply know each other and when that aim have been achieved, you get relieved because talking to he now will be a lot more easier.

Also some people who feel nervous while wanting to talk is because they are too quick to judging themselves, they think that if they approach the lady, she is going to judge them and so, they refuse to talk. Now you must be surprised that after thinking of something like that, what if they approach her, talk to her, and finally nothing happens?

So you must just let your self be and do what you have to do, it is because of the judgment you gave yourself that you can't make a move to speak to a lady, but once you let yourself be and give everything into the hands of karma, I tell you that you will feel a lot more better after approaching that lady and speaking to her.

For some people, this shyness is just a habit, and it is true in some people. If you are such type of a person, you must practice talking to other people any way, and in whatever way, do it regularly and try not to be distracted by other factors around you. With time you will be perfect in speaking up to any lady you meet without feeling nervous or any thing of such form.

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Read the signs that tells a woman likes you.

Its now common in every community to see a lady developing interest in another guy and acting in such ways as to notify him of that feeling and get him to pick up the chance to be with her.

Many girls today show more interest in men whom they seem to like and they don't wait for the men to just come and play along with them.
They certainly know that if they like a particular man, then they must act and behave in some manners that will let the guy know that they are having a crush on them so that the man will decide to play along.

These signs are so common in many women and few of them are being exhibited by certain women who do it in a different way.
So as a man, if you find it hard figuring out if that lady likes you and is particularly crushing on you, these are some habits they enjoy to portray.

She tries to talk to you for the first time.
If the woman is a stranger to you or someone you have been seeing but have not officially meet, then her first aim is to try talk to you and know you personally.

So she finds any avenue and possible chances to have a word with you and hear you talk back at her.
This will lead both of you into talking and knowing more about each other.
If she is that shy type, you might just see a female friend of yours introducing her to you.

That's her first trick into knowing you and once she does that, it will now be easier for her to meet you at any point and say hi.
But if you have already known her officially, then just skip this one and read the next sign we got for you.

She always smile at you without limits
This one is probably a good sign to know that a lady is interested in you. But you must watch it, not every lady that smiles at you is also interested in dating you.
So you should find out, does she also smiles a lot with other men? Then its habitual and not that she likes you.
But if she only smiles at you, then it specially means that she want you to see her good sides and pick up a hint at her behaviour.

Also when she smiles, look at her and see her reaction, if she keeps smiling and even looking into your eyes, then she is interested in you.
Some ladies will smile at you, but will not look at you while doing so, but if she does the both at the same time, then be sure there is something to it.

But don't move too fast, wait and check on other factors that indicate she likes you, because a smile might not be convincing and assuring, she might not do it every time and that will frustrate you. So you must keep watching, read more of them below.

She makes eye contact with you every time.
Now this is a special one and shows you are already going in because not every woman does this with every man.

She wouldn't  just stop looking at you, when you look at her, she looks at you but then, drops her head down, and when she raises her head, she looks straight into your face.
At this point, be sure that something is already going on inside her heart and she can not just help it.
At this level, all she wants is to start talking to you when she has the slightest chance to do that.

But if you are already friends and she start showing these sign, it is a lot more easier to guess that she is now crushing on you.
You know a woman who is just a friend can not do that all the time, and if you see that she starts to do that every time you are together or when she sees you, then you are already her subject matter.

She just laughs at everything you say.
Especially your jokes, she just finds a reason to laugh at them, even the ones that are not funny enough to get her laugh. And she does this just because she want to make you feel that she is interested in anything you say and specially prevent boredom from setting in.

When she does that, its really fun and gives you more ideas to chat on without getting out of topics. But just know that her main aim here is to get you thinking that "wow!! This lady just likes me, and i like her too because she is fun to be with, can you imagine? She just laughs at everything i say, it seems she is up to something else. Hmm????". And when ever she laughs at your jokes, even the lame ones, you hear her say things like "jez!! You are so funny, cant stop laughing" .

You see when a lady does things like that, then am sure the first point of view is that she is loving up, so don't hesitate, check on the other signs before jumping into conclusion.

She suddenly starts been around your vicinity.
Now what she want is to always see you and talk to you, if she is someone new to you, she will try to know where you live so that she can always visit the area where you live.

When a woman does this, it will even make you feel more attracted.
If the woman is someone you are already friends with, then you see her making excuses and reasons for coming to your apartment or visiting your family house always.
All these things are sudden, she have not been doing them, then you just see her starting to do them, that indicates she is on to you.

She always find a means to touch you.
This can be done anyhow by any lady, but when a lady loves you, she does that in a special way that makes you feel more attracted to her.

For example, a lady might touch you anyway and anyhow when she want to take something from your hands forcefully, or when both of you are playing around.
But if that lady likes you, you see her touching you and making body contact with you in special forms.
For example, cleaning lint off your clothing, holding your hands while crossing the road, coming close to you and holding you tight when she gets afraid or frightened, etc.

Now that clearly shows she is interested in you, you don't have to doubt this one.

She calls and text you almost all the time.
A woman who is not too anxious and nervous to get you might not do this every time because she knows you might get bored and tired of it. So you see her doing things like: calling you every morning when she wake up,then every evening when she is back from work, and texting you every night before she goes to bed.

But when the lady is too nervous, she just calls you every time which will get you tired sometimes, but you already know what she is up to, so play along.

If the lady is already a friend of yours, then you see her increase the number of times she call you and also calling you at moments when lovers are due to call each other(morning and night hours).

She always tell you what she feels.
When you are just friends with a lady, she don't just tell you her problems and emotional feelings. But when something is starting to get cooked up inside her heart, she starts doing all those things without thinking a second time.

So when you see her telling you how she felt when she woke up in the morning, what she dreamt about, how the day's work went, how she almost had an accident during the day, etc. So when she does all those things, it shows that she is ready to share her life with you and so, you actually knows she is already loving you.

Also you find out that she tells you all her plans and things she will want to do over the weekend, also you see her creating empty spaces where you can fit and show interest in feeling. When she want you to come over to meet her, you see her make statements like "Damn!!! Am spending the weekend at home alone, how i wish i had someone to stay".

Statements like that makes you the favourite to that condition, am sure you will not think twice before saying yes to her.

So those are the little tips we have for you towards knowing when a lady is starting to like and love you. if you have more to contribute to this article, then kindly use the comment box to drop it.
Catch us on our other interesting articles.
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Relationship guides: What A Woman Expect/Want From A Man In A Relationship

Women in general are not equal and the same creatures, they are different people with different beliefs, different attitudes and expectations in life, and that is why you might find it hard knowing what a woman expects from you as a man in every relationship.

But expectation being used here means that there are different expectations from one woman to the other, making it to be an abstract situation. But a real man will want to find out what is best and good for a particular woman he likes and so, he always learn to value things and beliefs that he think will make him to prosper in his quest towards his goals.
Everyone grows, both the men and the women, and as they grow, the things they want and their expectations changes time after time and from one growth stage to another.

So those expectations are always dynamic, changing from time to time, but there are few things that a woman will always expect from you as a man despite the fact that she is growing and changes in expectations can occur.

You might want to be with a woman who many men have tried to get but failed, so what do you think makes them fail and how do you prevent yourself from falling into that same category of people, what must you learn in other not to be rejected? And what do you think will be her expectations? Here are some things which a woman will expect from you as a man.

* Hygienic
No woman will ever want to be with a man who is not hygienic or a man who can't take good care of himself. when you don't always look smart and good when out of home, you should not expect women to want to be with you, so a woman wants you to always be smart, look good and be hygienic.

* Manners
A man without manners is a man without respect and good reputation. When you don't talk nice to other people and always act selfish, when you can't control yourself whenever you are among women, and when you act with anxiety all over you, no woman will like that. So always maintain etiquette in every social context and environment.

* Don't Be Arrogant
When you always act arrogant and ready to fight and pick up challenges every time, no woman will like it. Don't talk arrogantly or do things out of control. Women like men who are vulnerable at some points and powerful at some points too.

* Don't Be A Smoker
This is self explanatory, don't smoke because there is no point in smoking, it only makes you an addict with a bad mouth odour.

* An Educated Man
You don't expect that pretty intelligent girl to end up with someone who does not know how to read and speak well. So you should get a good education before you try approaching a lady, unless if you want to go for one of those village champions who are not literates.
* Visits The Gym Regularly
Visiting the gym makes you physically fit for any kind of woman, and women always like it if their guy goes to the gym.

* A woman will like to be with a man who does not believe that money is everything in life, a woman needs a man who believes that money is not always an end, but a means to life too.

* You Can Spend For Her
A woman will always expect you to do this even without telling you to do that. Women always like gifts and surprises, so when you do things for her, she will always love them. Always wake sure you care for her needs and see that you meet them where you can.

* Not A Drug Addict
Women generally dislikes men who are drug addicts and always consuming drugs.

After knowing that those qualities are a necessity, you must also imbibe some moral qualities which always matters a lot when it comes to things women want from men. Some of these things are.

* Attention
A woman like a man who always give her attention and listen to her at most times. Also you must give attention to things that matters in your relationship.

* Appreciation
A woman expects you to appreciate her for every excellent work done and every good thing done. When you show appreciation to a woman, she will feel happy and probably try to do more.

* Honesty
When you are been honest with any woman, she will learn to respect you and love you in no time, so if you really want a woman to like you, you must learn to be honest in every thing that has to do with her. Don't lie or try covering up things that she supposed to be informed about.

* Understanding
You should always learn every step a woman takes for better understanding to her way of life. Having understanding of a woman's way of living will ease you from making simple mistakes that limits your opportunity of getting her more attracted to you as a man. Learn the things that appeals to her and things that are termed deal breakers to her.

* Be Patient
When you are not patient, you miss every opportunity in this life, so also is it when it comes to you being together with a woman, when you don't learn to be patient and give time for things to happen and change overtime, you will miss your track towards being the better man to any woman. Don't be in a hurry to get what you want from a woman, so always learn to be patient.

* The last of all is that you should be kind, always show concern and make sure you are in position to help in needy areas of her life, am sure she will always have you in her mind and that thought that you are a better man will be in her heart.
with these relationship guides, am sure you will have a better love life experience.

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Be The Man: What You Must Do To Maintain Control In Your Relationship

I come across a lot of people asking a question like "How can I be the man in my relationship" and I use to wonder what they mean by that. Then with time, I discovered many things about this question will help you also to maintain that role of leadership and control in every relationship you go into.

This is what many people have always want to get answers to, but you see, originally, when you are into a relationship as a man, then there you go, you are already the man in your relationship, but for you to continue being the man in that relationship, there are certain things you must do so that your girlfriend or your wife do not turn into the one controlling you and the relationship.

Generally, when you can't make your own decisions final in a relationship, then you are not in control, if you does any thing she asks you to do, then you are not in control, and if you don't give straight forward answers to certain situations, you might end up loosing control and becoming the dog in your relationship.

Okay now, so how can I be the man in my relationship. When you try to always be loving, very sweet and attentive to your wife or girlfriend, you will end up selling yourself into her own hands and that will utterly destroy your relationship. so always be who you are, maintain your real self as you go into any relationship and not turning yourself into a respectful, attentive and obedient house dog.

Here are Things You Must Do To Maintain Control In Your Relationship.

1) Learn To Say No!
For a long period of time, you have been doing everything she asked you to do, going everywhere she wants you to go, eating anything she wants you to eat. And you are being obedient because you don't want to miss any opportunity to make her happy. You just do things to ensure you please her even if it will cost you your whole money and time. Hell no! That's so wrong of you, that's why she treats you like a dog in your relationship. And you must stop it before it destroys your relationship. And if you are not doing it, then don't try doing it just because you feel like doing all those things will make her happy.

Start Saying "No!!" to her, start saying no from every small thing to the biggest, but make sure you choose the areas of application carefully. You don't expect yourself to say No to having $ex with her because you want to be in control (lol), that's not right, it's rather another thing else(showing displeasure). So you must learn the places and points in time to say No.

If your wife or girlfriend wants you to buy her something which you know you can't afford, then say No to her. Or if she want to cook a dinner you hated so much insisting that you must take it, say No to her. Now think of this, can you just imagine your wife or girlfriend ordering you to get her the TV remote? Say No immediately and insist that she should take it her self, unless if the situation warrants, for example when she is Pregnant as your wife, you can help her do that, but for those of us still with our girlfriend, this is a hot one for you. Also imagine your girlfriend telling you to "Get dressed, we are going to my mom's house". Is that really necessary? You must learn to say no to these pivotal things which can turn you into a dick head in your relationship.

2) Create and Form Your Own Opinions.
This one is a natural step and it occurs to nature. You must know that not every situation in a relationship can be handled with a simple "No", Questions like " What do you think we should take for dinner", it will not make any sense if you just shout No to questions like this, it rather sounds stupid. But also at the same time, avoid giving answers which will turn you into a slave to whosoever that received the answer to the question. For example, answers like "well it's up to you" will actually tell her to do prepare whatever she likes which you must accept because that was the option you gave her. Such phrases will get her to be in control of your actions and your life too

So in other to make sure you maintain control in situations like this, you must learn to form your own opinions which favours both of you and an opinion which you think is the best. Don't be in a hurry to give out a reply, be relaxed and calm, don't just rush. Then think about what is been asked, and come out with certain answer which you know will benefit the both of you. When you are sure you have completed the above steps, then you are ready to move on.

3) Be The Leader.
This one here does not mean you should dominate her and get her to do things your own way. You must be cooperative in an effective and efficient way, and make sure you show her signs of equality between the both of you. As the leader, you have to make sure you take responsibility of everything both good and bad.

4) Protect Her
This does not mean that you should confront anyone who tries to harm her physically or tackle anything that will harm her physically. You should be able to handle and take care of arising problems, or take care of things before they become bigger problems. Don't expect your wife or girlfriend to handle things her own way because she might not be able to take care of some things that may arise, so you must be there to always protect those things from her and also avoid those problems from coming in.

5) Be The Provider
You should make sure that you provide for her needs, now not only her financial needs, but also provide emotionally. When you allow your shortcomings to be carried along with the loads of her emotional burdens. Make sure you get things done, and not allowing her to do those things. When you allow her to do things, she will take responsibility of those things, then use that opportunity to pickup your slack and even act as your mother.

6) Deliver Everything but Don't Promise Anything
Do not tell your wife or girlfriend of your upcoming plans which you know will change things. You can inform her about things that also concerns her and which you think she should know. But you should not let her know that you are making changes in your life. When you let her know when maybe you want to start something new which will bring progress to your life, she will probably increase her demands and her standards which you might find hard to fulfil but nevertheless, you will always want to get those things for her. This will tie you down to her and cause you more setback.

Changes like this must be done without telling a single soul, not even your wife, or your girlfriend, it must be discretely done. And when you do it this way, you gradually start achieving your goals, and she will gradually notice your progress. This will get her to respect you more, love you more. And she will appreciate you wholeheartedly which earns you her trust.
When you keep things discrete until done, other people will notice it when you start achieving your new goals.

You should create more confidence in your relationship and limit that which you have in other aspects of your life. This will turn you into the man other people want to be like. So for you to become a better person, you must be the "man" in your relationship.

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Amazing!! See What Ladies Want From You On a First Date

I have seen a lot of guys making big and silly mistakes on a first date with a lady whom they like or when they are on an outing with their new catch.
One of the biggest thing that can kill your morale on a first date is over excitement.
So even if that lady is proving a hard to get syndrome or not, these little tips will help boast your chances of winning a woman's heart while on a date.

So these are What ladies want from you on a first date .

Note: Whenever am writing articles about finding love on a first date, I always emphasise on the type of personality you have, if you don't have a good personality, a lady will never come to even think of loving you even if you are handsome or whatever. So having a good personality sets you on the right part to practice these below tips.

1) Dress Smart And Cute.
You should ensure a proper dress code which will give that lady a feeling that you are smart and even cute, but then do not get over-dressed or even go to the extent of lending a cloth because you want to entice her and get her to like you more, don't do that.

2) Avoid a Bad Body Smell/Odour:-
When you apply a harsh body spray, or perfume, it will cause her great discomfort which is also a big turn off point because she will want to device an excuse to leave and find herself better comfort.

Also if you Actually Know you have a bad body smell, then try using a body spray that is not so harsh and which she can find comfortable so that you will not cause discomfort to her mood during conversation.

3) Never Talk About Your Past Relationship.
Many girls hate it when you talk about your past relationship while in conversation. And also some ladies will intentionally ask you about your past relationship so that they can know what will be your attitude towards them and your reaction even if they left you.

Well as a smart guy, it is wiser and better never to speak anything about your past relationship, you better say non of it but rather, say more about her and her positive attitude and also make her your priority at that moment. Say things that will impress her and make her have a feeling of belonging and also make her feel cared for.

4) Don't Talk About Your Family Status.
Well this one is common among the less matured guys out there, who like bringing in their family status, wealth e.t.c while discussing with a lady. This will reduce and lower your chances of getting her to like you and you know what that means, a big failure.

5) Avoid Taking Her To Un-conducive Places.
Places like the beer parlour is not conducive while on a date, she will not like it, also an unconducive eatery joint is not good on a date, a noisy environment will limit your conversation because both of you will definitely loose the focus and concentration you should have.

6) Don't Be Late On a Date.
Avoid being late when she request for an outing or when you have already made your plans and have a time set, taking her out to a place very late will cause murmuring and panicking.

7) Appreciate Her.
Always appreciate her for giving you her precious time and even creating out time just to spend the day or even the week with you even if things did not go well as you expected and wanted.

8) Send Her Lovely Messages.
The best time to send a lady lovely text is during the early morning hours and midnight hours. So at these periods in time, always send her lovely messages which suits the time and her mood. If she is sick, send her messages wishing her a quick recovery, if she is sad, send her messages that will put a smile on her face, when she is discouraged and stranded, send her messages that will uplift her and make her gain confidence in her self, if she is feeling like she is a no body, send her messages that will make her see and gain back her self worth.

Well with all these tips I have articulated, I see no reason why she would not want to be with you.

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7 Extra Ideas On How To Make A Lady Fall In Love With You

There is no need to say much of introduction to this topic because it have been discussed in our previous articles, so these are additional update which are simple and easy to apply if you want to get any girl to like you and fall in love with you. Now let's go there.
{ Also On Bestlovegoodies, Read: How to get a girl to like and love you }

Getting a girl to like you is easy, but you have to do additional and extra works so that she will fall in love with you, so with these tips, you can get a girl to like you and also fall in love with you.

1. Buy Her Gifts.
No matter the class and standard of a girl, it will be hard for her to decline gifts from you. It is one of the main characteristics of ladies, they like you to buy them gifts and surprises, so if you have been eyeing a lady and you want her to be your side chick, then this will work things out as you surprise her with a gift you know she will love to have.

2. Tell Her Some Secrets About You.
Telling a girl something that is supposed to be a secret about you will make her feel like she knows a part of you that no one else knows.

But avoid telling her your deep and inner secrets because if problems later sets in, and both of you don't work things out any more, she might use them against you.
So just tell her something that will make her feel that she knows something others don't know about you.

3. Take Her Out Somewhere.
Make your stay with her worthwhile and filled with good memories by taking her out to Cinema's to watch movies, clubs to dance and have fun, concerts to see exciting shows and even to the restaurant for launch.
Also you should be helpful and in control while practising any of the above mentioned, make her feel secured, comfortable and cared for.

4. Excite Her With Pleasure.
Exciting her will make her to want you for something more special.
Touch her where you find it necessary and make her feel the excitement in your touch. If you do this the proper way, she might even have the feeling and pleasure of spending a night with you and have you know what that means, much more fun.

5. Motivate Her.
In everything you do with her, always come up with motivating and encouraging chat up lines, but don't try to stress her out because she will end up feeling that your personality is not for potential dates, so she might end up dumping you in the friends zone where you will not be able to express your feelings anymore.

6. Be Generous With Compliments.
Make her feel like she is the best woman out of the millions in the world. Every girl likes to be in the spot light and outstanding.
Compliment her with words that will give her an impression that you are special and interested in her looks.

7. As additional bonus, try using words that will send your intentions and feelings across to her but without making her feel uncomfortable. For example, words like "I know we are not dating but I get jealous when.....". You see this line will surely send a cool chill down her spine and get her to think more about you, and this will make her to see your love for her. She might end up falling for you.

So now, after practising all these tips and ideas listed above, you can go ahead to let her know your mind and feelings for her, and if she bounce you out and declines you that moment, then you should just move on and don't talk to her about your strong feelings any more.

So that's all for now, feel free to read more of our articles and share with your friends too. Also don't forget to say something about this article.

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7 Things You Should Never Do To Impress A Lady

Am not against the fact that a guy should do anything possible to impress a lady who is either your friend or your girlfriend.
Impressing a lady is quite good and it is a goal every guy wishes to achieve, but the truth is that most times, these actions come back to haunt us and at the end, everything turns out to be a regret. So as you press on to your goals of impressing a lady, here are 6 red flags to avoid in order to avoid regrets.

Here are the list of the things a guy should not do to impress a lady.
1. Lying
Now lying here does not mean telling her little lies that will not be a to you in the future, am talking about bragging and showing off to a lady about what you are not.
You know your dad is not working in a big company, or he is not that rich as you wanted, but you went ahead to lie to a lady that your father owns a big company, or your father is Dangote's brother. You also know that you don't work in a place that earns you big money but you went ahead to lie to her that you work in shell company, etc.

These types of lies will only make her desires and expectations from you high and it will be a problem to you because you will always try to live up to her expectations. Don't be surprised the day she will find out that you lied to her about your personality and then, the rest will be a story.
2. Taking Too Much Alcohol.
Most guys are guilty of this act and they sometimes do it when trying to woo a lady or when taking her to bed.
This is totally wrong in many ways because it will damage your health and also, you will temporarily loose your mentality at that moment if you took too much of it.

Also this act will not guarantee you of wooing her or performing in bed successfully. It will show the lady that you lack confidence and self esteem. So please be yourself and also avoid this act while trying to impress a girl.

3. Spending Unnecessarily.
You don't have to be buying anything for her anyhow. And also you don't have to be buying stuffs anyhow in order to look rich and fly. I don't see the reason why you should spend anyhow just to impress a lady because she will only fall for your money and spend them too, and by the time that you realize that your spending is unnecessary, it might be already late and then, regrets set in.

4. Backbiting Your Fellow Man
Maybe you found out that there is another man coming after that girl you are trying to impress or even your girlfriend, it is a wrong idea to say something bad about him in any way because he or she is trying to cause you discomfort. Tale bearing and fighting with another man because of one single lady is not good and not worth it.

If that girl discover that both of you are having a heated fight or argument, or she finds out that you are just a tale bearer because of another guy, you might loose the game to another man, so be careful.

5. Hiding Your Personality.
. There is no need to be a bad guy who you know you are not. If you are not a confident guy, don't force yourself into acting like someone who is confident and inside you, you know you are that shy type.
There are girls out there who still value the good guys, so be that good guy and don't turn bad because you want to impress a lady. People who know you will even know that you are just acting up and that will not be too good.

6. Giving Up Your Values And Belief.
If you are a committed Christian or Muslim who is devoted to your religious activities and ways of living, then do not try to drop your religious values just because you want to impress a lady.
You know that your religion is against physical intimacy before marriage, but just because she asked you for s*x, you now gave up your religious norms and went the wrong way.

When everything seems to go wrong, your faith in your religion is what will keep you going and when you have already given up that faith, then you have lost everything and you will be left with no option than to start your life all over again.

7. Abandon Your Friends.
Do not abandon your loved ones and friends when you are into a lady. Don't act like they don't matter to you anymore because that girl now gives you everything and makes you happy.

when everything seems going down and problems start setting in, its your friends who are going to be there to lift you up and give you hope for better things ahead. But when you abandon and forget about them just because of a lady, and at the end, she left and you now remember your friends and try to run back to them, you will only be a laughing stock to them and they will not accept you back with helpful hands.

So, no matter what you do while trying to impress a girl, avoid all the red flags listed above and you will be good to continue in your quest.

These tips here are just few among the list of the things you should not do to impress a girl, so keep visiting our website and get updated with new tips on the above subject matter.

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How to get a girl to like and love you

Understanding the mind of a girl and knowing the way she think is one of the great steps towards getting a girl to like you in no time

Without laying the right foundation for that girl to like you, then all your efforts towards getting her to like you will never make any difference. The process is complicated because not all girls are same, every girl have her likes and her dislikes. So without understanding what that girl wants in a guy, you can never get her to like you even after all your impressions and after wooing her. There is one thing which is the most important of all if you want a girl to like you, thats your personality. Without having a great personality, that girl can never like you. 

The reason is because its only your personality, its the kind of person you are and who you are that matters when trying to get a girl to like you. So these steps below will help you to improve your personality and become just the best you can be and you will see how irresistable you will be to any girl. 

Remember, the only thing that can draw all girls to you is a great personality. 

1. Be The Alpha Male 

By being the alpha male, we are not saying you should be the leading goat in your group or community. Dont try to be the godfather of your group, but also, you should try not to be taken for granted by your group friends or people around your community. Dont be an attention seeker among your friends but rather, be the one to command your very friends and make them to respect you. Be that type of a guy who people will respect and appreciate your friendship. 

2. Respect Yourself.

In this aspect, you have to think from other people's point of view about you, though you might see yourself as a great guy. Do you try to cling and hang out with people anywhere whether they invited you or not? Do your friends leave you out of their plans and make you feel lonely? Do they make plans without seeking for your opinion and forget to invite you to parties? Then just forget about those friends because you don't belong to their group and they really dont respect you. You just have to find some new friends who will respect you because you end up loosing respect for yourself when you are not respected by your friends and no girl would like to be with a guy who have no respect and self esteem for himself. 

  3. Dont be idle.

Do you sit idle and know nothin good to do? Do you shuffle your feet and play with your hair, use your hand to write on the ground? Or do you just site back and relax your mind? I will advice you not to be idle, because they are a sign of weakness and self-concious behaviour. Many women dont like guys who are idle and fidgets every time. If you are just owkay and comfortable with yourself, sitting calm and composing yourself well is a thing you should do. Being idle and fidgetting can distract a girl's attention and she might not like it. 

  4. Speak With a Calm Voice. 

 Some guys will just whin and grumble all times, thats so annoying. Always try and calm your voice while talking. Even when you are unhappy or angry, always speak with a calm and low voice, and also be composed. Dont speak with a highly intonated voice, but learn to speak with a low intonated voice that will please others and then, you will see how the girls will love to talk to you. A girl would not like to talk with a guy who nags at all time. 

  5. Be A Great Conversationist And Be In Command.

For the first time you meet a girl, talk about what she likes and things that are of interest to her, so just think from her own point of view and talk about those things you think she will like, and also try and watch how she respond to them, if you see that she is not interested, just drop the topic and pick another one. Talking about movies and football might not interest a girl and she would not like to talk about them. So you should remember that not every girl shares same interest like you. Be updated about events and happenings that can interest her so that you can talk about them. Also when you are out on a date, you have to be helpful and in command. If she mistakenly drops her pause on the ground or her fork drops to the ground while having launch or dinner, don't sit there and be wondering what to do, but kindly ask the waiter for another fork or pick up her pause without delay. Make her feel as if she don't have anything to worry about and let her feel safe with you. You need to learn to be in command if you want to be respected and have a great personality. 

  6. Be A Happy Guy And Not Panicking.

When something goes wrong, a lot of guys lose their nerve and as a result, they behave in a manner that will irritate everyone around them. Don't whine and chew your nails just because your date did not turn up early or keep looking at your watch just because you are late on a date or keep chewing your lips because you have nothing to talk about on a date. Lastly, be happy because girls love happy guys, when you are happy, it shows and the world smiles with you too and it will also attract girls to be with you. You may have numerous problems in your day to day life, but try to smile and be happy at all times. Even if you like thinking about how life have been unfair to you, don't be fustrated at all times. You just have to look at all your problems of this life as little obstacles you must overcome to get a happier life in the future. I assure you that every girl will want to be with you when you are optimistic and enjoy your life. So do not forget that, a good personality is the biggest factor in getting a girl to like you.

I think i have said much, so over to you dear fans on starboyvilla. We are trying to get you unique contents and interesting tips to promote your love life to the next level. What are your thoughts over these tips? Also tell us if you found them helpful and useful. You can also share more light on this article by using the comments form below.

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