10 Ways To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.

A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are. The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them. The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent.

Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc. Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place? Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences. If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase, the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential:

Often times men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts. Don’t a$$ume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:

While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love. The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

– Humility:

The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort. They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.

– Kindness:

The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales a$$ociates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money? How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?

– Responsibility:

A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character. You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.

- Happiness:

A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have. They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The Emotional Needs of Your Partner:

Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.

To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs: Attention, Affection, & Appreciation. To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs: Respect, Rea$$urance, & Relief. It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive. When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his $exual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:

In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately pa$$ionate about? Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this pa$$ion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”

The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.

Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital $exual/Physical Activity:

Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why Allah has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.

Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them. Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or $exual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:

There are a number of questions that you must answer YES to:

1, Do I respect and admire this person?

2. What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?

3. Do I trust this person?

4. Can I rely on them? Do I trust their judgment? Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?

5. Do I feel Safe? Do I feel emotionally safe with this person? Can I be vulnerable? Can I be myself? Can I be open? Can I express myself?

6. Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?

If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety:

Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship. Look for the following things:

– Controlling behavior:

This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time. Know the difference between suggestions and demands. Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

– Anger issues:

This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc. You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment. Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds. If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away. Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

8.) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:

Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset. Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?” It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them.

This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team. When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team. Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds. How do they handle it? Are they defensive? Do they attack? Do they withdraw? Do they get annoyed? Do they blame you? Do they ignore it? Do they hide or rationalize it? Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility:

It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married. People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.

If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage. Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner:

Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.

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6 Things Your Partner Wishes You Would Do More

Just like women, there are also a few things men need from their partner in a relationship, to make them feel appreciated and loved.

Some are listed below;

1. Respect him: A man is more likely to be satisfied in his relationship if he feels like he is respected by his woman. He wants to believe she considers him someone of honour and someone she is proud to call hers. Remind him that you respect him and show him that, through your attitude towards him.

2. Admire him: While women want to be reminded that they are beautiful, a man wants to feel admired by his partner. This is one of the reasons why a man would find himself being attracted to his subordinate as opposed to his superior. He wants someone who sees him as a man to be admired and be in awe of.

3. Give him space: Men and women process situations differently. While a woman is more likely to share her feelings to feel relief, most men would usually need some space to sort through their issues. When this happens, a man would need his partner to understand and give him his needed space without her making him feel bad about it.

4. Care for him: Men love to be cared for. They like to be nurtured through different ways. What this entails depends on the kind of relationship you share; it could be through cooking for him, massaging him, or doing all the other things he likes.

5. Be on his side: A man likes to feel like his partner is on his side, even during times she disagrees with him. He needs someone who os willing to take his side against any others and willing to understand his perspectives. He needs a relationship where he feels like his partner is his team-mate and not his opponent.

6. Support his decisions: Not only should a woman be on her man’s side, she should also be able to support the decisions he makes regarding the relationship and other aspect of his and his partner’s lives. She should be able understand the reasons behind decisions he makes and find ways to assist him in making his plans come to fruition.

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Hot! Top 10 Female Erogenous Zones She Wished You Know

The wish of every woman is to have a man who can touch her and make her go crazy. You can't do wrong by learning these most important tips to guide you on how to get her pleased.

 

Dr. Emily Morse provides insightful details on the most important places that get women in the mood anytime. You can't go wrong when you take care to tenderly play around these zones.

 

From her head all the way to her toes, here are 10 of the top erogenous zones to turn her on:

 

1. Her Head

Have you ever been on the receiving end of a scalp massage and felt those warm fuzzy tingles from head to toe? That’s because the skin on the top of your head is loaded with nerves that are extremely sensitive to the touch. Stimulating the scalp in the right way releases a flood of feel-good hormones like serotonin and oxytocin. It also increases blood flow, not just to her brain (the largest sex organ, remember?) but all over her body.

 

Next time you and your partner are kissing or cuddling, open your fingers wide and run them slowly through her hair, lightly stroking her scalp with your fingertips. Start behind her ears, at the base of the head, and circulate to the front, kind of like you’re lathering shampoo into your hair. Scalp massages are both soothing and sensual: They help release tension, and get her in the mood for other stimulating activities.

 

2. Her Ears

Although ears contain a ton of tiny nerve endings that send pleasurable responses to the brain, they receive very little attention in their day to day; this makes them an even hotter spot to stimulate during sexy time. Still, not everyone is comfortable with full tongue-to-ear penetration so the trick is to start off start off slowly and work your way up to more full ear contact.

 

Start by lightly tracing the C-shaped outline of your partner’s ear with your fingertips or with your tongue. Gently kiss her earlobe or hold it lightly in your mouth and massage it with your lips. If she seems okay with this, you can take it as a green light to start to nibble or suck on the lobe. Once you become more comfortable with the landscape, try combining all of these moves together and every once and while, work your tongue into the center of her ear for a surprising but pleasurable sensation.

 

Another great way to stimulate this spot is with sound! Never underestimate the power of a low moan or a sultry whisper sent directly (but softly) into her ear canal to drive her mad with desire.

3. Her Lips

Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a ton of nerve endings (100 times more than our fingertips) that are sensitive to even the slightest touch. Stimulating them releases floods of feel-good hormones to our brains that affect our emotions, as well as our lady parts. That’s why kissing is such an essential act for couples. It enhances intimacy and helps partners connect, plus it just feels good.

 

Lips can be best stimulated through kissing, obviously, but don’t be afraid to add a little variety to the way you’re pleasuring them! Your mouth should not be pressed up against hers like a dead fish. Use your lips, tongue and teeth to lick, nibble and caress her top and bottom lips. Every once in awhile, take a break from kissing to gently trace the outline of her lips with your thumb as you gaze into her eyes and catch your breath, before leaning in for more.

 

4. Her Neck

The neck is an area that is most sensitive to LIGHT sensations, and it’s also one of the sexiest places to touch, lick and kiss. Because the skin in this area is thin, it does not take a lot to make it feel good. Even the feeling of gentle breath on the nape of the neck can send shivers down a woman’s spine.

 

This is a great erogenous zone to start stimulating, even before your partner is fully aroused. Try sweeping her hair up and planting gentle, warm kisses along the side of her neck, close to the place you would touch to check a pulse. The skin here is especially thin, meaning every sensation will be magnified. Then you can kiss your way up to her earlobe for a gentle nibble or two before going in for the full lip lock.

 

5. Her Nipples

Although men have been paying very special attention to nipple for years, it’s remarkable how few men know how to pleasure them to their full potential. Research shows that nipple stimulation is processed in the same region of the brain as touch to the clitoris and vagina, making it a key part of the holy trinity of female pleasure.

 

While gently massaging your partner’s breast with one hand, use your fingers or tongue to lightly trace the area around the areola, before placing your open mouth on her nipple. Try using your lips to softly hold the nipple in your mouth and run your tongue back and forth over it; use your lips and tongue to massage the area, paying attention to her bodily cues to determine what she likes best.

 

Besides licking and sucking, you can also use a clitoral vibrator (Like the We-Vibe Touch) on a low setting to lightly massage her nipples, as they are very sensitive to vibrations.

 

6. Her Lower Back

Whether it’s at the end of a long day, or just another Tuesday, no woman can resist the power of a sensual back massage. The back is riddled with muscles and nerves that respond positively to touch, and the small of the back is especially sensitive.

 

Start off by gently rubbing and caressing her back, focusing most of your attention to the sacrum, which is the area of her lower back just above the tailbone that is rich with nerve endings. Then you can start massaging the area right above her buttocks, using your thumbs to knead either side of (but not directly over) her spine. This maneuver becomes especially hot with the addition of some luxurious massage oil, like the moisturizing oil from Emily & Tony aromatherapy massage candles.

 

This move will not only help to relax your partner, but also increase blood flow to her pelvic region and increase its sensitivity. Perfect for what comes next!

 

7. Her Abdomen

Many women hold a lot of insecurities about their midsection, but the fact is that the abdomen is an extremely erotic area that should not be ignored. A woman’s abdominal muscles are connected to her vagina, which is why some women can even orgasm simply from doing core exercises. When these muscles are lightly stimulated during foreplay, it causes them to contract in anticipation, which actually boosts arousal. Plus, that stretch of skin between the breasts and pubic mound is loaded with nerve endings, and it’s proximity to the genitals makes it that more more sensitive to the touch.

 

With your partner straddling you, start slowly stroking your fingers up and down her stomach or across her lower abdomen (between her bellybutton and pubic mound) which will stimulate blood flow to her nether regions. Allow your strokes to get lower and lower, closer to her nether regions, then bring them back up. The anticipation will build arousal until she is begging you for more direct stimulation.

 

8. Her Clitoris

The clitoris is the only part of the human body that’s sole purpose is to provide pleasure. With 8,000 nerve endings packed in such a small little space, you’ve gotta respect that ratio!

 

Every clitoris is a little different in terms of sensitivity; even light pressure from fingertips may be too much for some ladies, while others can take a lot more stimulation. Start off light: Use two fingertips to gently massage the clitoris. Try using a circular motion, or switch it up with some up and down movements as well. Experiment with different speeds and pressure to see what works best for the recipient. Remember, this is not a rub n’ tug kind of experience, so be gentle. And a little lubrication certainly doesn’t hurt.

 

You can also stimulate the clitoris with your mouth, or even bring a vibrator into the mix! The egg-shaped Mimi by Je Joue is the perfect sex toy for clitoral stimulation.

9. Her Inner Thighs

As anyone on the receiving end of a tickle fight will tell you, the inner thighs are ridiculously sensitive to all forms of touch. Along with the backs of her knees, the inner thighs are loaded with nerve endings and are often considered to be among the most sensitive parts of the body, so gentle touches and licks are most preferred.

 

Next time you’re planning on going down on your partner, take a detour and show a little love to her inner thighs. Use gentle finger strokes and light licks to stimulate the skin there, as well as soft breaths against the slightly moist spots where your tongue has just been. You can even massage her thighs while your perform oral on her, which will stimulate the blood-flow to her genitals, making everything your mouth is doing feel that much better.

 

10. Her Feet

You don’t have to have a fetish to be able to show your partner’s feet a little love. Many are surprised to find that a foot stimulation can actually be a real turn on! This is because there are pressure points in your feet that are believed to trigger sexual arousal, or at the very least, help her de-stress after a hard day.

 

Plop your partner’s feet into your lap and treat her (hopefully clean) tootsies to a sensual rub down. Start by massaging the pads of her feet, using your thumbs to rub upward in a circular motion. Repeat this kneading motion as you move slowly down the length of her foot, then move back up again all the way to the toes. Remember, this is not a strength competition, so ask her what type of pressure she prefers.

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Hot! 6 Foreplay Moves She Will Love So Much

The importance of foreplay for every woman is highlighted in this explosive piece by Jasmine Leigh. A good foreplay gives your woman a teasing she will treasure forever.

These six ideas are rarely done by men, which is sad because women love these moves so much. Remember: Whatever you choose to do, if you do it like you mean it, your honey will be giggling about you to her friends in no time. 

1. Making out on the Couch, High School-style

Dry humping and “kissathons” are fun because they take you right back to when you were a teenager and making out was exciting and adventurous. Couch make-out sessions take the pressure off a girl from having to take her clothes off and be ready for sex, allowing her to relax and enjoy the moment. Women like to be teased. Making out with her for hours and never moving into the bedroom will get her so turned on she’ll be wanting you more than ever before.

The rules: Use the skills you gained in high school. Dry humping is one of the greatest turn-ons known to mankind, because it is so suggestive without the actual skin-on-skin touching. It has an element of driving hard for what is inaccessible. The many layers of clothing provide the padding for the crazed writhing that ensues a good D.H. session. Playing with your clothes on could ordinarily be construed as lazy or immature, but not when you are doing it deliberately. Keeping clothes on can be very sexy.  

2. Spontaneous combustion

Risky, light touching in inappropriate places when sex cannot happen right then and there is very hot to women and it warms you both up nicely for later. For example, a warm hand up her top during a movie, or a hand down the side of her pants while you choose a song from the jukebox at a bar gets her feeling tingly in all the right places. 

The rules: Stop! Keep her wanting: Give her a taste of it then pull back and watch her rub up against you and begin to purr. The trick with this little baby is she knows you can’t have sex. Reverse psychology is your friend; she wants what she can’t have. By the time you get somewhere you can have sex, she will be tearing at your clothes like a wild woman. 

3. Deep tongue kissing

The long, lingering kiss that doesn’t progress anywhere (just yet) is the sort of kiss that will moisten up her underwear in no time flat, but is deep and long and slow.  She likes it when you savor her, and doing this gets her hot under the collar.

Deep tongue kissing is one of many formulas to turning you both on. Apparently, we like deep tongue kissing because it mimics sex — the wet, writhing, sucking, licking motions get our juices flowing and almost always kick-start our sexual desire.  Increased saliva flow is associated with higher arousal, which makes sense — the wetter the better. Save the slobbering though.  

The rules: The trick with this one is to choose the proper time and place for this long kiss, and not to overpower her with too much tongue or speed. It is quite hard to know when a big French kiss is going to go down well. Everyone loves a decent “snog,” but all people are slightly different, so choose your moment and make it good.

Instead of using the kiss as a two second start to sex, use it as a moment to share your passion. Kissing is an intimate sport, creating more intimacy and closeness between two people, whether it be an emotional closeness, a sexual one or both.  

4. Massage

When you flip her onto her stomach, and turn her "main zones" away from you, you are saying to her, “I am not just after the ‘prize,’ I want to make you feel good.” This will allow her to relax and get her juices flowing more than ever. A good erotic massage will sexualize and wake up new parts of her body, increasing the scope of  her pleasure.   

The rules:  Don’t put her to sleep. Massages, especially after a hard week’s work or a heavy night of drinking, can easily slip a woman into sleep mode. The trick to giving a good erotic massage is to keep it sensuous, which means taking breaks between touches to lick and kiss her, and involving her whole body. Stroke her with your whole hand and enjoy her curves while you do this.

The effect of the erotic massage is that it creates occasional deep and delicious feelings while generating light and tickly feelings as you glide and graze your hands and fingers over her. These tickly feelings keep the brain and skin active and awake, while relaxing and arousing her at the same time.  

Use a small amount of oil, because using too much oil with cover the gentle friction of your hands on her skin, and can end up giving an itchy feeling which isn’t sexy. Be careful where you put oil if you are using condoms, as it breaks down latex quickly. Use long strokes going down her body, all the way to her feet.

A good place to end is on her butt. Let her tell you with her writhing when she is ready for you to go further. Butt massages are the absolute best, and once you start there, she won’t want you to stop. The easiest way to encourage her arousal from a bum massage is to include her inner thighs occasionally, and skate near her anus and vaginal lips, without actually touching them but just very slightly brushing past them with your fingers. The tease will drive her wild, and before you know it, she'll be begging for more of you.  

5. Kissing her on the neck

Chicks dig this. Their necks are far more sensitive than yours. This is good news for guys who aren’t sure what to do to get their girls hot. It is really easy to turn her on if you kiss her neck. It works like magic.

The rules:  Be sensuous and take your time. Use a sexy combination of soft and firm kisses, and keep the pace on the slower side. Kissing her neck from behind is almost guaranteed to turn her on, and you know when she turns around to face you she is ready for more. The back of her neck and shoulders are great places to start. Progress onto the sides of her neck, and up by her ears, maybe working your way around to the front, near her jugular.

Small, soft, closed-mouth kisses work well for starters, but should be worked up to open-mouthed kisses. A warm, moist tongue on her throat (without slobbering all over her, of course) is the wet feeling that may just lurch her into outer space. She will probably moan a lot when you do this. Women also love being held by strong man hands, so use them while you do your thing.  

6. Turning her on without touch

The brain is the largest sexual organ in our bodies. If you really understand this concept, you can use this to your advantage anytime you like. Include nonphysical moves such as reading her an erotic story, or telling her what you want to do to her either on the phone, by writing her a note and tucking it into her pocket, sending a text message, or emailing her. If you can get her wet before you even touch her, you are doing very, very well.

The rules: Don’t go overboard. Use words and actions that will force her to use her imagination instead of giving her every detail. Touchless foreplay is a less obvious arouser because she isn’t going to be moaning into your neck, but it is just as effective as touching her. Her imagination will run rampant when a sexy suggestion is put in place, so get her worked up with evocative words.

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Ladies, See How To Know When A Guy Is Still A Virgin

1. He is Very Shy About Touching You
He asks for permission before touching your body... A guy who has had s£x at least once will not be so shy of touching a girl. In fact shyness towards the opposite se x reduces in men who have been intimate before. You cannot completely say a guy is a virgin just because he is shy about being intimate, but it’s a strong sign. So if a guy is shy about touching you, especially at the private and intimate body parts, it shows that he is still a virgin.

2. He Dresses Awkwardly
Most virgin males tend to have an embarrassing dress sense. This is usually so, because they believe they don't have much reasons to pay attention to their dressing because they’ve not experienced what s£x is like. This usually begins to improve the moment they meet the girl they like but even at that, it is still noticeable to the smart ladies.

3. He Kisses Awkwardly
That a guy is a bad ki sser does not mean he is a virgin oh. But if a guy kisses awkwardly, in a very shy manner, it’s almost a sure sign that he is a virgin. If a guy is pretty good at kissing you can be sure that he is not a vir gin no matter what he says. Kissing takes practice and people get good at it with experience. Another sign to look out for is whether he closes his eyes while kissing, most virgins tend to do that a lot. * lol..

4. Usually Quiet, Shy, and has poor social skills
Male virgins are usually quiet, reserved and act in a feminine manner. they have a cowardly behavior, appear passive in interactions and have poor social skills. Male vir gins are also timid and shy and usually do not know how to ask a lady out and make out with her. A lot o f them would rather ask out a lady on the phone or through social media than face to face.

5. He Has a Very Quick Org asm
If it’s his first intim ate experience in lo ve making, he is going to orga sm quickly. Some vir gin guys tend to Erupt even before entering or as soon as they enter. The first experience is always a nervous one for a guy because he will be constantly thinking about how he is performing, and he will get aroused at the slightest act of in timacy on your part causing him to Eru pt quickly. Guys with experience can control themselves a lot better.

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Hot! See the 9 Places to Touch a Woman's body and Make Her Go Crazy for You

Many men have problems as to getting a woman to go wild and crazy, craving for a hot night of sexual escalade with them, well if you are in this category of people, we have brought you these hot spots that you can easily identify on a womans body and once you make good moves on those places, a sure result will be granted you.

 

1. Nape Of Her Neck: Once you get to the nape of her neck, place a few light kisses there. In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was seen as very attractive by men since it was one of the few places not covered by clothing. In modern times, the nape of the neck is often neglected in favor of more obvious pleasure centers, but never underestimate the power of gentle touches and kisses from her hairline to her shoulders.

 

2. Collarbone: A well-defined clavicle, or collarbone, can be very sexy on a woman. Why not show your appreciation for its beauty with your touch and kiss? Pay attention to this body part while she’s still fully clothed, unbuttoning her shirt just enough to reveal the clavicle and no further. You can always come back to it once the clothes have disappeared as well to remind her of the anticipation it created when you started there.

 

3. Small Of Her Back: The best way to guide your woman through a crowd is to place your hand against the small of her back. This small gesture shows that you feel protective of her without being too pushy like an arm around the shoulder might be. When you’re alone, kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back will get her heart racing.

 

4. Behind Her Knees: This area is one that most men don’t think of when trying to stimulate a woman, but it is, in fact, quite sensitive. Gently caressing the back of the knee under her skirt while the two of you are in a public place will make her ready to get busy once you get home. Don’t forget to pay some more attention to this special spot once you’re alone too.

 

5. Palms Of Her Hands: People often use their hands as tools to please their partners, but rarely do they consider the pleasure potential of stimulating the hands themselves. The palm of a woman’s hand is an innocuous spot to focus a little attention on without making people around you uncomfortable. Tracing your finger along her palm will give her delightful shivers and make you appear sensitive and attentive.

 

6. Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but for courtesy’s sake avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear.

 

7. Feet: Pulp Fiction taught us that rubbing the feet of another man’s wife may be an offense punishable by being thrown out a window, so the sensual appeal of a foot massage is obvious. There are few better ways to help her relax than to give her feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. Don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Some women really enjoy having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so asking first is a good idea before putting them in your mouth.

 

8. Inner Thighs: Touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her revved up. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pulling back before going all the way.

 

9. Pelvis: Concentrating some affection on her pelvis is a great idea; however, you’ll have to resist the urge to slip down to her vagina while you’re so close. Like teasing her inner thighs, kissing and licking around her pelvis will excite her until she’s begging for more. Prolong the sensation by leaving the region to focus on another body part for a while.

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New Research Reveals That Women Are Either Bisexual Or Lesbian But Never Straight!

According to new research, women who say they are straight are in fact aroused by videos of both n*ked men and n*ked women, whereas lesbians are much more attracted to the female form.

The study, led by Dr Gerulf Rieger from the Department of Psychology at the University of Essex, involved 345 women. They were shown videos and had their responses recorded, including whether their pupils dilated in response to sexual stimuli.

The results found that straight women were strongly sexually aroused by videos of both attractive men and attractive women, even though they said they were only interested in men.

This was in contrast to lesbians, who showed much stronger sexual responses to women than to men.

The researchers said lesbians were the most like men in their responses because it is usually men who show distinct sexual responses to their favourite sex.

Dr Rieger said: “Even though the majority of women identify as straight, our research clearly demonstrates that when it comes to what turns them on, they are either bisexual or gay, but never straight.”

Dr Rieger also said his study showed that lesbians who may dress in a more masculine way may not have more masculine behaviors.

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6 Symptoms Of Breast Cancer Women should stop overlooking

6 Symptoms Of Breast Cancer Women Should Stop Overlooking

Thousands of women are diagnosed with breast cancer each year. For women, only lung cancer has a higher death rate than breast cancer. While this type of cancer can be deadly, there are warning signs that can help you catch it early.

It isn’t exactly known why breast cancer develops, but there are some factors that seem to increase your chances of developing breast cancer. Your age (and gender) increase your risk; While men can be diagnosed with chest cancer, it is one hundred times mores common in women. The highest rate of invasive breast cancer are found in women 55 and older.

There also seems to be a higher risk if your close blood relatives had or have breast cancer. Also, the risk of breast cancer increases with higher amounts of alcohol use and obesity after menopause.

Knowing the risks and the symptoms of breast cancer can significantly increase your chances of catching the illness early. Luckily, there are some things you can look for. While finding a lump in your breast is a common symptom, there are others signs to look for.

If you notice any of these symptoms, contact your doctor immediately:

1. Breast Sizes

If the size of one chest enlarges significantly in a short amount of time, this could be a warning sign of breast cancer. Breasts are normally different sizes, but noticing a drastic increase in size or an abnormal change in shape could be something to be concerned about.

2. Swelling

Even if there is no lump present, swelling on your breast (even in a small area) is not a good sign. Swelling can also accompany fever-like symptoms; if this is the case, your breasts will feel warm, may become inflamed, become red or purple and will swell. Immediately inform your doctor if you experience these symptoms.

3. Abnormal Ni.pples

Other than breast milk, any other discharge is not normal. Decreased nipple sensitivity is also something to be aware of. Additionally, if your ni.pple retracts (pulls inward,) or is discolored, be sure to call your doctor.

4. Redness or itchiness

Having a bumpy “orange peel” texture on your breast or nipple area could very well be a symptom of breast cancer. If you experience severe itching on your breast and dermatologist visits (and creams) don’t soothe your symptoms, call your doctor.

5. Noticing a lump

There are benign lumps that form in the breast that may not be cancerous. However, if you notice a mass (that you haven’t noticed before, or that feels harder than the surrounding lumps) schedule a chest examination. Be sure to notice any sort of abnormal mass near your armpit; though it is not in your breast, it could still be breast cancer.

6. Breast Pain

This can be caused by a variety of other things that aren’t cancer. Fluctuating hormones, some fertility treatments, stress and wearing a bra that doesn’t fit right can all cause breast pain. If your pain isn’t caused by this list or accompanies other symptoms, contact your doctor.

Some women feel pain in their back or chest instead of their breast. If this pain does not go away with physical therapy or stretching, inform your doctor.

Not all of these symptoms are symptoms of breast cancer. If you get other treatments (like a cream or antibiotic) for these symptoms, but you do not notice a difference within a few days, be sure to call your doctor and be assertive about tests for breast cancer.

Mammograms have significantly increased the detection rate for breast cancer. Regularly schedule these appointments if you are above the age of 40, or if you have a family history of breast cancer. However, there are things a mammogram cannot detect. Having dense breasts make cancer harder to detect even with a mammogram and helps the cancer cells spread more rapidly. Talk to your doctor for additional tests if you fit this description.

Be diligent with your own breast examinations and be aware of what chest cancer symptoms look and feel like. If you are at all concerned, make an appointment with your doctor.

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See the reasons Why Women's Breasts are Getting Bigger these days

Many people think that women develope bigger breaast size when they engage in sexual activities, but from recent studies, women are now freed from speculations and thoughts of such act.

Below are the said reasons from recent studies on why women develope bigger breaast size even before the age of puberty and after childbirth.

 

Breast, a soft (rounded) protruding organ on the upper front of a woman’s body, is no doubt an important part of the female anatomy, not only for producing milk needed to feed a new born baby, although that can be enormous, its high-end advantage during sexual activities and the role it plays in the attractiveness of a woman cannot be overemphasised.

Notably, men have theirs, but it is not (always) as sizeable as those of women, and many men lust after these organs, often making some to skip their breaths, lose concentration or even change focus on sighting them, and for most of them, the bigger, the better.

Call it an instant attention grabber for men and you may not be far from the truth. It excites them and remains a huge delight for them but it also delights its owners; women, making them feel good and sometimes enhancing their comparative advantage. And suffice it to say that it aptly qualifies as one of the most cherished (by women) and most loved (by men) parts of the female body. Such is its importance to both sexes.

Even though big breasts could be a blessing or burden for women, as big breasts have been found to have the likelihood of affecting posture and causing chronic back pain, regardless, more women seem to crave for it now than ever before.

However, it is not uncommon these days to see that women, including young girls, are becoming increasingly endowed in that region. In fact, in those days, girls used to wear vest until they approached 18 but now, bras have taken the centre stage, not just for decoration but because there is indeed something to cover, which underscores the fact that girls and women are getting bigger in that region.

Many have attributed women’s bust increase to the fact that many more women are going under the knife for breast enlargement, which has made it difficult to know which one is natural or artificial, but far from that, lifestyle and diet have been found to play a major role in bust size.

This is independent of heredity and the fact that women experience some natural variation in their breast size usually during their period (menstruation) and pregnancy period (pre and post).

An emeritus surgeon, Prof. Michael Baum, who is also an expert in breast cancer, explained that one good reason why more women are getting increased bust size is increased fat consumption, but a nutritionist, Jane Clarke told Daily Mail that people are eating more of wrong food and that all the calories people consume end up on the hips and breasts coupled with the fact that more women are now taking too much of alcohol which is highly calorific.

Another nutritionist, Dr. Marilyn Glenville, also opined that beyond fat, increase in the breast tissue levels has also been responsible for the increase in breast size. “So, we have to look at what stimulates breast tissue growth, and that is oestrogen, the female sex hormone. Oestrogen is what changes our body shape during puberty,” she added.

Glenville explained that there is a strong link between increased oestrogen levels and bigger breasts, adding that there are some breast-enhancing supplements that have made their way into some of the food people consume, making such food items have oestrogenic properties, which have impacted on their breast size. She argued further that a large chunk of the milk consumed by humans come from pregnant cows, thus the milk would be flooded with oestrogen.

She said, “It makes sense to look at the ways in which our exposure to all types of oestrogen, the hormone our own bodies produce and oestrogenic chemicals we come into contact with, has changed over the years.

“Girls today reach puberty earlier than ever before, and are going on to have fewer ¬children and breastfeeding for less time. As a result, we have far more periods than our ancestors would have had and we are exposed to more monthly surges of oestrogen, which stimulates ovulation and is also responsible for the increasing breast sizes.”

Meanwhile, a previous study, led by Dr. Karin Michels, from Harvard Medical School, had explained that young girls of nowadays are reaching puberty at an earlier age because of consumption of sugary drinks. Thus, when these girls reach puberty, they begin to show the signs, evident in their breasts and butts.

Michels said, “Our study adds to increasing concern about the widespread consumption of sugar-sweetened drinks among children and adolescents. Our study suggests that age of first menstruation (menarche) occurred earlier among girls with the highest consumption of drinks sweetened with added sugar. These findings are important in the context of earlier puberty onset among girls.”

Going by Glenville’s explanation, the fact that more girls reach puberty exposes them to more oestrogen from their young age, which tends to have its own effect on their anatomy, especially their breasts.

One other explanation for the rising size of boobs, according to experts, is the use of contraceptive pills. In a report on softpedia.com, a consultant endocrinologist, Prof. Pierre-Marc Bouloux, was quoted as saying, “There is a tendency for the pill to stimulate breast growth. However, modern versions of the pill contain far less estrogen than their older counterparts.”
Bouloux explained that there are some other products that come as consumable items, like some chewing gum, which have some oestrogenic properties that could enhance breast size, adding that certain chemicals in polluted water and industrial wastes could mimic oestrogen and produce the same boob-boosting factor in the women.

But, in the words of Dr. Joanna Scurr, a breast biomechanics expert and principal lecturer in biomechanics at the University of Portsmouth, breast sizes are increasing because of the higher proportion of fats in them, adding that junk food, tinned food, canned drinks, and plastic bottles could also be responsible, due to the xenoestrogen.

Therefore, the increase in breast sizes in recent times could be placed down to increased fat consumption by women, rising levels of breast tissue, eating junks and fatty meals, drinking sugary drinks and use of contraceptive pills, more so because breast tissue has been found to be extremely sensitive to hormones. These are independent of hereditary, menstruation and pregnancy/breastfeeding.

Commenting on the study, a medical practitioner, Dr. Rotimi Adesanya, explained that apart from increase in fat diets, use of family planning drugs are some of the things responsible for the increasing breast sizes.

He said, “The increase is due to increase in fats because breast is made of fatty tissues. So, if the fat is much in the body, definitely, the one in the breast will be much as well. So, the level of fat a person eats is an indirect proportion of the person’s breasts size. For some, it runs in the family, and for people that tend to be obese or big in size, they also tend to have a large breast.

“Also, use of hormonal drugs, such as contraceptive pills, could increase breast size. Diet is also a very important factor. The fatty diets include sugary drinks, margarines, etc., and too much of oil is not very good, and that is why we advise people to take more of fruits and vegetables.”

 

Written by TUNDE AJAJA

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3 quick ways to stop obsessing over your ex

 

How do you get over someone you once loved and shared everything with. Obsessing over your ex is very unhealthy because there's absolutely no future for you with them.

 

Obsessing over them means not coming to terms that they've really said goodbye and have moved on. You have to find the courage to move on with your life.

Relationship expert Dr. Jeff Gardere in a chat with Marlo Thomas of Huffington Post, lists thee simple ways people can get over their exes after a breakup.

1. Find something healthy to get obsessed with:  Dr Gardere says find a hobby. Turn your heart and mind towards something more entertaining.

 

2. Don't stop making yourself happy: Always believe in your ability. One failed relationship doesn't define who you are. You can't say you are nothing without them, you were something before they came along.

3. Avoid things, situations that remind you of them: Don't put yourself on the spot. Find other places you never went together, try some new experiences. Don't go to places where you are likely to run into your ex.

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